Conservative couple married for 10 years, yet no children: Would you assume marital issues?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding me? Maybe they aren’t at the right place in careers or don’t want kids. Being conservative does not imply being a breeder.

They are, especially he, Conservatives. And marrying so young would suggest they do subscribe to traditional Conservative values, which almost always includes at least a couple of kids.

They were also college sweethearts, so it really doesn't get more quintessential Conservative. Aside from the lack of kids a decade after marriage.

Okay, and? Who knows why they don’t have kids yet. There could be a number of reasons and many are likely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding me? Maybe they aren’t at the right place in careers or don’t want kids. Being conservative does not imply being a breeder.

They are, especially he, Conservatives. And marrying so young would suggest they do subscribe to traditional Conservative values, which almost always includes at least a couple of kids.

They were also college sweethearts, so it really doesn't get more quintessential Conservative. Aside from the lack of kids a decade after marriage.

Mind your own business. You sound insufferable.

[Anonymous]

Mind your own business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d just assume fertility issues from one or both and neither believing in IVF or adoption for whatever reason.

Fertility issues when they married around age 25? That seems very unlikely, no? Or do you mean even though they were married, they waited for careers and other pursuits, and by the time they really tried it was challenging?

It happens. I spent many years in various online communities dealing with infertility. There were plenty of twenty-something women in there. It’s not common, but it certainly happens.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He’s probably boinking the wrong hole if they didn’t have any sex ed.

Amazing how human beings procreated for a millennia without sex ed.

Caveman sex ed: you see your parents getting it on

Modern prudes have no clue.

[Anonymous]

This just feels mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s probably boinking the wrong hole if they didn’t have any sex ed.

Amazing how human beings procreated for a millennia without sex ed.

Caveman sex ed: you see your parents getting it on

Modern prudes have no clue.

It’s delightfully instinctive. Observing the act is not required.

[Anonymous]

Your thread title is weird op. I don’t understand why you’d assume marital issues instead of fertility issues. Or a lack of desire for children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d just assume fertility issues from one or both and neither believing in IVF or adoption for whatever reason.

Fertility issues when they married around age 25? That seems very unlikely, no? Or do you mean even though they were married, they waited for careers and other pursuits, and by the time they really tried it was challenging?

My parents were married for 10+ years before I came along. Fertility issues. They married at 23. People assumed all sorts of things. IVF wasn’t an option then and they were well on their way to adopting when I was conceived. They waited until my mom passed the 6 month mark before exiting the adoption process because they were so worried something would go wrong with the pregnancy.

So I would assume that I am not a close enough friend to know what’s going on and nothing more. Could be anything. Or nothing.

[Anonymous]

I know two couples that married right from college and did not have children for many years - 12 yrs for one and 7 for another. Both had fertility issues. I think the one at 12 yrs did not try until 5 or 6 years and then found out they had issues. Met them after they had dc and it came up gradually. The 7 yr couple very religious and conservative.

I would say one never knows and should just accept them where they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s probably boinking the wrong hole if they didn’t have any sex ed.

Amazing how human beings procreated for a millennia without sex ed.

Caveman sex ed: you see your parents getting it on

Modern prudes have no clue.

It’s delightfully instinctive. Observing the act is not required.

Sex ed saves countless buttholes.
https://www.newsweek.com/couple-couldnt-conceive-because-theyve-been-having-sex-wrong-way-four-years-1089162

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are now in their mid 30s. I thought that was typically the motive for marrying so young, especially among staunch Conservatives.

Why is this your business? May be they want to wait or have to wait for some reason.

[Anonymous]

Two things:

1) Conservative couples marry young because they WANT TO GET IT ON. Children are a byproduct of GETTING IT ON.

2) Your assumption that fertility is not an issue for a couple in their mid 20s is an erroneous assumption. In fact, fertility in human beings is declining precipitously worldwide thanks to how we have polluted our nest with endocrine disrupters. (It is affecting other species, too.)

Birthrates are also falling due to other factors that have more to do with family planning and the eduction levels of women and opportunities open to them, but the science on declining fertility is becoming clearer and clearer. Even if we weren’t making the planet less hospitable to our species through AGW, we have already polluted it so thoroughly with forever chemicals - in the tissues of 97% of all human beings alive - that it is likely our species will dwindle over time thanks to infertility.

https://www.loe.org/shows/segments.html?programID=21-P13-00029&segmentID=3

[Anonymous]

I would assume nothing and mind my own dang business

[Anonymous]

Infertility. We are liberal and this happened to us.

If they are white, healthy little white babies to adopt are few and far between.

Not all fertility treatment is successful, but no one talks about it.