Why are some women always lucky in love?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just going off of what I observed, they aren't.picky and pretty much willing to date any guy and accept anything to have a guy.

They aren't more intelligent, prettier, warmer or more open than any other woman, just a lot more willing to put up with stuff.

You didnt read the thread post?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Knowing your worth, and being open to love is a big thing. Also, sometimes part of it is just luck. There are really awesome people who continually get the short end of the stick. I learned at an early age that life isn’t fair a lot of the time and there is no rhyme or reason to it.

So much is about finding someone that didn't have a f____ked up childhood. A person's childhood is such a major red flag that so many miss and don't see how it will play out in middle age, the leftover, unaddressed issues and learned coping mechanisms.

I will heavily council my kids to look at their future partner's parents/family relationships very carefully.

I also think she had a lot of tragedy early in life (her mom dying young) and now karma is coming back to her in a good way. She seems like a genuinely good, warm-hearted, emotionally-sound person.

Don't you see that you contradicted yourself right here? Some people are resilient -- they may experience trauma early in life but still overcome and be able to give and receive love more easily. I'd focus on resiliency and the way one deals with trauma rather than the event of trauma itself.

[Anonymous]

There are people, women usually, who are just easy to live with. They a nurturing, easygoing, and know how to compromise. That said, I would not want any of my "lucky in love" friends' husbands. They are average guys, unlike their wives, who are amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: There are people, women usually, who are just easy to live with. They a nurturing, easygoing, and know how to compromise. That said, I would not want any of my "lucky in love" friends' husbands. They are average guys, unlike their wives, who are amazing.

That's not lucky in love though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: There are people, women usually, who are just easy to live with. They a nurturing, easygoing, and know how to compromise. That said, I would not want any of my "lucky in love" friends' husbands. They are average guys, unlike their wives, who are amazing.

That's not lucky in love though.

+1 this thread is dumb cause no one understands the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People can write whatever they want, doesn’t mean it is true. Unless you know someone intimately and I mean very intimately you will never know what the truth is.

This is so true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: There are people, women usually, who are just easy to live with. They a nurturing, easygoing, and know how to compromise. That said, I would not want any of my "lucky in love" friends' husbands. They are average guys, unlike their wives, who are amazing.

That's not lucky in love though.

+1 this thread is dumb cause no one understands the question.

Why? All those women consider themselves lucky in love.

[Anonymous]

Relationship success is highly correlated to communication and conflict resolution skills. You need attraction and compatibility but the downfall of any relationship is almost always conflict resolution skills.

[Anonymous]

Witnessing the illness of your spouse and becoming a young widow isn't lucky in love... It's terrible luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are usually:
Loving
Open
Warm
Attractive

Women who make their male partners feel loved will never be alone. I've seen many examples of this in my life.

Exactly. And it also means they might not be that picky when it comes to partner selection, if they're afraid to be alone. There are no secrets in life. Either you're super picky and can't find anyone, or you're very tolerant and may land with someone who isn't that great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Witnessing the illness of your spouse and becoming a young widow isn't lucky in love... It's terrible luck.

+1. Please don't call this woman "lucky"...I'm guessing if she had her choice, she would not have wanted her husband to die. This OP's post is so odd to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Witnessing the illness of your spouse and becoming a young widow isn't lucky in love... It's terrible luck.

Well yes. Of course it is. But finding not one, but two great husbands in a relatively short period of time Is lucky in love. That doesn’t mean lucky in all aspects of life, as you point out, obviously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Witnessing the illness of your spouse and becoming a young widow isn't lucky in love... It's terrible luck.

Well yes. Of course it is. But finding not one, but two great husbands in a relatively short period of time Is lucky in love. That doesn’t mean lucky in all aspects of life, as you point out, obviously.

OP here. I actually read her blog because I started off my career in the foreign policy and think tank circles. While I never met Shawn Brimley, I certainly know people who worked with him. I was surprised by her beautiful and raw writing and struck by her intelligence and emotional maturity. When you read her story, you realize she has not always been lucky, having lost her mother so young and in such terrible circumstances, and you cannot help but admire her resilience. She then goes off and meets this brilliant and all around wonderful guy who apparently is madly in love with her. They had a love in a brief time that most do not experience in this whole life. That is lucky!

After his unfortunate passing, she is left a widow at 40 with three little kids. That's a huge baggage. And within two years she is married again to another seemingly great guy who is madly in love with her.

She does seem tremendously lucky in love, regardless of the rest of her circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Witnessing the illness of your spouse and becoming a young widow isn't lucky in love... It's terrible luck.

Well yes. Of course it is. But finding not one, but two great husbands in a relatively short period of time Is lucky in love. That doesn’t mean lucky in all aspects of life, as you point out, obviously.

OP here. I actually read her blog because I started off my career in the foreign policy and think tank circles. While I never met Shawn Brimley, I certainly know people who worked with him. I was surprised by her beautiful and raw writing and struck by her intelligence and emotional maturity. When you read her story, you realize she has not always been lucky, having lost her mother so young and in such terrible circumstances, and you cannot help but admire her resilience. She then goes off and meets this brilliant and all around wonderful guy who apparently is madly in love with her. They had a love in a brief time that most do not experience in this whole life. That is lucky!

After his unfortunate passing, she is left a widow at 40 with three little kids. That's a huge baggage. And within two years she is married again to another seemingly great guy who is madly in love with her.

She does seem tremendously lucky in love, regardless of the rest of her circumstances.

I'm the PP who said it's terrible luck. I follow Marjorie's blog because I too am a 40-something widow. This could be my grief talking, but could you please stop calling her lucky in love? It comes across as tone deaf. Even if you had an amazing first husband and another great relationship with someone after your husband's death, you aren't lucky...you are able to make good of a terrible situation. Some widows can't get out of bed for months or years. Some pour out their eloquent vulnerabilities in a blog and inspire others to get out of bed and put one foot in front of the other every day. All are doing the best they can to live through the pain of loss.

Despite feeling so grateful for the men in my life, I live so many days with the pain of my circumstances and the complications of moving on in my changing world. I worked and work hard on these relationships. Perhaps someone looking in from the outside would call it luck. Other than being in the right place at the right time in meeting someone, luck is not otherwise a factor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Witnessing the illness of your spouse and becoming a young widow isn't lucky in love... It's terrible luck.

Well yes. Of course it is. But finding not one, but two great husbands in a relatively short period of time Is lucky in love. That doesn’t mean lucky in all aspects of life, as you point out, obviously.

OP here. I actually read her blog because I started off my career in the foreign policy and think tank circles. While I never met Shawn Brimley, I certainly know people who worked with him. I was surprised by her beautiful and raw writing and struck by her intelligence and emotional maturity. When you read her story, you realize she has not always been lucky, having lost her mother so young and in such terrible circumstances, and you cannot help but admire her resilience. She then goes off and meets this brilliant and all around wonderful guy who apparently is madly in love with her. They had a love in a brief time that most do not experience in this whole life. That is lucky!

After his unfortunate passing, she is left a widow at 40 with three little kids. That's a huge baggage. And within two years she is married again to another seemingly great guy who is madly in love with her.


She does seem tremendously lucky in love, regardless of the rest of her circumstances.

I'm the PP who said it's terrible luck. I follow Marjorie's blog because I too am a 40-something widow. This could be my grief talking, but could you please stop calling her lucky in love? It comes across as tone deaf. Even if you had an amazing first husband and another great relationship with someone after your husband's death, you aren't lucky...you are able to make good of a terrible situation. Some widows can't get out of bed for months or years. Some pour out their eloquent vulnerabilities in a blog and inspire others to get out of bed and put one foot in front of the other every day. All are doing the best they can to live through the pain of loss.

Despite feeling so grateful for the men in my life, I live so many days with the pain of my circumstances and the complications of moving on in my changing world. I worked and work hard on these relationships. Perhaps someone looking in from the outside would call it luck. Other than being in the right place at the right time in meeting someone, luck is not otherwise a factor.

+10000. You put it perfectly, it seems tone-deaf. Sorry for your loss, PP. I know this post REALLY irks me, but i have not experienced the loss of a spouse like you have....I can only imagine.