Yes but the OP is also only 34. We are both 1990. But she says her classmates all have 3+ kids. I was offering a different perspective. |
As a mom who works, this makes me really sad. What are the things you notice? |
where did jeff weigh in on this thread? |
pp stop. don't fall for the clickbait/ kids of working moms suffer bs. ESPECIALLY in a world where we are wfh half the time anyway. It's just a misogynistic tool used principally by other women to validate their own decisions not to work. Do not click, do not feed the beast. |
Again PPs are missing the "high achieving" part of OP's title and post. We are talking about a subset of millennial women. |
I notice they drink alot of wine and think they know everything. |
The OP was talking about a minuscule group of women she’s calling high achieving and giving their pregnancy histories. It veered off in another direction but it’s actually been more interesting to hear about a bigger variety of women. |
Np. It’s summarized on the front page web log. Click the logo at top, then scroll down to this thread’s date. |
Look at the man here promoting the tradwife bullshite. Expect more of this as we get closer to the election. This is part of the foundation of Project 20whatever the exteme right wing has come up with. They want girls married off early so they less chance for education. Like abortion rights, they are coming for our jobs and our right to vote. |
PP why are you sad? The other poster is pulling stuff out of their butt. What bs. |
I had three kids by 35 (I’m 36 now). I know a fair amount of high achieving mom millennials with three kids. I think it’s pretty common to just go for it and have kids close together in your early 30s. There is a lot more awareness and transparency about fertility issues, many of which are exacerbated by age. I know multiple older millennial moms who conceived their first two kids fairly easily between 33-36 but then hit a wall trying to conceive their third at 38+. There is a lot of discussion about 35 being the cliff but I think the cliff starts at 37 and easily conceiving at 35 or 36 gives women a false sense of security that the statistics about fertility decline don’t apply to them. |
Don't fall for it. This is something that sad sack stay at home moms have to tell thsemselves to feel better about their miserable lives. |
Even if this is true, it could be confirmation bias. Also, maybe some of those differences are the result of daycare. Daycare between the ages of 0-3 has been shown to have negative impacts on kids: https://criticalscience.medium.com/on-the-science-of-daycare-4d1ab4c2efb4 Furthermore, maybe the kids with SAHMs had wealthier families, or maybe wealthier SAHMs care more about emphasizing poise and good personality to their kids. My immigrant parents only cared about academics, not poise, personality, or sports. |
LOL what the hell are you talking about? I'm a SAH DAD and my wife is a transplant surgeon. Guess it's too hard read what you are responding to. |
1983 so older than OP. Know lots of dual big-law partners with 3 kids from my graduating class alone. It's definitely a flex. No idea who is raising them. |