I can't be friends with people who.....

[Anonymous]

Who transgender their children

[Anonymous]

Op, you sound fun. I like you. My list:

-lack a healthy sense of the ridiculous.
-take themselves seriously all of the time and expect everyone else to go ahead and do that too.
-have rigid beliefs about anything, from toilet paper to religion and politics. I'm talking a complete unwillingness to acknowledge that others do not see the world in exactly the same way you do. which brings me to:
-lack empathy.

[Anonymous]

Oh, and who are my mil.

[Anonymous]

OP - I'm with you. Anything I say about anyone would be something I say to their face (including DH - which is part of why he married me!). Just because I'm willing to speak up does't make me a backstabber like the pp accusers are.

Also, I agree with the babysitter idea. There are too many Mommy Martyrs (LOVE THIS TERM!) and I don't have time for their drivel. I have yet to meet mommy of the year, we are all (presumably) putting in some effort and doing the best we can without using others. I don't have time for users.

PPs also have to agree about readers - or whatever passion you might have outside work and kids. Once in a while we veg out in front of (only certain, usually recorded) television. I'm not going to try to slam someone who watches t.v. once in a while, as long as they are not locked in their rooms avoiding their kids on a regular basis, who cares? Preferably, it is nice to be able to say let's go do this or that activity without the person being downright lazy or unwilling to do much of anything.

As with everything, in moderation, people!

[Anonymous]

Agree with nannies, OP. If you think I'm your personal sitter and don't reciprocate on the "playdates", guess what?

[Anonymous]

OP

(though I'm willing to try)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread contains some of the most random and irrational restrictions on friendship that I could have ever imagined. I thought living here most of my life that folks were difficult to get to know--DC has always been a very hard place to make friends. If this thread is any indication, then it is no wonder. Many of you have never left HS. The mere idea that you could never be friends with such broadly defined parameters is just ridiculous. That goes for EVERYONE on this thread.

I'm the OP and I have given my parameters some thought in response to your comment. I really CANNOT be friends with people who don't hire babysitters. I simply cannot. I have tried. Not only do I need some adult time every so often, I can't stand the Mommy Martyrdom of these people who have never had a freakin babysitter. Geesh. I have a close friend (from college) who has never hired a babysitter, and I tell her all the time that I want to punch her in the face when she talks about it.

The drinking....I do have friends that don't drink. I was over-generalizing on that one. I make exceptions. But mostly, I like drinking buddies.

And, I responded to this one up a few pages but, I think people who don't complain about their husbands are either 1) not the sharing type, which is totally fine for them, but I am the sharing type, so we are not a good match; or (2) liars - and no one wants to be friends with liars.

So, I will take the back the drinking one. But not the others.

But you still come off as really smug and self-important, so yeah I think I would have to be drunk to be around you.

"And hey, look at the time, we told the babysitter we'd be back by 8:30!"

[Anonymous]

... people who genuinely admire/like Sarah Palin.