Why are some women always lucky in love?

[Anonymous]

Are you sure it is luck? I mean two times? Perhaps she just has better common sense and judgement?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is me, even though I choose to be single ATM. I've always had a ton of men trying to get to me. I currently have very rich and some even famous men in my DMs trying to talk to me

1) I'm conventionally attractive, "beautiful" according to most people
2) I have a positive attitude and am generally happy go lucky
3) I dont care that much about male approval which seems to call it to you, bizarrely
4) I'm an interesting, fun conversationalist.

I think that's about it. It's not that complicated, men are simple creatures.

I don't mean this as an insult and I'm sure you're lovely, but you probably could have stopped at #1. For beautiful women being "lucky in love" is the default. The PP who said she's ordinary looking but still consistently attracts lots of quality men is a lot more interesting, IMO.

Probably. But I think a lot of beautiful women also exude an energy. I'm sure Angelina Jolie always could get a man no matter what, but she exudes an energy as well. There are plenty of beautiful women who seem like they cant keep a man or are constantly dating horrible, unattractive, loser guys. A lot of it truly is the energy you exude! Same goes for men. A lot of male sex symbols wouldnt be that way if not for the additional energy they exude

[Anonymous]

Part of it IS luck. Part of it is not wasting time on a guy who has potential but also has some significant flaws, thinking you can change him. "He says he loves me a lot and has a great job and my friends are jealous of his looks, but he drinks four beers every night."

Perfect true example: a friend of mine is single and dating. She met a guy online who is a former ballet dancer and said in his profile he doesn't smoke. When she met up with him for an initial drink, she said he and his car smelled like smoke. She tells me this, and I say, "he lied. Next!" and she says, "Well, maybe he drove someone who smoked in his car. Maybe he was somewhere smokey..." and I'm like "No. He lied. THIS is how he chose to start off the relationship. You can do better. You are better. Next."

I am lucky in love. I hold my boundaries. She is unlucky in love because she ignores warning signs. If he'd lie right at the start, he'll keep lying.

[Anonymous]

You can never be happy in a marriage if you are not “happy” and content with yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is me, even though I choose to be single ATM. I've always had a ton of men trying to get to me. I currently have very rich and some even famous men in my DMs trying to talk to me

1) I'm conventionally attractive, "beautiful" according to most people
2) I have a positive attitude and am generally happy go lucky
3) I dont care that much about male approval which seems to call it to you, bizarrely
4) I'm an interesting, fun conversationalist.

I think that's about it. It's not that complicated, men are simple creatures.

Men don't like to be challenged. Get it. And that's great when the husband doesn't need any negative feedback either. But what happens when they do need to be challenged?

This. See what happens when he makes serious mistakes/adds serious negativity to the relationship and needs to be held accountable and see how much he enjoys that.

I will say for some of you guys who are saying that men dont like to be challenged- that might be true. You cant really change a man, that's why you have to vet at first. At lot of the women on here on the "who pays" thread saying they would go half and half. A lot of the women on here ran into a marriage at 23 because they felt they had to get married early. A lot of the women tolerate man baby behavior and hope he changes.

That's YOUR FAULT. if you pick men who act right from the jump, and also who are mature/open to hearing feedback, it's not a problem. Smart women figure that ish out early.

I know not every woman has the same options as me, but seriously- some of you whine about your husbands and he always was a loser since the day you met him. So why did you marry a loser?

It's hard to predict how someone will act 20 years later after a family. I picked someone who had a steady job, a steady family, some friends, went to college, was of the same religion, wanted a family and was a good father. He turned out to be a disaster 20 years later with an addiction and various forms of infidelity. Some form of a midlife crisis. He wasn't the top of his class and I guess had some low self esteem issues he was still dealing with. But what of it? Many top people are control freaks. It's not that easy to deal with the people who are in the middle of the pack. We now know more, but it's still really difficult to gauge how a person will act over the course of a lifetime. One of my mom's friends had a fantastic husband till he got cancer and he became incredibly abusive and she had to leave him after trying to deal with it for five years even after remission. You just never know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this is me, even though I choose to be single ATM. I've always had a ton of men trying to get to me. I currently have very rich and some even famous men in my DMs trying to talk to me

1) I'm conventionally attractive, "beautiful" according to most people
2) I have a positive attitude and am generally happy go lucky
3) I dont care that much about male approval which seems to call it to you, bizarrely
4) I'm an interesting, fun conversationalist.

I think that's about it. It's not that complicated, men are simple creatures.

I don't mean this as an insult and I'm sure you're lovely, but you probably could have stopped at #1. For beautiful women being "lucky in love" is the default. The PP who said she's ordinary looking but still consistently attracts lots of quality men is a lot more interesting, IMO.

Probably. But I think a lot of beautiful women also exude an energy. I'm sure Angelina Jolie always could get a man no matter what, but she exudes an energy as well. There are plenty of beautiful women who seem like they cant keep a man or are constantly dating horrible, unattractive, loser guys. A lot of it truly is the energy you exude! Same goes for men. A lot of male sex symbols wouldnt be that way if not for the additional energy they exude

Angelina doesn't seem to be so lucky in love.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is me, even though I choose to be single ATM. I've always had a ton of men trying to get to me. I currently have very rich and some even famous men in my DMs trying to talk to me

1) I'm conventionally attractive, "beautiful" according to most people
2) I have a positive attitude and am generally happy go lucky
3) I dont care that much about male approval which seems to call it to you, bizarrely
4) I'm an interesting, fun conversationalist.

I think that's about it. It's not that complicated, men are simple creatures.

Men don't like to be challenged. Get it. And that's great when the husband doesn't need any negative feedback either. But what happens when they do need to be challenged?

This. See what happens when he makes serious mistakes/adds serious negativity to the relationship and needs to be held accountable and see how much he enjoys that.

I will say for some of you guys who are saying that men dont like to be challenged- that might be true. You cant really change a man, that's why you have to vet at first. At lot of the women on here on the "who pays" thread saying they would go half and half. A lot of the women on here ran into a marriage at 23 because they felt they had to get married early. A lot of the women tolerate man baby behavior and hope he changes.

That's YOUR FAULT. if you pick men who act right from the jump, and also who are mature/open to hearing feedback, it's not a problem. Smart women figure that ish out early.

I know not every woman has the same options as me, but seriously- some of you whine about your husbands and he always was a loser since the day you met him. So why did you marry a loser?

It's hard to predict how someone will act 20 years later after a family. I picked someone who had a steady job, a steady family, some friends, went to college, was of the same religion, wanted a family and was a good father. He turned out to be a disaster 20 years later with an addiction and various forms of infidelity. Some form of a midlife crisis. He wasn't the top of his class and I guess had some low self esteem issues he was still dealing with. But what of it? Many top people are control freaks. It's not that easy to deal with the people who are in the middle of the pack. We now know more, but it's still really difficult to gauge how a person will act over the course of a lifetime. One of my mom's friends had a fantastic husband till he got cancer and he became incredibly abusive and she had to leave him after trying to deal with it for five years even after remission. You just never know.

Boom. Red flag right there. Sorry, but there's always signs. There's always early indications of someone having issues. Women who are "always lucky in love" are often not that lucky- they're just picky and dont settle for trashy men, and have the good lucks and energy to attract new partners. There are lots of men around, no need to settle for a man who has any kind of issues. You settled for a mediocre guy and it backfired. A lot of women do this and then wonder why they have to wake up next to a loser every day.

i get that it's sad and hard but also- you chose that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this is me, even though I choose to be single ATM. I've always had a ton of men trying to get to me. I currently have very rich and some even famous men in my DMs trying to talk to me

1) I'm conventionally attractive, "beautiful" according to most people
2) I have a positive attitude and am generally happy go lucky
3) I dont care that much about male approval which seems to call it to you, bizarrely
4) I'm an interesting, fun conversationalist.

I think that's about it. It's not that complicated, men are simple creatures.

I don't mean this as an insult and I'm sure you're lovely, but you probably could have stopped at #1. For beautiful women being "lucky in love" is the default. The PP who said she's ordinary looking but still consistently attracts lots of quality men is a lot more interesting, IMO.

Probably. But I think a lot of beautiful women also exude an energy. I'm sure Angelina Jolie always could get a man no matter what, but she exudes an energy as well. There are plenty of beautiful women who seem like they cant keep a man or are constantly dating horrible, unattractive, loser guys. A lot of it truly is the energy you exude! Same goes for men. A lot of male sex symbols wouldnt be that way if not for the additional energy they exude

Angelina doesn't seem to be so lucky in love.

My point is she attracts men effortlessly and always has new men interested. She's currently dating The Weeknd. A lot of that is her energy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this is me, even though I choose to be single ATM. I've always had a ton of men trying to get to me. I currently have very rich and some even famous men in my DMs trying to talk to me

1) I'm conventionally attractive, "beautiful" according to most people
2) I have a positive attitude and am generally happy go lucky
3) I dont care that much about male approval which seems to call it to you, bizarrely
4) I'm an interesting, fun conversationalist.

I think that's about it. It's not that complicated, men are simple creatures.

Men don't like to be challenged. Get it. And that's great when the husband doesn't need any negative feedback either. But what happens when they do need to be challenged?

This. See what happens when he makes serious mistakes/adds serious negativity to the relationship and needs to be held accountable and see how much he enjoys that.

I will say for some of you guys who are saying that men dont like to be challenged- that might be true. You cant really change a man, that's why you have to vet at first. At lot of the women on here on the "who pays" thread saying they would go half and half. A lot of the women on here ran into a marriage at 23 because they felt they had to get married early. A lot of the women tolerate man baby behavior and hope he changes.

That's YOUR FAULT. if you pick men who act right from the jump, and also who are mature/open to hearing feedback, it's not a problem. Smart women figure that ish out early.

I know not every woman has the same options as me, but seriously- some of you whine about your husbands and he always was a loser since the day you met him. So why did you marry a loser?

It's hard to predict how someone will act 20 years later after a family. I picked someone who had a steady job, a steady family, some friends, went to college, was of the same religion, wanted a family and was a good father. He turned out to be a disaster 20 years later with an addiction and various forms of infidelity. Some form of a midlife crisis. He wasn't the top of his class and I guess had some low self esteem issues he was still dealing with. But what of it? Many top people are control freaks. It's not that easy to deal with the people who are in the middle of the pack. We now know more, but it's still really difficult to gauge how a person will act over the course of a lifetime. One of my mom's friends had a fantastic husband till he got cancer and he became incredibly abusive and she had to leave him after trying to deal with it for five years even after remission. You just never know.

Boom. Red flag right there. Sorry, but there's always signs. There's always early indications of someone having issues. Women who are "always lucky in love" are often not that lucky- they're just picky and dont settle for trashy men, and have the good lucks and energy to attract new partners. There are lots of men around, no need to settle for a man who has any kind of issues. You settled for a mediocre guy and it backfired. A lot of women do this and then wonder why they have to wake up next to a loser every day.

i get that it's sad and hard but also- you chose that.

^*good looks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this is me, even though I choose to be single ATM. I've always had a ton of men trying to get to me. I currently have very rich and some even famous men in my DMs trying to talk to me

1) I'm conventionally attractive, "beautiful" according to most people
2) I have a positive attitude and am generally happy go lucky
3) I dont care that much about male approval which seems to call it to you, bizarrely
4) I'm an interesting, fun conversationalist.

I think that's about it. It's not that complicated, men are simple creatures.

Men don't like to be challenged. Get it. And that's great when the husband doesn't need any negative feedback either. But what happens when they do need to be challenged?

And you got that from my post how? LOL. If anything point #3 directly contradicts that, but whatever you need to do to feel better I guess.

Very bizarre thinking on your end...

No it's not. Lets say the man quit his job. I don't need his approval of me, but I need the money for the family. Lets say the man had an addiction. I need him to stop. I don't need his approval of me. Lets say the man was emotionally abusive. I don't need his approval of me but I need him to stop with the verbal abuse. Lets say the man had an affair. I don't need his approval of me, but there is no way to have a physical and emotional connection while that is going on. Yes, I can do my own thing, but it's not a successful marriage. A man's approval seems to imply that the woman wants the man to fawn on her. What I'm talking about is getting the man to stop doing something, not to start something.

Why are you dating a man who 1) has an addiction 2) is emotionally abusive 3) quit his job voluntarily?

I thought this thread was asking why men go after a certain type of women. The answer to your question appears to be about YOUR choices aka you picking low value, trashy men who have serious issues, are immature, and treat you badly. You dont have to date these men. I'm happy go lucky cause I would never waste my time with a low value man who would stress me out. Men can tell and HVM are attracted to that energy, a woman who seems confident, happy (cause she's not worried about some man's crazines), and joyful.

Sorry you picked badly. But get some therapy, take some accountability, and kindly stop trying to blame other women for your bad choices. Bless.

No it was about why some women are lucky in love. Not why men are lucky in love.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this is me, even though I choose to be single ATM. I've always had a ton of men trying to get to me. I currently have very rich and some even famous men in my DMs trying to talk to me

1) I'm conventionally attractive, "beautiful" according to most people
2) I have a positive attitude and am generally happy go lucky
3) I dont care that much about male approval which seems to call it to you, bizarrely
4) I'm an interesting, fun conversationalist.

I think that's about it. It's not that complicated, men are simple creatures.

Men don't like to be challenged. Get it. And that's great when the husband doesn't need any negative feedback either. But what happens when they do need to be challenged?

And you got that from my post how? LOL. If anything point #3 directly contradicts that, but whatever you need to do to feel better I guess.

Very bizarre thinking on your end...

No it's not. Lets say the man quit his job. I don't need his approval of me, but I need the money for the family. Lets say the man had an addiction. I need him to stop. I don't need his approval of me. Lets say the man was emotionally abusive. I don't need his approval of me but I need him to stop with the verbal abuse. Lets say the man had an affair. I don't need his approval of me, but there is no way to have a physical and emotional connection while that is going on. Yes, I can do my own thing, but it's not a successful marriage. A man's approval seems to imply that the woman wants the man to fawn on her. What I'm talking about is getting the man to stop doing something, not to start something.

Why are you dating a man who 1) has an addiction 2) is emotionally abusive 3) quit his job voluntarily?

I thought this thread was asking why men go after a certain type of women. The answer to your question appears to be about YOUR choices aka you picking low value, trashy men who have serious issues, are immature, and treat you badly. You dont have to date these men. I'm happy go lucky cause I would never waste my time with a low value man who would stress me out. Men can tell and HVM are attracted to that energy, a woman who seems confident, happy (cause she's not worried about some man's crazines), and joyful.

Sorry you picked badly. But get some therapy, take some accountability, and kindly stop trying to blame other women for your bad choices. Bless.

No it was about why some women are lucky in love. Not why men are lucky in love.

Um... correct. But that doesnt change anything about what I said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been reading Shawn Brimley's widow's blog since his death a few years ago. His wife Marjorie writes beautifully about their life and love and just about being so loved. One of her fears was to be alone for the rest of her life. But as an over 40 widow with 3 young children, she meets another amazing man and is married again!

I am so happy for her and wish her well. But I couldn't help but wonder, what's so special about some women like her that they are so beloved by men? Not once but many times in their life? Lucky? or its just something about them?

She's pretty and has cute small children and seems to love life and knows how to embrace it. And has money. What's so hard to understand? Her husband died young. Not so lucky. If she were fat and broke she'd be less of a catch.

[Anonymous]

Just going off of what I observed, they aren't.picky and pretty much willing to date any guy and accept anything to have a guy.

They aren't more intelligent, prettier, warmer or more open than any other woman, just a lot more willing to put up with stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just going off of what I observed, they aren't.picky and pretty much willing to date any guy and accept anything to have a guy.

They aren't more intelligent, prettier, warmer or more open than any other woman, just a lot more willing to put up with stuff.

That's not what I would consider being "lucky in love".

[Anonymous]

People can write whatever they want, doesn’t mean it is true. Unless you know someone intimately and I mean very intimately you will never know what the truth is.