Dating sucks. Or am I just overly sensitive?

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Anonymous wrote:It"S not dating and you are not overly sensitive. You are just a prickly pain in the ass.

You are not the unique and special oh-so-cool princess you think you are.

Please stop seeing this guy so you can be miserable on your own.

PP,

He’s emotionally needy and entitled.

You must be an incel.

Not an incel. I can just see through OP's BS. No one is forcing her to date this man or anyone else. If she hates dating as much as she says she should stop doing it. instead of whining about stupid shit and acting like it's everybody else with the problem instead of her, with the bad attidued. Not interested in coddling a grown woman just because she's a woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why that turned you off.

+1 He was basically saying he likes you and is hoping you can fit him into your schedule in the near future. I don't think anything else was intended.

+1. I think you are reading too much into it. This is why texting leads to a lot of miscommunication.

This isn’t a texting miscommunication issue. OP said she had to tell him to kind of ease up and he follows up with her needing to make time for him. It’s been 3 weeks and it seems like he’s not really respecting her boundaries.

I mean, he just said what he’d like. He didn’t say she needed to do anything. I’m not sure what he’s done that made it seem like he wasn’t respecting boundaries but if OP read this as demanding or entititled when many wouldn’t, then maybe she’s misinterpreting. If she doesn’t like him, fine, but he didn’t demand anything. He wanted to know if sis was free on Tuesday and when he wasn’t, he said he’d like her to make time for him soon.

I think I see why so many people have trouble going from meeting to relationships when every word is parsed like this and one wrong move (that is arguably just a miscommunication) and that’s it….next!

He got upset because she was going to spend time with her family. He didn’t ask when she’d be free again. He didn’t say “hey I’m getting back this week. I’ll be free xyz. Would you like to get together”. No, instead he said that she needed to make time for him as if she’s been dodging him and like he’s the one who hasn’t been traveling. Again, it’s comes off as needy and entitled. Only three dates in and he’s telling her he misses her and she needs to make time for him? This is all after she told him to slow down; not respecting boundaries. It’s too much to soon. Three dates in one month is not a lot of time spent with someone new. Again, too much too soon.

[Anonymous]

That text is a big red flag.

[Anonymous]

His phrasing was bad. It’s a red flag but it’s possible he just wasn’t thinking when he sent the text. If you like him, I would not write him off based on that text alone.

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Anonymous wrote:That text is a big red flag.

How? He’s just basically saying he wants to see her.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why that turned you off.

+1 He was basically saying he likes you and is hoping you can fit him into your schedule in the near future. I don't think anything else was intended.

+1. I think you are reading too much into it. This is why texting leads to a lot of miscommunication.

This isn’t a texting miscommunication issue. OP said she had to tell him to kind of ease up and he follows up with her needing to make time for him. It’s been 3 weeks and it seems like he’s not really respecting her boundaries.

I mean, he just said what he’d like. He didn’t say she needed to do anything. I’m not sure what he’s done that made it seem like he wasn’t respecting boundaries but if OP read this as demanding or entititled when many wouldn’t, then maybe she’s misinterpreting. If she doesn’t like him, fine, but he didn’t demand anything. He wanted to know if sis was free on Tuesday and when he wasn’t, he said he’d like her to make time for him soon.

I think I see why so many people have trouble going from meeting to relationships when every word is parsed like this and one wrong move (that is arguably just a miscommunication) and that’s it….next!

He got upset because she was going to spend time with her family. He didn’t ask when she’d be free again. He didn’t say “hey I’m getting back this week. I’ll be free xyz. Would you like to get together”. No, instead he said that she needed to make time for him as if she’s been dodging him and like he’s the one who hasn’t been traveling. Again, it’s comes off as needy and entitled. Only three dates in and he’s telling her he misses her and she needs to make time for him? This is all after she told him to slow down; not respecting boundaries. It’s too much to soon. Three dates in one month is not a lot of time spent with someone new. Again, too much too soon.

NP here. He didn't get upset at all you are making stuf so you can demonize him because you hate men. Stop it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why that turned you off.

+1 He was basically saying he likes you and is hoping you can fit him into your schedule in the near future. I don't think anything else was intended.

+1. I think you are reading too much into it. This is why texting leads to a lot of miscommunication.

This isn’t a texting miscommunication issue. OP said she had to tell him to kind of ease up and he follows up with her needing to make time for him. It’s been 3 weeks and it seems like he’s not really respecting her boundaries.

I mean, he just said what he’d like. He didn’t say she needed to do anything. I’m not sure what he’s done that made it seem like he wasn’t respecting boundaries but if OP read this as demanding or entititled when many wouldn’t, then maybe she’s misinterpreting. If she doesn’t like him, fine, but he didn’t demand anything. He wanted to know if sis was free on Tuesday and when he wasn’t, he said he’d like her to make time for him soon.

I think I see why so many people have trouble going from meeting to relationships when every word is parsed like this and one wrong move (that is arguably just a miscommunication) and that’s it….next!

He got upset because she was going to spend time with her family. He didn’t ask when she’d be free again. He didn’t say “hey I’m getting back this week. I’ll be free xyz. Would you like to get together”. No, instead he said that she needed to make time for him as if she’s been dodging him and like he’s the one who hasn’t been traveling. Again, it’s comes off as needy and entitled. Only three dates in and he’s telling her he misses her and she needs to make time for him? This is all after she told him to slow down; not respecting boundaries. It’s too much to soon. Three dates in one month is not a lot of time spent with someone new. Again, too much too soon.

NP here. He didn't get upset at all you are making stuf so you can demonize him because you hate men. Stop it

I’m not demonizing him. Multiple have said that his text was a red flag. There’s a reason why we’re saying that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why that turned you off.

+1 He was basically saying he likes you and is hoping you can fit him into your schedule in the near future. I don't think anything else was intended.

+1. I think you are reading too much into it. This is why texting leads to a lot of miscommunication.

This isn’t a texting miscommunication issue. OP said she had to tell him to kind of ease up and he follows up with her needing to make time for him. It’s been 3 weeks and it seems like he’s not really respecting her boundaries.

I mean, he just said what he’d like. He didn’t say she needed to do anything. I’m not sure what he’s done that made it seem like he wasn’t respecting boundaries but if OP read this as demanding or entititled when many wouldn’t, then maybe she’s misinterpreting. If she doesn’t like him, fine, but he didn’t demand anything. He wanted to know if sis was free on Tuesday and when he wasn’t, he said he’d like her to make time for him soon.

I think I see why so many people have trouble going from meeting to relationships when every word is parsed like this and one wrong move (that is arguably just a miscommunication) and that’s it….next!

He got upset because she was going to spend time with her family. He didn’t ask when she’d be free again. He didn’t say “hey I’m getting back this week. I’ll be free xyz. Would you like to get together”. No, instead he said that she needed to make time for him as if she’s been dodging him and like he’s the one who hasn’t been traveling. Again, it’s comes off as needy and entitled. Only three dates in and he’s telling her he misses her and she needs to make time for him? This is all after she told him to slow down; not respecting boundaries. It’s too much to soon. Three dates in one month is not a lot of time spent with someone new. Again, too much too soon.

NP here. He didn't get upset at all you are making stuf so you can demonize him because you hate men. Stop it

I’m not demonizing him. Multiple have said that his text was a red flag. There’s a reason why we’re saying that.

And you and those other people have issues that you are projecting onto him because of your own effed u lives, common here on DCUM something is always wrong with the guy. It's pathetic. It's tired.
Nothing was wrong with the text.
The issue is OP doesn't like the guy, but can't get anyone she does like to date her, so she hates dating, but instead of not dating she takes her issues out on the guys she doesn't like.
She just shouldn't date this guy anymore, but it's not because he's doing anything wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why that turned you off.

+1 He was basically saying he likes you and is hoping you can fit him into your schedule in the near future. I don't think anything else was intended.

+1. I think you are reading too much into it. This is why texting leads to a lot of miscommunication.

This isn’t a texting miscommunication issue. OP said she had to tell him to kind of ease up and he follows up with her needing to make time for him. It’s been 3 weeks and it seems like he’s not really respecting her boundaries.

I mean, he just said what he’d like. He didn’t say she needed to do anything. I’m not sure what he’s done that made it seem like he wasn’t respecting boundaries but if OP read this as demanding or entititled when many wouldn’t, then maybe she’s misinterpreting. If she doesn’t like him, fine, but he didn’t demand anything. He wanted to know if sis was free on Tuesday and when he wasn’t, he said he’d like her to make time for him soon.

I think I see why so many people have trouble going from meeting to relationships when every word is parsed like this and one wrong move (that is arguably just a miscommunication) and that’s it….next!

He got upset because she was going to spend time with her family. He didn’t ask when she’d be free again. He didn’t say “hey I’m getting back this week. I’ll be free xyz. Would you like to get together”. No, instead he said that she needed to make time for him as if she’s been dodging him and like he’s the one who hasn’t been traveling. Again, it’s comes off as needy and entitled. Only three dates in and he’s telling her he misses her and she needs to make time for him? This is all after she told him to slow down; not respecting boundaries. It’s too much to soon. Three dates in one month is not a lot of time spent with someone new. Again, too much too soon.

NP here. He didn't get upset at all you are making stuf so you can demonize him because you hate men. Stop it

I’m not demonizing him. Multiple have said that his text was a red flag. There’s a reason why we’re saying that.

And you and those other people have issues that you are projecting onto him because of your own effed u lives, common here on DCUM something is always wrong with the guy. It's pathetic. It's tired.
Nothing was wrong with the text.
The issue is OP doesn't like the guy, but can't get anyone she does like to date her, so she hates dating, but instead of not dating she takes her issues out on the guys she doesn't like.
She just shouldn't date this guy anymore, but it's not because he's doing anything wrong.

Incel alert.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why that turned you off.

+1 He was basically saying he likes you and is hoping you can fit him into your schedule in the near future. I don't think anything else was intended.

+1. I think you are reading too much into it. This is why texting leads to a lot of miscommunication.

This isn’t a texting miscommunication issue. OP said she had to tell him to kind of ease up and he follows up with her needing to make time for him. It’s been 3 weeks and it seems like he’s not really respecting her boundaries.

I mean, he just said what he’d like. He didn’t say she needed to do anything. I’m not sure what he’s done that made it seem like he wasn’t respecting boundaries but if OP read this as demanding or entititled when many wouldn’t, then maybe she’s misinterpreting. If she doesn’t like him, fine, but he didn’t demand anything. He wanted to know if sis was free on Tuesday and when he wasn’t, he said he’d like her to make time for him soon.

I think I see why so many people have trouble going from meeting to relationships when every word is parsed like this and one wrong move (that is arguably just a miscommunication) and that’s it….next!

He got upset because she was going to spend time with her family. He didn’t ask when she’d be free again. He didn’t say “hey I’m getting back this week. I’ll be free xyz. Would you like to get together”. No, instead he said that she needed to make time for him as if she’s been dodging him and like he’s the one who hasn’t been traveling. Again, it’s comes off as needy and entitled. Only three dates in and he’s telling her he misses her and she needs to make time for him? This is all after she told him to slow down; not respecting boundaries. It’s too much to soon. Three dates in one month is not a lot of time spent with someone new. Again, too much too soon.

NP here. He didn't get upset at all you are making stuf so you can demonize him because you hate men. Stop it

I’m not demonizing him. Multiple have said that his text was a red flag. There’s a reason why we’re saying that.

And you and those other people have issues that you are projecting onto him because of your own effed u lives, common here on DCUM something is always wrong with the guy. It's pathetic. It's tired.
Nothing was wrong with the text.
The issue is OP doesn't like the guy, but can't get anyone she does like to date her, so she hates dating, but instead of not dating she takes her issues out on the guys she doesn't like.
She just shouldn't date this guy anymore, but it's not because he's doing anything wrong.

Incel alert.

Not an incel just tired of the BS the women on this forum spew that something is wrong with all guys, and all guys are just sneaky and abusive. There is absolutely nothing in OP's post that says there's anything wrong with the guy. The issue OP isn't into him, but she's too immature to own up to that and move on. Worse that she sets herself up like she's some victim of the dating world. NO one is forcing her to date at all or this guy. So why the drama? This post is stupid and OP is freaking immature.
- a woman sick of the misandry on this forum and the constant coddling of women ont his forum for their self inflicted drama.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why that turned you off.

+1 He was basically saying he likes you and is hoping you can fit him into your schedule in the near future. I don't think anything else was intended.

+1. I think you are reading too much into it. This is why texting leads to a lot of miscommunication.

This isn’t a texting miscommunication issue. OP said she had to tell him to kind of ease up and he follows up with her needing to make time for him. It’s been 3 weeks and it seems like he’s not really respecting her boundaries.

I mean, he just said what he’d like. He didn’t say she needed to do anything. I’m not sure what he’s done that made it seem like he wasn’t respecting boundaries but if OP read this as demanding or entititled when many wouldn’t, then maybe she’s misinterpreting. If she doesn’t like him, fine, but he didn’t demand anything. He wanted to know if sis was free on Tuesday and when he wasn’t, he said he’d like her to make time for him soon.

I think I see why so many people have trouble going from meeting to relationships when every word is parsed like this and one wrong move (that is arguably just a miscommunication) and that’s it….next!

He got upset because she was going to spend time with her family. He didn’t ask when she’d be free again. He didn’t say “hey I’m getting back this week. I’ll be free xyz. Would you like to get together”. No, instead he said that she needed to make time for him as if she’s been dodging him and like he’s the one who hasn’t been traveling. Again, it’s comes off as needy and entitled. Only three dates in and he’s telling her he misses her and she needs to make time for him? This is all after she told him to slow down; not respecting boundaries. It’s too much to soon. Three dates in one month is not a lot of time spent with someone new. Again, too much too soon.

NP here. He didn't get upset at all you are making stuf so you can demonize him because you hate men. Stop it

I’m not demonizing him. Multiple have said that his text was a red flag. There’s a reason why we’re saying that.

And you and those other people have issues that you are projecting onto him because of your own effed u lives, common here on DCUM something is always wrong with the guy. It's pathetic. It's tired.
Nothing was wrong with the text.
The issue is OP doesn't like the guy, but can't get anyone she does like to date her, so she hates dating, but instead of not dating she takes her issues out on the guys she doesn't like.
She just shouldn't date this guy anymore, but it's not because he's doing anything wrong.

Incel alert.

Not an incel just tired of the BS the women on this forum spew that something is wrong with all guys, and all guys are just sneaky and abusive. There is absolutely nothing in OP's post that says there's anything wrong with the guy. The issue OP isn't into him, but she's too immature to own up to that and move on. Worse that she sets herself up like she's some victim of the dating world. NO one is forcing her to date at all or this guy. So why the drama? This post is stupid and OP is freaking immature.
- a woman sick of the misandry on this forum and the constant coddling of women ont his forum for their self inflicted drama.

PP,

I was one of the people who said his text was a red flag. I’m a man. I’d tell my daughter to proceed with a lot of caution if she told me her new beau said this to her.

[Anonymous]

Is english his first language?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is english his first language?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Hell no! I wouldn’t see him again. He sounds creepy and controlling. Not appropriate behavior for three dates.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why that turned you off.

+1 He was basically saying he likes you and is hoping you can fit him into your schedule in the near future. I don't think anything else was intended.

+1. I think you are reading too much into it. This is why texting leads to a lot of miscommunication.

This isn’t a texting miscommunication issue. OP said she had to tell him to kind of ease up and he follows up with her needing to make time for him. It’s been 3 weeks and it seems like he’s not really respecting her boundaries.

I mean, he just said what he’d like. He didn’t say she needed to do anything. I’m not sure what he’s done that made it seem like he wasn’t respecting boundaries but if OP read this as demanding or entititled when many wouldn’t, then maybe she’s misinterpreting. If she doesn’t like him, fine, but he didn’t demand anything. He wanted to know if sis was free on Tuesday and when he wasn’t, he said he’d like her to make time for him soon.

I think I see why so many people have trouble going from meeting to relationships when every word is parsed like this and one wrong move (that is arguably just a miscommunication) and that’s it….next!

He got upset because she was going to spend time with her family. He didn’t ask when she’d be free again. He didn’t say “hey I’m getting back this week. I’ll be free xyz. Would you like to get together”. No, instead he said that she needed to make time for him as if she’s been dodging him and like he’s the one who hasn’t been traveling. Again, it’s comes off as needy and entitled. Only three dates in and he’s telling her he misses her and she needs to make time for him? This is all after she told him to slow down; not respecting boundaries. It’s too much to soon. Three dates in one month is not a lot of time spent with someone new. Again, too much too soon.

NP here. He didn't get upset at all you are making stuf so you can demonize him because you hate men. Stop it

I’m not demonizing him. Multiple have said that his text was a red flag. There’s a reason why we’re saying that.

And you and those other people have issues that you are projecting onto him because of your own effed u lives, common here on DCUM something is always wrong with the guy. It's pathetic. It's tired.
Nothing was wrong with the text.
The issue is OP doesn't like the guy, but can't get anyone she does like to date her, so she hates dating, but instead of not dating she takes her issues out on the guys she doesn't like.
She just shouldn't date this guy anymore, but it's not because he's doing anything wrong.

Incel alert.

Not an incel just tired of the BS the women on this forum spew that something is wrong with all guys, and all guys are just sneaky and abusive. There is absolutely nothing in OP's post that says there's anything wrong with the guy. The issue OP isn't into him, but she's too immature to own up to that and move on. Worse that she sets herself up like she's some victim of the dating world. NO one is forcing her to date at all or this guy. So why the drama? This post is stupid and OP is freaking immature.
- a woman sick of the misandry on this forum and the constant coddling of women ont his forum for their self inflicted drama.

PP,

I was one of the people who said his text was a red flag. I’m a man. I’d tell my daughter to proceed with a lot of caution if she told me her new beau said this to her.

And I'd tell my daughter to grow the hell up and stop dating a guy if everything he did annoyed her after 3 dates. OP has agency here despite her pretending she doesn't