Social resume for sorority rush

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

My big state school had them, but we all made fun of them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Eh. A lot of posters have shared their DD’s recent experiences. So maybe it doesn’t apply to your experience at Bates in 1991 but that doesn’t mean it’s not true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Eh. A lot of posters have shared their DD’s recent experiences. So maybe it doesn’t apply to your experience at Bates in 1991 but that doesn’t mean it’s not true.

Eh I have a kid that just went through rush so…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Condescension is not helping.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Condescension is not helping.

How many different ways would you like me to say it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Condescension is not helping.

Triggered much? The truth hurts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:any discussion of greek life always devolves into this type of argument on this board. the fact is that if you talk to the girls in sororities they are generally happy with the experience, and they are also welcome to drop out at any time if they are not. Its a social club, why do we have to assign any more meaning to it than that? If the girls find their "home" great, if its not for them,, great. Why grown women (and possibly men) on this board care one way or the other, I simply don't understand.

For one thing, it's school sanctioned

And rush is organized by the school. They could choose to be more humane.

How many more years will it take for someone to hit a public school with an ADA or 1984 complaint based on rush?

Overdue. But when a school gets a reputation of having an especially brutal rush and moms start steering their daughters to the other major state U because of it (true story), a sorority will give a bid to someone with obvious differences (Down’s) for a PR stunt to show how “inclusive” are.

Stories like this are based on a very limited number of schools.

Generally speaking though sororities run the gamut from groups with all one type of young women to groups with all types. Sororities vary from school to school and the most snobby sorority at one school might be the most laid back at another school.

One problem that happens in rush is most freshman will go through the process and pick the group that matches their "fantasy self" - the young woman they imagine they might be sometime in the future - instead of picking the sorority that matches their real self. So the girl who wants to be outgoing and bubbly and popular but is really a bit more shy and reserved tries really hard to get into the outgoing bubbly popular all the time sorority and is crushed when she doesn't get accepted. She passes up the group of young women who are a bit more reserved but are just as fun and kind as the other sorority and have just as many activities going on but don't appear to be the most popular.

Another problem that happens is most freshman fail to understand that during rush the sisters are like sales people. They are really good at selling the sorority experience. They make everyone feel like they love them and want them in their group. That's so the rushee feels like she wants to be in that group. It can be hard to look past that and decide which group has the best sales people vs. which group has the best people for her.

This is so fake and inauthentic. During rush, members are required to go to events to make them seem fun and full. Including, signing up for time slots to play frisbee and cornhole on the front lawn so it looks fun and happening. Fake.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Condescension is not helping.

Triggered much? The truth hurts.

The mean SJW.

[Anonymous]

My house must have been more democratic. We sat around and put pictures up on a projector and voted. Any sister who know some and vouched for them was enough during the initial cuts.

Jeez.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why would anyone want to be part of a system founded on privilege and discrimination and perpetuated through exclusion based the most superficial and so often unearned attributes?

This is just ignorant. Members are recruited on grades and leadership
first and then looks, personality and background. Of course groups want the whole package. Everyone everywhere , from college admissions to dating to employers- wants the whole package.

Gross. This shouldn’t be a factor in any way.

And yet it matters in every aspect of American life. When you’re ready to dismantle Ivy admissions fif their inherent classism, we can talk about classism in American social sororities

Thanks for laying out the order of operations for everyone, not. It's possible to improve multiple things at once.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Condescension is not helping.

Triggered much? The truth hurts.

The mean SJW.

SJW really just means “giving a sh*t about people besides yourself.”

I’d love to know the stats on LGBTQ, disabled, poor, fat, physically scared (I.e. burn victims) and first generation students in rush.