Does your community pool have a dress code?

[Anonymous]

We are traveling in the south of France and thongs plus topless is everywhere. At 42 I still have a good body and it is nice to go topless. Only ones who likely stare are from the US and UK.

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It really sounds like we need to close the community pools. They are corrupting our young people and allow adults to act in prideful ways.

Is there a reason to have these pools in the first place?

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“look or gaze in an unpleasant, malicious, or lascivious way.“

Define that. What is a "unpleasant, malicious or lascivious" gaze or look?

The lasciviousness is not detectable in the gaze itself. It’s detectable a few feet lower.

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Anonymous wrote:We are traveling in the south of France and thongs plus topless is everywhere. At 42 I still have a good body and it is nice to go topless. Only ones who likely stare are from the US and UK.

Are the men in speedos and “excited” down there? Apparently that’s the other problem.

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Anonymous wrote:We are traveling in the south of France and thongs plus topless is everywhere. At 42 I still have a good body and it is nice to go topless. Only ones who likely stare are from the US and UK.

Are the men in speedos and “excited” down there? Apparently that’s the other problem.

Plenty of speedos on guys who shouldn’t be wearing them. But, plenty of women topless who shouldn’t be but when in France….

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Anonymous wrote:It really sounds like we need to close the community pools. They are corrupting our young people and allow adults to act in prideful ways.

Is there a reason to have these pools in the first place?

When you study the history of such pools, racism is often a factor.

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Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

lol. I saw this yesterday at WF and wondered w-t-f was wrong with the 20-something gal. Boobs were popping out. So tacky.

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Anonymous wrote:The moms who lead the in-crowd at our pool all did ozempic (or the like) together and are rail thin now. Several are wearing very cheeky bikinis this season. Honestly I’d rather a 20- something wear it than a 45 year old pretending to be 20.

This.

I remember a quick trip to south beach and my kids were floored by the “old moms and grandmas” wearing string bikinis. It was hilarious.

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Anonymous wrote:The moms who lead the in-crowd at our pool all did ozempic (or the like) together and are rail thin now. Several are wearing very cheeky bikinis this season. Honestly I’d rather a 20- something wear it than a 45 year old pretending to be 20.

This.

I remember a quick trip to south beach and my kids were floored by the “old moms and grandmas” wearing string bikinis. It was hilarious.

My MIL said she went there on vacation to feel better about her body.

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I have no problems with what anyone wears. Just don’t complain that people are looking/staring. Because they will.

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Anonymous wrote:I have no problems with what anyone wears. Just don’t complain that people are looking/staring. Because they will.

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Exactly.

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Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

lol. I saw this yesterday at WF and wondered w-t-f was wrong with the 20-something gal. Boobs were popping out. So tacky.

Maybe it's partly due to celebrities wearing see through clothes to events.

I still can't get over how men get full coverage and comfortable shoes while women wear next to nothing and torture devices on their feet.

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Anonymous wrote:OP better not let your kids watch the Olympics!

The swimmers wear neck to knee suits. The handball and volleyball women protested about being forced into bikinis while the men wore t shirts and long shorts. Some gymnasts are wearing leggings particularly after the scandals of recent years. Some track athletes were protesting the skimpy running gear.

The worst pool for dress code is the Volta pool in Georgetown. College girls in things and weird leathery European men in tiny Speedo’s.

I’ll buy that women (and leathery European men) have the right to wear what they want and not be judged or ogled… in theory. But a lot of it, especially at Volta feels VERY performative. A portion of these people are there to be seen and display themselves, and not specifically in a flasher kind of way, but they are full aware of how edgy their choice in apparel is.

And before I got moralized and shamed, I don’t even mind particularly if you do that - at a resort, at a beach, at a pool party… but sorry my 6yo doesn’t need to see your French speedo and we’re trying very hard to raise oir 11yo son with the understanding that women aren’t Barbie’s…

People should celebrate their bodies and feel comfortable and all that but in shared spaces you should be cognizant of other people. Babies shouldn’t be allowed to poop in pools and kids shouldn’t invade the lanes where people are doing laps and horny adults shouldn’t be using public pools for wowing the crowd.

TLDR, there are swimsuits that are skimpier than I would wear and that’s okay and there are swimsuits that are designed to be eye catching. Respect the audience.

The point is that some non-barbie girls want to wear bikinis too. Does that not show children that women arent barbies? That anyone should feel comfortable with their body and able to swim in peace?

Which is why I said people should be comfortable and I can accept that my definition of what is appropriate isn't necessarily what everyone should do, but not everything in the mind of vaping 20yo in a thong who has aspirations of being an Instagram sensation is appropriate for children. In fact, a lot of it is extremely demeaning to women... want to demean yourself on instagram or swing your Speedo in your backyard jacuzzi with your friends from the tanning salon? Go for it... but skip the public pool at school dismissal time.

Again and again, Americans prove my point of being prudes! Kids don't care unless you MAKE IT WEIRD.

Instagram and TikTok have made things weird.

The 20yo vaping and trying to vamp for the fraternity boys across the pool where my kids are learning to swim are making things weird. 20yos try to seduce each other all the time, and that's not normal, but you'd find it weird if they did it at a playground. A public pool after school is a playground. Save it for the bar or your frat's pool party.

No it’s not a playground. It’s a public park. There are old folk having chess tournaments and 20yos flirting and kids being hyper and toddlers screaming. You have no more right to tell the 20yos to dress differently than they have the right to telling my excited 4yo to shut up. It’s a shared space and everyone is using is for their own purposes.

And your 11yo can learn that girls aren’t Barbies if you teach him that girls (even girls in skimpy bikinis) are people with feelings and emotions and opinions too. In fact your posts sound like you’re currently sending him the message that he his respect for women can and should be conditioned on what they’re wearing.

NP - I have taught my sons to feel pity for girls who have been deluded by faux feminism and told to “empower” themselves by wearing revealing clothing. In reality, all they are doing is returning to the days when women were viewed as objects. Only now there is no mystery left. Those girls in bikinis might have feelings and emotions, but they are training the public to ignore their personality and focus only on outward appearance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:OP better not let your kids watch the Olympics!

The swimmers wear neck to knee suits. The handball and volleyball women protested about being forced into bikinis while the men wore t shirts and long shorts. Some gymnasts are wearing leggings particularly after the scandals of recent years. Some track athletes were protesting the skimpy running gear.

The worst pool for dress code is the Volta pool in Georgetown. College girls in things and weird leathery European men in tiny Speedo’s.

I’ll buy that women (and leathery European men) have the right to wear what they want and not be judged or ogled… in theory. But a lot of it, especially at Volta feels VERY performative. A portion of these people are there to be seen and display themselves, and not specifically in a flasher kind of way, but they are full aware of how edgy their choice in apparel is.

And before I got moralized and shamed, I don’t even mind particularly if you do that - at a resort, at a beach, at a pool party… but sorry my 6yo doesn’t need to see your French speedo and we’re trying very hard to raise oir 11yo son with the understanding that women aren’t Barbie’s…

People should celebrate their bodies and feel comfortable and all that but in shared spaces you should be cognizant of other people. Babies shouldn’t be allowed to poop in pools and kids shouldn’t invade the lanes where people are doing laps and horny adults shouldn’t be using public pools for wowing the crowd.

TLDR, there are swimsuits that are skimpier than I would wear and that’s okay and there are swimsuits that are designed to be eye catching. Respect the audience.

So you are comparing a woman wearing a slightly skimpier bikini than others (since, lets be honest, most will be in a bikini anyways) with bio-hazards and actual swimming hazards? You really have no clue

Your exposed buttocks are a biohazard.

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Anonymous wrote:It really sounds like we need to close the community pools. They are corrupting our young people and allow adults to act in prideful ways.

Is there a reason to have these pools in the first place?

When you study the history of such pools, racism is often a factor.

That settles it. Public pools should be permanently closed.