Who Is Most Out Of Bounds Here?
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Anonymous
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My DH has an old college room mate named Dave that is a bit of a wild card. Dave struggled with alcohol and substance abuse his whole life despite being incredibly successful professionally. I have suspected for two decades that he is undiagnosed BPD.
Anyway, this was graduation weekend and I posted some celebratory pics of my DD ("Audrey") and her friends. In one of the pics he comments: "Congrats! Audrey is going to USC in the Fall, righ? Looks like she'll enjoy the food there!" My DD is not fat but she is still carrying a little baby weight around her hips and she is naturally large chested. To say this was out of bounds is putting it mildly. However, my DH went into a blind rage and replied with: "Hey Dave, has Susan (Dave's wife) found out about your affair with Nicole (Dave's ex gf) that weekend you went to Chicago yet?" The setting on the post were public so his wife saw all this. She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her. I know my DH was wrong to stir the post but wasn't it fair game given Dave's intial insult? |
Anonymous
| Getting popcorn |
Anonymous
| Delete all comments. Move on. |
Anonymous
| Both were wrong. Your DH was WAY more wrong. |
Anonymous
| This can’t be true. |
Anonymous
| Yawn. |
Anonymous
Agree with this. One guy called another guy’s daughter fat, not to her. One guy blew up the other guy’s marriage. |
Anonymous
| All of this is messy but I also don’t understand why the wife called you if your husband posted the comment. |
Anonymous
| Wow, Dave was way out of line, so I don’t blame your husband for his immediate reaction. I think your response was right. Don’t engage further. I hope your DD didn’t see the comment. |
Anonymous
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Your H was not wrong.
This is between him and Dave. Stay out of it. You should be proud. Who cares about Dave's wife, of course she needs someone to blame. Delete the whole post. |
Anonymous
No Dave called a girl fat and blew up his marriage. DH just pointed them both out to the public. |
Anonymous
| Wow, no wonder these two are friends. Pretty terrible people |
Anonymous
| One quick note - it's not baby fat OP. I say this as someone who has a kid who is curvy. |
Anonymous
| It seems your DH response was premature. USC is well known for its food on campus. Yikes.... |
Anonymous
| Dave’s remark was outrageous, but your DH was even more out of bounds. He should have called Dave out for being an inappropriate pig, ideally offline, not blown up his marriage. Serious over escalation. |