I do not like the parent population at my kids school

[Anonymous]

The thing is that, as a parent, you are an ambassador at your school.

Each time you snub a fellow parent or spew utter nonsense on the Internet you are lowering the value of your school and risking alienation from the parent clique that you value so much.

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Do you sit by yourself? Does anyone talk to you?

I sit by myself or with my DH, typically. I’m not sure what you mean by talk, I mean I will nod if I pass someone or say hi, but otherwise don’t tend to have much in the way of conversation. Maybe I am not getting how I am excluded but it’s not something I’ve ever really even noticed. I guess next season I will look for this though!

On what magical universe does a social red carpet get rolled out for a random middle aged single lady at a sporting match? There is no conspiracy against you, you are a random stranger at a sporting match. Your expectations are out of whack.

Omg you are an evil human being. There is nothing wrong with wanting to meet people kids at your child’s school. I can’t wait until someone researches your IP address and blasts everything you have said on here because you are a truly vile human being.

Op ignore this poster.

lol wut

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The thing is that, as a parent, you are an ambassador at your school.

Each time you snub a fellow parent or spew utter nonsense on the Internet you are lowering the value of your school and risking alienation from the parent clique that you value so much.

We are in the process of applying now and we'll be looking out for crazy af parents like the poster. We value inclusive communities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The thing is that, as a parent, you are an ambassador at your school.

Each time you snub a fellow parent or spew utter nonsense on the Internet you are lowering the value of your school and risking alienation from the parent clique that you value so much.

Not if the clique feels the same way. And they do.

And no one names their school so how would anyone which ones to avoid?

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Do you sit by yourself? Does anyone talk to you?

I sit by myself or with my DH, typically. I’m not sure what you mean by talk, I mean I will nod if I pass someone or say hi, but otherwise don’t tend to have much in the way of conversation. Maybe I am not getting how I am excluded but it’s not something I’ve ever really even noticed. I guess next season I will look for this though!

On what magical universe does a social red carpet get rolled out for a random middle aged single lady at a sporting match? There is no conspiracy against you, you are a random stranger at a sporting match. Your expectations are out of whack.

Omg you are an evil human being. There is nothing wrong with wanting to meet people kids at your child’s school. I can’t wait until someone researches your IP address and blasts everything you have said on here because you are a truly vile human being.

Op ignore this poster.

lol wut

Yup this poster is hurting their community and for many spending thousands of dollars a year this sort of thing hurts their investment. No one wants to be in a mean school. I have a leadership position in our school and it would be valuable for me to know if this shit was at our school. Telling parents trying to be friendly to “back off” is just gross and actually goes against parent conduct in the handbook. Schools don’t have to renew contacts and they do not need a reason.

[Anonymous]

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Do you sit by yourself? Does anyone talk to you?

I sit by myself or with my DH, typically. I’m not sure what you mean by talk, I mean I will nod if I pass someone or say hi, but otherwise don’t tend to have much in the way of conversation. Maybe I am not getting how I am excluded but it’s not something I’ve ever really even noticed. I guess next season I will look for this though!

On what magical universe does a social red carpet get rolled out for a random middle aged single lady at a sporting match? There is no conspiracy against you, you are a random stranger at a sporting match. Your expectations are out of whack.

Omg you are an evil human being. There is nothing wrong with wanting to meet people kids at your child’s school. I can’t wait until someone researches your IP address and blasts everything you have said on here because you are a truly vile human being.

Op ignore this poster.

lol wut

Yup this poster is hurting their community and for many spending thousands of dollars a year this sort of thing hurts their investment. No one wants to be in a mean school. I have a leadership position in our school and it would be valuable for me to know if this shit was at our school. Telling parents trying to be friendly to “back off” is just gross and actually goes against parent conduct in the handbook. Schools don’t have to renew contacts and they do not need a reason.

*contracts - and being purposely hostile and mane calling “single middle aged parents” would be sufficient to be considered unnessarily hostile.

[Anonymous]

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Do you sit by yourself? Does anyone talk to you?

I sit by myself or with my DH, typically. I’m not sure what you mean by talk, I mean I will nod if I pass someone or say hi, but otherwise don’t tend to have much in the way of conversation. Maybe I am not getting how I am excluded but it’s not something I’ve ever really even noticed. I guess next season I will look for this though!

On what magical universe does a social red carpet get rolled out for a random middle aged single lady at a sporting match? There is no conspiracy against you, you are a random stranger at a sporting match. Your expectations are out of whack.

Omg you are an evil human being. There is nothing wrong with wanting to meet people kids at your child’s school. I can’t wait until someone researches your IP address and blasts everything you have said on here because you are a truly vile human being.

Op ignore this poster.

lol wut

Yup this poster is hurting their community and for many spending thousands of dollars a year this sort of thing hurts their investment. No one wants to be in a mean school. I have a leadership position in our school and it would be valuable for me to know if this shit was at our school. Telling parents trying to be friendly to “back off” is just gross and actually goes against parent conduct in the handbook. Schools don’t have to renew contacts and they do not need a reason.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please name the schools that you’re talking about so we can avoid them!!

Families who can afford these schools already have friends and associates at them before they apply. It's a small handful of social climbing interlopers who genuinely struggle. The rest of this babble is public school trolls who serial post about how everyone richer, skinnier, smarter and/or more successful than them is cruel, with druggy kids, and must be financially overextended. It's all a cope. Idle malcontents on the outside looking in.

We've been in DC since PK but my kid ended up at a Big3 where we didn't know anyone well. We probably know 10+ families (well) at each of the other two.
I wouldn't recommend doing this. It's been a rough adjustment for my kid who is now a sophomore. He/she is finally hitting his/her social stride. It's hard to break into a school where
many of the friendships are between the lifers. They have been very insular and the rest of the grade sort of just floats around in isolation to one degree or another.

It makes total sense and is normal for the lifer students and their families, with lifelong ties and large giving and connections to the board, have stronger bonds than relatively transient and transactional first-gen high school families. You’re just a visitor. People treat transient renters the same way. If you’re a homeowner long-term invested in a community, you’re not going to bend over backwards to befriend some bureaucrat you know will be moving on in 12 months. What’s the point.

NP: From a school's perspective, they may be the next generation of multi-generational lifers when your family line dies out.

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Do you sit by yourself? Does anyone talk to you?

I sit by myself or with my DH, typically. I’m not sure what you mean by talk, I mean I will nod if I pass someone or say hi, but otherwise don’t tend to have much in the way of conversation. Maybe I am not getting how I am excluded but it’s not something I’ve ever really even noticed. I guess next season I will look for this though!

On what magical universe does a social red carpet get rolled out for a random middle aged single lady at a sporting match? There is no conspiracy against you, you are a random stranger at a sporting match. Your expectations are out of whack.

Omg you are an evil human being. There is nothing wrong with wanting to meet people kids at your child’s school. I can’t wait until someone researches your IP address and blasts everything you have said on here because you are a truly vile human being.

Op ignore this poster.

lol wut

Yup this poster is hurting their community and for many spending thousands of dollars a year this sort of thing hurts their investment. No one wants to be in a mean school. I have a leadership position in our school and it would be valuable for me to know if this shit was at our school. Telling parents trying to be friendly to “back off” is just gross and actually goes against parent conduct in the handbook. Schools don’t have to renew contacts and they do not need a reason.

This. Schools don’t legally have to renew contracts. This parent is admitting they are purposeful cruel and hostile to parents and making wide judgments about a “single” parent as if that is enough to be rude.

[Anonymous]

Not to mention this person is pretty identifiable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not to mention this person is pretty identifiable.

What school? Do tell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not to mention this person is pretty identifiable.

Just say it what school? I would imagine their language is identifiable. I do not know them but would be able to instantly pick up on their language and choice of words.

[Anonymous]

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Do you sit by yourself? Does anyone talk to you?

I sit by myself or with my DH, typically. I’m not sure what you mean by talk, I mean I will nod if I pass someone or say hi, but otherwise don’t tend to have much in the way of conversation. Maybe I am not getting how I am excluded but it’s not something I’ve ever really even noticed. I guess next season I will look for this though!

On what magical universe does a social red carpet get rolled out for a random middle aged single lady at a sporting match? There is no conspiracy against you, you are a random stranger at a sporting match. Your expectations are out of whack.

Omg you are an evil human being. There is nothing wrong with wanting to meet people kids at your child’s school. I can’t wait until someone researches your IP address and blasts everything you have said on here because you are a truly vile human being.

Op ignore this poster.

lol wut

Yup this poster is hurting their community and for many spending thousands of dollars a year this sort of thing hurts their investment. No one wants to be in a mean school. I have a leadership position in our school and it would be valuable for me to know if this shit was at our school. Telling parents trying to be friendly to “back off” is just gross and actually goes against parent conduct in the handbook. Schools don’t have to renew contacts and they do not need a reason.

This. Schools don’t legally have to renew contracts. This parent is admitting they are purposeful cruel and hostile to parents and making wide judgments about a “single” parent as if that is enough to be rude.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not to mention this person is pretty identifiable.

Which school?? It’s an anonymous thread why not post the name of the school?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Cool outgoing rich parents come to you. They size you up pretty quickly and invite you into their circle if they deem you a peer. They can glance at your LinkedIn and Facebook for 30 seconds to see the friends you have in common, where you went to college, where you work, and where you live. Zillow stalking takes another 30 seconds. I'm afraid they don't see you as being on their level. But it sounds like your kids are having better luck and that's what it's all about, right?

We are nobodies (feds in a small house with no social cred) and our kids are at the Cathedral schools. IME some of the most connected, wealthiest parents are actually the nicest and most inclusive. It's the strivers (who are far more like us on paper then they'd ever admit) that can be mean.
It's a tale as old as time. If you've really "made it" then you're free to be nice to the small people--many of whom are actually very interesting people. If you're continually clawing and insecure you're often preoccupied by who else may move into your spot.

I am so confused. What spot? Are there people actually striving? We are an average family and we want to get to know other families where our kids go to school. We want to meet nice families. Are we strivers taking someone's spot? Can someone who is not the crazy mom auditioning for the next Bravo show explain why wanting to get know people is taking other people's spots?

No. Because only crazy people think that way.