Female sexual desire

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Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

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Anonymous wrote:I think my husband has a lot of responsibility for how I feel about my body. He is literally the only person who sees me naked and the only person who can make explicit sexual comments about my body.
If DH wasn’t constantly telling me that he likes my body, that he wants to see me wearing xyz, and that he likes one body part or another, then all of my thoughts about my body would be from inside my own head or from my mom. And those are both terrible.

You really need to work on that voice in your head.

I’m okay, really. Terrible was probably a strong word to use. But the reality is that I’m an overweight middle aged mom. I’m not winning any beauty pageants.

It’s just that DH tells me something that he finds attractive about me pretty much every time I see him, so multiple times a day. If I’m going to the gym, he will tell me that he likes my hair in a ponytail so my neck is exposed. If I’m getting home from the gym, he will say that I look good all flushed like that. If I’m in taking the kids to the pool in my middle aged mom tankini, he will say that my butt looks good. If I go in my high waisted bikini, he will wolf whistle and ask if I need help putting sunscreen on. Like touching the torso of his wife of twenty years is super hot and somewhat forbidden.

You might say that men can’t help their wives with body image issues, but they definitely can.

I think I will be single for the foreseeable future if that's the bare minimum we need to do as men. Seriously why do you need me to keep telling you you are still beautiful and multiple times a day. Hey good for you though. Are all married men like this? Wow

How hard is this? It’s a total of about 20 seconds a day.

I think a lot of immature men just resent having to do literally anything at all to get sex. For them, sex is an act of power... this is why so many high libido women report their DH losing interest in sex and now they have to beg for it. Because the appeal is the woman setting aside HER preferences and bodily autonomy and laying back and thinking of England. Because HE is the king, the master, the ruler of the household, and her sexual sublimation of her own desires for HIS desires is proof of that. It's the only way they can feel powerful. Very sad and dark...

I think women have higher libido than men and less restrictions when it comes to having sex. Most men can't cum more than 3 times in a single day
.a woman can have sex 10 times if your d**k is hard enough. She doesn't have to worry about keeping an erection. If she is dry, lube can instantly make her moist.

My wife is teaching me this lesson she did label me immature over my actions and behaviors.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a husband, if you do these things, your wife will remain interested:

1. Do at least half of all child-related driving and watching, leaving your wife time for herself.
2. Do the dishes.
3. Make the beds.
4. Hire a cleaner.
5. Make plenty of money.
6. Help with meals.
7. Foreplay.

It's that easy.

I’m a woman, and I think it’s actually even easier than this. You don’t even have to do the dishes, meals, and childcare if you acknowledge that she’s doing it, and you think she’s amazing for it. And you don’t have to make a lot of money either.
Think about it, women go to visit men on conjugal visits in prison. Those guys aren’t doing anything on this list.

Here is the real list:

1). Tell her how great she is, with specifics. If she’s a kick-ass lawyer, say that. If she’s an amazing mother, say that. If she keeps your ADHD self organized and you would be lost without her, say that. If she’s fat, but you love her giant G-cups, say that.

2). Initiate sex a lot.

3). Don’t get upset or hurt when she turns you down. Accept it and move on with your day. Initiate again the next day.

4). Don’t get hurt if she asks you to do something different in bed. It’s not meant as a blow to your ego. Just do it.

Honestly, this sounds like a good list.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

This is the dumbest most insane thing on this thread. No way can I close my eyes and think of England. I’m not Melanie. I’ll literally vomit.
-a woman

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

This is the dumbest most insane thing on this thread. No way can I close my eyes and think of England. I’m not Melanie. I’ll literally vomit.
-a woman

Squeamish people are bad in bed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

This is the dumbest most insane thing on this thread. No way can I close my eyes and think of England. I’m not Melanie. I’ll literally vomit.
-a woman

Squeamish people are bad in bed.

I’m not squeamish if you’re hot. But I’m not effing you if you’re fat. Sorry not sorry.

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Forgot to add that I agree with you that the men whining about this are losers. If your wife needs to be told she is beautiful and sexy everyday in order for you to get some, then that's what you do.

Dance, monkey, dance!

What's the alternative here? whine and pout until you get your wants and needs?

What a toddler.

The toddler is the one who needs constant praise and reassurance or she sulks and pouts.

Men get like one compliment a decade but women need them all day every day just to function normally. Who is the toddler again?

Maybe if you weren’t the kind of person who felt like complimenting others was a burden, people would want to compliment you more.

You're not getting it. Nobody compliments men, regardless of what those men think about complimenting others.

You cannot possibly be for real. Turn on the news or sports. You will see tons of people talking about how great this man or that man is.

You cannot possibly be for real. Do you think the average man is the guy they are talking about on TV? Not even the average DCUM guy (who is way better than the average guy) is being praised on TV.

You are very very dim.

Okay. Come to my workplace. Men are constantly being commended for this or that, getting awards, getting promoted, etc.
Are you seriously telling me that no one ever tells men that they are doing well?

If you think being rewarded at work for good performance is the same as being complimented then you are even more stupid than the other PP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

This is the dumbest most insane thing on this thread. No way can I close my eyes and think of England. I’m not Melanie. I’ll literally vomit.
-a woman

Squeamish people are bad in bed.

I’m not squeamish if you’re hot. But I’m not effing you if you’re fat. Sorry not sorry.

Many husbands are forced to say this to their middle aged wives, and it always works out well. Wives resolve to shape up and lose weight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

This is the dumbest most insane thing on this thread. No way can I close my eyes and think of England. I’m not Melanie. I’ll literally vomit.
-a woman

Squeamish people are bad in bed.

I’m not squeamish if you’re hot. But I’m not effing you if you’re fat. Sorry not sorry.

Many husbands are forced to say this to their middle aged wives, and it always works out well. Wives resolve to shape up and lose weight.

Nobody says this to their actual spouse. And reasonable people don't expect their spouses to continue to desire them if they've become obese.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

This is the dumbest most insane thing on this thread. No way can I close my eyes and think of England. I’m not Melanie. I’ll literally vomit.
-a woman

Squeamish people are bad in bed.

I’m not squeamish if you’re hot. But I’m not effing you if you’re fat. Sorry not sorry.

Many husbands are forced to say this to their middle aged wives, and it always works out well. Wives resolve to shape up and lose weight.

Nobody says this to their actual spouse. And reasonable people don't expect their spouses to continue to desire them if they've become obese.

Every single wife ever expects you to desire her when she’s obese and will revile him as shallow and evil if he doesn’t.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

This is the dumbest most insane thing on this thread. No way can I close my eyes and think of England. I’m not Melanie. I’ll literally vomit.
-a woman

Squeamish people are bad in bed.

I’m not squeamish if you’re hot. But I’m not effing you if you’re fat. Sorry not sorry.

"My orgasm depends on your body" is a low-skill, sexually-immature mentality, for all parties

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

This is the dumbest most insane thing on this thread. No way can I close my eyes and think of England. I’m not Melanie. I’ll literally vomit.
-a woman

Squeamish people are bad in bed.

I’m not squeamish if you’re hot. But I’m not effing you if you’re fat. Sorry not sorry.

"My orgasm depends on your body" is a low-skill, sexually-immature mentality, for all parties

Get real.

Sorry you’re unattractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

As if a man would willingly have sex with an overweight woman with a large stomach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a husband, if you do these things, your wife will remain interested:

1. Do at least half of all child-related driving and watching, leaving your wife time for herself.
2. Do the dishes.
3. Make the beds.
4. Hire a cleaner.
5. Make plenty of money.
6. Help with meals.
7. Foreplay.

It's that easy.

I’m a woman, and I think it’s actually even easier than this. You don’t even have to do the dishes, meals, and childcare if you acknowledge that she’s doing it, and you think she’s amazing for it. And you don’t have to make a lot of money either.
Think about it, women go to visit men on conjugal visits in prison. Those guys aren’t doing anything on this list.

Here is the real list:

1). Tell her how great she is, with specifics. If she’s a kick-ass lawyer, say that. If she’s an amazing mother, say that. If she keeps your ADHD self organized and you would be lost without her, say that. If she’s fat, but you love her giant G-cups, say that.

2). Initiate sex a lot.

3). Don’t get upset or hurt when she turns you down. Accept it and move on with your day. Initiate again the next day.

4). Don’t get hurt if she asks you to do something different in bed. It’s not meant as a blow to your ego. Just do it.

This is very rapey and at what point does the woman actually initiate? It would suck to have to initiate all the time. It just shows the other party has no desire for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your post is insulting.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband when he’s fat. I have never been attracted to women, yet I get the simulated experience of sleeping with a pregnant woman if I ever want to have sex. His beer belly is the size of a 6 month pregnant woman. It’s unattractive and kills the mood.

This has nothing to do with my insecurities or how I feel about my body. It’s insulting to suggest that not wanting to have sex with an obese guy is somehow “in my head.”

"the mood" is in your head. Get on top, get it from behind, get creative. If you're imagining "beer belly" and "6 month pregnant woman" and that's not doing it for you, well, that's your head. You can condition yourself to be attracted to all kinds of things.

-a woman

This is the dumbest most insane thing on this thread. No way can I close my eyes and think of England. I’m not Melanie. I’ll literally vomit.
-a woman

Squeamish people are bad in bed.

I’m not squeamish if you’re hot. But I’m not effing you if you’re fat. Sorry not sorry.

"My orgasm depends on your body" is a low-skill, sexually-immature mentality, for all parties

Get real.

Sorry you’re unattractive.

Sorry you're small-minded and a terrible lay!