I can't be friends with people who.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Use the term "STFU." It sounds like something only someone uneducated, low class and rude would say (or write).

I like it--makes me laugh. And I'm none of the above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not want to define/categorize people I can't be friends with. At least I'd give it a try, even if I sense this may not work out. It takes time, but sometimes you find an amazing quality hidden underneath the surface.

The voice of reason speaks on DCUM. I find this thread otherwise very disturbing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People who ask me if my DD can speak English. Umm, we adopted her from China nearly 2 years ago. I don't think we've been speaking sign language all this time.

Really? What kind of people would ask such a ridiculous question?

You have no idea. Lots of people in DC metropolitan area and beyond. People at my office, acquaintances we know from college or our single years, relatives we haven't seen in a while, you name it. . . people.are.CLUELESS.

[Anonymous]

This thread contains some of the most random and irrational restrictions on friendship that I could have ever imagined. I thought living here most of my life that folks were difficult to get to know--DC has always been a very hard place to make friends. If this thread is any indication, then it is no wonder. Many of you have never left HS. The mere idea that you could never be friends with such broadly defined parameters is just ridiculous. That goes for EVERYONE on this thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People who ask me if my DD can speak English. Umm, we adopted her from China nearly 2 years ago. I don't think we've been speaking sign language all this time.

Really? What kind of people would ask such a ridiculous question?

You have no idea. Lots of people in DC metropolitan area and beyond. People at my office, acquaintances we know from college or our single years, relatives we haven't seen in a while, you name it. . . people.are.CLUELESS.

So. You would NEVER be friends with someone because of they don't know the chronology of when you adopted your chinese baby? Well this confirms my perception of white women that adopt chinese babies. They have some persecution complex and need a living and breathing banner of the huge chip that they carry around on their shoulder every day. Adopting a regular old white baby wouldn't give them that instant tiger mom status they covet, either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People who ask me if my DD can speak English. Umm, we adopted her from China nearly 2 years ago. I don't think we've been speaking sign language all this time.

Really? What kind of people would ask such a ridiculous question?

You have no idea. Lots of people in DC metropolitan area and beyond. People at my office, acquaintances we know from college or our single years, relatives we haven't seen in a while, you name it. . . people.are.CLUELESS.

So. You would NEVER be friends with someone because of they don't know the chronology of when you adopted your chinese baby? Well this confirms my perception of white women that adopt chinese babies. They have some persecution complex and need a living and breathing banner of the huge chip that they carry around on their shoulder every day. Adopting a regular old white baby wouldn't give them that instant tiger mom status they covet, either.

Perfect. So it's mutual. I won't be friends with you, and you won't be friends with me, and we'll just agree to leave each other alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread contains some of the most random and irrational restrictions on friendship that I could have ever imagined. I thought living here most of my life that folks were difficult to get to know--DC has always been a very hard place to make friends. If this thread is any indication, then it is no wonder. Many of you have never left HS. The mere idea that you could never be friends with such broadly defined parameters is just ridiculous. That goes for EVERYONE on this thread.

I'm the OP and I have given my parameters some thought in response to your comment. I really CANNOT be friends with people who don't hire babysitters. I simply cannot. I have tried. Not only do I need some adult time every so often, I can't stand the Mommy Martyrdom of these people who have never had a freakin babysitter. Geesh. I have a close friend (from college) who has never hired a babysitter, and I tell her all the time that I want to punch her in the face when she talks about it.

The drinking....I do have friends that don't drink. I was over-generalizing on that one. I make exceptions. But mostly, I like drinking buddies.

And, I responded to this one up a few pages but, I think people who don't complain about their husbands are either 1) not the sharing type, which is totally fine for them, but I am the sharing type, so we are not a good match; or (2) liars - and no one wants to be friends with liars.

So, I will take the back the drinking one. But not the others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People who ask me if my DD can speak English. Umm, we adopted her from China nearly 2 years ago. I don't think we've been speaking sign language all this time.

Really? What kind of people would ask such a ridiculous question?

You have no idea. Lots of people in DC metropolitan area and beyond. People at my office, acquaintances we know from college or our single years, relatives we haven't seen in a while, you name it. . . people.are.CLUELESS.

So. You would NEVER be friends with someone because of they don't know the chronology of when you adopted your chinese baby? Well this confirms my perception of white women that adopt chinese babies. They have some persecution complex and need a living and breathing banner of the huge chip that they carry around on their shoulder every day. Adopting a regular old white baby wouldn't give them that instant tiger mom status they covet, either.

I assume the poster meant people who know when the child was adopted and still ask the question. I mean, if the child was adopted yesterday, then it's not an annoying question, right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People who ask me if my DD can speak English. Umm, we adopted her from China nearly 2 years ago. I don't think we've been speaking sign language all this time.

Really? What kind of people would ask such a ridiculous question?

You have no idea. Lots of people in DC metropolitan area and beyond. People at my office, acquaintances we know from college or our single years, relatives we haven't seen in a while, you name it. . . people.are.CLUELESS.

So. You would NEVER be friends with someone because of they don't know the chronology of when you adopted your chinese baby? Well this confirms my perception of white women that adopt chinese babies. They have some persecution complex and need a living and breathing banner of the huge chip that they carry around on their shoulder every day. Adopting a regular old white baby wouldn't give them that instant tiger mom status they covet, either.

I assume the poster meant people who know when the child was adopted and still ask the question. I mean, if the child was adopted yesterday, then it's not an annoying question, right?

17:24, yes, that is absolutely correct. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:who won't jsut split the check down the middle at dinner. They have to itemize what they had.

Why should we split the check down the middle?

You pay for your order and I pay for mine. It's really not that hard. You don't know...maybe I am not on a diet and I am actually broke so that is why I ordered a water and a side salad. I don't need to discuss that with you. Or maybe I am hungry as hell, and I want the whole menu. Why do I have the feel guilty if that is what I want to pay for? I don't know your budget and you don't know mine.

[Anonymous]

I can't be friends with anyone who wears white pants/shoes before Memorial Day-- and that's how ridiculous I find this post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. don't drink
2. don't complain about their husbands
3. don't hire babysitters

Luckily, these three things often go hand-in-hand so it doesn't elimitate too many people.
What are yours?

You seem like an idiot. This whole thread is idiotic--you can't be friends with people who don't feel/do exactly the same as you do, in other words. How narrow and limiting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread contains some of the most random and irrational restrictions on friendship that I could have ever imagined. I thought living here most of my life that folks were difficult to get to know--DC has always been a very hard place to make friends. If this thread is any indication, then it is no wonder. Many of you have never left HS. The mere idea that you could never be friends with such broadly defined parameters is just ridiculous. That goes for EVERYONE on this thread.

I'm the OP and I have given my parameters some thought in response to your comment. I really CANNOT be friends with people who don't hire babysitters. I simply cannot. I have tried. Not only do I need some adult time every so often, I can't stand the Mommy Martyrdom of these people who have never had a freakin babysitter. Geesh. I have a close friend (from college) who has never hired a babysitter, and I tell her all the time that I want to punch her in the face when she talks about it.

The drinking....I do have friends that don't drink. I was over-generalizing on that one. I make exceptions. But mostly, I like drinking buddies.

And, I responded to this one up a few pages but, I think people who don't complain about their husbands are either 1) not the sharing type, which is totally fine for them, but I am the sharing type, so we are not a good match; or (2) liars - and no one wants to be friends with liars.

So, I will take the back the drinking one. But not the others.

You're a real prize, aren't you?
Shudder.

[Anonymous]

...post cheesy Facebook messages to their wives for Mother's Day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:... who have lived in the DC area for a while yet disdain the city and refuse to learn about it or enjoy anything about it.

... are close minded and judgmental.


... are willfully ignorant and think it's an admirable quality (i.e. Sara Palin and her ilk).

... who have a small sphere of knowledge and if they haven't heard of ______________ (fill in the blank with whatever) it's automatically considered not valid or useful.

As far as teetotalers go, yes, they bug me, but it wouldn't preclude me from being friends with them.

YOU are judgmental and close-minded.

And I hate to burst your bubble, but SaraH (not Sara) Palin is smarter than you.

Her accomplishments speak for themselves. Have you ever been governor of the largest state in America? Ran for president? Written a best-seller? And all the while, she doesn't exactly have it easy street with a special needs child and having a teenage daughter have a baby. She is amazing - even if you do not agree with her views, you should at least acknowledge that she is quite accomplished. AND beautiful.

She was basically a mayor of a small city. Sure, Alaska is large geographically, but it not large in terms of population. Like DC and Montana it has one member in the U.S House, which is done proportionally by population.. It's really not impressive. And she ran for vice president. Wasn't her name at the top of the ticket.