Female sexual desire

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

As if a man would willingly have sex with an overweight woman with a large stomach.

Oh dude, you don't get it AT. ALL. do you... You sad little bird...

Squishy women are the BEST pillows!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a husband, if you do these things, your wife will remain interested:

1. Do at least half of all child-related driving and watching, leaving your wife time for herself.
2. Do the dishes.
3. Make the beds.
4. Hire a cleaner.
5. Make plenty of money.
6. Help with meals.
7. Foreplay.

It's that easy.

I’m a woman, and I think it’s actually even easier than this. You don’t even have to do the dishes, meals, and childcare if you acknowledge that she’s doing it, and you think she’s amazing for it. And you don’t have to make a lot of money either.
Think about it, women go to visit men on conjugal visits in prison. Those guys aren’t doing anything on this list.

Here is the real list:

1). Tell her how great she is, with specifics. If she’s a kick-ass lawyer, say that. If she’s an amazing mother, say that. If she keeps your ADHD self organized and you would be lost without her, say that. If she’s fat, but you love her giant G-cups, say that.

2). Initiate sex a lot.

3). Don’t get upset or hurt when she turns you down. Accept it and move on with your day. Initiate again the next day.

4). Don’t get hurt if she asks you to do something different in bed. It’s not meant as a blow to your ego. Just do it.

This is very rapey and at what point does the woman actually initiate? It would suck to have to initiate all the time. It just shows the other party has no desire for you.

If you don’t get upset or manipulative when she turns you down, then you can assume that every time she has sex with you, she has desire for you.
Why else would she?

And if you are getting upset and pouty if she turns you down or doesn’t initiate, then you can assume that a good part of the reason she is initiating is because she wants a pleasant life, not because of any desire for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a husband, if you do these things, your wife will remain interested:

1. Do at least half of all child-related driving and watching, leaving your wife time for herself.
2. Do the dishes.
3. Make the beds.
4. Hire a cleaner.
5. Make plenty of money.
6. Help with meals.
7. Foreplay.

It's that easy.

I’m a woman, and I think it’s actually even easier than this. You don’t even have to do the dishes, meals, and childcare if you acknowledge that she’s doing it, and you think she’s amazing for it. And you don’t have to make a lot of money either.
Think about it, women go to visit men on conjugal visits in prison. Those guys aren’t doing anything on this list.

Here is the real list:

1). Tell her how great she is, with specifics. If she’s a kick-ass lawyer, say that. If she’s an amazing mother, say that. If she keeps your ADHD self organized and you would be lost without her, say that. If she’s fat, but you love her giant G-cups, say that.

2). Initiate sex a lot.

3). Don’t get upset or hurt when she turns you down. Accept it and move on with your day. Initiate again the next day.

4). Don’t get hurt if she asks you to do something different in bed. It’s not meant as a blow to your ego. Just do it.

This is very rapey and at what point does the woman actually initiate? It would suck to have to initiate all the time. It just shows the other party has no desire for you.

If you don’t get upset or manipulative when she turns you down, then you can assume that every time she has sex with you, she has desire for you.
Why else would she?

And if you are getting upset and pouty if she turns you down or doesn’t initiate, then you can assume that a good part of the reason she is initiating is because she wants a pleasant life, not because of any desire for you.

lol no. It is just “duty sex”. If she does not initiate she has no desire for you. Could you imagine being in a relationship like that for 5, 10 or 20 years. Yipes!
.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a husband, if you do these things, your wife will remain interested:

1. Do at least half of all child-related driving and watching, leaving your wife time for herself.
2. Do the dishes.
3. Make the beds.
4. Hire a cleaner.
5. Make plenty of money.
6. Help with meals.
7. Foreplay.

It's that easy.

I’m a woman, and I think it’s actually even easier than this. You don’t even have to do the dishes, meals, and childcare if you acknowledge that she’s doing it, and you think she’s amazing for it. And you don’t have to make a lot of money either.
Think about it, women go to visit men on conjugal visits in prison. Those guys aren’t doing anything on this list.

Here is the real list:

1). Tell her how great she is, with specifics. If she’s a kick-ass lawyer, say that. If she’s an amazing mother, say that. If she keeps your ADHD self organized and you would be lost without her, say that. If she’s fat, but you love her giant G-cups, say that.

2). Initiate sex a lot.

3). Don’t get upset or hurt when she turns you down. Accept it and move on with your day. Initiate again the next day.

4). Don’t get hurt if she asks you to do something different in bed. It’s not meant as a blow to your ego. Just do it.

This is very rapey and at what point does the woman actually initiate? It would suck to have to initiate all the time. It just shows the other party has no desire for you.

If you don’t get upset or manipulative when she turns you down, then you can assume that every time she has sex with you, she has desire for you.
Why else would she?

And if you are getting upset and pouty if she turns you down or doesn’t initiate, then you can assume that a good part of the reason she is initiating is because she wants a pleasant life, not because of any desire for you.

lol no. It is just “duty sex”. If she does not initiate she has no desire for you. Could you imagine being in a relationship like that for 5, 10 or 20 years. Yipes!
.

I guess I’m the opposite of your wife. It turns me on when my husband assertively initiates and tells me what to do.
If I’m initiating, it’s usually out of a sense that it’s been too long since we have had sex, and that it isn’t good for our marriage or our family as a whole, so I initiate.

For me, it’s much closer to “duty sex” when I initiate than when DH initiates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if the same incel started all these threads.

Sir… the men that are partnered up with attractive women aren’t sitting on social media all day bashing women. They are at the gym, socializing with friends, or hanging out with women. Not sitting in a basement stewing about their sexless existence.

NP:

I think you let this imaginary incel-bogeyman live rent free in your head, PP. you seem a little OCD about incels hiding inside every person with a penis in this country.

Maybe you’re the problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if the same incel started all these threads.

Sir… the men that are partnered up with attractive women aren’t sitting on social media all day bashing women. They are at the gym, socializing with friends, or hanging out with women. Not sitting in a basement stewing about their sexless existence.

NP:

I think you let this imaginary incel-bogeyman live rent free in your head, PP. you seem a little OCD about incels hiding inside every person with a penis in this country.

Maybe you’re the problem?

Wow. Way to mansplain away the legitimate realization that a culture of bro-entitlement is very real and very active in this country and the world at large.

PP is definitely part of the problem

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a husband, if you do these things, your wife will remain interested:

1. Do at least half of all child-related driving and watching, leaving your wife time for herself.
2. Do the dishes.
3. Make the beds.
4. Hire a cleaner.
5. Make plenty of money.
6. Help with meals.
7. Foreplay.

It's that easy.

I’m a woman, and I think it’s actually even easier than this. You don’t even have to do the dishes, meals, and childcare if you acknowledge that she’s doing it, and you think she’s amazing for it. And you don’t have to make a lot of money either.
Think about it, women go to visit men on conjugal visits in prison. Those guys aren’t doing anything on this list.

Here is the real list:

1). Tell her how great she is, with specifics. If she’s a kick-ass lawyer, say that. If she’s an amazing mother, say that. If she keeps your ADHD self organized and you would be lost without her, say that. If she’s fat, but you love her giant G-cups, say that.

2). Initiate sex a lot.

3). Don’t get upset or hurt when she turns you down. Accept it and move on with your day. Initiate again the next day.

4). Don’t get hurt if she asks you to do something different in bed. It’s not meant as a blow to your ego. Just do it.

This is very rapey and at what point does the woman actually initiate? It would suck to have to initiate all the time. It just shows the other party has no desire for you.

If you don’t get upset or manipulative when she turns you down, then you can assume that every time she has sex with you, she has desire for you.
Why else would she?

And if you are getting upset and pouty if she turns you down or doesn’t initiate, then you can assume that a good part of the reason she is initiating is because she wants a pleasant life, not because of any desire for you.

lol no. It is just “duty sex”. If she does not initiate she has no desire for you. Could you imagine being in a relationship like that for 5, 10 or 20 years. Yipes!
.

I guess I’m the opposite of your wife. It turns me on when my husband assertively initiates and tells me what to do.
If I’m initiating, it’s usually out of a sense that it’s been too long since we have had sex, and that it isn’t good for our marriage or our family as a whole, so I initiate.

For me, it’s much closer to “duty sex” when I initiate than when DH initiates.

Couldn’t agree more

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

This is the dumbest most insane thing on this thread. No way can I close my eyes and think of England. I’m not Melanie. I’ll literally vomit.
-a woman

Squeamish people are bad in bed.

I’m not squeamish if you’re hot. But I’m not effing you if you’re fat. Sorry not sorry.

Many husbands are forced to say this to their middle aged wives, and it always works out well. Wives resolve to shape up and lose weight.

Nobody says this to their actual spouse. And reasonable people don't expect their spouses to continue to desire them if they've become obese.

Every single wife ever expects you to desire her when she’s obese and will revile him as shallow and evil if he doesn’t.

Nope. My wife hates her body even when she's not obese and hates that I desire the body that she hates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

This is the dumbest most insane thing on this thread. No way can I close my eyes and think of England. I’m not Melanie. I’ll literally vomit.
-a woman

Squeamish people are bad in bed.

I’m not squeamish if you’re hot. But I’m not effing you if you’re fat. Sorry not sorry.

"My orgasm depends on your body" is a low-skill, sexually-immature mentality, for all parties

Get real.

Sorry you’re unattractive.

Sorry you're small-minded and a terrible lay!

Dude, it's basic biology to want to mate with someone who is healthy. It goes against nature to want to procreate with someone who is obviously ill. That's like someone saying to you that you are bad at sex because you don't want it with your partner who currently has a chicken pox infection. It's normal (and healthy) to be turned off by an unhealthy body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

This is the dumbest most insane thing on this thread. No way can I close my eyes and think of England. I’m not Melanie. I’ll literally vomit.
-a woman

Squeamish people are bad in bed.

I’m not squeamish if you’re hot. But I’m not effing you if you’re fat. Sorry not sorry.

"My orgasm depends on your body" is a low-skill, sexually-immature mentality, for all parties

Get real.

Sorry you’re unattractive.

Sorry you're small-minded and a terrible lay!

Dude, it's basic biology to want to mate with someone who is healthy. It goes against nature to want to procreate with someone who is obviously ill. That's like someone saying to you that you are bad at sex because you don't want it with your partner who currently has a chicken pox infection. It's normal (and healthy) to be turned off by an unhealthy body.

compares "obesity" (which, to someone like you, is probably a size 12) to an infectious disease...

Yup. fatphobic incel troll is back!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

This is the dumbest most insane thing on this thread. No way can I close my eyes and think of England. I’m not Melanie. I’ll literally vomit.
-a woman

Squeamish people are bad in bed.

I’m not squeamish if you’re hot. But I’m not effing you if you’re fat. Sorry not sorry.

"My orgasm depends on your body" is a low-skill, sexually-immature mentality, for all parties

Get real.

Sorry you’re unattractive.

Sorry you're small-minded and a terrible lay!

Dude, it's basic biology to want to mate with someone who is healthy. It goes against nature to want to procreate with someone who is obviously ill. That's like someone saying to you that you are bad at sex because you don't want it with your partner who currently has a chicken pox infection. It's normal (and healthy) to be turned off by an unhealthy body.

compares "obesity" (which, to someone like you, is probably a size 12) to an infectious disease...

Yup. fatphobic incel troll is back!

When women don't want to have sex with a fat guy - "well of course, no duh, what do you expect?"

When men don't want to have sex with a fat woman - "EW HOW DARE YOU, YOU DISGUSTING FATPHOBIC INCEL TROLL!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a husband, if you do these things, your wife will remain interested:

1. Do at least half of all child-related driving and watching, leaving your wife time for herself.
2. Do the dishes.
3. Make the beds.
4. Hire a cleaner.
5. Make plenty of money.
6. Help with meals.
7. Foreplay.

It's that easy.

I’m a woman, and I think it’s actually even easier than this. You don’t even have to do the dishes, meals, and childcare if you acknowledge that she’s doing it, and you think she’s amazing for it. And you don’t have to make a lot of money either.
Think about it, women go to visit men on conjugal visits in prison. Those guys aren’t doing anything on this list.

Here is the real list:

1). Tell her how great she is, with specifics. If she’s a kick-ass lawyer, say that. If she’s an amazing mother, say that. If she keeps your ADHD self organized and you would be lost without her, say that. If she’s fat, but you love her giant G-cups, say that.

2). Initiate sex a lot.

3). Don’t get upset or hurt when she turns you down. Accept it and move on with your day. Initiate again the next day.

4). Don’t get hurt if she asks you to do something different in bed. It’s not meant as a blow to your ego. Just do it.

This is very rapey and at what point does the woman actually initiate? It would suck to have to initiate all the time. It just shows the other party has no desire for you.

If you don’t get upset or manipulative when she turns you down, then you can assume that every time she has sex with you, she has desire for you.
Why else would she?

And if you are getting upset and pouty if she turns you down or doesn’t initiate, then you can assume that a good part of the reason she is initiating is because she wants a pleasant life, not because of any desire for you.

lol no. It is just “duty sex”. If she does not initiate she has no desire for you. Could you imagine being in a relationship like that for 5, 10 or 20 years. Yipes!
.

I guess I’m the opposite of your wife. It turns me on when my husband assertively initiates and tells me what to do.
If I’m initiating, it’s usually out of a sense that it’s been too long since we have had sex, and that it isn’t good for our marriage or our family as a whole, so I initiate.

For me, it’s much closer to “duty sex” when I initiate than when DH initiates.

Why would you ever initiate sex? How would you feel if your DH said the same thing to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

This is the dumbest most insane thing on this thread. No way can I close my eyes and think of England. I’m not Melanie. I’ll literally vomit.
-a woman

Squeamish people are bad in bed.

I’m not squeamish if you’re hot. But I’m not effing you if you’re fat. Sorry not sorry.

"My orgasm depends on your body" is a low-skill, sexually-immature mentality, for all parties

Get real.

Sorry you’re unattractive.

Sorry you're small-minded and a terrible lay!

Dude, it's basic biology to want to mate with someone who is healthy. It goes against nature to want to procreate with someone who is obviously ill. That's like someone saying to you that you are bad at sex because you don't want it with your partner who currently has a chicken pox infection. It's normal (and healthy) to be turned off by an unhealthy body.

compares "obesity" (which, to someone like you, is probably a size 12) to an infectious disease...

Yup. fatphobic incel troll is back!

When women don't want to have sex with a fat guy - "well of course, no duh, what do you expect?"

When men don't want to have sex with a fat woman - "EW HOW DARE YOU, YOU DISGUSTING FATPHOBIC INCEL TROLL!"

Aww, his widdle feefees got hurted!

No, when "men" compare body types they don't like to diseases, smart people call that nonsense out. Sorry not sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

This is the dumbest most insane thing on this thread. No way can I close my eyes and think of England. I’m not Melanie. I’ll literally vomit.
-a woman

Squeamish people are bad in bed.

I’m not squeamish if you’re hot. But I’m not effing you if you’re fat. Sorry not sorry.

"My orgasm depends on your body" is a low-skill, sexually-immature mentality, for all parties

Get real.

Sorry you’re unattractive.

Sorry you're small-minded and a terrible lay!

Dude, it's basic biology to want to mate with someone who is healthy. It goes against nature to want to procreate with someone who is obviously ill. That's like someone saying to you that you are bad at sex because you don't want it with your partner who currently has a chicken pox infection. It's normal (and healthy) to be turned off by an unhealthy body.

compares "obesity" (which, to someone like you, is probably a size 12) to an infectious disease...

Yup. fatphobic incel troll is back!

When women don't want to have sex with a fat guy - "well of course, no duh, what do you expect?"

When men don't want to have sex with a fat woman - "EW HOW DARE YOU, YOU DISGUSTING FATPHOBIC INCEL TROLL!"

women have sex with unattractive men and unconventionally attractive men all. the. time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a husband, if you do these things, your wife will remain interested:

1. Do at least half of all child-related driving and watching, leaving your wife time for herself.
2. Do the dishes.
3. Make the beds.
4. Hire a cleaner.
5. Make plenty of money.
6. Help with meals.
7. Foreplay.

It's that easy.

I’m a woman, and I think it’s actually even easier than this. You don’t even have to do the dishes, meals, and childcare if you acknowledge that she’s doing it, and you think she’s amazing for it. And you don’t have to make a lot of money either.
Think about it, women go to visit men on conjugal visits in prison. Those guys aren’t doing anything on this list.

Here is the real list:

1). Tell her how great she is, with specifics. If she’s a kick-ass lawyer, say that. If she’s an amazing mother, say that. If she keeps your ADHD self organized and you would be lost without her, say that. If she’s fat, but you love her giant G-cups, say that.

2). Initiate sex a lot.

3). Don’t get upset or hurt when she turns you down. Accept it and move on with your day. Initiate again the next day.

4). Don’t get hurt if she asks you to do something different in bed. It’s not meant as a blow to your ego. Just do it.

This is very rapey and at what point does the woman actually initiate? It would suck to have to initiate all the time. It just shows the other party has no desire for you.

If you don’t get upset or manipulative when she turns you down, then you can assume that every time she has sex with you, she has desire for you.
Why else would she?

And if you are getting upset and pouty if she turns you down or doesn’t initiate, then you can assume that a good part of the reason she is initiating is because she wants a pleasant life, not because of any desire for you.

lol no. It is just “duty sex”. If she does not initiate she has no desire for you. Could you imagine being in a relationship like that for 5, 10 or 20 years. Yipes!
.

I guess I’m the opposite of your wife. It turns me on when my husband assertively initiates and tells me what to do.
If I’m initiating, it’s usually out of a sense that it’s been too long since we have had sex, and that it isn’t good for our marriage or our family as a whole, so I initiate.

For me, it’s much closer to “duty sex” when I initiate than when DH initiates.

Why would you ever initiate sex? How would you feel if your DH said the same thing to you?

I initiate sex because it’s been too long, and I feel like our relationship is better, our household is happier, and it’s ultimately better for our children to be raised in a household where their parents are happy and sexually active with each other.
I want them to think that it’s normal for married people to have sex and to pursue relationships where that happens.

If my husband told me that he sometimes initiates for that reason, that would be okay with me. Why wouldn’t it be?