Dating sucks. Or am I just overly sensitive?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been on 3 dates with someone that I met a month ago. Lately he’s been calling me on FaceTime blowing kisses, repeatedly telling me he’s thinking of me, and even told me he missed me a few days ago.

Anyways, he went to CA to visit his brother a week ago and will be back on Tuesday. Today he asked me if I had anything planned on Tuesday night. I told him I’m going to go spend time with my niece for her birthday. He replied back and said, “That sounds nice. I’d like you to make some time soon so we can see each other”. For some reason this REALLY turned me off. Am I just being overly sensitive due to my disdain for dating or was that really off putting?

[Anonymous]

He’s a double timer - didn’t go to visit brother but spent the weekend with other woman. Let it go find someone else

[Anonymous]

Yeah, that rubs me the wrong way too. I’d tell him things aren’t working out for you and him and wish him the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s a double timer - didn’t go to visit brother but spent the weekend with other woman. Let it go find someone else

Insecure much? He kept calling her with video while away, so I doubt he’s a “double timer”.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get why that turned you off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been on 3 dates with someone that I met a month ago. Lately he’s been calling me on FaceTime blowing kisses, repeatedly telling me he’s thinking of me, and even told me he missed me a few days ago.

Anyways, he went to CA to visit his brother a week ago and will be back on Tuesday. Today he asked me if I had anything planned on Tuesday night. I told him I’m going to go spend time with my niece for her birthday. He replied back and said, “That sounds nice. I’d like you to make some time soon so we can see each other”. For some reason this REALLY turned me off. Am I just being overly sensitive due to my disdain for dating or was that really off putting?

I get it OP. You have to realize that some men who want to sleep with you will put the pressure on and it is up to you to set limits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why that turned you off.

Not to speak for OP but he’s coming off as entitled. She’s not his girlfriend so she doesn’t have to “ make time” for him. It also seems like he’s upset because she couldn’t see him because she’s going to be with family. He should’ve simply asked when the next time she was free.
He’s sounds needy and controlling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why that turned you off.

+1 He was basically saying he likes you and is hoping you can fit him into your schedule in the near future. I don't think anything else was intended.

[Anonymous]

I agree. Too entitled or needy or both. If you don’t like him enough to wait til he chills out it’s ok to tell him this isn’t working.

[Anonymous]

Not sure what he did wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why that turned you off.

Not to speak for OP but he’s coming off as entitled. She’s not his girlfriend so she doesn’t have to “ make time” for him. It also seems like he’s upset because she couldn’t see him because she’s going to be with family. He should’ve simply asked when the next time she was free.
He’s sounds needy and controlling.

It’s clumsy language but unless there’s a pattern of that I wouldn’t end it for this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why that turned you off.

+1 He was basically saying he likes you and is hoping you can fit him into your schedule in the near future. I don't think anything else was intended.

Yea, but it’s the entitlement that’s the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why that turned you off.

Not to speak for OP but he’s coming off as entitled. She’s not his girlfriend so she doesn’t have to “ make time” for him. It also seems like he’s upset because she couldn’t see him because she’s going to be with family. He should’ve simply asked when the next time she was free.
He’s sounds needy and controlling.

It’s clumsy language but unless there’s a pattern of that I wouldn’t end it for this.

Coupled with everything else he seems like he’d be exhausting due to his emotional neediness. Can you imagine how he’d be in 6 months if he’s like this after 1 month?

[Anonymous]

He enjoys your company and hopes the two of you can get together soon.

[Anonymous]

It might just be that you are mismatched in terms of your communication styles. Like what you view as over the top, he sees as romantic. If he is promising for a LTR in other respects I’d give it one more in person to see how you feel. Long distance is always a bit weird.