Moms of sons - do you guide your son to be respectful of girls?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:seriously: this could happen to your son. Its all well and good to talk to him about respect, but if you cared about him as a mom you would alert him to this too.

Judith Grossman: A Mother, a Feminist, Aghast
Unsubstantiated accusations against my son by a former girlfriend landed him before a nightmarish college tribunal.

http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424127887324600704578405280211043510

This is clearly one side of the story. I wonder what really happened. Perhaps the boy was not treating her well - but wouldn't pass up an opportunity to stick his penis in her. Perhaps he tried to break up with her and was an a$$hole about it.

But whatever the reason, it teaches boys to be respectful to girls they are getting sex from, because girls ultimately have the power.

Yes, I'm sure it was all his fault. Because, come on! He's a guy. Does it ever occur to you that sometimes, the women are actually at fault? Or is that an impossibility in your skewed world view?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:seriously: this could happen to your son. Its all well and good to talk to him about respect, but if you cared about him as a mom you would alert him to this too.

Judith Grossman: A Mother, a Feminist, Aghast
Unsubstantiated accusations against my son by a former girlfriend landed him before a nightmarish college tribunal.

http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424127887324600704578405280211043510

This is clearly one side of the story. I wonder what really happened. Perhaps the boy was not treating her well - but wouldn't pass up an opportunity to stick his penis in her. Perhaps he tried to break up with her and was an a$$hole about it.

But whatever the reason, it teaches boys to be respectful to girls they are getting sex from, because girls ultimately have the power.

Yes, I'm sure it was all his fault. Because, come on! He's a guy. Does it ever occur to you that sometimes, the women are actually at fault? Or is that an impossibility in your skewed world view?

umm... well statistics show that the CLEAR majority of rapists ARE MALE....
If guys think is girl is mentally unbalanced, they should not be sticking their penis in them. Simple. Parents need to teach their sons this so they don't end up like the kid in the news article.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait until you 18 yo college student bangs a 15 yo townie that claims to be a college student and has the moves to prove it.

Why the hell is your son "banging" minors??? Gross. Y

Not the PP, but hopefully you're aware that there are girls who pass themselves off as 18 or older and plenty of guys believe them. Who's at fault then? The guy for believing he's hooking up with someone legally of age (because remember, she told him she was), or the girl for lying to him and then hooking up with him?

When I was in college, there were always local high school girls who would come on campus for parties, hookups, etc. I hope one of them isn't your daughter some day.

Sounds like you/your teenage son needs to be taught to get to know a girl a little more before he bangs her in order to figure out if she lies about how old she is and they have sex.

Oh, I see. But your daughter has no role (or blame) in this situation, right? It's no big deal if she goes out to meet guys, lying about her age in order to get them to sleep with her.

If you are an above-age teenage boy, and you're going to have sex with another teenager, you may need to be taught that it's a good idea to get solid information how old the teenager you're going to "bang" is. There are multiple ways of doing this.

Or is your boy so HELPLESS and UNABLE TO CONTROL HIS ANIMAL URGES that he simply can't help himself?

If so, the problem is still him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:seriously: this could happen to your son. Its all well and good to talk to him about respect, but if you cared about him as a mom you would alert him to this too.

Judith Grossman: A Mother, a Feminist, Aghast
Unsubstantiated accusations against my son by a former girlfriend landed him before a nightmarish college tribunal.

http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424127887324600704578405280211043510

This is clearly one side of the story. I wonder what really happened. Perhaps the boy was not treating her well - but wouldn't pass up an opportunity to stick his penis in her. Perhaps he tried to break up with her and was an a$$hole about it.

But whatever the reason, it teaches boys to be respectful to girls they are getting sex from, because girls ultimately have the power.

Yes, I'm sure it was all his fault. Because, come on! He's a guy. Does it ever occur to you that sometimes, the women are actually at fault? Or is that an impossibility in your skewed world view?

umm... well statistics show that the CLEAR majority of rapists ARE MALE....
If guys think is girl is mentally unbalanced, they should not be sticking their penis in them. Simple. Parents need to teach their sons this so they don't end up like the kid in the news article.

BUT THEY CAN'T HELP THEMSELVES, DONTCHA KNOW?! THEY HAVE A PENIS AND THEY MUST PUT IT IN SOMETHING! I MEAN, SOMEONE.





There are people here not giving boys any credit, that's for damn sure. Newsflash: boys are not animals, and they don't HAVE to get laid.

[Anonymous]

By the way my eyeroll and sarcasm were directed towards the poster before yours, not the one who brought up statistics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:seriously: this could happen to your son. Its all well and good to talk to him about respect, but if you cared about him as a mom you would alert him to this too.

Judith Grossman: A Mother, a Feminist, Aghast
Unsubstantiated accusations against my son by a former girlfriend landed him before a nightmarish college tribunal.

http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424127887324600704578405280211043510

This is clearly one side of the story. I wonder what really happened. Perhaps the boy was not treating her well - but wouldn't pass up an opportunity to stick his penis in her. Perhaps he tried to break up with her and was an a$$hole about it.

But whatever the reason, it teaches boys to be respectful to girls they are getting sex from, because girls ultimately have the power.

Yes, I'm sure it was all his fault. Because, come on! He's a guy. Does it ever occur to you that sometimes, the women are actually at fault? Or is that an impossibility in your skewed world view?

umm... well statistics show that the CLEAR majority of rapists ARE MALE....
If guys think is girl is mentally unbalanced, they should not be sticking their penis in them. Simple. Parents need to teach their sons this so they don't end up like the kid in the news article.

BUT THEY CAN'T HELP THEMSELVES, DONTCHA KNOW?! THEY HAVE A PENIS AND THEY MUST PUT IT IN SOMETHING! I MEAN, SOMEONE.





There are people here not giving boys any credit, that's for damn sure. Newsflash: boys are not animals, and they don't HAVE to get laid.

ummmm.... most boys DREAM ALL.DAY. about getting laid once they hit middle teen. Which gender has been found to be the clear majority to spike drinks to have sex with teh other gender? Oh... right... males...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:seriously: this could happen to your son. Its all well and good to talk to him about respect, but if you cared about him as a mom you would alert him to this too.

Judith Grossman: A Mother, a Feminist, Aghast
Unsubstantiated accusations against my son by a former girlfriend landed him before a nightmarish college tribunal.

http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424127887324600704578405280211043510

This is clearly one side of the story. I wonder what really happened. Perhaps the boy was not treating her well - but wouldn't pass up an opportunity to stick his penis in her. Perhaps he tried to break up with her and was an a$$hole about it.

But whatever the reason, it teaches boys to be respectful to girls they are getting sex from, because girls ultimately have the power.

Yes, I'm sure it was all his fault. Because, come on! He's a guy. Does it ever occur to you that sometimes, the women are actually at fault? Or is that an impossibility in your skewed world view?

umm... well statistics show that the CLEAR majority of rapists ARE MALE....
If guys think is girl is mentally unbalanced, they should not be sticking their penis in them. Simple. Parents need to teach their sons this so they don't end up like the kid in the news article.

BUT THEY CAN'T HELP THEMSELVES, DONTCHA KNOW?! THEY HAVE A PENIS AND THEY MUST PUT IT IN SOMETHING! I MEAN, SOMEONE.





There are people here not giving boys any credit, that's for damn sure. Newsflash: boys are not animals, and they don't HAVE to get laid.

ummmm.... most boys DREAM ALL.DAY. about getting laid once they hit middle teen. Which gender has been found to be the clear majority to spike drinks to have sex with teh other gender? Oh... right... males...

This is true...and this is why they need to specifically be taught respect to girls and not to rape. How about that, we've come full circle!

[Anonymous]

Males are so focused on getting sex.
Here's yet another example of male craziness..
http://www.newnownext.com/drinking-lots-of-coffee-will-make-your-dick-stronger/06/2015/

You'd don't see so much "research" for women on how to make her vagina stronger, tighter blah, blah, blah... as you do for men a penis issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:seriously: this could happen to your son. Its all well and good to talk to him about respect, but if you cared about him as a mom you would alert him to this too.

Judith Grossman: A Mother, a Feminist, Aghast
Unsubstantiated accusations against my son by a former girlfriend landed him before a nightmarish college tribunal.

http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424127887324600704578405280211043510

This is clearly one side of the story. I wonder what really happened. Perhaps the boy was not treating her well - but wouldn't pass up an opportunity to stick his penis in her. Perhaps he tried to break up with her and was an a$$hole about it.

But whatever the reason, it teaches boys to be respectful to girls they are getting sex from, because girls ultimately have the power.

Yes, I'm sure it was all his fault. Because, come on! He's a guy. Does it ever occur to you that sometimes, the women are actually at fault? Or is that an impossibility in your skewed world view?

umm... well statistics show that the CLEAR majority of rapists ARE MALE....
If guys think is girl is mentally unbalanced, they should not be sticking their penis in them. Simple. Parents need to teach their sons this so they don't end up like the kid in the news article.

Ok. I'll be sure and tell my son to interview and screen any girl he's remoting interested in, prior to having sex, just to make sure she's mentally stable and won't decide the next day that their consensual sex was actually rape. What an idiotic comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait until you 18 yo college student bangs a 15 yo townie that claims to be a college student and has the moves to prove it.

Why the hell is your son "banging" minors??? Gross. Y

Not the PP, but hopefully you're aware that there are girls who pass themselves off as 18 or older and plenty of guys believe them. Who's at fault then? The guy for believing he's hooking up with someone legally of age (because remember, she told him she was), or the girl for lying to him and then hooking up with him?

When I was in college, there were always local high school girls who would come on campus for parties, hookups, etc. I hope one of them isn't your daughter some day.

Sounds like you/your teenage son needs to be taught to get to know a girl a little more before he bangs her in order to figure out if she lies about how old she is and they have sex.

Oh, I see. But your daughter has no role (or blame) in this situation, right? It's no big deal if she goes out to meet guys, lying about her age in order to get them to sleep with her.

If you are an above-age teenage boy, and you're going to have sex with another teenager, you may need to be taught that it's a good idea to get solid information how old the teenager you're going to "bang" is. There are multiple ways of doing this.

Or is your boy so HELPLESS and UNABLE TO CONTROL HIS ANIMAL URGES that he simply can't help himself?

If so, the problem is still him.

Yes, when your daughter brandishes her fake ID to make the case that she's really over 18, I guess my son will just have to take her word for it, right? You would blame the guy no matter what, in all instances. I suppose in your warped mind, all guys are rapists. You have some serious baggage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You'd don't see so much "research" for women on how to make her vagina stronger, tighter blah, blah, blah... as you do for men a penis issue.

Hmmmm.... Isn't there a not-so-small industry devoted to making women more attractive? And what is the end goal of that again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You'd don't see so much "research" for women on how to make her vagina stronger, tighter blah, blah, blah... as you do for men a penis issue.

Hmmmm.... Isn't there a not-so-small industry devoted to making women more attractive? And what is the end goal of that again?

There are various end goals, NOT including so that people will do sexual things to their body without their consent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait until you 18 yo college student bangs a 15 yo townie that claims to be a college student and has the moves to prove it.

Why the hell is your son "banging" minors??? Gross. Y

Not the PP, but hopefully you're aware that there are girls who pass themselves off as 18 or older and plenty of guys believe them. Who's at fault then? The guy for believing he's hooking up with someone legally of age (because remember, she told him she was), or the girl for lying to him and then hooking up with him?

When I was in college, there were always local high school girls who would come on campus for parties, hookups, etc. I hope one of them isn't your daughter some day.

Sounds like you/your teenage son needs to be taught to get to know a girl a little more before he bangs her in order to figure out if she lies about how old she is and they have sex.

You've got to be kidding.. What fairy tale land do you live in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Yes, when your daughter brandishes her fake ID to make the case that she's really over 18, I guess my son will just have to take her word for it, right? You would blame the guy no matter what, in all instances. I suppose in your warped mind, all guys are rapists. You have some serious baggage.

Things that are illegal:

1. Having a fake ID.
2. Having sexual contact with somebody who is below the age of consent.

Would you want your son to be in the position of having to tell the police, his lawyer (that you're paying for), and the judge that he thought she was of age because she showed him her fake ID? You know, and I know, and everybody knows, that high school kids like to try to go to college parties. Therefore, it is prudent for a college student at a college party to be prepared for the possibility that a party-goer is a high school student.

This is an entirely separate issue from a fake ID -- and by the way, I think that society generally agrees that people shouldn't have fake IDs. There aren't a lot of arguments about how the line between fake ID and real ID is so gray and nebulous and people can't possibly be expected to have to figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Sounds like you/your teenage son needs to be taught to get to know a girl a little more before he bangs her in order to figure out if she lies about how old she is and they have sex.

You've got to be kidding.. What fairy tale land do you live in?

It's fairy-tale to expect a college-aged person to get to know a potential sex partner enough to know whether or not the potential sex partner is college-aged or high-school-aged, before they have sex? Why?