Social resume for sorority rush

[Anonymous]

All these sorority threads make me so sad.
I’m an old Gen X progressive feminist. I feel like women are just on one of those elastic strings and we keep snapping back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All these sorority threads make me so sad.
I’m an old Gen X progressive feminist. I feel like women are just on one of those elastic strings and we keep snapping back.

+1000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a normal thing? I’ve never heard of it, but a friend posted their daughter’s online today asking for rec letters for rush.

Make sure the Social Resume includes details on Mommy. This is a BIG deal with Southern Sororities…
First we have to know how much of a superficial loser the mom is….
1) Did she marry her husband for money?
2) Are her nails always done?
3) Full make up anytime she leaves the house?
4) Clothing mirrors that of a wannabe socialite? Quiet Luxury is a foreign concept
5) despite never going to a TOP school, the prestige of DD college makes up a big part of her life?
6) Has some connections through daddy or husband and think she belongs

If 5 of those are CHECKS, then yes, you can move on to your own social resume and chances are you are closer to your (mom’s) dream of you making it into the sorority they didn’t….Then WELCOME to the “Find me a husband club”

You've clearly never been to the UES of NYC/suburbs of CT/Boston/ if you think these six criteria apply only to Southern women. The names of the top schools and basic grooming habits (makeup choices/clothing brands) change, but the sentiment is the same. Your value (and your kid's social currency) is based on your family's financial and educational pedigree, looks, and a high HHI.

Spouse choice has and always will matter to you and to your children.

There will always be social competition in private and work life - and "intelligent" people catch on quickly and adapt. It only gets more real and more intense the closer you get to C-suite jobs. If you don't know this, you are probably a teenager with a bad attitude.

No matter how far we’ve come, and all this talk at DCUM about education, t20, t50, 100, teaching quality, etc are all just a nice excuse for women to find a husband with money/connections. Everything else is secondary. The sad part is that this behavior is engrained into these girls heads by their striver mommy……shame shame shame .
You are NO BETTER than AFGHAN, INDIAN or MIDDLE EASTERN families that arrange marriages…

I wrote the PP and I think it's wrong to look at it as some anti-feminist agenda at play.
I'm just a realist.

Education is only a path to equality in a world where there is ALSO, high quality, universal childcare.

In the real world, those with the best lives hav the most freedom, aka. $$

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All these sorority threads make me so sad.
I’m an old Gen X progressive feminist. I feel like women are just on one of those elastic strings and we keep snapping back.

Sorry you didn't get a bid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All these sorority threads make me so sad.
I’m an old Gen X progressive feminist. I feel like women are just on one of those elastic strings and we keep snapping back.

+100000. I thought we were beyond this in the 90s.

[Anonymous]

And, not that pp, but I intentionally went to a college which didn't have Greek orgs in the 90s. Thought it was passe even then.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a normal thing? I’ve never heard of it, but a friend posted their daughter’s online today asking for rec letters for rush.

Make sure the Social Resume includes details on Mommy. This is a BIG deal with Southern Sororities…
First we have to know how much of a superficial loser the mom is….
1) Did she marry her husband for money?
2) Are her nails always done?
3) Full make up anytime she leaves the house?
4) Clothing mirrors that of a wannabe socialite? Quiet Luxury is a foreign concept
5) despite never going to a TOP school, the prestige of DD college makes up a big part of her life?
6) Has some connections through daddy or husband and think she belongs

If 5 of those are CHECKS, then yes, you can move on to your own social resume and chances are you are closer to your (mom’s) dream of you making it into the sorority they didn’t….Then WELCOME to the “Find me a husband club”

LOL….. I know this was supposed to be funny and mean at the same time….But I cant help but agree with the stereotype….

It’s sad in 2025, there are women who still strive for this.

Sorry you didn't get a bid.

Got one, thanks. But sorry that in 2025, you have all your hopes and dreams for your daughter set on getting one.

No you didn’t.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All these sorority threads make me so sad.
I’m an old Gen X progressive feminist. I feel like women are just on one of those elastic strings and we keep snapping back.

Sorry you didn't get a bid.

I’m fascinated by how bored you must be. Despite being here for years, you have not matured at all. You continue to post this stupid, childish response on every Greek thread, year after year.

[Anonymous]

As the mother of a girl in a sorority, I could not be prouder of her and her friends. They are intelligent, organized, and volunteer for their communities. This group has encouraged independent thought and leadership, and she is more of a leader and feminist than when she left home. Don't speak about what you do not know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need recs, a resume and a photo, but none of these really matter. What matters is where you went to high school (and possibly summer camp) and whether there are active members that know and like you. You can have the strongest recs and resume and still get cut. You can have a weak rec and still get a bid if the active members know and like you.

I don’t believe the summer camp reference applies today - and if it does please provide examples , unless you are talking summer camp in Middle School. None of the popular/social/ athletic/rich kids I know went to camp after 7th grade. Not that it matters- but people talk about these camps all the time and I just don’t think that’s a thing any more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a normal thing? I’ve never heard of it, but a friend posted their daughter’s online today asking for rec letters for rush.

Rec letters? What about first generation students?

Some sororities no longer require them, and mine now accepts recs from coaches, teachers, etc. Mine also stopped giving any advantage to legacies for exactly that reason. I was happy to read about those changes!

You’re proud of being a part of a literally, deliberately exclusive organization just because it changed some of the parameters of exclusion?

OK.

[Anonymous]

Is it this tough for the boys too??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this a normal thing? I’ve never heard of it, but a friend posted their daughter’s online today asking for rec letters for rush.

Make sure the Social Resume includes details on Mommy. This is a BIG deal with Southern Sororities…
First we have to know how much of a superficial loser the mom is….
1) Did she marry her husband for money?
2) Are her nails always done?
3) Full make up anytime she leaves the house?
4) Clothing mirrors that of a wannabe socialite? Quiet Luxury is a foreign concept
5) despite never going to a TOP school, the prestige of DD college makes up a big part of her life?
6) Has some connections through daddy or husband and think she belongs

If 5 of those are CHECKS, then yes, you can move on to your own social resume and chances are you are closer to your (mom’s) dream of you making it into the sorority they didn’t….Then WELCOME to the “Find me a husband club”

You've clearly never been to the UES of NYC/suburbs of CT/Boston/ if you think these six criteria apply only to Southern women. The names of the top schools and basic grooming habits (makeup choices/clothing brands) change, but the sentiment is the same. Your value (and your kid's social currency) is based on your family's financial and educational pedigree, looks, and a high HHI.

Spouse choice has and always will matter to you and to your children.

There will always be social competition in private and work life - and "intelligent" people catch on quickly and adapt. It only gets more real and more intense the closer you get to C-suite jobs. If you don't know this, you are probably a teenager with a bad attitude.

No matter how far we’ve come, and all this talk at DCUM about education, t20, t50, 100, teaching quality, etc are all just a nice excuse for women to find a husband with money/connections. Everything else is secondary. The sad part is that this behavior is engrained into these girls heads by their striver mommy……shame shame shame .
You are NO BETTER than AFGHAN, INDIAN or MIDDLE EASTERN families that arrange marriages…

This 100%

[Anonymous]

I have not read everything but I have been active in my sorority and have written recs over the years. Everyone take a breath because it is not that important. Some schools do not look anymore but some do. I always request a resume whenever writing as it helps me write your letter and nicely personalize the letter. I know how to write in a way that highlights. That is how it is used. Some people just hate sororities and that is a shame because there are many nice houses and it’s a lot of fun.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need recs, a resume and a photo, but none of these really matter. What matters is where you went to high school (and possibly summer camp) and whether there are active members that know and like you. You can have the strongest recs and resume and still get cut. You can have a weak rec and still get a bid if the active members know and like you.

I don’t believe the summer camp reference applies today - and if it does please provide examples , unless you are talking summer camp in Middle School. None of the popular/social/ athletic/rich kids I know went to camp after 7th grade. Not that it matters- but people talk about these camps all the time and I just don’t think that’s a thing any more.

It's a Texas sorority thing.

Texas Hill Country camps. My grandmother was a Mystic girl ... it's been a thing since the early 20th century. Mystic, Waldemar, etc.