Husband Is Adamant I Breastfeed

[Anonymous]

OP here. I talked with a good friend of mine about things today and she had a similar experience. She didn’t plan on breastfeeding but decided to try it since everyone was telling her it was best. She told me that she took week by week or every two weeks. She made it through two weeks and re-evaluated, made it through 4 weeks and re-evaluated, made it through six weeks and re-evaluated, etc. She was told that the first 2-4 weeks is the hardest and to why past that before deciding whether to quit. Things are going well so I’m going to do that. I will give it another two weeks and see how I feel. I may go longer if I may not. I don’t plan to breastfeed once I go back to work so this will only be while I’m at home. We have one bottle of formula a day so he can get used to it and I pump once a day and freeze that milk so we can have some milk when I go back to work.

[Anonymous]

Good for you, OP. I wish you and your baby the best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked with a good friend of mine about things today and she had a similar experience. She didn’t plan on breastfeeding but decided to try it since everyone was telling her it was best. She told me that she took week by week or every two weeks. She made it through two weeks and re-evaluated, made it through 4 weeks and re-evaluated, made it through six weeks and re-evaluated, etc. She was told that the first 2-4 weeks is the hardest and to why past that before deciding whether to quit. Things are going well so I’m going to do that. I will give it another two weeks and see how I feel. I may go longer if I may not. I don’t plan to breastfeed once I go back to work so this will only be while I’m at home. We have one bottle of formula a day so he can get used to it and I pump once a day and freeze that milk so we can have some milk when I go back to work.

That is wonderful. I had the exact same situation and helpfully my experience offers down encouragement. I was never fully interested in breastfeeding but my husband really wanted to with the pandemic and just overall health benefits. It was easy except for some minor latch issues and the pain the first two weeks. We did have some weight gain issues but that was because of the latch issue. We got it fixed and I was able to breastfeed until I went back to work FT at 6 months. I went back PT at 4 months but was able to pump. I work in a field that didn’t really allow for much time to pump and I knew I would switch over to formula feeding when I went back at 6 months.

My husband was very involved and was an amazing supportive partner. He asked me “ what can I do to make it work for you”? when we first started. I was able to pump and use a milk saver throughout the day do get create a freezer stash. I had a good supply and froze 8-12 ounces a day. I had enough milk to give him 2 bottle of breast milk a day until he was 1. I did the same for my second but stopped at 4 months and only had enough milk to give him until 6 months.

I would continue as long as you’re happy and willing to do it. I told my husband that when I was done, I was done. He respected it and knew he didn’t have a choice. You do this for you and stop when you want to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked with a good friend of mine about things today and she had a similar experience. She didn’t plan on breastfeeding but decided to try it since everyone was telling her it was best. She told me that she took week by week or every two weeks. She made it through two weeks and re-evaluated, made it through 4 weeks and re-evaluated, made it through six weeks and re-evaluated, etc. She was told that the first 2-4 weeks is the hardest and to why past that before deciding whether to quit. Things are going well so I’m going to do that. I will give it another two weeks and see how I feel. I may go longer if I may not. I don’t plan to breastfeed once I go back to work so this will only be while I’m at home. We have one bottle of formula a day so he can get used to it and I pump once a day and freeze that milk so we can have some milk when I go back to work.

You appear to be unable to make a decision on your own for yourself. You need assertiveness classes. Otherwise, your husband's and friends are going to make all of your life decisions! I don't feel sorry for you, just disgusted that you let everyone else control you

[Anonymous]

I hated breastfeeding and quit after one try because the hospital feminazi la leche person bullied me into trying. I am still livid with this woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked with a good friend of mine about things today and she had a similar experience. She didn’t plan on breastfeeding but decided to try it since everyone was telling her it was best. She told me that she took week by week or every two weeks. She made it through two weeks and re-evaluated, made it through 4 weeks and re-evaluated, made it through six weeks and re-evaluated, etc. She was told that the first 2-4 weeks is the hardest and to why past that before deciding whether to quit. Things are going well so I’m going to do that. I will give it another two weeks and see how I feel. I may go longer if I may not. I don’t plan to breastfeed once I go back to work so this will only be while I’m at home. We have one bottle of formula a day so he can get used to it and I pump once a day and freeze that milk so we can have some milk when I go back to work.

You appear to be unable to make a decision on your own for yourself. You need assertiveness classes. Otherwise, your husband's and friends are going to make all of your life decisions! I don't feel sorry for you, just disgusted that you let everyone else control you
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OP here. You don’t even know me. This is one area that friends who have gone through this have valuable advice. Your response is ignorant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked with a good friend of mine about things today and she had a similar experience. She didn’t plan on breastfeeding but decided to try it since everyone was telling her it was best. She told me that she took week by week or every two weeks. She made it through two weeks and re-evaluated, made it through 4 weeks and re-evaluated, made it through six weeks and re-evaluated, etc. She was told that the first 2-4 weeks is the hardest and to why past that before deciding whether to quit. Things are going well so I’m going to do that. I will give it another two weeks and see how I feel. I may go longer if I may not. I don’t plan to breastfeed once I go back to work so this will only be while I’m at home. We have one bottle of formula a day so he can get used to it and I pump once a day and freeze that milk so we can have some milk when I go back to work.

You appear to be unable to make a decision on your own for yourself. You need assertiveness classes. Otherwise, your husband's and friends are going to make all of your life decisions! I don't feel sorry for you, just disgusted that you let everyone else control you

Rude and ignorant.

[Anonymous]

OP: your body, your choice!

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you have a good plan, that’s actually what I would have suggested to do, to take it week by week.

Ultimately it’s your decision and while I did breastfeed, now that my kids are tween/teenagers, it’s easy to see all this mom guilt crap about this baby stuff really doesn’t matter.

As for covid, if you got vaccinated while pregnant your baby already has antibodies

[Anonymous]

I am as feminist as they come but I remember, like a PP above, some La Leche freak trying to squeeze milk out of my breasts at the hospital. I slapped her hand away and said "next time I will bite you." My body, my decision as another PP said. I called my husband in front of her and told him to stock up on formula since I would be home the next day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op parenting is mostly doing things we don’t like. Welcome to the club. Wait until travel sports starts.

You do know that you don't have to do either one of those things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am as feminist as they come but I remember, like a PP above, some La Leche freak trying to squeeze milk out of my breasts at the hospital. I slapped her hand away and said "next time I will bite you." My body, my decision as another PP said. I called my husband in front of her and told him to stock up on formula since I would be home the next day.

#thathappened 😒

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked with a good friend of mine about things today and she had a similar experience. She didn’t plan on breastfeeding but decided to try it since everyone was telling her it was best. She told me that she took week by week or every two weeks. She made it through two weeks and re-evaluated, made it through 4 weeks and re-evaluated, made it through six weeks and re-evaluated, etc. She was told that the first 2-4 weeks is the hardest and to why past that before deciding whether to quit. Things are going well so I’m going to do that. I will give it another two weeks and see how I feel. I may go longer if I may not. I don’t plan to breastfeed once I go back to work so this will only be while I’m at home. We have one bottle of formula a day so he can get used to it and I pump once a day and freeze that milk so we can have some milk when I go back to work.

You appear to be unable to make a decision on your own for yourself. You need assertiveness classes. Otherwise, your husband's and friends are going to make all of your life decisions! I don't feel sorry for you, just disgusted that you let everyone else control you
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OP here. You don’t even know me. This is one area that friends who have gone through this have valuable advice. Your response is ignorant.

The truth is neither rude not ignorant. An adult should be able to make difficult decisions by themselves. You are pathetic is also true.

[Anonymous]

I will say it definitely gets easier. The first bit sucks.

But for instance my friend has narcolepsy and was getting guilty in breastfeeding. But what they wanted was unworkable. They wanted her to pump and dump twicel!l after taking her meds and then STILL she'd have to be on a reduced dose of her meds. A mom randomly falling asleep is dangerous.

It's okay nit to and you don't have to have a reason better than I don't want to. You really don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hated breastfeeding and quit after one try because the hospital feminazi la leche person bullied me into trying. I am still livid with this woman.

Pp you disgust me. Did this women kill six million Jews? Stop using the offenive term Feminazi!