With Love, Meghan on Netflix

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Anonymous wrote:She cuts garlic and minced it with a paring knife. She seemed afraid of bees and the popcorn. It’s just weird - she’s incredibly tentative as a cook. Maybe the edits will improve over the shows.

She chops too fast to be seen as tentative. She clearly cooks.

She has terrible knife skills.

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Anonymous wrote:I think they have a beautiful life. Sort of permanent vacation. Mix it with work when they want to. Imagine them cooking and playing outside all day.

What else could a prince and princess. Or duke and duchess want?

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I think she’s really pretty and a huge cringe fest. That’s it.

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Anonymous wrote:The hatred for this woman is effing insane. I saw someone laugh at her for wearing Princess Diana's gold Cartier watch because they claim wearing your dead MIL's jewelry is "cringe" and "try-hard." Wonder if they think it's weird Kate wears Diana's engagement ring.

I know. Why does DCUM hate her so much? What has she done to you all? I think I know why…

Well? Spit it out! Why does DCUM hate her? Because we're racist, right?

I hadn't really thought about it, but the episode I saw (with Mindy Kaling) was very.... WASPY country club. What's up with that?

Philosophical thought experiment: if a DCUM poster makes fun of Meghan for putting flower sprinkles on her frittata, but only wealthy white women in locales like Montecito sprinkle flowers on their frittata, is it still racist?

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Anonymous wrote:She cuts garlic and minced it with a paring knife. She seemed afraid of bees and the popcorn. It’s just weird - she’s incredibly tentative as a cook. Maybe the edits will improve over the shows.

She chops too fast to be seen as tentative. She clearly cooks.

She has terrible knife skills.

The chopping is fine, I guess but the choice of knives is strange. Why not use a real knife then a tiny paring knife.

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s the clip of her correcting Mindy about her name.

https://youtube.com/shorts/KZlYim10t9Y?si=NROa311_HBJ-Xk_I

Ok I have not watched this show and am not a Meghan fan or anything, and actually I did not even take my DH's name, but I have zero problem with this.

It's not her name. People call her Meghan Markle all the time but it's legally not her name. She took her husband's name and since her husband belongs to this stupid family where their names are dictated by their title, they are "the Sussex family." Yes that part of it is dumb but it is still her name and it's okay to ask people to call you by your actual name and not by whatever they feel like calling you.

I used to have to correct people all the time when I got married and didn't take my husband's name. A lot of people made assumptions and wanted to call me Mrs. [his last name]. And when I'd say "nope, I'm still [my name]" I know plenty of people thought I was being annoying. But I was just letting people know what my name is so that they could call me by my actual name. Are you supposed to just ignore it when people call you the wrong name for years? I don't get what you all think she should do.

It's also annoying of Mindy to be saying her first and last name all the time and referring to Meghan in the third person there. It makes Mindy sound like she just read tabloids all the time and has no manners. That's an off-putting way of interacting with someone.

BUT, you don't do it on your own show and in the way she did, which obviously did embarass Mindy. "Funny you say that..." Is not the way to handle it. Could have been done in a different more humorous and self deprecating way.

I don't have a show so I didn't do it on one, lol.

I was not bothered by the way she bristled about it because again, I remember bristling a bit when people would use the wrong name for me when I got married. I was sensitive about it because I didn't like being assigned a name that wasn't my name. So to me, that was natural. You've never been that way with a friend? I have. Like "hey you know I didn't take my DH's name when we got married, stop calling me that." In this case it's the opposite but it's fine.

People expect women to be so smooth and tactful and unbothered at all times and it's just unrealistic. She's human. Her friend was using her old name and it annoyed her and she was like "hey why do you keep calling me Megan Markel, you know it's not my name anymore." It's not like she was incensed. She kind of smiles. But her name means something to her. Why is that okay for me but not for her?

I say this as someone who NEVER relates to Megan. I don't really think about her at all, but I like cooking/entertaining shows so came here to read reviews. But in the clip someone posted, I immediately though "yeah that's how I'd handle that too."

Yeah. No.

If your question is serious - no, most of us don’t have the experience of “bristling” at being called the wrong name, and it’s wonderful that you NEVER relate to Meghan. You don’t need to twist anything to justify her absurd clinging to that title, as captured in the credits of each show. She is not going by Meghan Sussex and instead Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, because again, she’s trying to be the only Meghan when Fox, Thee Stallion, Mullaly and McCain are also famous and somehow each more liked than Markle.

Again, it is her name. Other royals shorten their titles into last names in this way.

What do you want her to call herself. Her last name is not Markle. She wants to share a name with her husband and kids, as many women do.

She should be able to correct people on her proper name, no one should have an issue with that.

I don't think she wants to be called "Meghan Sussex", I think she wants to be called "Meghan, Duchess of Sussex." Which is going to be weird for Americans, since that's not how we do last names. Americans can't even wrap their head around Spanish surnames!

I think the more uncomfortable and tone deaf part was her saying she wanted to share a name with her kids, to show that they're a "family." Lots of kids don't share a last name with their mom. I mean, even Meghan grew up with a mom who had a different last name! Just seemed like she could've been more diplomatic or sensitive about that topic, since it might be touchy for people.

But she doesn't say that. She doesn't say "Mindy, you keep calling me Meghan Markel but you know my name is Meghan, the Duchess of Sussex!" She's just says "you know I'm Sussex now." She doesn't even say "call me Meghan Sussex." She is literally just telling her friend to stop calling her Meghan Markel because that's not her name anymore. I also think the way Mindy was saying it was annoying because she was saying it the way it would appear in a headline: Meghan Markle Goes to Jack-n-the-Box! I can understand why Meghan would be like "hey actually that's not my name and maybe let's not chat about how the tabloids refer to me?"

I don't have the same last name as my kid and I don't have a problem with what she said. I know a bunch of women who think the exact same way and have said the same to me -- I was one of only a handful of women I know who chose not to take my husband's name when we got married, and I had numerous friends who told me "I just really wanted my family to all have the same name." I disagree with this (why must a woman change her name in order for a family to share a name??) but it's really common. It doesn't offend me. And I don't think she was criticizing people who have kids with different names. She's just saying that's not what she wanted. Perhaps it bothers her that she and her mom don't share a last name, especially now that she is much closer to her mom and she has virtually no relationship with her dad. Perhaps that's part of why it was important to her.

Lord, you’d probably get along well with her. You sound like a lot of work.

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Anonymous wrote:The hatred for this woman is effing insane. I saw someone laugh at her for wearing Princess Diana's gold Cartier watch because they claim wearing your dead MIL's jewelry is "cringe" and "try-hard." Wonder if they think it's weird Kate wears Diana's engagement ring.

I know. Why does DCUM hate her so much? What has she done to you all? I think I know why…

And why is that 🙄

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Anonymous wrote:I think they have a beautiful life. Sort of permanent vacation. Mix it with work when they want to. Imagine them cooking and playing outside all day.

This is a meaningful, beautiful life? Playing in your gorgeous backyard every day with three or four family members? I think for a healthy adult that would get old pretty quickly. There is no great love story between two people who only have each other...that seems parasitic. And they have that deprived quality in their life because they have had so many breaks from their past. You cannot simply cut off multiple people, many people in fact from your history and be an integrated person. I'm not talking about cutting off a true abuser...i mean the level of multiple cut offs between these two. It has left them fragmented.

She's in an identity crisis. And she may be for years. Who am I now and how will the public accept me is the million dollar question that I suspect she is wrestling with. This is her latest attempt. And elements of it have authenticity and some elements don't.

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Anonymous wrote:She cuts garlic and minced it with a paring knife. She seemed afraid of bees and the popcorn. It’s just weird - she’s incredibly tentative as a cook. Maybe the edits will improve over the shows.

She chops too fast to be seen as tentative. She clearly cooks.

She has terrible knife skills.

The chopping is fine, I guess but the choice of knives is strange. Why not use a real knife then a tiny paring knife.

She’s bad at chopping! That’s what made me notice the weird knife selection. She is so damned clearly NOT a strong cook at all. This is not hateration - she has no skills there.

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They're sad to me ...with all the money, all the beauty that surrounds them. Psychologically they are not well. That's why it rings false in my opinion

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Anonymous wrote:I think they have a beautiful life. Sort of permanent vacation. Mix it with work when they want to. Imagine them cooking and playing outside all day.

This is a meaningful, beautiful life? Playing in your gorgeous backyard every day with three or four family members? I think for a healthy adult that would get old pretty quickly. There is no great love story between two people who only have each other...that seems parasitic. And they have that deprived quality in their life because they have had so many breaks from their past. You cannot simply cut off multiple people, many people in fact from your history and be an integrated person. I'm not talking about cutting off a true abuser...i mean the level of multiple cut offs between these two. It has left them fragmented.

She's in an identity crisis. And she may be for years. Who am I now and how will the public accept me is the million dollar question that I suspect she is wrestling with. This is her latest attempt. And elements of it have authenticity and some elements don't.

I disagree. How she lives is literally how so many (wealthy) women live.
If they are happy, they are building memories, teaching the beauty of the earth to their children, teaching connection, teaching privilege and giving back.
If they are not happy, they will seek happiness. That’s it. Let’s not predict that this will get old. Let’s be okay with them living as a lot of wealthy couples do—fairly content, having chickens and bees, traveling between a few places, the occasional glamorous party, obsessing over a beautiful life. Putting some content out there periodically.

[Anonymous]

19 pages on a Netflix show that aired yesterday, totally normal.

I haven’t watched it yet but I will watch at least a couple episodes eventually! I wouldn’t consider myself a fan of hers, but I think it’s absolutely crazy that she gets so much hate. Just let the lady make a fruit rainbow, it’s really not that big of a deal.

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Anonymous wrote:19 pages on a Netflix show that aired yesterday, totally normal.

I haven’t watched it yet but I will watch at least a couple episodes eventually! I wouldn’t consider myself a fan of hers, but I think it’s absolutely crazy that she gets so much hate. Just let the lady make a fruit rainbow, it’s really not that big of a deal.

this. Literally 19 pages of b itching that she used a paring knife to chop garlic.

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Anonymous wrote:19 pages on a Netflix show that aired yesterday, totally normal.

I haven’t watched it yet but I will watch at least a couple episodes eventually! I wouldn’t consider myself a fan of hers, but I think it’s absolutely crazy that she gets so much hate. Just let the lady make a fruit rainbow, it’s really not that big of a deal.

She decided to make fruit rainbow on tv. Then people decide how they feel about it. That is basically any content on television: It will get great/good/lukewarm/mediocre reviews. Nobody is entitled to go on tv and have immunity from dislikes. The only way to do that is to not go on tv. And poeple are not making anything a big deal just because they are discussining it. I love RHSLC for instance and will get pretty passionate about the content and into the details, but I am also fully aware it is not important in any way, shape or form. Other shows I really do not care about, and I do not go on forums on which they are discussed to tell people they should not care about these shows and it's silly to make it a big deal.

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Alright. I’ve now seen an episode. I don’t really get the hate. She’s clearly pretty type A/very particular, her tentativeness with some cooking things looks to me more like she doesn’t like to make messes so she’s careful in handling things, she’s afraid of any line that will be taken out of context and cause massive negative publicity, and wants to make people feel appreciated.

I can relate to some of that, including some of her type A behavior and things that she says/the way she says it. I don’t think it’s affected. She seems like a normal human being who’s navigating the world while knowing she’s being judged at every turn and trying to avoid that.

I wish her the best and probably will watch the rest of the show. It’s not bad, it’s very easygoing and relaxing.