Bullying at NCS

[Anonymous]

and oh ^ ^ ^ from me the ncs student

[Anonymous]

and (student again) this is number 23: remember that really emotional unstable girl from the suite life i used to laugh at her but now i am her

ok haha enjoy

[Anonymous]

A real live adult here. OK, well those last few pages of posts confirmed everything I thought I knew and now do know about the girls at NCS and affirmed my choice not to send my daughter there.

[Anonymous]

Youd think a lacrosse girl would be part of the popular clique

[Anonymous]

PP - am very sorry you are going through this. You sound astute and adult about the whole situation. Please take care of yourself, keep your sympathy for others, and choose college carefully and wisely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait...uniforms in middle school would decrease bullying in high school?

The bullying flames start to ignite in middle school. Anything one can do to douse that fire then, and you'll avoid a full blown wildfire by high school.

I agree. Uniforms in all grades. Holton wears them and has Friday for free dress in upper school only. Most wear sweats and Uggs on that day, especially in the cold winter. They have just learned that it isn't a big deal. Maybe because their brother school is not on campus? But it isn't a factor in the school day at all. If the kids at NCS truly wear high end "always proving a point" clothes, I can totally see how this is a huge issue as there are girls from many cultural and financial spectrums.

I also think something looks fishy with the comments. How a person with an 11th grader that moved out of NCS responds to the student complaining one minute after her 3 postings? I don't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait...uniforms in middle school would decrease bullying in high school?

The bullying flames start to ignite in middle school. Anything one can do to douse that fire then, and you'll avoid a full blown wildfire by high school.

I agree. Uniforms in all grades. Holton wears them and has Friday for free dress in upper school only. Most wear sweats and Uggs on that day, especially in the cold winter. They have just learned that it isn't a big deal. Maybe because their brother school is not on campus? But it isn't a factor in the school day at all. If the kids at NCS truly wear high end "always proving a point" clothes, I can totally see how this is a huge issue as there are girls from many cultural and financial spectrums.

I also think something looks fishy with the comments. How a person with an 11th grader that moved out of NCS responds to the student complaining one minute after her 3 postings? I don't know.

I'm the parent of the 11th grader and I have no idea when I posted in relation to the kid's posts. But I am not her and I can tell from the details she provided that she knows of what she speaks. I am certain other parents of NCS girls would recognize teh authenticity of her posts as well. And, trust me, I didn't generate them.

My take on the clothes at NCS is not so much that everyone wears expensive clothes but that everyone wears the same clothes. There's a look and if you deviate from the look you're a weirdo.

[Anonymous]

What a horrible place. I would never, ever, ever subject my child to this. Ever.

[Anonymous]

I always tend to think that someone is pulling your leg when I read such detailed posts. I just have a suspicious nature.

[Anonymous]

Give me a break. I am the parent of an NCS upper school girl and I just don't buy into the "11th grade student"'s post. It doesn't ring true, and I can't believe someone would put in so many identifying details if it were. As far as clothes go, yes there is "a look"---pretty much jeans and a hoodie and you're golden. This doesn't seem all that tough to achieve. I can't understand why people seem so determined to take down this school.

[Anonymous]

If this is a real student, I worry about the identifying info. The faculty and administration have enough info to figure out exactly who this is. If the poster is worried about this, and maybe she's not worried, she can contact the DCUM moderator to get her posts taken down or maybe modified to remove the personal info.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this is a real student, I worry about the identifying info. The faculty and administration have enough info to figure out exactly who this is. If the poster is worried about this, and maybe she's not worried, she can contact the DCUM moderator to get her posts taken down or maybe modified to remove the personal info.

She seemed like a bright and insightful girl. My guess is that she changed some information (like sport being lax) in order to disguise her identity. But what she said rang true.

[Anonymous]

NCS Class of '91 here. I think I have PTSD from this place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this is a real student, I worry about the identifying info. The faculty and administration have enough info to figure out exactly who this is. If the poster is worried about this, and maybe she's not worried, she can contact the DCUM moderator to get her posts taken down or maybe modified to remove the personal info.

She seemed like a bright and insightful girl. My guess is that she changed some information (like sport being lax) in order to disguise her identity. But what she said rang true.

If you're one of the bitter grads from the 1990s, or you have no connection to the place, I don't know how you can claim it rings true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait...uniforms in middle school would decrease bullying in high school?

The bullying flames start to ignite in middle school. Anything one can do to douse that fire then, and you'll avoid a full blown wildfire by high school.

I agree. Uniforms in all grades. Holton wears them and has Friday for free dress in upper school only. Most wear sweats and Uggs on that day, especially in the cold winter. They have just learned that it isn't a big deal. Maybe because their brother school is not on campus? But it isn't a factor in the school day at all. If the kids at NCS truly wear high end "always proving a point" clothes, I can totally see how this is a huge issue as there are girls from many cultural and financial spectrums.

I also think something looks fishy with the comments. How a person with an 11th grader that moved out of NCS responds to the student complaining one minute after her 3 postings? I don't know.

I'm the parent of the 11th grader and I have no idea when I posted in relation to the kid's posts. But I am not her and I can tell from the details she provided that she knows of what she speaks. I am certain other parents of NCS girls would recognize teh authenticity of her posts as well. And, trust me, I didn't generate them.

My take on the clothes at NCS is not so much that everyone wears expensive clothes but that everyone wears the same clothes. There's a look and if you deviate from the look you're a weirdo.

I didn't accuse you of anything but it just looks really suspicious. Look, my daughter doesn't go here. She transferred to Holton (from public) and her friends from outside of school all ask the same thing? "Are they all snobs? How do you fit in?" It is honestly the first question each and every time. But to her it is not like that and my "tomboy-doesn't care what she wears" daughter fits in, has a ton of friends and loves the school so much more than public. But her and I can't say that because outside people/friends look at us like we make it up. They WANT to hear these horror stories. I do believe they have some snobs and kids that care very much about clothing, playing girl-games, fitting in, etc... but there are some of those at EVERY school, even public. I am not naive to think it doesn't happen at her school but I also don't think that NCS is just a "Mean Girl" school. They have 21% on FA. We play them in every sport and they seem like nice fun girls. I also doubt administration does nothing if a child is bullied. I just think bashing on these schools is ridiculous. I am sure some girls don't feel like they fit in but the sad part is, why try? Why be something you are not. Be happy with yourself and find a few friends. Ignore others and deal with it, if it warrants it.