SAH with Older Kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haha, my favorite part is these threads is how many people love to find a way to drop in a word about their "7 figure income." So tacky. If you are earning that much, none of these concerns mentioned should be concerns at all.

+1 I can't relate to whatever advice comes from these posters other than feeling worse about my situation.
Thanks for nothing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haha, my favorite part is these threads is how many people love to find a way to drop in a word about their "7 figure income." So tacky. If you are earning that much, none of these concerns mentioned should be concerns at all.

+1 I can't relate to whatever advice comes from these posters other than feeling worse about my situation.
Thanks for nothing

+ 1

The answer to any stress on the home front is to throw money at it. Sorry I don't have any extra money to throw after paying my mortgage and childcare bills and necessities like food and water! And I don't think that makes me unique either. MOST of America struggles to get by. MOST Americans don't have $400 for an emergency. We do so we're not that bad off but I can't outsource my laundry and errands and whatever else. So stop telling me to do that FFS!

[Anonymous]

I work part time, but contrary to what some believe the other time is not spent with yoga and bon bons. Besides grocery shopping, I clean the house, prepare dinner (which from scratch takes a while) and I act as a tutor once the kids are home because I seem to accomplish more than the tutor we paid. I also schlep them. I will say it is nice to be in control of some of my schedule and it is easier for me to adjust my schedule for doctor's appointments or an hour of mental health time when burnt out. It is not a spa life though-far from it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haha, my favorite part is these threads is how many people love to find a way to drop in a word about their "7 figure income." So tacky. If you are earning that much, none of these concerns mentioned should be concerns at all.

+1 I can't relate to whatever advice comes from these posters other than feeling worse about my situation.
Thanks for nothing

+ 1

The answer to any stress on the home front is to throw money at it. Sorry I don't have any extra money to throw after paying my mortgage and childcare bills and necessities like food and water! And I don't think that makes me unique either. MOST of America struggles to get by. MOST Americans don't have $400 for an emergency. We do so we're not that bad off but I can't outsource my laundry and errands and whatever else. So stop telling me to do that FFS!

Exactly what are you contributing to the original question about SAHs? Just curious.

You've repeated (or repeated someone else's) strange rant about how unfair life is for several pages. We get it, you aren't happy.

[Anonymous]

To the ones stressing, hers an idea or two.

Run dishwasher at night right after dinner
Unload in the am while the kids are eating breakfast
Throw in a load of laundry after the dishwasher is unloaded.
Throw it into the dryer as soon as you get home

Total time: about 5 minutes every morning and night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haha, my favorite part is these threads is how many people love to find a way to drop in a word about their "7 figure income." So tacky. If you are earning that much, none of these concerns mentioned should be concerns at all.

+1 I can't relate to whatever advice comes from these posters other than feeling worse about my situation.
Thanks for nothing

+ 1

The answer to any stress on the home front is to throw money at it. Sorry I don't have any extra money to throw after paying my mortgage and childcare bills and necessities like food and water! And I don't think that makes me unique either. MOST of America struggles to get by. MOST Americans don't have $400 for an emergency. We do so we're not that bad off but I can't outsource my laundry and errands and whatever else. So stop telling me to do that FFS!

This is about OLDER childrrn. Not infants.

Iyes I have a housekeeper/nanny. She comes at 1pm, do a ALL the bullshit things like laundry, groceries, errands, and meal prep. She also is home when the kids get off the bus and gets them a snack and makes sure they start their homework. THIS COSTS LESS THAN DAYCARE. This is not a wealthy person "thing". And my kids don't have to live an exhausting schedulem

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the ones stressing, hers an idea or two.

Run dishwasher at night right after dinner
Unload in the am while the kids are eating breakfast
Throw in a load of laundry after the dishwasher is unloaded.
Throw it into the dryer as soon as you get home

Total time: about 5 minutes every morning and night.

Some people are really underestimating the time it takes to do household chores. Those 4 chores take longer than 10 minutes total a day, especially if you are folding the laundry and washing pots and pans from cooking. According to the BLS, household chores take about 3 1/2 hours a day. That is before you add in any time transporting kids to their activities etc.

http://www.bls.gov/tus/charts/household.htm

Nonetheless, I would have worked full-time had I only had one or two children, but having 3 kids in school with all sorts of activities plus a husband who travels for work made that too difficult. I completely underestimated how hard it would be to work full time with a large family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haha, my favorite part is these threads is how many people love to find a way to drop in a word about their "7 figure income." So tacky. If you are earning that much, none of these concerns mentioned should be concerns at all.

+1 I can't relate to whatever advice comes from these posters other than feeling worse about my situation.
Thanks for nothing

+ 1

The answer to any stress on the home front is to throw money at it. Sorry I don't have any extra money to throw after paying my mortgage and childcare bills and necessities like food and water! And I don't think that makes me unique either. MOST of America struggles to get by. MOST Americans don't have $400 for an emergency. We do so we're not that bad off but I can't outsource my laundry and errands and whatever else. So stop telling me to do that FFS!

This is about OLDER childrrn. Not infants.

Iyes I have a housekeeper/nanny. She comes at 1pm, do a ALL the bullshit things like laundry, groceries, errands, and meal prep. She also is home when the kids get off the bus and gets them a snack and makes sure they start their homework. THIS COSTS LESS THAN DAYCARE. This is not a wealthy person "thing". And my kids don't have to live an exhausting schedulem

What can I say rich, ignorant posters annoy me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haha, my favorite part is these threads is how many people love to find a way to drop in a word about their "7 figure income." So tacky. If you are earning that much, none of these concerns mentioned should be concerns at all.

+1 I can't relate to whatever advice comes from these posters other than feeling worse about my situation.
Thanks for nothing

+ 1

The answer to any stress on the home front is to throw money at it. Sorry I don't have any extra money to throw after paying my mortgage and childcare bills and necessities like food and water! And I don't think that makes me unique either. MOST of America struggles to get by. MOST Americans don't have $400 for an emergency. We do so we're not that bad off but I can't outsource my laundry and errands and whatever else. So stop telling me to do that FFS!

This is about OLDER childrrn. Not infants.

Iyes I have a housekeeper/nanny. She comes at 1pm, do a ALL the bullshit things like laundry, groceries, errands, and meal prep. She also is home when the kids get off the bus and gets them a snack and makes sure they start their homework. THIS COSTS LESS THAN DAYCARE. This is not a wealthy person "thing". And my kids don't have to live an exhausting schedulem

What can I say rich, ignorant posters annoy me.

Hopefully the budget is big enough for some much needed therapy.

We all make our own choices in life. If you aren't happy with yours. You need to make changes not blame others for your unhappiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haha, my favorite part is these threads is how many people love to find a way to drop in a word about their "7 figure income." So tacky. If you are earning that much, none of these concerns mentioned should be concerns at all.

+1 I can't relate to whatever advice comes from these posters other than feeling worse about my situation.
Thanks for nothing

+ 1

The answer to any stress on the home front is to throw money at it. Sorry I don't have any extra money to throw after paying my mortgage and childcare bills and necessities like food and water! And I don't think that makes me unique either. MOST of America struggles to get by. MOST Americans don't have $400 for an emergency. We do so we're not that bad off but I can't outsource my laundry and errands and whatever else. So stop telling me to do that FFS!

This is about OLDER childrrn. Not infants.

Iyes I have a housekeeper/nanny. She comes at 1pm, do a ALL the bullshit things like laundry, groceries, errands, and meal prep. She also is home when the kids get off the bus and gets them a snack and makes sure they start their homework. THIS COSTS LESS THAN DAYCARE. This is not a wealthy person "thing". And my kids don't have to live an exhausting schedulem

What can I say rich, ignorant posters annoy me.

The original post was about if it gets harder for working parents when kids are older. Several people have chimed in. Some, like me, said it got more difficult due to school closings, breaks and afternoon activities with a spouse with a very demanding job with no flexibility. It was easier for me when kids were in preschool/daycare when I only had to go to one place and school catered to working parents. Others have said it is doable with outsourced afternoon help who do housekeeping and meet kids at bus. Some said kids don't do activities. Then it became a WOHM vs SAHM debate on what SAHMs do all day when kids are in school and how some moms need more stimulation. A few parents boasted of their high incomes and or how superior their situation was whether it was a SAHM, two flex schedule parents or parents with afternoon help. I have actually done all 3 and for our family, my staying home was the best for OUR family. I gave up a high powered high paying job for a flex job with flexible hours that still paid a decent six figure salary but wasn't as challenging. I PERSONALLY felt like I was working for the sake of working and we did not need our income.

I would actually say the posters who say they have no money and called the moms with more disposable income names were the least helpful.

[Anonymous]

At the end of the day, everyone has different circumstances and dynamics. I have friends who feel guilty all the time for missing kid stuff but perhaps her parents were divorced and want the financial security. Some women are the breadwinners. Some moms just like working and don't feel guilty for missing school events since they are working for the kids anyways. Some moms don't work because their husbands make $$$. Other moms don't work because their income would barely cover childcare. Then there are the moms who have to work and have no other options. Do what is best for your family and don't get so upset about others.

I think what gets people upset is when some people come on here and act like everyone has the same options. The one mom where both parents have flex schedules with high six figure salaries while working from home sounds especially obnoxious to me. Then the 7 figure poster was equally obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At the end of the day, everyone has different circumstances and dynamics. I have friends who feel guilty all the time for missing kid stuff but perhaps her parents were divorced and want the financial security. Some women are the breadwinners. Some moms just like working and don't feel guilty for missing school events since they are working for the kids anyways. Some moms don't work because their husbands make $$$. Other moms don't work because their income would barely cover childcare. Then there are the moms who have to work and have no other options. Do what is best for your family and don't get so upset about others.

I think what gets people upset is when some people come on here and act like everyone has the same options. The one mom where both parents have flex schedules with high six figure salaries while working from home sounds especially obnoxious to me. Then the 7 figure poster was equally obnoxious.

You left out some moms return to work when kids are in school because, for them, the juggle is easier at that age, and they would rather work than stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haha, my favorite part is these threads is how many people love to find a way to drop in a word about their "7 figure income." So tacky. If you are earning that much, none of these concerns mentioned should be concerns at all.

+1 I can't relate to whatever advice comes from these posters other than feeling worse about my situation.
Thanks for nothing

+ 1

The answer to any stress on the home front is to throw money at it. Sorry I don't have any extra money to throw after paying my mortgage and childcare bills and necessities like food and water! And I don't think that makes me unique either. MOST of America struggles to get by. MOST Americans don't have $400 for an emergency. We do so we're not that bad off but I can't outsource my laundry and errands and whatever else. So stop telling me to do that FFS!

This is about OLDER childrrn. Not infants.

Iyes I have a housekeeper/nanny. She comes at 1pm, do a ALL the bullshit things like laundry, groceries, errands, and meal prep. She also is home when the kids get off the bus and gets them a snack and makes sure they start their homework. THIS COSTS LESS THAN DAYCARE. This is not a wealthy person "thing". And my kids don't have to live an exhausting schedulem

What can I say rich, ignorant posters annoy me.

Hopefully the budget is big enough for some much needed therapy.

We all make our own choices in life. If you aren't happy with yours. You need to make changes not blame others for your unhappiness.

You have GOT to be kidding me. I say, I feel stretched too thin between work and home, such that I can understand why the OP's friends might want to SAH, posters recommend outsourcing all home chores and hiring a daily housekeeper And when I call them out on being severely out of touch with the middle class with this advice (I.e. The majority), you say I need therapy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I think what gets people upset is when some people come on here and act like everyone has the same options. The one mom where both parents have flex schedules with high six figure salaries while working from home sounds especially obnoxious to me. Then the 7 figure poster was equally obnoxious.

This! Sorry but you're a damn food if you can't understand that your circumstances are unique if you earn high six figures/seven figures while working a super flexible borderline part time job at home. I mean FFS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the ones stressing, hers an idea or two.

Run dishwasher at night right after dinner
Unload in the am while the kids are eating breakfast
Throw in a load of laundry after the dishwasher is unloaded.
Throw it into the dryer as soon as you get home

Total time: about 5 minutes every morning and night.

5 minutes?