I'm afraid that my daughter is not very smart and I'm worried about her future job prospects

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Anonymous wrote:Why are we dreging up this 3 year old thread?

it's a good topic

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My similar daughter - adhd and aspergers - because an elementary school teacher. Never has to sit down. Works with teacher teams, same stuff each year just focus on new faces. Seems to work for her.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a very not smart daughter. I remember there was some sort of standardized test she (and everyone) took in elemetary school and she scored in the third percentile. High school - not one honors class, Algebra II senior year, 980 on the SAT, after expensive classes. And that score was a miracle. BTW the college and university discussion would eat me alive if I admitted this on that forum, tell me she needs to paint nails or something.

She managed to get into Towson through the Community College of Baltimore County (Towson U Freshman Transition Program you can live on campus but you take classes thru CCBC) and it was a godsend. She had to get a 3.0 to fully take classes at Towson in the spring, and guess what? She got exactly a 3.0 and did it.

She is in her last year of Elementary Ed there, and she will be just fine. She loves kids and there was no just other path for her, and she knows that. Business or journalism or science or stem, h*ll no. She has great social skills and talks to people of all ages well.

However, she is very determined and organized. Always completes things, shows up on time and is friendly and engaging. Do we talk about the Ukrainian refugees? no, we talk about the latest episode of the Bachelor. Her determination and attention to detail and following through on things will take her far. Any kid would be lucky to have her as a teacher when she graduates in spring.

I say this as my other daughter is very smart, and was admitted to some solid universities for fall. Good test taker, interested in current events and will actually read a book. However, she is lazy. Like really, really lazy. Doesn't complete or turn in work, room is a mess, and just all over disorganzied and has ADD. She would have poor social skills, but we are on her about this constantly.

My not smart determined daughter will go farther, for sure. So focus on those things. As Woody Allen said, 80% of success is just showing up. And I apoligize for quoting Woody Allen, but it is true.

It took me years into my adulthood to learn what PP posted above. Yes to all of it.

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My daughter is bright but doesn’t like school and has never liked school. She is not and will never be an intellectual. She is, however, extraordinarily artistic, creative, and imaginative. She’s also a ton of fun to be around. She will have plenty or opportunities.

Not everyone is built the same way. It really does take all kinds.

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Luckily woman can always find a man that is fine with them not working. Nothing wrong with that.

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My younger sister has a sub-100 IQ, a sub-900 SAT score (math score in the high 300s) and finished high school with a traditional/vocational hybrid degree. She went to a 2 year college w/ a vocational focus and got her AA. She is a very socially competent person with an incredible work ethic. She now makes very high 5 figures doing food & beverage stuff for hotels (with lots of perks) and earns extra from catering gigs on the side. She has tons of friends, a great husband and is very happy. My parents could have written OP's post when she was failing out of middle school. Things work out.

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Op start saving in case you need to supplement her income and to leave her an inheritance.

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Anonymous wrote:Op start saving in case you need to supplement her income and to leave her an inheritance.

OH FFS DCUM. The girl has an IQ of 110. Above average. She's not disabled. Most working adults have lower IQs than 110. WTF?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, be patient. The world needs average people too. Everybody isn't cut out to be a rocket scientist. Rocket scientists need bank tellers and admin assistants etc.

There is a lot in between those two examples.

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OP, I am in a similar place as you. My daughter has sever add and no medication seems to help. She gets support at school t she is just average. She isn’t super communicative either. But she is quite pretty. I intend to help her stay that way.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I am in a similar place as you. My daughter has sever add and no medication seems to help. She gets support at school t she is just average. She isn’t super communicative either. But she is quite pretty. I intend to help her stay that way.

Troll

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Anonymous wrote:Luckily woman can always find a man that is fine with them not working. Nothing wrong with that.

+1 I’m pretty, married a rich man and don’t have to work!

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She is only 12!

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Anonymous wrote:My similar daughter - adhd and aspergers - because an elementary school teacher. Never has to sit down. Works with teacher teams, same stuff each year just focus on new faces. Seems to work for her.

Wow. The last time I said my son had Asperger’s, I was castigated by people saying “it’s not Asperger’s, it’s ASD!!!” No one seems bothered at all this time.

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Anonymous wrote:She is only 12!

OP post is from 2019