Depressed about my kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here again. I’d like to add that my kid is also depressed that he failed to secure an internship for the second summer in a row. When I told him he should switch to CS to make the search easier for next year, he refused and started pouting which was very immature of him. Super frustrating.

He or she?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I had a long, hard talk with DC yesterday. Part of the reason why they don’t want to do STEM is because of their lack of “math confidence.” While they have always worked hard at math in high school, their math and science grades have been variable (B minus to A minus) while their humanities grades in high school and college have always been much higher. When I told them this was because of grade inflation in the humanities (not as much in STEM) and not because they were bad at math and hard sciences, DC wouldn’t believe me. I told them that I think they’d be able to reasonably handle STEM at their school if they just worked really hard, but his math and science confidence is shot.

This makes me so sad. DH (an engineering PhD) tutored this kid nearly every day in math in high school, so all that work has gone to waste now that my kid is in a fluffy major. We also made my kid do Science Olympiad and Robotics Team in high school, and he said that turned him off from STEM in college. This is disappointing, to say the least. Does anyone know how we can rekindle his interest in STEM and boost his confidence? Thanks.

Post this again next year like you do every year and you’ll get a better response?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I had a long, hard talk with DC yesterday. Part of the reason why they don’t want to do STEM is because of their lack of “math confidence.” While they have always worked hard at math in high school, their math and science grades have been variable (B minus to A minus) while their humanities grades in high school and college have always been much higher. When I told them this was because of grade inflation in the humanities (not as much in STEM) and not because they were bad at math and hard sciences, DC wouldn’t believe me. I told them that I think they’d be able to reasonably handle STEM at their school if they just worked really hard, but his math and science confidence is shot.

This makes me so sad. DH (an engineering PhD) tutored this kid nearly every day in math in high school, so all that work has gone to waste now that my kid is in a fluffy major. We also made my kid do Science Olympiad and Robotics Team in high school, and he said that turned him off from STEM in college. This is disappointing, to say the least. Does anyone know how we can rekindle his interest in STEM and boost his confidence? Thanks.

Post this again next year like you do every year and you’ll get a better response?

The OP has to be a troll. OP keeps stirring the pot repeating the same controversial bs to continue to get a rise but never resolving. Good job OP for keeping these threads going as long as they have.

As to a DC in this situation, this fiction does have the benefit of being a reminder that encouraging kids is okay, but pushing could backfire and cause them to peak too early. It’s a marathon not a sprint and all that.

[Anonymous]

1. therapy for everyone is practical advice. DC will not do well if depressed. Get a separate therapist for him.

2. Retake ONE low grade per summer at a community college. This will help the GPA.

3. Look into professions where grad school is covered/forgiven.

4. Encourage DC to network.

5. Widen the professions that you would consider a success. A barista is not a success, but maybe a nurse or a PA is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. therapy for everyone is practical advice. DC will not do well if depressed. Get a separate therapist for him.

2. [/b]Retake ONE low grade per summer at a community college. This will help the GPA.[b]

3. Look into professions where grad school is covered/forgiven.

4. Encourage DC to network.

5. Widen the professions that you would consider a success. A barista is not a success, but maybe a nurse or a PA is.

I agree with the rest of what you said. OP’s son/daughter/child goes to an elite school where they probably can’t get community college classes to count and is a junior so only one summer left.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. therapy for everyone is practical advice. DC will not do well if depressed. Get a separate therapist for him.

2. Retake ONE low grade per summer at a community college. This will help the GPA.

3. Look into professions where grad school is covered/forgiven.

4. Encourage DC to network.

5. Widen the professions that you would consider a success. A barista is not a success, but maybe a nurse or a PA is.

Thank you for the tips. But we don’t have the money for nursing or PA school or grad school at all. I wish my kid could retake classes, but that’s not allowed at his school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here again. I’d like to add that my kid is also depressed that he failed to secure an internship for the second summer in a row. When I told him he should switch to CS to make the search easier for next year, he refused and started pouting which was very immature of him. Super frustrating.

He or she?

Obviously a he; if the kid was a girl she could just marry rich

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here again. I’d like to add that my kid is also depressed that he failed to secure an internship for the second summer in a row. When I told him he should switch to CS to make the search easier for next year, he refused and started pouting which was very immature of him. Super frustrating.

He or she?

Obviously a he; if the kid was a girl she could just marry rich

OP is a troll and keeps changing the gender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. therapy for everyone is practical advice. DC will not do well if depressed. Get a separate therapist for him.

2. Retake ONE low grade per summer at a community college. This will help the GPA.

3. Look into professions where grad school is covered/forgiven.

4. Encourage DC to network.

5. Widen the professions that you would consider a success. A barista is not a success, but maybe a nurse or a PA is.

Thank you for the tips. But we don’t have the money for nursing or PA school or grad school at all. I wish my kid could retake classes, but that’s not allowed at his school.

Almost nobody does. Up the GPA kill the LSAT and get a full ride to law school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. therapy for everyone is practical advice. DC will not do well if depressed. Get a separate therapist for him.

2. Retake ONE low grade per summer at a community college. This will help the GPA.

3. Look into professions where grad school is covered/forgiven.

4. Encourage DC to network.

5. Widen the professions that you would consider a success. A barista is not a success, but maybe a nurse or a PA is.

Thank you for the tips. But we don’t have the money for nursing or PA school or grad school at all. I wish my kid could retake classes, but that’s not allowed at his school.

Almost nobody does. Up the GPA kill the LSAT and get a full ride to law school.

No one gets a full ride to a T14 law school these days

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. therapy for everyone is practical advice. DC will not do well if depressed. Get a separate therapist for him.

2. Retake ONE low grade per summer at a community college. This will help the GPA.

3. Look into professions where grad school is covered/forgiven.

4. Encourage DC to network.

5. Widen the professions that you would consider a success. A barista is not a success, but maybe a nurse or a PA is.

Thank you for the tips. But we don’t have the money for nursing or PA school or grad school at all. I wish my kid could retake classes, but that’s not allowed at his school.

Almost nobody does. Up the GPA kill the LSAT and get a full ride to law school.

No one gets a full ride to a T14 law school these days

Not true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. therapy for everyone is practical advice. DC will not do well if depressed. Get a separate therapist for him.

2. Retake ONE low grade per summer at a community college. This will help the GPA.

3. Look into professions where grad school is covered/forgiven.

4. Encourage DC to network.

5. Widen the professions that you would consider a success. A barista is not a success, but maybe a nurse or a PA is.

Thank you for the tips. But we don’t have the money for nursing or PA school or grad school at all. I wish my kid could retake classes, but that’s not allowed at his school.

Almost nobody does. Up the GPA kill the LSAT and get a full ride to law school.

No one gets a full ride to a T14 law school these days

Not true.

Well OP’s kid certainly won’t get there with an A minus average

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. therapy for everyone is practical advice. DC will not do well if depressed. Get a separate therapist for him.

2. Retake ONE low grade per summer at a community college. This will help the GPA.

3. Look into professions where grad school is covered/forgiven.

4. Encourage DC to network.

5. Widen the professions that you would consider a success. A barista is not a success, but maybe a nurse or a PA is.

Thank you for the tips. But we don’t have the money for nursing or PA school or grad school at all. I wish my kid could retake classes, but that’s not allowed at his school.

Almost nobody does. Up the GPA kill the LSAT and get a full ride to law school.

No one gets a full ride to a T14 law school these days

Not true.

Well OP’s kid certainly won’t get there with an A minus average

Why would anyone go to law school these days? Have you seen the job market for JDs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here again. I’d like to add that my kid is also depressed that he failed to secure an internship for the second summer in a row. When I told him he should switch to CS to make the search easier for next year, he refused and started pouting which was very immature of him. Super frustrating.

He or she?

Obviously a he; if the kid was a girl she could just marry rich

OP is a troll and keeps changing the gender.

Yep, and this troll can’t even come up with fresh material. Kept up the genderless pronouns for most of this thread, then suddenly male. Previously posted about DD who had been done robotics club and made it through linear algebra in HS thanks to PhD DH, but now won’t study STEM at Columbia. Blah, blah, blah. There is no DC. There’s probably no spouse. This all some morality play exhibiting proper parent behavior when confronted with a humanities major.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I had a long, hard talk with DC yesterday. Part of the reason why they don’t want to do STEM is because of their lack of “math confidence.” While they have always worked hard at math in high school, their math and science grades have been variable (B minus to A minus) while their humanities grades in high school and college have always been much higher. When I told them this was because of grade inflation in the humanities (not as much in STEM) and not because they were bad at math and hard sciences, DC wouldn’t believe me. I told them that I think they’d be able to reasonably handle STEM at their school if they just worked really hard, but his math and science confidence is shot.

This makes me so sad. DH (an engineering PhD) tutored this kid nearly every day in math in high school, so all that work has gone to waste now that my kid is in a fluffy major. We also made my kid do Science Olympiad and Robotics Team in high school, and he said that turned him off from STEM in college. This is disappointing, to say the least. Does anyone know how we can rekindle his interest in STEM and boost his confidence? Thanks.

Post this again next year like you do every year and you’ll get a better response?

“Re-kindle”? Nothing you’ve said suggests your kid ever had any interest in STEM.