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OP here
He texted. He has an appointment with the family lawyer that his dad put him contact with, but the lawyer also said the appointment has to be next Monday morning the 26th at the earliest I know I can read into that I am just trying not to. This could go either way and it will be very, very hard either way If she keeps the baby, do I lose my son if I want to keep up a relationship with her etc. Will he see that as a betrayal. JFC so many questions |
Anonymous
Girllllllll Keep us posted. |
Anonymous
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Wait.
So your son is sharing this 32 weeks later ? |
Anonymous
+1M |
Anonymous
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Weighing in here - don't panic. He's smart to see an attorney to protect his rights. My DH became a dad at age 23 (nearly 40 years ago!), and he and his girlfriend at the time had stopped dating by the time the little girl was born.
When my SD was 3, her mom wanted to leave the DC area to move to the west coast. My DH engaged an attorney, and luckily even in the non-dad-friendly late eighties, he was awarded joint physical and legal custody. SD's mom was unable to leave the area unless she wanted to give up full custody. SD's school district was determined to be with my DH. Obviously that was a long while ago, but it was genuinely helpful and important to establish custody, and it set the stage for a cooperative relationship that lasted until my SD's age of majority. Don't catastrophize about losing your son. But do be aware that your contact with your future grandchild will and should be established through the time you spend with him. He will likely be granted 50/50 custody, so you'll have no need to interact with the mom of the child if that circumstance is suddenly offensive to your son. |
Anonymous
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That’s odd because you can’t just give up parental rights to avoid child support. They’d have to have a family lined up today to adopt the child, then go through an agency and then the lawyer.
Maybe she’s handling the agency and he’s handling the lawyer? Seems like adoptive parents would handle the legal paperwork? This is interesting. |
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Not necessarily. I have PCOS so in my 20s went months without a period many times |
Anonymous
His name is Kevin and he was probably well beyond 33 weeks he was 6 lbs 4 oz My son is not being cool but we are grandparenting up and family-ing around whatever his problems are What is money for There are 10 of us for every one of him I hate to say that but we are circling the wagons. This baby will be cared for |
Anonymous
?? Is this op? Writing style is different.. |
Anonymous
OP here. I’ve had a few. And have been off and on the messaging things all day. Today is not my normal day |
Anonymous
Also, is this not considered proof of anything anymore The good news is that Kevin (that’s his name, that’s her late father’s name) was probably not a pre-term infant. My son was so nervous he didn’t know whether he was 4lbs 6oz (more normal for 33 weeks) or 6lbs 4oz .. he was probably closer to full term. My son is not being cool I tried to be cool with him all day but he left his gf at the hospital with her mother. She’s going to keep the baby I am going to have to be on her side, my son’s going to be pissed at me. Oh well I told his dad. I have to be on that baby’s side. I have never made this crazy a** week up I also never probably would have never named him Kevin but OK lol there’s some humor here perhaps but who knows What a week |
Anonymous
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OP you are making choices I really would not make. I feel very sorry for your son.
I hope he recovers his life. |
Anonymous
Really? What different choices would you be making from my choices? I know why I feel sorry for my son, but how do you feel sorry for my son? And how do you know what life my son has to recover? |
Anonymous
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You told your son you would support him always.
But even in that post you sound like were getting into being a grandmother. Then you say you were grandmothering up. Now circling wagons. Team baby. You lied to your son. I am glad he has a lawyer. |