Explain this behavior to me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly? There is nothing to figure out. If a man is into you, he makes it clear.

This. No way I am calling a dude over and over again. I call, I leave a message, he got it. If we aren't talking it's because he is busy or not bothered so why call and text him several more times? Leave them wanting more.

[Anonymous]

People check their phone all the time these days. He could have spent 30 seconds to send a quick text.

The reason he called at 8:10 is exactly because he new you couldn’t talk and the conversation would be short. He didn’t want to chat all night after the kids went to bed because he had other plans (woman).

I can’t make it anymore obvious. I hope you block him forever, no one has time for this. I hope you believe that you deserve better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People check their phone all the time these days. He could have spent 30 seconds to send a quick text.

The reason he called at 8:10 is exactly because he new you couldn’t talk and the conversation would be short. He didn’t want to chat all night after the kids went to bed because he had other plans (woman).

I can’t make it anymore obvious. I hope you block him forever, no one has time for this. I hope you believe that you deserve better.

This!

[Anonymous]

He's juggling other women, and you aren't #1. I do the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's juggling other women, and you aren't #1. I do the same thing.

This is exactly right.

Signed - A Guy Who Used to Juggle Multiple Women

[Anonymous]

He sounds kinda married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's juggling other women, and you aren't #1. I do the same thing.

This.

He can’t plan ahead because you are his Plan B. He reaches out when it’s convenient for him.

Move on.

When a guy likes you, he reaches out and tries to woo you. Dating really isn’t hard when both people are into it.

PS - When both people are into it, you prioritize being together…and you don’t go weeks between dates.

[Anonymous]

I agree. He's either a player, or the kind of guy who will only do things on his terms, if and when he feels like it. Not worth another minute of your time or energy.

[Anonymous]

He's just not that into you. Find one who is.

[Anonymous]

He is a) inconsiderate, b) stupid, c) all of the above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's juggling other women, and you aren't #1. I do the same thing.

This.

He can’t plan ahead because you are his Plan B. He reaches out when it’s convenient for him.

Move on.

When a guy likes you, he reaches out and tries to woo you. Dating really isn’t hard when both people are into it.

PS - When both people are into it, you prioritize being together…and you don’t go weeks between dates.

We have a reason to go weeks between dates…neither of us live alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: I got a text at 6 pm saying: “Sorry, work has been kicking my ass all day and I fell asleep last night. How are you feeling?” (I have had a cold.) previous posters—does this change any earlier comments or not?

No. He was it with another woman last night. That’s why he didn’t call you after 845 or pick up.

Either that or he is a weirdo he cannot stay awake till nine pm to talk to a woman he is dating.

Neither option is good.

Move on.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he’s seeing other people - OP has not stated whether they are monogamous. Or maybe he’s just more flexible than OP. My husband has always been like that, never kept to a schedule, likes to be more spur of the moment; even now, married 20 years, it’s hard to pin him down to a specific plan. He loves to say “we’ll see,” and it’s not that he’s juggling other offers; he likes to wait to see if he feels like going to the movie, or out to dinner or whatever. He also is just terrible at keeping track of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's juggling other women, and you aren't #1. I do the same thing.

This.

He can’t plan ahead because you are his Plan B. He reaches out when it’s convenient for him.

Move on.

When a guy likes you, he reaches out and tries to woo you. Dating really isn’t hard when both people are into it.

PS - When both people are into it, you prioritize being together…and you don’t go weeks between dates.

We have a reason to go weeks between dates…neither of us live alone.

You're saying you're both in relationships? If he lives with his significant other, why are you so confused about his behavior?

[Anonymous]

I can see why he is unmarried and childless in his late 30’s.