Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."
Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...
Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.
I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?
Yep. Airing the private business in public is beyond the pale. OP got what she deserved because of how her husband went about it. He showed zero compassion for the wife, an innocent party. What a douche canoe.
But OP wasn't involved in that at all. Except that she posted the original picture that Dave decided to d*ck out on. I don't see how it's appropriate that the wife is blaming OP. She had nothing to do with it.
Why aren't we blaming the person who did the cheating and broke up the family? OP is a nobody in this situation.
Because OPs husband involved the whole family, publicly. So now everyone is involved. It didn't have to be that way, if you just wanted Dave to come clean. But, vindictive DH went for the jugular. And it all started due to OPs post and an off color joke. I thought we had already decided all the people involved were terrible people? OPs husband and Dave are two a-holes who found each other in life. Who can be surprised?
So instead of being mad at the person who cheated on her, she blames OP? I just don't get it. I'm not OP (and I suspect they may be a troll), but it makes 0 sense that the wife is blaming OP when she has done absolutely nothing in this scenario.
You're delusional if you think the wife didn't have words with her DH. She can be angry at more than one person at a time.
Are you not reading my post? I'm not saying anything about the DH. I'm talking about OP. Who is not DH and who is not Dave.
Or maybe I misunderstood, and you are talking about wifes DH, aka Dave? I hope she did. But I still dont understand why you'd be mad at OP, literally a random third party not involved. And yet everyone is yelling at me talking about compassion? Right.
It her social media page. She allowed it and probably cheered her husband on.
So if people get into a fight on DCUM we all blame Jeff? I don't think that's how it works.
People fight, posts get reported and deleted. It's not a free for all. You do understand this is moderated right? OP didn't moderate and she should have. Like here.
So it's OPs fault for not moderating the adult males fighting? And that means she is "sabotaging" her friends marriage?
No. She just doesn't want to blame her husband and would rather blame anyone else. Like people on here apparently.
Normal people would delete that mess ASAP. But no, it hung out there for awhile and even the wife saw it. Some friend OP is!
She may not have seen it right away. Not all of us are addicted to facebook and on 24/7. Even if it was deleted after 5 mins someone could have easily screenshot it and shared it around.
Either way, I think it's ridiculous that wife is blaming OP simply because it was her post this all went down on. She needs to focus on her shitty cheating husband. He is the only one to blame. He is the only one sabotaging the marriage. No one else can sabotage it if the two parties are on the same page. Dave was not.
Right, she probably didn't see it right away. It was probably there for a long while. But why not kick someone when she's down, right? All b/c her husband made a bad joke.
Who and how was kicked while down? The wife? Again, her husband made a disgusting comment on a young womans body, and then found out he couldn't roll with the big boys of insults.
You're dense. It's not ok to do what OPs husband did. At all. Even if he didn't like comment.
Can you please keep on track? We aren't talking about OP Dh. We are talking about why wife is so angry at OP. Feel free to scroll up to the top of this thread in the quote bar to read my original question. But at least stop responding with insults, since you clearly have no idea what post youre responding to.
Can you read? The joke was made by Dave, remember? So his wife doesn't deserve the public humiliation.
Yes, I agree. Dave should’ve never done anything to publicly humiliate his wife.
Do you know what public means? Dave did nothing publicly. At all. That mess is all OP and her drama loving husband.
At least one person knew he cheated, and where there's smoke there's fire. Wife was being publicly humiliated since he cheated, she just didnt know.
That's not how this works.
Yes, yes it is. When there's a wife sitting dumb and everyone else knows her H has/is cheating on her, that is 100% humiliation for her. She just doesn't know what all those whispers are about. They're about her. And that's the cheaters fault.
Everyone knows? Ok. Now you're just writing fan fiction.
You replied to a post that said at least one person knew. And if one person knew, it's possible that others did too. You don't think having a husband out f**king other people is humiliating? Yikes.
Anonymous wrote:Dave’s remark was outrageous, but your DH was even more out of bounds. He should have called Dave out for being an inappropriate pig, ideally offline, not blown up his marriage. Serious over escalation.
Dave said something rude and untrue.
DH said the truth.
Just because something is true doesn't mean it needs to be publicly broadcast.
He said the truth to the detriment of his own daughter. By escalating the issue he brought more attention to the dig at her weight. It's not dignified (that doesn't seem to matter to OP) but it's also just not smart. OP should have immediately deleted the comment and blocked the weirdo friend.
No he didn’t.
Dave’s comments are to the detriment to the DD.
It’s amazing to me people are so programmed to blame the person who stands up to the bully instead of the bully.
Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."
Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...
Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.
I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?
Yep. Airing the private business in public is beyond the pale. OP got what she deserved because of how her husband went about it. He showed zero compassion for the wife, an innocent party. What a douche canoe.
But OP wasn't involved in that at all. Except that she posted the original picture that Dave decided to d*ck out on. I don't see how it's appropriate that the wife is blaming OP. She had nothing to do with it.
Why aren't we blaming the person who did the cheating and broke up the family? OP is a nobody in this situation.
Because OPs husband involved the whole family, publicly. So now everyone is involved. It didn't have to be that way, if you just wanted Dave to come clean. But, vindictive DH went for the jugular. And it all started due to OPs post and an off color joke. I thought we had already decided all the people involved were terrible people? OPs husband and Dave are two a-holes who found each other in life. Who can be surprised?
So instead of being mad at the person who cheated on her, she blames OP? I just don't get it. I'm not OP (and I suspect they may be a troll), but it makes 0 sense that the wife is blaming OP when she has done absolutely nothing in this scenario.
You're delusional if you think the wife didn't have words with her DH. She can be angry at more than one person at a time.
Are you not reading my post? I'm not saying anything about the DH. I'm talking about OP. Who is not DH and who is not Dave.
Or maybe I misunderstood, and you are talking about wifes DH, aka Dave? I hope she did. But I still dont understand why you'd be mad at OP, literally a random third party not involved. And yet everyone is yelling at me talking about compassion? Right.
It her social media page. She allowed it and probably cheered her husband on.
So if people get into a fight on DCUM we all blame Jeff? I don't think that's how it works.
People fight, posts get reported and deleted. It's not a free for all. You do understand this is moderated right? OP didn't moderate and she should have. Like here.
So it's OPs fault for not moderating the adult males fighting? And that means she is "sabotaging" her friends marriage?
No. She just doesn't want to blame her husband and would rather blame anyone else. Like people on here apparently.
Normal people would delete that mess ASAP. But no, it hung out there for awhile and even the wife saw it. Some friend OP is!
She may not have seen it right away. Not all of us are addicted to facebook and on 24/7. Even if it was deleted after 5 mins someone could have easily screenshot it and shared it around.
Either way, I think it's ridiculous that wife is blaming OP simply because it was her post this all went down on. She needs to focus on her shitty cheating husband. He is the only one to blame. He is the only one sabotaging the marriage. No one else can sabotage it if the two parties are on the same page. Dave was not.
Right, she probably didn't see it right away. It was probably there for a long while. But why not kick someone when she's down, right? All b/c her husband made a bad joke.
Who and how was kicked while down? The wife? Again, her husband made a disgusting comment on a young womans body, and then found out he couldn't roll with the big boys of insults.
You're dense. It's not ok to do what OPs husband did. At all. Even if he didn't like comment.
Can you please keep on track? We aren't talking about OP Dh. We are talking about why wife is so angry at OP. Feel free to scroll up to the top of this thread in the quote bar to read my original question. But at least stop responding with insults, since you clearly have no idea what post youre responding to.
Can you read? The joke was made by Dave, remember? So his wife doesn't deserve the public humiliation.
Yes, I agree. Dave should’ve never done anything to publicly humiliate his wife.
Do you know what public means? Dave did nothing publicly. At all. That mess is all OP and her drama loving husband.
At least one person knew he cheated, and where there's smoke there's fire. Wife was being publicly humiliated since he cheated, she just didnt know.
That's not how this works.
Yes, yes it is. When there's a wife sitting dumb and everyone else knows her H has/is cheating on her, that is 100% humiliation for her. She just doesn't know what all those whispers are about. They're about her. And that's the cheaters fault.
Everyone knows? Ok. Now you're just writing fan fiction.
You replied to a post that said at least one person knew. And if one person knew, it's possible that others did too. You don't think having a husband out f**king other people is humiliating? Yikes.
If you have a problem with someone making a comment about your daughter you don't go humiliate the jokesters wife. End of story.
Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."
Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...
Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.
I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?
Yep. Airing the private business in public is beyond the pale. OP got what she deserved because of how her husband went about it. He showed zero compassion for the wife, an innocent party. What a douche canoe.
But OP wasn't involved in that at all. Except that she posted the original picture that Dave decided to d*ck out on. I don't see how it's appropriate that the wife is blaming OP. She had nothing to do with it.
Why aren't we blaming the person who did the cheating and broke up the family? OP is a nobody in this situation.
Because OPs husband involved the whole family, publicly. So now everyone is involved. It didn't have to be that way, if you just wanted Dave to come clean. But, vindictive DH went for the jugular. And it all started due to OPs post and an off color joke. I thought we had already decided all the people involved were terrible people? OPs husband and Dave are two a-holes who found each other in life. Who can be surprised?
So instead of being mad at the person who cheated on her, she blames OP? I just don't get it. I'm not OP (and I suspect they may be a troll), but it makes 0 sense that the wife is blaming OP when she has done absolutely nothing in this scenario.
You're delusional if you think the wife didn't have words with her DH. She can be angry at more than one person at a time.
Are you not reading my post? I'm not saying anything about the DH. I'm talking about OP. Who is not DH and who is not Dave.
Or maybe I misunderstood, and you are talking about wifes DH, aka Dave? I hope she did. But I still dont understand why you'd be mad at OP, literally a random third party not involved. And yet everyone is yelling at me talking about compassion? Right.
It her social media page. She allowed it and probably cheered her husband on.
So if people get into a fight on DCUM we all blame Jeff? I don't think that's how it works.
People fight, posts get reported and deleted. It's not a free for all. You do understand this is moderated right? OP didn't moderate and she should have. Like here.
So it's OPs fault for not moderating the adult males fighting? And that means she is "sabotaging" her friends marriage?
No. She just doesn't want to blame her husband and would rather blame anyone else. Like people on here apparently.
Normal people would delete that mess ASAP. But no, it hung out there for awhile and even the wife saw it. Some friend OP is!
She may not have seen it right away. Not all of us are addicted to facebook and on 24/7. Even if it was deleted after 5 mins someone could have easily screenshot it and shared it around.
Either way, I think it's ridiculous that wife is blaming OP simply because it was her post this all went down on. She needs to focus on her shitty cheating husband. He is the only one to blame. He is the only one sabotaging the marriage. No one else can sabotage it if the two parties are on the same page. Dave was not.
Right, she probably didn't see it right away. It was probably there for a long while. But why not kick someone when she's down, right? All b/c her husband made a bad joke.
Who and how was kicked while down? The wife? Again, her husband made a disgusting comment on a young womans body, and then found out he couldn't roll with the big boys of insults.
You're dense. It's not ok to do what OPs husband did. At all. Even if he didn't like comment.
Can you please keep on track? We aren't talking about OP Dh. We are talking about why wife is so angry at OP. Feel free to scroll up to the top of this thread in the quote bar to read my original question. But at least stop responding with insults, since you clearly have no idea what post youre responding to.
Can you read? The joke was made by Dave, remember? So his wife doesn't deserve the public humiliation.
Yes, I agree. Dave should’ve never done anything to publicly humiliate his wife.
Do you know what public means? Dave did nothing publicly. At all. That mess is all OP and her drama loving husband.
At least one person knew he cheated, and where there's smoke there's fire. Wife was being publicly humiliated since he cheated, she just didnt know.
That's not how this works.
Yes, yes it is. When there's a wife sitting dumb and everyone else knows her H has/is cheating on her, that is 100% humiliation for her. She just doesn't know what all those whispers are about. They're about her. And that's the cheaters fault.
Everyone knows? Ok. Now you're just writing fan fiction.
You replied to a post that said at least one person knew. And if one person knew, it's possible that others did too. You don't think having a husband out f**king other people is humiliating? Yikes.
If you have a problem with someone making a comment about your daughter you don't go humiliate the jokesters wife. End of story.
Don't cheat on your spouse if you don't want to blow up your marriage. End of story.
Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."
Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...
Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.
I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?
Yep. Airing the private business in public is beyond the pale. OP got what she deserved because of how her husband went about it. He showed zero compassion for the wife, an innocent party. What a douche canoe.
But OP wasn't involved in that at all. Except that she posted the original picture that Dave decided to d*ck out on. I don't see how it's appropriate that the wife is blaming OP. She had nothing to do with it.
Why aren't we blaming the person who did the cheating and broke up the family? OP is a nobody in this situation.
Because OPs husband involved the whole family, publicly. So now everyone is involved. It didn't have to be that way, if you just wanted Dave to come clean. But, vindictive DH went for the jugular. And it all started due to OPs post and an off color joke. I thought we had already decided all the people involved were terrible people? OPs husband and Dave are two a-holes who found each other in life. Who can be surprised?
So instead of being mad at the person who cheated on her, she blames OP? I just don't get it. I'm not OP (and I suspect they may be a troll), but it makes 0 sense that the wife is blaming OP when she has done absolutely nothing in this scenario.
You're delusional if you think the wife didn't have words with her DH. She can be angry at more than one person at a time.
Are you not reading my post? I'm not saying anything about the DH. I'm talking about OP. Who is not DH and who is not Dave.
Or maybe I misunderstood, and you are talking about wifes DH, aka Dave? I hope she did. But I still dont understand why you'd be mad at OP, literally a random third party not involved. And yet everyone is yelling at me talking about compassion? Right.
It her social media page. She allowed it and probably cheered her husband on.
So if people get into a fight on DCUM we all blame Jeff? I don't think that's how it works.
People fight, posts get reported and deleted. It's not a free for all. You do understand this is moderated right? OP didn't moderate and she should have. Like here.
So it's OPs fault for not moderating the adult males fighting? And that means she is "sabotaging" her friends marriage?
No. She just doesn't want to blame her husband and would rather blame anyone else. Like people on here apparently.
Normal people would delete that mess ASAP. But no, it hung out there for awhile and even the wife saw it. Some friend OP is!
She may not have seen it right away. Not all of us are addicted to facebook and on 24/7. Even if it was deleted after 5 mins someone could have easily screenshot it and shared it around.
Either way, I think it's ridiculous that wife is blaming OP simply because it was her post this all went down on. She needs to focus on her shitty cheating husband. He is the only one to blame. He is the only one sabotaging the marriage. No one else can sabotage it if the two parties are on the same page. Dave was not.
Right, she probably didn't see it right away. It was probably there for a long while. But why not kick someone when she's down, right? All b/c her husband made a bad joke.
Who and how was kicked while down? The wife? Again, her husband made a disgusting comment on a young womans body, and then found out he couldn't roll with the big boys of insults.
You're dense. It's not ok to do what OPs husband did. At all. Even if he didn't like comment.
Can you please keep on track? We aren't talking about OP Dh. We are talking about why wife is so angry at OP. Feel free to scroll up to the top of this thread in the quote bar to read my original question. But at least stop responding with insults, since you clearly have no idea what post youre responding to.
Can you read? The joke was made by Dave, remember? So his wife doesn't deserve the public humiliation.
Yes, I agree. Dave should’ve never done anything to publicly humiliate his wife.
Do you know what public means? Dave did nothing publicly. At all. That mess is all OP and her drama loving husband.
At least one person knew he cheated, and where there's smoke there's fire. Wife was being publicly humiliated since he cheated, she just didnt know.
That's not how this works.
Yes, yes it is. When there's a wife sitting dumb and everyone else knows her H has/is cheating on her, that is 100% humiliation for her. She just doesn't know what all those whispers are about. They're about her. And that's the cheaters fault.
Everyone knows? Ok. Now you're just writing fan fiction.
You replied to a post that said at least one person knew. And if one person knew, it's possible that others did too. You don't think having a husband out f**king other people is humiliating? Yikes.
If you have a problem with someone making a comment about your daughter you don't go humiliate the jokesters wife. End of story.
Don't cheat on your spouse if you don't want to blow up your marriage. End of story.
Well, obviously, but OPs DH should have made fun of Dave's receding hair line. That's the appropriate response. So, OPs DH is more out of bounds. Dave's cheating is between he and his wife.
Try not to feel bad when everybody knows your dad cheated on your mom because somebody put it on Facebook. Ignore the jokes and crude remarks about possible half siblings somewhere.
Find out it's because he made a food/eating/size joke about a girl.
Just get even with her and her family. Get thinner and better looking than that dork. Get thinner than any of her so-called friends. That'll show em and your mom will be proud of you. She needs something to cheer her up now that she's been cheat shamed.
Anonymous wrote:Try not to feel bad when everybody knows your dad cheated on your mom because somebody put it on Facebook. Ignore the jokes and crude remarks about possible half siblings somewhere.
Find out it's because he made a food/eating/size joke about a girl.
Just get even with her and her family. Get thinner and better looking than that dork. Get thinner than any of her so-called friends. That'll show em and your mom will be proud of you. She needs something to cheer her up now that she's been cheat shamed.
**** And so on and so on.
I mean, half siblings are a real concern where cheaters are concerned. Sleazy is as sleazy does.
Anonymous wrote:I’m team DH and I love this. I wish my DH would bring that kind of big D energy when it comes to standing up for his kids.
I consider myself to be a pretty polite and chill person but a woman once made a rude comment to me about my child who had just had a seizure in public and she interpreted his behavior as a tantrum. I’m a large woman, and was inches from her face screaming within about 2 seconds. She was terrified and immediately apologized and cried. I’m not proud of what I did exactly, but there’s something primal that gets triggered in us when our kids are attacked.
I love your DH for going all Papa Bear for your DD.
New to this thread obviously but just want to say OMG I love you. You had every right to rage at this woman and I guarantee she never makes a snide comment about a child again.
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