Conservative couple married for 10 years, yet no children: Would you assume marital issues?

[Anonymous]

They are now in their mid 30s. I thought that was typically the motive for marrying so young, especially among staunch Conservatives.

[Anonymous]

I’d just assume fertility issues from one or both and neither believing in IVF or adoption for whatever reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d just assume fertility issues from one or both and neither believing in IVF or adoption for whatever reason.

This, or like in our situation, we were quietly trying to adopt and it took about 6 years. No point in talking about it as reality is no one really cared.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d just assume fertility issues from one or both and neither believing in IVF or adoption for whatever reason.

This, or like in our situation, we were quietly trying to adopt and it took about 6 years. No point in talking about it as reality is no one really cared.

This.

[Anonymous]

He’s probably boinking the wrong hole if they didn’t have any sex ed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d just assume fertility issues from one or both and neither believing in IVF or adoption for whatever reason.

IVF doesn’t always work and adoption can be a heartbreaking journey. I wouldn’t assume anything about them.

Just to add, I was under the mistaken impression before I was married that if we had trouble we could just do IVF and get pregnant. It was quite a shocker to learn that wasn’t true at all.

[Anonymous]

Some people really don’t like kids. They tell everyone they have fertility issues because that’s more socially acceptable, but they just don’t want them. Even some conservative people. Shocker.

Also, when it comes to younger people, many don’t want to bring kids into this world with the science coming true before our very eyes re: climate change. Yes, there are even some conservative people who believe the science.

Why does this matter to you? Or rather, why is it any of your beeswax?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s probably boinking the wrong hole if they didn’t have any sex ed.

Amazing how human beings procreated for a millennia without sex ed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d just assume fertility issues from one or both and neither believing in IVF or adoption for whatever reason.

Fertility issues when they married around age 25? That seems very unlikely, no? Or do you mean even though they were married, they waited for careers and other pursuits, and by the time they really tried it was challenging?

[Anonymous]

Are you kidding me? Maybe they aren’t at the right place in careers or don’t want kids. Being conservative does not imply being a breeder.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I are staunch conservative though we didn’t marry young. Met at 28 & 30 and have been together for 8 years. We don’t want kids and are very happy together. I wouldn’t assume marital issues. They could have fertility issues or may not want kids. Regardless, it’s none of your business.

[Anonymous]

I would assume I should mind my own damn business

[Anonymous]

You sound nosy. Mind your own business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding me? Maybe they aren’t at the right place in careers or don’t want kids. Being conservative does not imply being a breeder.

They are, especially he, Conservatives. And marrying so young would suggest they do subscribe to traditional Conservative values, which almost always includes at least a couple of kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding me? Maybe they aren’t at the right place in careers or don’t want kids. Being conservative does not imply being a breeder.

They are, especially he, Conservatives. And marrying so young would suggest they do subscribe to traditional Conservative values, which almost always includes at least a couple of kids.

They were also college sweethearts, so it really doesn't get more quintessential Conservative. Aside from the lack of kids a decade after marriage.