Mommy school drama, how to deal
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Anonymous
| couldn't figure out what thread this would go in so I picked general. My kids go to a small private neighborhood school, small classes, mostly neighborhood kids. over the past few months the Mommy drama among the mothers of their classmates has gotten out of control, and i find myself the target of some of it and I can't understand why as I am pleasant and polite to everyone, we have many kids over for play dates, and always help other parents when asked (give rides, etc). I am worried that it is starting to affect my children bc it seems they are getting excluded from play dates, birthday parties, etc. I can live with the other mommies not really liking me, but how do I make sure whatever they think of me doesn't reflect on my children? Do I ignore them, turn the other cheek, etc? I am too old to deal with this and wouldn't except DC is complaining that DC is never asked for play dates when we always have other people, etc. |
Anonymous
| We need details on what the drama is based on. |
Anonymous
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OP,
Out of curiosity, is this a religious school and you happen to not be a member of the religion but still send your kids there? |
Anonymous
| OP, in order to give any advice it is kind of important to know what the drama is based around |
Anonymous
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OP, you are too nice. Be more choosy about your friends. You need people in your life with more class, who know how to reciprocate, not drain you. Remember this is D.C., not the real world.
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Anonymous
| OP here, I honestly don't know what the drama is based on. A few months ago I notice some mothers were no longer friendly towards me, as in no return hellos at drop off, and I was like Ok, no big deal. And then another mother who is a friend of mine mentioned it seemed like a mom was very cold to me, what happened? And I couldn't think of anything, and was a bit relieved to have someone else recognize that, but then just let it go. It's school, I have a life outside of that. but then DC came home crying because of a few birthday parties that DC was invited to, and keeps asking can DC go over to other kids' houses instead of always having kids over here. And one of the fathers asked me at a cocktail party how my marriage was doing because he heard mine was in trouble (guy was drunk, but that was really random because our marriage is fine, I haven't said otherwise to anyone). I just go to school, take my kids, then pick them up when school is out. I am nice, keep my nose out of people's business. |
Anonymous
| You are a grown woman and you need to stop using "mommy." |
Anonymous
| Other Mother drama. |
Anonymous
| It sounds like something obviously happened with one of the moms and you don't know what it is. Can you ask your friend or someone? It sounds like maybe something happened with your DS and one of the kids? |
Anonymous
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Hmm. I think you're going to have to confront one of these woman and get to the bottom of the problem - it sounds like someone is gossiping about you or thinks they know something. And instead of passively allowing other people to be rude anymore, you need to go up to (or call!) the queen bee and say "Mary, I have been feeling you dislike me; I noticed you never say Hi when I walk by you; have I done something to offend or hurt you?"
If its really a small private school, you have to nip this in the bud or else it will follow you and your kids - and once one kid is excluding yours - or hearing stuff about you - more kids will start excluding your DC. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| OP again, yes it is a religious school and we are the same religion. I did ask if there was an altercation with DC from friends and teachers and didn't hear of anything but maybe there is something, I don't know. |
Anonymous
| Similar thing happened to me, I just let it go. people are strange, especially at smaller schools. |
Anonymous
| God help me if I ever start excluding a child from birthday parties because I don't like something that their mom did. Some women just never outgrow middle school...very sad. |
Anonymous
Hell is other Moms sometimes been there myself, branch out find new pals if is is a Queen Bee situation, those women are beyond rational.
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