Enough is enough with the redshirting!

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Anonymous wrote:We have a friend who teaches fifth grade and she has talked about having older girls get their period in fifth grade. This was not something she was expecting to deal with in elementary school. It gets a little weird when some kids are going through puberty and for others it is still several years down the line. Girls playing with Barbies and those who are interested in boys and dating.

The girl dynamics extend to crushes on boys and mean girl dynamics. You can absolutely tell who is older in the grade.

As someone with a kid who is the youngest in her grade but academically advanced, you tend to see the gap with a younger kid not being able to sit and focus for as long, struggle to follow multi step instructions, and navigate social disagreements. When many kids in a grade are redshirted, expectations for the group go up and kids who started on time look like outliers. They end up in trouble for age appropriate behaviors.

I have a young-for-grade 5th grader. Since kids also get their periods at 8-9 due to whatever environmental factors these days, I don't think the teacher should be surprised. As far as crush and dating dynamics, that's also a thing across old and young for grade 5th graders. Did she think she was teaching 2nd?

This is completely normal for 5th grade. I have a 5th grade daughter and they used to have “the talk” in the spring but now do it in the fall because it became more necessary to have it earlier than later due to what was actually happening. And, no, this isn’t about a bunch of redshirted girls. They are 10/11 and growing up.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Wow, this thread grew fast. I assume the crazy anti-redshirters are frothing again? I don’t have the energy to wade through it.

OP: This is not a serious issue, speaking as a parent of teens and young adults. I did not redshirt. In fact one of my kids is a young spring birthday and has often been the youngest or close to it. I read the absolute meltdowns about redshirting from anti-redshirting posters and understand why kids have no resiliency these days — their parents can’t model it. Crazy, sad people.

OPs kid has suffered not at all as she will be quick to tell you not so humbly. He is in gifted, plays a year up in some sport, super popular, no challenges, yet, she just can’t get past the birthdays of a few classmates for no particular reason. This is her hobby in life, to perseverate on a non issue because she thinks someone else is getting something she’s not. Then she whines about “advantages” as she pays another month of tuition at her posh private school.

Wait, OP is one of the crazy anti-redshirters who doesn’t understand how private school admissions work at an extremely basic level? Hahahahahahaha. The stereotypes just write themselves.

I love the DCUM anti-redshirt threads because the absolute crazy of the anti-redshirters comes out every single time. They can’t keep a lid on it.

I’m the OP and see nothing wrong with red shirting summer. We considered it and the school themselves told us to send him at the same time they were telling others to hold . I said it was out of hand for people to redshirt kids who were already born in the first month of a school year, creating a 23 month gap with someone on the young end, mentioning the two 10 year olds in 3rd in my son’s class. No kids ever really ready for Kinder. I don’t know what people expect their child to be doing to be ready for this grade.

Hahaha this is gold. The private school, the demands that a private school follow your preferred admissions strategy, the whining, the entitlement, it is all just a perfect chef’s kiss of a post. Love it.

DCUM anti-redshirters are continually some of the best entertainment this board has to offer. Please please please never stop posting.

OP probably wears a big fake smile at all the school events having to mix and mingle with these horrible redshirting parents then comes here to gossip and trash them expecting commiseration.

I suspect her crazy leaks out. She is probably as insane-sounding to her fellow private school parents as she is here, though I suspect there is also a group that quietly keep their kids away from her.

It’s the same group that didn’t let her in on the fact that most boys in her year are redshirting. This was knowable information for the OP four years ago, clearly she’s not well integrated into her school.

Well, she could have asked the admissions office, of course. Private schools don’t hide their policies on redshirting during the admissions process.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Wow, this thread grew fast. I assume the crazy anti-redshirters are frothing again? I don’t have the energy to wade through it.

OP: This is not a serious issue, speaking as a parent of teens and young adults. I did not redshirt. In fact one of my kids is a young spring birthday and has often been the youngest or close to it. I read the absolute meltdowns about redshirting from anti-redshirting posters and understand why kids have no resiliency these days — their parents can’t model it. Crazy, sad people.

OPs kid has suffered not at all as she will be quick to tell you not so humbly. He is in gifted, plays a year up in some sport, super popular, no challenges, yet, she just can’t get past the birthdays of a few classmates for no particular reason. This is her hobby in life, to perseverate on a non issue because she thinks someone else is getting something she’s not. Then she whines about “advantages” as she pays another month of tuition at her posh private school.

Wait, OP is one of the crazy anti-redshirters who doesn’t understand how private school admissions work at an extremely basic level? Hahahahahahaha. The stereotypes just write themselves.

I love the DCUM anti-redshirt threads because the absolute crazy of the anti-redshirters comes out every single time. They can’t keep a lid on it.

I’m the OP and see nothing wrong with red shirting summer. We considered it and the school themselves told us to send him at the same time they were telling others to hold . I said it was out of hand for people to redshirt kids who were already born in the first month of a school year, creating a 23 month gap with someone on the young end, mentioning the two 10 year olds in 3rd in my son’s class. No kids ever really ready for Kinder. I don’t know what people expect their child to be doing to be ready for this grade.

Hahaha this is gold. The private school, the demands that a private school follow your preferred admissions strategy, the whining, the entitlement, it is all just a perfect chef’s kiss of a post. Love it.

DCUM anti-redshirters are continually some of the best entertainment this board has to offer. Please please please never stop posting.

OP probably wears a big fake smile at all the school events having to mix and mingle with these horrible redshirting parents then comes here to gossip and trash them expecting commiseration.

I suspect her crazy leaks out. She is probably as insane-sounding to her fellow private school parents as she is here, though I suspect there is also a group that quietly keep their kids away from her.

It’s the same group that didn’t let her in on the fact that most boys in her year are redshirting. This was knowable information for the OP four years ago, clearly she’s not well integrated into her school.

Well, she could have asked the admissions office, of course. Private schools don’t hide their policies on redshirting during the admissions process.

OP was too busy hearing from the PreK teacher how special her snowflake was to ask questions about what the lesser children were doing/trending toward.

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Public schools aren’t retaining anyone because that costs $$$. I’ve only heard of retention being offered when a kid missed a lot of a grade due to something like a serious medical issue, or at the end of the Covid school years - 2019-20 or 2020-21 - if a kid didn’t progress during the closures. My neighbor had a young for grade 1st grader in 20-21 and FCPS did offer to let her repeat 1st in person.

But let this thread be a heads up to everyone: redshirting is common, perhaps even expected, in private schools, especially for the younger for grade kids. So plan accordingly.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Wow, this thread grew fast. I assume the crazy anti-redshirters are frothing again? I don’t have the energy to wade through it.

OP: This is not a serious issue, speaking as a parent of teens and young adults. I did not redshirt. In fact one of my kids is a young spring birthday and has often been the youngest or close to it. I read the absolute meltdowns about redshirting from anti-redshirting posters and understand why kids have no resiliency these days — their parents can’t model it. Crazy, sad people.

OPs kid has suffered not at all as she will be quick to tell you not so humbly. He is in gifted, plays a year up in some sport, super popular, no challenges, yet, she just can’t get past the birthdays of a few classmates for no particular reason. This is her hobby in life, to perseverate on a non issue because she thinks someone else is getting something she’s not. Then she whines about “advantages” as she pays another month of tuition at her posh private school.

Wait, OP is one of the crazy anti-redshirters who doesn’t understand how private school admissions work at an extremely basic level? Hahahahahahaha. The stereotypes just write themselves.

I love the DCUM anti-redshirt threads because the absolute crazy of the anti-redshirters comes out every single time. They can’t keep a lid on it.

I’m the OP and see nothing wrong with red shirting summer. We considered it and the school themselves told us to send him at the same time they were telling others to hold . I said it was out of hand for people to redshirt kids who were already born in the first month of a school year, creating a 23 month gap with someone on the young end, mentioning the two 10 year olds in 3rd in my son’s class. No kids ever really ready for Kinder. I don’t know what people expect their child to be doing to be ready for this grade.

Hahaha this is gold. The private school, the demands that a private school follow your preferred admissions strategy, the whining, the entitlement, it is all just a perfect chef’s kiss of a post. Love it.

DCUM anti-redshirters are continually some of the best entertainment this board has to offer. Please please please never stop posting.

OP probably wears a big fake smile at all the school events having to mix and mingle with these horrible redshirting parents then comes here to gossip and trash them expecting commiseration.

I suspect her crazy leaks out. She is probably as insane-sounding to her fellow private school parents as she is here, though I suspect there is also a group that quietly keep their kids away from her.

It’s the same group that didn’t let her in on the fact that most boys in her year are redshirting. This was knowable information for the OP four years ago, clearly she’s not well integrated into her school.

Well, she could have asked the admissions office, of course. Private schools don’t hide their policies on redshirting during the admissions process.

OP was too busy hearing from the PreK teacher how special her snowflake was to ask questions about what the lesser children were doing/trending toward.

Well he is doing fine so she was right. It’s still annoying. Sorry you don’t like to hear that and need to say I think he’s some special snowflake. You would 100 percent think it was annoying if kids were 2 year older in your own kid’s class and sports teams and you know it. That’s the irony of this whole discussion. Most of the people who hold do not want older peers for their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Wow, this thread grew fast. I assume the crazy anti-redshirters are frothing again? I don’t have the energy to wade through it.

OP: This is not a serious issue, speaking as a parent of teens and young adults. I did not redshirt. In fact one of my kids is a young spring birthday and has often been the youngest or close to it. I read the absolute meltdowns about redshirting from anti-redshirting posters and understand why kids have no resiliency these days — their parents can’t model it. Crazy, sad people.

OPs kid has suffered not at all as she will be quick to tell you not so humbly. He is in gifted, plays a year up in some sport, super popular, no challenges, yet, she just can’t get past the birthdays of a few classmates for no particular reason. This is her hobby in life, to perseverate on a non issue because she thinks someone else is getting something she’s not. Then she whines about “advantages” as she pays another month of tuition at her posh private school.

Wait, OP is one of the crazy anti-redshirters who doesn’t understand how private school admissions work at an extremely basic level? Hahahahahahaha. The stereotypes just write themselves.

I love the DCUM anti-redshirt threads because the absolute crazy of the anti-redshirters comes out every single time. They can’t keep a lid on it.

I’m the OP and see nothing wrong with red shirting summer. We considered it and the school themselves told us to send him at the same time they were telling others to hold . I said it was out of hand for people to redshirt kids who were already born in the first month of a school year, creating a 23 month gap with someone on the young end, mentioning the two 10 year olds in 3rd in my son’s class. No kids ever really ready for Kinder. I don’t know what people expect their child to be doing to be ready for this grade.

Hahaha this is gold. The private school, the demands that a private school follow your preferred admissions strategy, the whining, the entitlement, it is all just a perfect chef’s kiss of a post. Love it.

DCUM anti-redshirters are continually some of the best entertainment this board has to offer. Please please please never stop posting.

OP probably wears a big fake smile at all the school events having to mix and mingle with these horrible redshirting parents then comes here to gossip and trash them expecting commiseration.

I suspect her crazy leaks out. She is probably as insane-sounding to her fellow private school parents as she is here, though I suspect there is also a group that quietly keep their kids away from her.

It’s the same group that didn’t let her in on the fact that most boys in her year are redshirting. This was knowable information for the OP four years ago, clearly she’s not well integrated into her school.

Well, she could have asked the admissions office, of course. Private schools don’t hide their policies on redshirting during the admissions process.

I did ask and she said they only suggest holding for major developmental issues and usually it’s late summer.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Wow, this thread grew fast. I assume the crazy anti-redshirters are frothing again? I don’t have the energy to wade through it.

OP: This is not a serious issue, speaking as a parent of teens and young adults. I did not redshirt. In fact one of my kids is a young spring birthday and has often been the youngest or close to it. I read the absolute meltdowns about redshirting from anti-redshirting posters and understand why kids have no resiliency these days — their parents can’t model it. Crazy, sad people.

OPs kid has suffered not at all as she will be quick to tell you not so humbly. He is in gifted, plays a year up in some sport, super popular, no challenges, yet, she just can’t get past the birthdays of a few classmates for no particular reason. This is her hobby in life, to perseverate on a non issue because she thinks someone else is getting something she’s not. Then she whines about “advantages” as she pays another month of tuition at her posh private school.

Wait, OP is one of the crazy anti-redshirters who doesn’t understand how private school admissions work at an extremely basic level? Hahahahahahaha. The stereotypes just write themselves.

I love the DCUM anti-redshirt threads because the absolute crazy of the anti-redshirters comes out every single time. They can’t keep a lid on it.

I’m the OP and see nothing wrong with red shirting summer. We considered it and the school themselves told us to send him at the same time they were telling others to hold . I said it was out of hand for people to redshirt kids who were already born in the first month of a school year, creating a 23 month gap with someone on the young end, mentioning the two 10 year olds in 3rd in my son’s class. No kids ever really ready for Kinder. I don’t know what people expect their child to be doing to be ready for this grade.

Hahaha this is gold. The private school, the demands that a private school follow your preferred admissions strategy, the whining, the entitlement, it is all just a perfect chef’s kiss of a post. Love it.

DCUM anti-redshirters are continually some of the best entertainment this board has to offer. Please please please never stop posting.

OP probably wears a big fake smile at all the school events having to mix and mingle with these horrible redshirting parents then comes here to gossip and trash them expecting commiseration.

I suspect her crazy leaks out. She is probably as insane-sounding to her fellow private school parents as she is here, though I suspect there is also a group that quietly keep their kids away from her.

It’s the same group that didn’t let her in on the fact that most boys in her year are redshirting. This was knowable information for the OP four years ago, clearly she’s not well integrated into her school.

Well, she could have asked the admissions office, of course. Private schools don’t hide their policies on redshirting during the admissions process.

OP was too busy hearing from the PreK teacher how special her snowflake was to ask questions about what the lesser children were doing/trending toward.

Well he is doing fine so she was right. It’s still annoying. Sorry you don’t like to hear that and need to say I think he’s some special snowflake. You would 100 percent think it was annoying if kids were 2 year older in your own kid’s class and sports teams and you know it. That’s the irony of this whole discussion. Most of the people who hold do not want older peers for their kids.

You’re the only one having this discussion. Everyone else is rolling their eyes. There’s an easy solution but you refuse to take it.

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Anonymous wrote:Public schools aren’t retaining anyone because that costs $$$. I’ve only heard of retention being offered when a kid missed a lot of a grade due to something like a serious medical issue, or at the end of the Covid school years - 2019-20 or 2020-21 - if a kid didn’t progress during the closures. My neighbor had a young for grade 1st grader in 20-21 and FCPS did offer to let her repeat 1st in person.

But let this thread be a heads up to everyone: redshirting is common, perhaps even expected, in private schools, especially for the younger for grade kids. So plan accordingly.

+1, and I would say it’s increasingly common in public school among parents who read the data on developmentally appropriate settings for 4-5. So, assume if you send a four year old they’ll be youngest by a year+, and an early five year old by a year. None of this is secret, or unavailable information to you.

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Anonymous wrote:As some have mentioned earlier there should be a nationwide birthday cutoff (August or Sept 1st) and redshirting would only be allowed if a documented developmental delay is shown.

Also, if you transfer from a private then for K-2 you go into the grade you are aged for to avoid those who want to exploit the system that way.

That is true equity.

But I'm sure all the wealthy parents on here would bemoan the chance to game the system and get their neurotypical children ahead.

Call your member of Congress, then.
See how much traction this gets. Parents really love being forced to make suboptimal choices for their kids.

In the meantime no one is exploiting the system if they’re following the rules.

Kids should be in school by six. Other than that it’s nobody’s business.

A 10 year old in 3rd now in Dec was 7 in the beginning of kindergarten.

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Anonymous wrote:As some have mentioned earlier there should be a nationwide birthday cutoff (August or Sept 1st) and redshirting would only be allowed if a documented developmental delay is shown.

Also, if you transfer from a private then for K-2 you go into the grade you are aged for to avoid those who want to exploit the system that way.

That is true equity.

But I'm sure all the wealthy parents on here would bemoan the chance to game the system and get their neurotypical children ahead.

Call your member of Congress, then.
See how much traction this gets. Parents really love being forced to make suboptimal choices for their kids.

In the meantime no one is exploiting the system if they’re following the rules.

Kids should be in school by six. Other than that it’s nobody’s business.

A 10 year old in 3rd now in Dec was 7 in the beginning of kindergarten.

Covid made people make decisions they wouldn’t normally make. It was a strange time.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Wow, this thread grew fast. I assume the crazy anti-redshirters are frothing again? I don’t have the energy to wade through it.

OP: This is not a serious issue, speaking as a parent of teens and young adults. I did not redshirt. In fact one of my kids is a young spring birthday and has often been the youngest or close to it. I read the absolute meltdowns about redshirting from anti-redshirting posters and understand why kids have no resiliency these days — their parents can’t model it. Crazy, sad people.

OPs kid has suffered not at all as she will be quick to tell you not so humbly. He is in gifted, plays a year up in some sport, super popular, no challenges, yet, she just can’t get past the birthdays of a few classmates for no particular reason. This is her hobby in life, to perseverate on a non issue because she thinks someone else is getting something she’s not. Then she whines about “advantages” as she pays another month of tuition at her posh private school.

Wait, OP is one of the crazy anti-redshirters who doesn’t understand how private school admissions work at an extremely basic level? Hahahahahahaha. The stereotypes just write themselves.

I love the DCUM anti-redshirt threads because the absolute crazy of the anti-redshirters comes out every single time. They can’t keep a lid on it.

I’m the OP and see nothing wrong with red shirting summer. We considered it and the school themselves told us to send him at the same time they were telling others to hold . I said it was out of hand for people to redshirt kids who were already born in the first month of a school year, creating a 23 month gap with someone on the young end, mentioning the two 10 year olds in 3rd in my son’s class. No kids ever really ready for Kinder. I don’t know what people expect their child to be doing to be ready for this grade.

Hahaha this is gold. The private school, the demands that a private school follow your preferred admissions strategy, the whining, the entitlement, it is all just a perfect chef’s kiss of a post. Love it.

DCUM anti-redshirters are continually some of the best entertainment this board has to offer. Please please please never stop posting.

OP probably wears a big fake smile at all the school events having to mix and mingle with these horrible redshirting parents then comes here to gossip and trash them expecting commiseration.

I suspect her crazy leaks out. She is probably as insane-sounding to her fellow private school parents as she is here, though I suspect there is also a group that quietly keep their kids away from her.

It’s the same group that didn’t let her in on the fact that most boys in her year are redshirting. This was knowable information for the OP four years ago, clearly she’s not well integrated into her school.

Well, she could have asked the admissions office, of course. Private schools don’t hide their policies on redshirting during the admissions process.

OP was too busy hearing from the PreK teacher how special her snowflake was to ask questions about what the lesser children were doing/trending toward.

Well he is doing fine so she was right. It’s still annoying. Sorry you don’t like to hear that and need to say I think he’s some special snowflake. You would 100 percent think it was annoying if kids were 2 year older in your own kid’s class and sports teams and you know it. That’s the irony of this whole discussion. Most of the people who hold do not want older peers for their kids.

I wouldn’t think it was “annoying” I would do the research and send my kid at the time which felt appropriate to me, both in terms of the child’s ability, peer group, school culture, development etc. You chose based on one factor and you’re “annoyed” because others didn’t. You’re going to be annoyed for a long time with this attitude because the rules won’t change.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Wow, this thread grew fast. I assume the crazy anti-redshirters are frothing again? I don’t have the energy to wade through it.

OP: This is not a serious issue, speaking as a parent of teens and young adults. I did not redshirt. In fact one of my kids is a young spring birthday and has often been the youngest or close to it. I read the absolute meltdowns about redshirting from anti-redshirting posters and understand why kids have no resiliency these days — their parents can’t model it. Crazy, sad people.

OPs kid has suffered not at all as she will be quick to tell you not so humbly. He is in gifted, plays a year up in some sport, super popular, no challenges, yet, she just can’t get past the birthdays of a few classmates for no particular reason. This is her hobby in life, to perseverate on a non issue because she thinks someone else is getting something she’s not. Then she whines about “advantages” as she pays another month of tuition at her posh private school.

Wait, OP is one of the crazy anti-redshirters who doesn’t understand how private school admissions work at an extremely basic level? Hahahahahahaha. The stereotypes just write themselves.

I love the DCUM anti-redshirt threads because the absolute crazy of the anti-redshirters comes out every single time. They can’t keep a lid on it.

I’m the OP and see nothing wrong with red shirting summer. We considered it and the school themselves told us to send him at the same time they were telling others to hold . I said it was out of hand for people to redshirt kids who were already born in the first month of a school year, creating a 23 month gap with someone on the young end, mentioning the two 10 year olds in 3rd in my son’s class. No kids ever really ready for Kinder. I don’t know what people expect their child to be doing to be ready for this grade.

Hahaha this is gold. The private school, the demands that a private school follow your preferred admissions strategy, the whining, the entitlement, it is all just a perfect chef’s kiss of a post. Love it.

DCUM anti-redshirters are continually some of the best entertainment this board has to offer. Please please please never stop posting.

OP probably wears a big fake smile at all the school events having to mix and mingle with these horrible redshirting parents then comes here to gossip and trash them expecting commiseration.

I suspect her crazy leaks out. She is probably as insane-sounding to her fellow private school parents as she is here, though I suspect there is also a group that quietly keep their kids away from her.

It’s the same group that didn’t let her in on the fact that most boys in her year are redshirting. This was knowable information for the OP four years ago, clearly she’s not well integrated into her school.

Well, she could have asked the admissions office, of course. Private schools don’t hide their policies on redshirting during the admissions process.

OP was too busy hearing from the PreK teacher how special her snowflake was to ask questions about what the lesser children were doing/trending toward.

Well he is doing fine so she was right. It’s still annoying. Sorry you don’t like to hear that and need to say I think he’s some special snowflake. You would 100 percent think it was annoying if kids were 2 year older in your own kid’s class and sports teams and you know it. That’s the irony of this whole discussion. Most of the people who hold do not want older peers for their kids.

You’re the only one having this discussion. Everyone else is rolling their eyes. There’s an easy solution but you refuse to take it.

Moving your kids school isn’t an easy solution unless your kid has no friends.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Wow, this thread grew fast. I assume the crazy anti-redshirters are frothing again? I don’t have the energy to wade through it.

OP: This is not a serious issue, speaking as a parent of teens and young adults. I did not redshirt. In fact one of my kids is a young spring birthday and has often been the youngest or close to it. I read the absolute meltdowns about redshirting from anti-redshirting posters and understand why kids have no resiliency these days — their parents can’t model it. Crazy, sad people.

OPs kid has suffered not at all as she will be quick to tell you not so humbly. He is in gifted, plays a year up in some sport, super popular, no challenges, yet, she just can’t get past the birthdays of a few classmates for no particular reason. This is her hobby in life, to perseverate on a non issue because she thinks someone else is getting something she’s not. Then she whines about “advantages” as she pays another month of tuition at her posh private school.

Wait, OP is one of the crazy anti-redshirters who doesn’t understand how private school admissions work at an extremely basic level? Hahahahahahaha. The stereotypes just write themselves.

I love the DCUM anti-redshirt threads because the absolute crazy of the anti-redshirters comes out every single time. They can’t keep a lid on it.

I’m the OP and see nothing wrong with red shirting summer. We considered it and the school themselves told us to send him at the same time they were telling others to hold . I said it was out of hand for people to redshirt kids who were already born in the first month of a school year, creating a 23 month gap with someone on the young end, mentioning the two 10 year olds in 3rd in my son’s class. No kids ever really ready for Kinder. I don’t know what people expect their child to be doing to be ready for this grade.

Hahaha this is gold. The private school, the demands that a private school follow your preferred admissions strategy, the whining, the entitlement, it is all just a perfect chef’s kiss of a post. Love it.

DCUM anti-redshirters are continually some of the best entertainment this board has to offer. Please please please never stop posting.

OP probably wears a big fake smile at all the school events having to mix and mingle with these horrible redshirting parents then comes here to gossip and trash them expecting commiseration.

I suspect her crazy leaks out. She is probably as insane-sounding to her fellow private school parents as she is here, though I suspect there is also a group that quietly keep their kids away from her.

It’s the same group that didn’t let her in on the fact that most boys in her year are redshirting. This was knowable information for the OP four years ago, clearly she’s not well integrated into her school.

Well, she could have asked the admissions office, of course. Private schools don’t hide their policies on redshirting during the admissions process.

OP was too busy hearing from the PreK teacher how special her snowflake was to ask questions about what the lesser children were doing/trending toward.

Well he is doing fine so she was right. It’s still annoying. Sorry you don’t like to hear that and need to say I think he’s some special snowflake. You would 100 percent think it was annoying if kids were 2 year older in your own kid’s class and sports teams and you know it. That’s the irony of this whole discussion. Most of the people who hold do not want older peers for their kids.

You’re the only one having this discussion. Everyone else is rolling their eyes. There’s an easy solution but you refuse to take it.

Moving your kids school isn’t an easy solution unless your kid has no friends.

So agitating to have other kids skip a grade to fix this problem is a better solution?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As some have mentioned earlier there should be a nationwide birthday cutoff (August or Sept 1st) and redshirting would only be allowed if a documented developmental delay is shown.

Also, if you transfer from a private then for K-2 you go into the grade you are aged for to avoid those who want to exploit the system that way.

That is true equity.

But I'm sure all the wealthy parents on here would bemoan the chance to game the system and get their neurotypical children ahead.

There will never be a nationwide cutoff. Education is extremely decentralized in the US.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible that these kids have had to repeat grades due to intellectual challenges?

OP is a mother not a kid.