Conservative couple married for 10 years, yet no children: Would you assume marital issues?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are staunch conservative though we didn’t marry young. Met at 28 & 30 and have been together for 8 years. We don’t want kids and are very happy together. I wouldn’t assume marital issues. They could have fertility issues or may not want kids. Regardless, it’s none of your business.

This! Same here! Childfree by choice. Married 25 yrs.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are staunch conservative though we didn’t marry young. Met at 28 & 30 and have been together for 8 years. We don’t want kids and are very happy together. I wouldn’t assume marital issues. They could have fertility issues or may not want kids. Regardless, it’s none of your business.

MAGA!

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Anonymous wrote:I’d just assume fertility issues from one or both and neither believing in IVF or adoption for whatever reason.

Fertility issues when they married around age 25? That seems very unlikely, no? Or do you mean even though they were married, they waited for careers and other pursuits, and by the time they really tried it was challenging?

My sister married her college sweetheart when they were both 24 and had terrible fertility problems. They needed a donor for their first baby and further intervention than that for their second.

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Cervical cancer or a “Lindsay Graham” right wing hubby.

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Multiple fertility issues. So many have them. Don’t make assumptions, Op.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d just assume fertility issues from one or both and neither believing in IVF or adoption for whatever reason.

Fertility issues when they married around age 25? That seems very unlikely, no? Or do you mean even though they were married, they waited for careers and other pursuits, and by the time they really tried it was challenging?

My sister married her college sweetheart when they were both 24 and had terrible fertility problems. They needed a donor for their first baby and further intervention than that for their second.

My friend was diagnosed with PCOS related fertility problems at 27. I know someone who had to have serious surgery for endometriosis at 29.

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Also, if they are super conservative they may not "believe" in infertility treatments for evangelical religious reasons.

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Anonymous wrote:They are now in their mid 30s. I thought that was typically the motive for marrying so young, especially among staunch Conservatives.

Shows how close minded you are. You don’t always have to have or want to have kids despite your political affiliation.

I know conservatives who don’t have kids. They just don’t want them.

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OP, I’m another conservative who is telling you that conservatives have the same reasons as liberals to not have children. They may not want children at all, have fertility problems, or want to wait until they feel more stable financially, professionally, etc. They may have suffered miscarriages. You have no way of knowing why they don’t have kids and IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.

The only people who assume that conservatives=breeders, are not conservatives.

I also don’t consider Donald Trump and the current Republican party to be conservatives. Their stance on most issues is opposite to what I consider conservative positions.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound nosy. Mind your own business.

+1

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My very conservative cousin and his wife (who is also very conservative) got married in their early 20s and never had kids. They had infertility issues and didn’t want to try other methods of having kids like adoption.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding me? Maybe they aren’t at the right place in careers or don’t want kids. Being conservative does not imply being a breeder.

They are, especially he, Conservatives. And marrying so young would suggest they do subscribe to traditional Conservative values, which almost always includes at least a couple of kids.

I knew a very liberal couple who married the day after they graduated from college. They were together for 30 years, and never had kids.

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I told my spouse if we couldn’t have kids naturally that it was meant to be.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d just assume fertility issues from one or both and neither believing in IVF or adoption for whatever reason.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d just assume fertility issues from one or both and neither believing in IVF or adoption for whatever reason.

Fertility issues when they married around age 25? That seems very unlikely, no? Or do you mean even though they were married, they waited for careers and other pursuits, and by the time they really tried it was challenging?

My parents were married for 10+ years before I came along. Fertility issues. They married at 23. People assumed all sorts of things. IVF wasn’t an option then and they were well on their way to adopting when I was conceived. They waited until my mom passed the 6 month mark before exiting the adoption process because they were so worried something would go wrong with the pregnancy.

So I would assume that I am not a close enough friend to know what’s going on and nothing more. Could be anything. Or nothing.

Yup, verified. I have two friends, completely infertile in their 20s. One doesn't have money for IVF and it's been at least 6 years of trying. One it was also six years before they got IVF twins.