Who Is Most Out Of Bounds Here?

[Anonymous]

Jezus

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m team DH and I love this. I wish my DH would bring that kind of big D energy when it comes to standing up for his kids.

I consider myself to be a pretty polite and chill person but a woman once made a rude comment to me about my child who had just had a seizure in public and she interpreted his behavior as a tantrum. I’m a large woman, and was inches from her face screaming within about 2 seconds. She was terrified and immediately apologized and cried. I’m not proud of what I did exactly, but there’s something primal that gets triggered in us when our kids are attacked.

I love your DH for going all Papa Bear for your DD.

I would have been mortified if my mother had done that when I had a seizure.

Pp here. Yeah i probably shouldn’t have done it. The logical part of my brain was completely offline. My DC thankfully didn’t realize what happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both were wrong. Your DH was WAY more wrong.

Agree with this. One guy called another guy’s daughter fat, not to her. One guy blew up the other guy’s marriage.

Nope Dave blew up his marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dave’s remark was outrageous, but your DH was even more out of bounds. He should have called Dave out for being an inappropriate pig, ideally offline, not blown up his marriage. Serious over escalation.

Dave said something rude and untrue.

DH said the truth.

Dh didn’t care to tell the truth until Dave hinted at his daughter being overweight. So cheating on your wife is fine until he feels insulted. Something is seriously wrong with that man, sorry.

You think people have an obligation to police other people's marriages? Stay in your lane unless you want to get called out.

No they don't. But then you choose not to get involved ever. Not wait until the opportune moment and seek revenge.

[Anonymous]

lol Dave is an addict. He's messy and was completely out of line. Your DH didn't have to sink to his level, but... OH, WELL. Dave's wife needs to deal with her husband and his isssues and stop calling you.

[Anonymous]

IMO your husband reacted a bit disproportionately but the other guy asked for it by being an @sshole. Who comes to a celebration post and insults a minor? And the problem here is that your DH also really hurt the guy’s wife and any kids, when he should have kept his counterattack limited to his friend.

Not sure why the friend’s wife was accusing you. Sounds like you handled that reasonably well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both were wrong. Your DH was WAY more wrong.

Agree with this. One guy called another guy’s daughter fat, not to her. One guy blew up the other guy’s marriage.

Nope Dave blew up his marriage

Are we even sure that Dave actually had the affair? If OP's husband is willing to stoop so low as to post this out in the open, he's not above lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dave’s remark was outrageous, but your DH was even more out of bounds. He should have called Dave out for being an inappropriate pig, ideally offline, not blown up his marriage. Serious over escalation.

This. Proper action would have been to delete his post and block him in FB. Your dh is insane.

Full agreement. Dave was rude and out of line but all of it should have been dealt with offline. Delete the post and address it privately.

[Anonymous]

Dave is a horrible person, no doubt about it.

BUT I also despise friends who are ok with covering for their friends when things are good (DH knew about the affair and was ok with not saying a word) but when things go south then all of a sudden they grow a conscience and publically air dirty laundry.

I had an ex who would always bring up stuff I confided in him about when we were fighting. He acted so understanding when we were sharing and being intimate but always used it against me later during an argument.

[Anonymous]

Your husband was the most out of bounds. By far.

Original insult was mild and could be chalked up to stupidity or neurodivergence.

Your husband's insult was 1) maybe not even true? 2) Way WAY over the top 3) shows that he's never going to take the high road 4)also shows that he is a very bad role model for your daughter on how to react to perceived insults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dave’s remark was outrageous, but your DH was even more out of bounds. He should have called Dave out for being an inappropriate pig, ideally offline, not blown up his marriage. Serious over escalation.

Dave said something rude and untrue.

DH said the truth.

Dh didn’t care to tell the truth until Dave hinted at his daughter being overweight. So cheating on your wife is fine until he feels insulted. Something is seriously wrong with that man, sorry.

He cared but he did say anything. Dave changed the rules when he said the inside thought publicly and DH thought oh okay we are just laying everything on the table. Let’s go.

[Anonymous]

You have told DD you think her body is so wrong that any reference to food must be taken nuclear.
It probably is a perfectly normal curvy body but this is how bulimia starts.
Good job, Dad!
What other hints have Mom and Dad been making? Try this, it's a slimming cut? Do you really want that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have told DD you think her body is so wrong that any reference to food must be taken nuclear.
It probably is a perfectly normal curvy body but this is how bulimia starts.
Good job, Dad!
What other hints have Mom and Dad been making? Try this, it's a slimming cut? Do you really want that?

Nice try AP.. your day is coming soon too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dave is a horrible person, no doubt about it.

BUT I also despise friends who are ok with covering for their friends when things are good (DH knew about the affair and was ok with not saying a word) but when things go south then all of a sudden they grow a conscience and publically air dirty laundry.

I had an ex who would always bring up stuff I confided in him about when we were fighting. He acted so understanding when we were sharing and being intimate but always used it against me later during an argument.

When you do shitty things the reveal of those shitty things is out of your hands.

How about this. Stop doing shitty things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have told DD you think her body is so wrong that any reference to food must be taken nuclear.
It probably is a perfectly normal curvy body but this is how bulimia starts.
Good job, Dad!
What other hints have Mom and Dad been making? Try this, it's a slimming cut? Do you really want that?

Nice try AP.. your day is coming soon too.

Yeah. I developed an eating disorder. Lived experience.