Husband Is Adamant I Breastfeed

[Anonymous]

I did it for 6 weeks and was never so ready to switch to formula. For all 3 of my kids.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, quitting breastfeeding was the best thing I did during my maternity leave. No regrets.

OP, here is the real deal about the immune system: if your kid goes to group care, he’s going to get sick a lot. If he has a nanny, he’ll get less sick. But once he starts going to pre-k, he will absolutely get sick. And he will be FINE. Doesn’t matter how much you do or don’t breastfeed. I wish women would stop killing themselves over, at best, negligible benefits (if any at all).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your husband is right OP. It’s not about you anymore. Welcome to motherhood!

It’s not his call unless he’s producing milk from his own nipples.

Welcome to self-esteem and not choosing to be a mommy martyr!

NP. This is such a flippant answer. My DH would have LOVED to be the pregnant one, and would have loved to bf. Some guys just love being dads. Since the dad is doing EVERYTHING, I don’t feel that this a control issue, but a supportive partner who feels strongly about the real benefits of bf.

OP, I agree with the pp who said give it four more weeks.

I have done both full bf and full formula. BF is harder now, but it’s so, so, so much easier later. Give it a try for Future You. Future You might prefer to just rush out the door with a diaper and wipes, rather than also packing bottles of water and formula. Future You might not want to wash bottles when you can spend that time with your baby. (Six month old humans are the absolute best.) Future You might want the reduction in breast cancer incidence among moms who bf at least two years. Give Future You four more weeks.

This is so condescending. Also, wrong. How long do you think washing bottles takes? You pick them up with your hand and place them in the dishwasher. It’s really not difficult or time-consuming. It’s also not very difficult to carry formula with you, especially if you’re willing to pay for the little pre-measured packets and you don’t get your kid hooked on warm bottles.

I BF for 6 months and Future Me wished that Past Me had stopped much sooner. I would have been a happier, healthier mom if I had stopped torturing myself to breastfeed, and would have spent more time actually enjoying my “absolute best” baby.

OP, this is nobody’s choice but yours and don’t let yourself be bullied by your husband or by online BF boosters. Do you what’s right for you. Your baby will be fine. Honestly, no one will remember or care in a few years. This is one of those things that only seems like a big deal when you’re right in the middle of it.

[Anonymous]

He grow tits yet?

[Anonymous]

Like a couple of other posters, I cannot stand those La Leche folks at the hospital. I asked them to leave, as I never planned to breastfeed. I had to be rather insistent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is right OP. It’s not about you anymore. Welcome to motherhood!

It’s not his call unless he’s producing milk from his own nipples.

Welcome to self-esteem and not choosing to be a mommy martyr!

NP. This is such a flippant answer. My DH would have LOVED to be the pregnant one, and would have loved to bf. Some guys just love being dads. Since the dad is doing EVERYTHING, I don’t feel that this a control issue, but a supportive partner who feels strongly about the real benefits of bf.

OP, I agree with the pp who said give it four more weeks.

I have done both full bf and full formula. BF is harder now, but it’s so, so, so much easier later. Give it a try for Future You. Future You might prefer to just rush out the door with a diaper and wipes, rather than also packing bottles of water and formula. Future You might not want to wash bottles when you can spend that time with your baby. (Six month old humans are the absolute best.) Future You might want the reduction in breast cancer incidence among moms who bf at least two years. Give Future You four more weeks.

This is so condescending. Also, wrong. How long do you think washing bottles takes? You pick them up with your hand and place them in the dishwasher. It’s really not difficult or time-consuming. It’s also not very difficult to carry formula with you, especially if you’re willing to pay for the little pre-measured packets and you don’t get your kid hooked on warm bottles.

I BF for 6 months and Future Me wished that Past Me had stopped much sooner. I would have been a happier, healthier mom if I had stopped torturing myself to breastfeed, and would have spent more time actually enjoying my “absolute best” baby.

OP, this is nobody’s choice but yours and don’t let yourself be bullied by your husband or by online BF boosters. Do you what’s right for you. Your baby will be fine. Honestly, no one will remember or care in a few years. This is one of those things that only seems like a big deal when you’re right in the middle of it.

Dishwashing didn’t work for us, as it faded the numbers on the bottles. Hand washing was a huge pain. Our DS had allergies, and the formula we needed to use didn’t come in the packets.

Also, I suggested OP bf for 6 weeks, not 6 months. I stopped after 3 months of torture with kid 1. Went beyond a year with kid 2, because it got really easy for me at about 6 weeks. Other moms seem to have had the same experience. If it’s going to get easy, it will get easy by 6 weeks. At the beginning of the post, people were focusing on the benefits to the baby. I was suggesting that OP reframe the question to focus on her needs. No need to be rude.

[Anonymous]

I just saw this question so I don’t know if the topic has come up. But if he’s interested in the child being given breastmilk, you can get donor milk and bottle feed. You could even do combo feeding with donor milk and formula.