Social resume for sorority rush

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

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Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Oh, I get it all right. I also don't think that everyone should get a ribbon or medal or statue just for showing up.

The concept of a sorority or fraternity is people with like interests finding each other and entering into a deeper bond. The reality is that any single sorority or fraternity cannot accept everyone who is interested. Fortunately there are a lot of sororities or fraternities so there are plenty of options.

I was fortunate that I found the right group for me. I highly recommend that girls who are interested explore their options and rush.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Condescension is not helping.

Can you address the pp's comment about exclusion? What is condescending about the comment? This is gaslighting.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Condescension is not helping.

Triggered much? The truth hurts.

The mean SJW.

SJW really just means “giving a sh*t about people besides yourself.”

I’d love to know the stats on LGBTQ, disabled, poor, fat, physically scared (I.e. burn victims) and first generation students in rush.

So you are admitting that you don't know those stats?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Oh, I get it all right. I also don't think that everyone should get a ribbon or medal or statue just for showing up.

The concept of a sorority or fraternity is people with like interests finding each other and entering into a deeper bond. The reality is that any single sorority or fraternity cannot accept everyone who is interested. Fortunately there are a lot of sororities or fraternities so there are plenty of options.

I was fortunate that I found the right group for me. I highly recommend that girls who are interested explore their options and rush.

Yeah, they should get a medal based on how they look, what high school they went to or what camps they intended instead.

/s

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Condescension is not helping.

Can you address the pp's comment about exclusion? What is condescending about the comment? This is gaslighting.

The use of "lovely" and "you don't seem to get that" seem to come from a place of superiority. It did not advance the argument, that's all.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Condescension is not helping.

Can you address the pp's comment about exclusion? What is condescending about the comment? This is gaslighting.

The use of "lovely" and "you don't seem to get that" seem to come from a place of superiority. It did not advance the argument, that's all.

Well, you don’t seem to get it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Oh, I get it all right. I also don't think that everyone should get a ribbon or medal or statue just for showing up.

The concept of a sorority or fraternity is people with like interests finding each other and entering into a deeper bond. The reality is that any single sorority or fraternity cannot accept everyone who is interested. Fortunately there are a lot of sororities or fraternities so there are plenty of options.

I was fortunate that I found the right group for me. I highly recommend that girls who are interested explore their options and rush.

Yeah, they should get a medal based on how they look, what high school they went to or what camps they intended instead.

/s

LOL. Now you're just being silly. The comment about a medal is a clear reference to the fact that in your generation it was common for every kid to get a medal if they belonged to a team or for every kid to get a ribbon for participating.

Again, joining a sorority or fraternity is about people with similar interests joining together for friendship. There are so many sororities and fraternities that it is hard for me to think that there might not be a match for you.

I am sorry that you have such angst about this. I suggest you work it out in therapy or something. Life is too short to have such a huge chip on your shoulder. It must make it really hard for you to get around.

I am done responding. I just don't have the wherewithal to deal with your recalcitrance and negative mindset. Good luck to you. Hugs.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Condescension is not helping.

Can you address the pp's comment about exclusion? What is condescending about the comment? This is gaslighting.

The use of "lovely" and "you don't seem to get that" seem to come from a place of superiority. It did not advance the argument, that's all.

Well, you don’t seem to get it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Oh, I get it all right. I also don't think that everyone should get a ribbon or medal or statue just for showing up.

The concept of a sorority or fraternity is people with like interests finding each other and entering into a deeper bond. The reality is that any single sorority or fraternity cannot accept everyone who is interested. Fortunately there are a lot of sororities or fraternities so there are plenty of options.

I was fortunate that I found the right group for me. I highly recommend that girls who are interested explore their options and rush.

Yeah, they should get a medal based on how they look, what high school they went to or what camps they intended instead.

/s

LOL. Now you're just being silly. The comment about a medal is a clear reference to the fact that in your generation it was common for every kid to get a medal if they belonged to a team or for every kid to get a ribbon for participating.

Again, joining a sorority or fraternity is about people with similar interests joining together for friendship. There are so many sororities and fraternities that it is hard for me to think that there might not be a match for you.

I am sorry that you have such angst about this. I suggest you work it out in therapy or something. Life is too short to have such a huge chip on your shoulder. It must make it really hard for you to get around.

I am done responding. I just don't have the wherewithal to deal with your recalcitrance and negative mindset. Good luck to you. Hugs.

Like interests? If you like it, fine. But don’t pretend the selection process is about like interests. 300 girls who speed date 1400 are not getting to know each other at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Oh, I get it all right. I also don't think that everyone should get a ribbon or medal or statue just for showing up.

The concept of a sorority or fraternity is people with like interests finding each other and entering into a deeper bond. The reality is that any single sorority or fraternity cannot accept everyone who is interested. Fortunately there are a lot of sororities or fraternities so there are plenty of options.

I was fortunate that I found the right group for me. I highly recommend that girls who are interested explore their options and rush.

Yeah, they should get a medal based on how they look, what high school they went to or what camps they intended instead.

/s

LOL. Now you're just being silly. The comment about a medal is a clear reference to the fact that in your generation it was common for every kid to get a medal if they belonged to a team or for every kid to get a ribbon for participating.

Again, joining a sorority or fraternity is about people with similar interests joining together for friendship. There are so many sororities and fraternities that it is hard for me to think that there might not be a match for you.

I am sorry that you have such angst about this. I suggest you work it out in therapy or something. Life is too short to have such a huge chip on your shoulder. It must make it really hard for you to get around.

I am done responding. I just don't have the wherewithal to deal with your recalcitrance and negative mindset. Good luck to you. Hugs.

Like interests? If you like it, fine. But don’t pretend the selection process is about like interests. 300 girls who speed date 1400 are not getting to know each other at all.

It is a quick process. That’s why we ask for social resumes and recs, and why personal relationships with potential new members are important. But, honestly, people get hired for jobs with less vetting and interview time. It works out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Oh, I get it all right. I also don't think that everyone should get a ribbon or medal or statue just for showing up.

The concept of a sorority or fraternity is people with like interests finding each other and entering into a deeper bond. The reality is that any single sorority or fraternity cannot accept everyone who is interested. Fortunately there are a lot of sororities or fraternities so there are plenty of options.

I was fortunate that I found the right group for me. I highly recommend that girls who are interested explore their options and rush.

Yeah, they should get a medal based on how they look, what high school they went to or what camps they intended instead.

/s

LOL. Now you're just being silly. The comment about a medal is a clear reference to the fact that in your generation it was common for every kid to get a medal if they belonged to a team or for every kid to get a ribbon for participating.

Again, joining a sorority or fraternity is about people with similar interests joining together for friendship. There are so many sororities and fraternities that it is hard for me to think that there might not be a match for you.

I am sorry that you have such angst about this. I suggest you work it out in therapy or something. Life is too short to have such a huge chip on your shoulder. It must make it really hard for you to get around.

I am done responding. I just don't have the wherewithal to deal with your recalcitrance and negative mindset. Good luck to you. Hugs.

Like interests? If you like it, fine. But don’t pretend the selection process is about like interests. 300 girls who speed date 1400 are not getting to know each other at all.

It is a quick process. That’s why we ask for social resumes and recs, and why personal relationships with potential new members are important. But, honestly, people get hired for jobs with less vetting and interview time. It works out.

I hope you realize that some girls entering college have literally never met someone who’s been in a sorority and therefore have no one to write a rec letter or anything.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Oh, I get it all right. I also don't think that everyone should get a ribbon or medal or statue just for showing up.

The concept of a sorority or fraternity is people with like interests finding each other and entering into a deeper bond. The reality is that any single sorority or fraternity cannot accept everyone who is interested. Fortunately there are a lot of sororities or fraternities so there are plenty of options.

I was fortunate that I found the right group for me. I highly recommend that girls who are interested explore their options and rush.

Yeah, they should get a medal based on how they look, what high school they went to or what camps they intended instead.

/s

LOL. Now you're just being silly. The comment about a medal is a clear reference to the fact that in your generation it was common for every kid to get a medal if they belonged to a team or for every kid to get a ribbon for participating.

Again, joining a sorority or fraternity is about people with similar interests joining together for friendship. There are so many sororities and fraternities that it is hard for me to think that there might not be a match for you.

I am sorry that you have such angst about this. I suggest you work it out in therapy or something. Life is too short to have such a huge chip on your shoulder. It must make it really hard for you to get around.

I am done responding. I just don't have the wherewithal to deal with your recalcitrance and negative mindset. Good luck to you. Hugs.

Like interests? If you like it, fine. But don’t pretend the selection process is about like interests. 300 girls who speed date 1400 are not getting to know each other at all.

It is a quick process. That’s why we ask for social resumes and recs, and why personal relationships with potential new members are important. But, honestly, people get hired for jobs with less vetting and interview time. It works out.

I hope you realize that some girls entering college have literally never met someone who’s been in a sorority and therefore have no one to write a rec letter or anything.

This really isn’t true. Even if the only college graduates in their communities are their teachers, they will know at least 1 or 2 sorority women.

Recs aren’t required at every school. Schools that place more emphasis on recs also provide information on how to get them. That’s why OP saw a request for recs on FB and people offering to write them. Most young ladies know teachers and people from church or the community. It’s work to get your recs together, but it’s not then hard. Local Panhellenics also write recs for people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Eh. A lot of posters have shared their DD’s recent experiences. So maybe it doesn’t apply to your experience at Bates in 1991 but that doesn’t mean it’s not true.

Eh I have a kid that just went through rush so…

You still have absolutely no first hand experience of rush or being in a sorority.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

+100

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Oh, I get it all right. I also don't think that everyone should get a ribbon or medal or statue just for showing up.

The concept of a sorority or fraternity is people with like interests finding each other and entering into a deeper bond. The reality is that any single sorority or fraternity cannot accept everyone who is interested. Fortunately there are a lot of sororities or fraternities so there are plenty of options.

I was fortunate that I found the right group for me. I highly recommend that girls who are interested explore their options and rush.

Yeah, they should get a medal based on how they look, what high school they went to or what camps they intended instead.

/s

LOL. Now you're just being silly. The comment about a medal is a clear reference to the fact that in your generation it was common for every kid to get a medal if they belonged to a team or for every kid to get a ribbon for participating.

Again, joining a sorority or fraternity is about people with similar interests joining together for friendship. There are so many sororities and fraternities that it is hard for me to think that there might not be a match for you.

I am sorry that you have such angst about this. I suggest you work it out in therapy or something. Life is too short to have such a huge chip on your shoulder. It must make it really hard for you to get around.

I am done responding. I just don't have the wherewithal to deal with your recalcitrance and negative mindset. Good luck to you. Hugs.

Like interests? If you like it, fine. But don’t pretend the selection process is about like interests. 300 girls who speed date 1400 are not getting to know each other at all.

It is a quick process. That’s why we ask for social resumes and recs, and why personal relationships with potential new members are important. But, honestly, people get hired for jobs with less vetting and interview time. It works out.

You ignore the recs and only check resumes for signs of wealth or connections. It most certainly does not work out for everyone. You girls are so callous, it’s awfully telling.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school with no sororities, so I am reading this thread with zero knowledge and total fascination. What does any of this have to do with college? It is such a strange thing.

Me too. I intentionally avoided applying to schools with sororities and they sound even (much much much) worse than I even imagined.

Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

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Well, the depictions here are not very accurate, except perhaps at Alabama or Old Miss, so I wouldn’t give much weight to them. Typical of DCUM that people who weren’t actually in a sorority think they know everything about them.

Exactly. +101 I did not go to Alabama or Old Miss but I did go to a large state school where Greek life was a big part of the social scene. Unless you live under a rock you would recognize our house. I love all those girls and they have helped me through some of the worst and best times of my life. Even today, 30+ years out of school, I know that I can pick up the phone, call one of my sisters and she will be here in a heartbeat. And I would do the same for her. It was one of the best choices I ever made to rush and I would not hesitate to encourage any girl interested to do the same.

That’s lovely. It’s based on exclusion. You don’t seem to get that.

Oh, I get it all right. I also don't think that everyone should get a ribbon or medal or statue just for showing up.

The concept of a sorority or fraternity is people with like interests finding each other and entering into a deeper bond. The reality is that any single sorority or fraternity cannot accept everyone who is interested. Fortunately there are a lot of sororities or fraternities so there are plenty of options.

I was fortunate that I found the right group for me. I highly recommend that girls who are interested explore their options and rush.

Yeah, they should get a medal based on how they look, what high school they went to or what camps they intended instead.

/s

LOL. Now you're just being silly. The comment about a medal is a clear reference to the fact that in your generation it was common for every kid to get a medal if they belonged to a team or for every kid to get a ribbon for participating.

Again, joining a sorority or fraternity is about people with similar interests joining together for friendship. There are so many sororities and fraternities that it is hard for me to think that there might not be a match for you.

I am sorry that you have such angst about this. I suggest you work it out in therapy or something. Life is too short to have such a huge chip on your shoulder. It must make it really hard for you to get around.

I am done responding. I just don't have the wherewithal to deal with your recalcitrance and negative mindset. Good luck to you. Hugs.

Like interests? If you like it, fine. But don’t pretend the selection process is about like interests. 300 girls who speed date 1400 are not getting to know each other at all.

It is a quick process. That’s why we ask for social resumes and recs, and why personal relationships with potential new members are important. But, honestly, people get hired for jobs with less vetting and interview time. It works out.

So, dirty rush. Got it.