Husband Is Adamant I Breastfeed

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe have a talk together with the pediatrician who can share how the baby will be fine with formula and how the mental health of the mother is essential to bonding. It’s really challenging to have these conversations when you’re sleep deprived and dealing with the newness of being parents. Having a third party might help with that conversation. The pediatrician is focused solely on the baby.

+1 Formula is a perfectly good option, OP, but I understand you and DH are probably struggling to have a fair conversation about it right now with the new baby. The ped is a good resource.

Maybe you can talk to the ped/DH about combo feeding? Would a nursing session or two a day work for you?

OP here. The pediatrician is on his side. She said we should ultimately do what I think is best, but advised us to breastfeed if it’s going well because of the pandemic and cold/flu season.

But it’s NOT going well. You’re struggling. You don’t want to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then you should try to do what the pediatrician recommends. Not because your husband wants you to but because this is a sacrifice you are doing for the wellbeing of your child. I agree with others that it will get easier and 2 weeks is not a great frame of mind to be making this decisions.

But I suggest that you continue to do both breastfeeding and formula. Don’t pump. People think its one or the other, but its more common than you’d think to do both. Many moms keep the bedtime feeding for weeks (maybe months) after they have dropped the others. Try doing at least 2 breastfeeding every day - morning and night - and use formula in between.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then you should try to do what the pediatrician recommends. Not because your husband wants you to but because this is a sacrifice you are doing for the wellbeing of your child. I agree with others that it will get easier and 2 weeks is not a great frame of mind to be making this decisions.

But I suggest that you continue to do both breastfeeding and formula. Don’t pump. People think its one or the other, but its more common than you’d think to do both. Many moms keep the bedtime feeding for weeks (maybe months) after they have dropped the others. Try doing at least 2 breastfeeding every day - morning and night - and use formula in between.

Don’t do this. You’re two weeks in and feeding only twice a day will tank your supply.

[Anonymous]

In my experience, breastfeeding seems like a pain in the beginning and then gets sooo much easier after 6 weeks or so as the baby gets bigger and faster at feeding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is right OP. It’s not about you anymore. Welcome to motherhood!

It’s not his call unless he’s producing milk from his own nipples.

Welcome to self-esteem and not choosing to be a mommy martyr!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe have a talk together with the pediatrician who can share how the baby will be fine with formula and how the mental health of the mother is essential to bonding. It’s really challenging to have these conversations when you’re sleep deprived and dealing with the newness of being parents. Having a third party might help with that conversation. The pediatrician is focused solely on the baby.

+1 Formula is a perfectly good option, OP, but I understand you and DH are probably struggling to have a fair conversation about it right now with the new baby. The ped is a good resource.

Maybe you can talk to the ped/DH about combo feeding? Would a nursing session or two a day work for you?

OP here. The pediatrician is on his side. She said we should ultimately do what I think is best, but advised us to breastfeed if it’s going well because of the pandemic and cold/flu season.

But it’s NOT going well. You’re struggling. You don’t want to do it.

OP here. I don’t want to do it but it is going well. He eats well and is gaining weight. We have not had any issues that some experience like tongue ties or latch issues. He loves breastfeeding. The issue is not him breastfeeding, it’s the fact that I always have leaking nipples and breasts full of milk that hurt. I can’t sleep for very long without needing to breastfeed or pump.

[Anonymous]

I would give it more time, too. Not because your husband wants you to but because it’s so fricking easy after a couple more weeks. Your milk will stabilize and your nipples will completely stop hurting. The baby will also start to get more efficient and be faster so nursing sessions are cut in half (or more).

But it’s always up to you. I’m just saying that not liking it now is not necessarily how you’ll feel two weeks from now.

[Anonymous]

Maybe give it a little more time. In a few more weeks you might start to like it better and get some of the benefits it gives you in addition to the baby...like burning tons of calories and being able to just leave the house without needing to prepare and pack any food or drinks for the baby. But if you continue to resent it, you should probably talk to your husband and prepare to stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then you should try to do what the pediatrician recommends. Not because your husband wants you to but because this is a sacrifice you are doing for the wellbeing of your child. I agree with others that it will get easier and 2 weeks is not a great frame of mind to be making this decisions.

But I suggest that you continue to do both breastfeeding and formula. Don’t pump. People think its one or the other, but its more common than you’d think to do both. Many moms keep the bedtime feeding for weeks (maybe months) after they have dropped the others. Try doing at least 2 breastfeeding every day - morning and night - and use formula in between.

Most moms at two weeks need to pump.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then you should try to do what the pediatrician recommends. Not because your husband wants you to but because this is a sacrifice you are doing for the wellbeing of your child. I agree with others that it will get easier and 2 weeks is not a great frame of mind to be making this decisions.

But I suggest that you continue to do both breastfeeding and formula. Don’t pump. People think its one or the other, but its more common than you’d think to do both. Many moms keep the bedtime feeding for weeks (maybe months) after they have dropped the others. Try doing at least 2 breastfeeding every day - morning and night - and use formula in between.

OP here. I pump once a day for about 10 minutes. I need to pump because I go 4-6 hours without feeding him at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe give it a little more time. In a few more weeks you might start to like it better and get some of the benefits it gives you in addition to the baby...like burning tons of calories and being able to just leave the house without needing to prepare and pack any food or drinks for the baby. But if you continue to resent it, you should probably talk to your husband and prepare to stop.

Not all moms lose weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then you should try to do what the pediatrician recommends. Not because your husband wants you to but because this is a sacrifice you are doing for the wellbeing of your child. I agree with others that it will get easier and 2 weeks is not a great frame of mind to be making this decisions.

But I suggest that you continue to do both breastfeeding and formula. Don’t pump. People think its one or the other, but its more common than you’d think to do both. Many moms keep the bedtime feeding for weeks (maybe months) after they have dropped the others. Try doing at least 2 breastfeeding every day - morning and night - and use formula in between.

OP here. I pump once a day for about 10 minutes. I need to pump because I go 4-6 hours without feeding him at night.

A two week should not be going 4-6 hours at night without eating. My pediatrician said no more than 4 hours at that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then you should try to do what the pediatrician recommends. Not because your husband wants you to but because this is a sacrifice you are doing for the wellbeing of your child. I agree with others that it will get easier and 2 weeks is not a great frame of mind to be making this decisions.

But I suggest that you continue to do both breastfeeding and formula. Don’t pump. People think its one or the other, but its more common than you’d think to do both. Many moms keep the bedtime feeding for weeks (maybe months) after they have dropped the others. Try doing at least 2 breastfeeding every day - morning and night - and use formula in between.

OP here. I pump once a day for about 10 minutes. I need to pump because I go 4-6 hours without feeding him at night.

A two week should not be going 4-6 hours at night without eating. My pediatrician said no more than 4 hours at that age.

+1. Never go more than 4 hours between feeds.

[Anonymous]

Tell him to breastfeed. This is ridiculous, and I am someone who BF all my kids for 12 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is right OP. It’s not about you anymore. Welcome to motherhood!

Wrong!!!

You’re not a mother are you PP?

Yes, yes I am.