Why so much disgust felt towards men for dating significantly younger?

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Anonymous wrote:A friend’s college aged kid goes to school in Miami. He said none of the best looking women stay on campus on Friday and Saturday nights because their peers can’t afford to take them out. They go into south beach to meet older men that can afford to buy them drinks and show them a good time.

I find this very hard to believe but maybe the school has a lot of lower income students. I went to Brown decades ago and almost everyone was very affluent. My then bf / now H took me to Aspen for winter break and then to Paris for the summer. It's such a fallacy to believe that all young guys are broke. I'd also personally date someone who maybe doesn't come from money but has a bright potential instead of a divorced dad who has financial obligations such as children from prior relationships. You will always get the leftovers, financially and emotionally.

It's only that younger guys tend to be more broke, it's also that they are unseasoned in they ways of the world. Wtf is a 19-year old gonna show a girl in Miami?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A friend’s college aged kid goes to school in Miami. He said none of the best looking women stay on campus on Friday and Saturday nights because their peers can’t afford to take them out. They go into south beach to meet older men that can afford to buy them drinks and show them a good time.

I find this very hard to believe but maybe the school has a lot of lower income students. I went to Brown decades ago and almost everyone was very affluent. My then bf / now H took me to Aspen for winter break and then to Paris for the summer. It's such a fallacy to believe that all young guys are broke. I'd also personally date someone who maybe doesn't come from money but has a bright potential instead of a divorced dad who has financial obligations such as children from prior relationships. You will always get the leftovers, financially and emotionally.

It's only that younger guys tend to be more broke, it's also that they are unseasoned in they ways of the world. Wtf is a 19-year old gonna show a girl in Miami?

Yep. It happens at colleges everywhere.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A friend’s college aged kid goes to school in Miami. He said none of the best looking women stay on campus on Friday and Saturday nights because their peers can’t afford to take them out. They go into south beach to meet older men that can afford to buy them drinks and show them a good time.

I find this very hard to believe but maybe the school has a lot of lower income students. I went to Brown decades ago and almost everyone was very affluent. My then bf / now H took me to Aspen for winter break and then to Paris for the summer. It's such a fallacy to believe that all young guys are broke. I'd also personally date someone who maybe doesn't come from money but has a bright potential instead of a divorced dad who has financial obligations such as children from prior relationships. You will always get the leftovers, financially and emotionally.

You really find it hard to believe that college girls go where the money is? It’s his experience and no, they weren’t low income families. They we’re the hottest ladies on campus at the university of Miami.

Key words university of miami.

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Anonymous wrote:This is one of those posts where I wonder if it's a small subset of vocal women or if it tapped into something.

I am 45 and generally date around my age group, but I get asked out by women in their 20s (and recently by one in her mid-20s) and I don't see it as that strange. I am just dating for fun, who cares? I declined the one in her mid-20s because I know they are looking for something long-term and potentially a husband and father and I will be none of those things again.

I have female friends my age who occasionally hook up or even date younger men. Who cares?

I get the idea of a 60 something marrying a 20 something, but 10-15 year age gap once you are out of college isn't that strange.

I think it’s sad that at 45 all you want to do is date young women for the rest of your life.

I think it’s bizarre that anyone wants to spend middle age and elderly years dating at all. Why??

No kidding, I hated it when I was young. Thankfully I only slept with LTR and married. I wouldn't date is something happened to DH. No reason because I'm financially secure.

It is weird to me (a woman), that you equate the need to date with a need for money.

What are we living in, Victorian England?

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Anonymous wrote:And as PP said it creates a weird power imbalance, it’s almost as if older men prey on the nievete of young women.

And the women feed the old men's fragile egos, because they are so easily impressed (with world experiences and material status).

If you have ever had child in their young 20's, you should recognize why they don't make an appropriate life PARTNER.

But maybe this set up most appeals to men who don't seek an equal partner?

None of the men on this thread who are bragging (?) about dating women much younger than them do not sound as though they’re looking for an equal partner, or in fact a partner at all. They are openly objectifying these young women and with them it seems exclusively for their appearance (along with a fetishization of youth and a seeming hatred and/or resentment of older women). It’s a very tired trope.

Not me. I'm mid-50s dating a late-20s women who is finishing her PhD in STEM. I like that she is smart and honest, she likes that I treat her like a human being, and not a piece of meat as guys her age do. Our dates mostly involve cooking together and hours of conversation. Sometimes we go to a museum, or go for a hike.

That’s only how young assholes act. There are plenty of late 20s men looking for meaningful relationships with the women they will marry. I wonder what’s wrong with her that she can’t figure out how to date them and get her life on track.

I've dated at least 10 women in their 20s and hear the same complaints from every single one of them about men their age.

What do you think they are going to tell you? Good thing you can’t hear what they tell their girlfriends.?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A friend’s college aged kid goes to school in Miami. He said none of the best looking women stay on campus on Friday and Saturday nights because their peers can’t afford to take them out. They go into south beach to meet older men that can afford to buy them drinks and show them a good time.

I find this very hard to believe but maybe the school has a lot of lower income students. I went to Brown decades ago and almost everyone was very affluent. My then bf / now H took me to Aspen for winter break and then to Paris for the summer. It's such a fallacy to believe that all young guys are broke. I'd also personally date someone who maybe doesn't come from money but has a bright potential instead of a divorced dad who has financial obligations such as children from prior relationships. You will always get the leftovers, financially and emotionally.

You really find it hard to believe that college girls go where the money is? It’s his experience and no, they weren’t low income families. They we’re the hottest ladies on campus at the university of Miami.

You don't get it. For us, the money was already there, on campus. You don't need to chase old men. All you had to do is say hello and sit next to that cute boy at the Ratty with the last name of Tisch. With their 21 billion, he can afford to take you out. Sometimes it's better to pick Providence over Miami

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Anonymous wrote:A friend’s college aged kid goes to school in Miami. He said none of the best looking women stay on campus on Friday and Saturday nights because their peers can’t afford to take them out. They go into south beach to meet older men that can afford to buy them drinks and show them a good time.

I find this very hard to believe but maybe the school has a lot of lower income students. I went to Brown decades ago and almost everyone was very affluent. My then bf / now H took me to Aspen for winter break and then to Paris for the summer. It's such a fallacy to believe that all young guys are broke. I'd also personally date someone who maybe doesn't come from money but has a bright potential instead of a divorced dad who has financial obligations such as children from prior relationships. You will always get the leftovers, financially and emotionally.

You really find it hard to believe that college girls go where the money is? It’s his experience and no, they weren’t low income families. They we’re the hottest ladies on campus at the university of Miami.

You don't get it. For us, the money was already there, on campus. You don't need to chase old men. All you had to do is say hello and sit next to that cute boy at the Ratty with the last name of Tisch. With their 21 billion, he can afford to take you out. Sometimes it's better to pick Providence over Miami

Stop trying to make Brown happen. We ain't buying it...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why so much disgust and judgement? Isn't there also a significant number of women, especially in their 20's, who don't want to date men their age and prefer older guys? It takes two consenting adults for these relationships to happen.

No. The women who prefer older men are usually mentally ill, victims of trauma, or need money. Bright attractive healthy women who are excited about their futures don't prefer older men.

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Anonymous wrote:At the end of the day, it's because women are competing against other women for eligible men and all else being equal, younger people are more physically attractive.

Same reason the incel culture exists, because women can have sex easier than men and some men resent that fact.

Mature women aren't jealous of younger women being pursued by older men. They want to protect them.
We were those young women being pursued by predatory older men at one time.

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Anonymous wrote:Just turned 62, widowed past 15 years. and still dating women in their 40s to early 50s. I get the cringe factor of guys still dating women in their 20s but, at my age, a decade younger with children who have left home just seems perfect. The women my age or even within 5 years of my age that I see on dating sites, or who pursue me just haven't held up very well at all, with some rare exceptions.

I’m in my early 40s and single and I would NEVER date anywhere close to 62.

I'm 47 and laughing at a 62 year old man saying that women his age haven't held up very well. I date men from 35 to 50. Occasionally younger than 35 if it's just a hookup.

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Anonymous wrote:Just turned 62, widowed past 15 years. and still dating women in their 40s to early 50s. I get the cringe factor of guys still dating women in their 20s but, at my age, a decade younger with children who have left home just seems perfect. The women my age or even within 5 years of my age that I see on dating sites, or who pursue me just haven't held up very well at all, with some rare exceptions.

Guess what, you aren’t holding up well either.

I really am although I know you wish that truth on me. Hence why I have no problem dating younger.

I wouldn't date a millionaire with a ten inch dick who writes "hence why".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just turned 62, widowed past 15 years. and still dating women in their 40s to early 50s. I get the cringe factor of guys still dating women in their 20s but, at my age, a decade younger with children who have left home just seems perfect. The women my age or even within 5 years of my age that I see on dating sites, or who pursue me just haven't held up very well at all, with some rare exceptions.

I’m in my early 40s and single and I would NEVER date anywhere close to 62.

I'm 47 and laughing at a 62 year old man saying that women his age haven't held up very well. I date men from 35 to 50. Occasionally younger than 35 if it's just a hookup.

And yet, that's my experience.

[Anonymous]

Ok. Another perspective. Feel free to hate.

I am in my early/mid 50s. Went to an Ivy. Very successful. Am in good shape and good looking for my age. I am dating a 30 year old who has two kids, and is beautiful and was a physics major in college.

She isn’t dating me for money per se - she is dating me because I am a member of the upper class of this country. I’m smarter and more worldly than the guys she could date her age. I ski instead of snowboard and I have an important job. Unlike the poster above who claimed that the older men she would date exaggerative their money, I am not exaggerating.

Why should I feel compelled to date a 50 year old? I wasn’t looking for a 30 year old, it just happened. She’s beautiful and into me and I like being around her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok. Another perspective. Feel free to hate.

I am in my early/mid 50s. Went to an Ivy. Very successful. Am in good shape and good looking for my age. I am dating a 30 year old who has two kids, and is beautiful and was a physics major in college.

She isn’t dating me for money per se - she is dating me because I am a member of the upper class of this country. I’m smarter and more worldly than the guys she could date her age. I ski instead of snowboard and I have an important job. Unlike the poster above who claimed that the older men she would date exaggerative their money, I am not exaggerating.

Why should I feel compelled to date a 50 year old? I wasn’t looking for a 30 year old, it just happened. She’s beautiful and into me and I like being around her.

Curious if you have kids, and what your stance is on bringing workers back into the office.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok. Another perspective. Feel free to hate.

I am in my early/mid 50s. Went to an Ivy. Very successful. Am in good shape and good looking for my age. I am dating a 30 year old who has two kids, and is beautiful and was a physics major in college.

She isn’t dating me for money per se - she is dating me because I am a member of the upper class of this country. I’m smarter and more worldly than the guys she could date her age. I ski instead of snowboard and I have an important job. Unlike the poster above who claimed that the older men she would date exaggerative their money, I am not exaggerating.

Why should I feel compelled to date a 50 year old? I wasn’t looking for a 30 year old, it just happened. She’s beautiful and into me and I like being around her.

Sounds like she is into your money. Or is it the pretentious attitude?