Does your community pool have a dress code?

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Anonymous wrote:How do we feel about men who come to leer at young women in bikinis?

As they don’t make it anyone else’s problem I don’t really care what’s going through anyone’s brain. Goes for both prevy dudes and judgey women.

Oh wow.

Now we're starting to understand what the no-holds barred pool crowd is REALLY about.

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Anonymous wrote:OP better not let your kids watch the Olympics!

The swimmers wear neck to knee suits. The handball and volleyball women protested about being forced into bikinis while the men wore t shirts and long shorts. Some gymnasts are wearing leggings particularly after the scandals of recent years. Some track athletes were protesting the skimpy running gear.

The worst pool for dress code is the Volta pool in Georgetown. College girls in things and weird leathery European men in tiny Speedo’s.

I’ll buy that women (and leathery European men) have the right to wear what they want and not be judged or ogled… in theory. But a lot of it, especially at Volta feels VERY performative. A portion of these people are there to be seen and display themselves, and not specifically in a flasher kind of way, but they are full aware of how edgy their choice in apparel is.

And before I got moralized and shamed, I don’t even mind particularly if you do that - at a resort, at a beach, at a pool party… but sorry my 6yo doesn’t need to see your French speedo and we’re trying very hard to raise oir 11yo son with the understanding that women aren’t Barbie’s…

People should celebrate their bodies and feel comfortable and all that but in shared spaces you should be cognizant of other people. Babies shouldn’t be allowed to poop in pools and kids shouldn’t invade the lanes where people are doing laps and horny adults shouldn’t be using public pools for wowing the crowd.

TLDR, there are swimsuits that are skimpier than I would wear and that’s okay and there are swimsuits that are designed to be eye catching. Respect the audience.

The point is that some non-barbie girls want to wear bikinis too. Does that not show children that women arent barbies? That anyone should feel comfortable with their body and able to swim in peace?

Which is why I said people should be comfortable and I can accept that my definition of what is appropriate isn't necessarily what everyone should do, but not everything in the mind of vaping 20yo in a thong who has aspirations of being an Instagram sensation is appropriate for children. In fact, a lot of it is extremely demeaning to women... want to demean yourself on instagram or swing your Speedo in your backyard jacuzzi with your friends from the tanning salon? Go for it... but skip the public pool at school dismissal time.

Again and again, Americans prove my point of being prudes! Kids don't care unless you MAKE IT WEIRD.

Instagram and TikTok have made things weird.

The 20yo vaping and trying to vamp for the fraternity boys across the pool where my kids are learning to swim are making things weird. 20yos try to seduce each other all the time, and that's not normal, but you'd find it weird if they did it at a playground. A public pool after school is a playground. Save it for the bar or your frat's pool party.

No it’s not a playground. It’s a public park. There are old folk having chess tournaments and 20yos flirting and kids being hyper and toddlers screaming. You have no more right to tell the 20yos to dress differently than they have the right to telling my excited 4yo to shut up. It’s a shared space and everyone is using is for their own purposes.

And your 11yo can learn that girls aren’t Barbies if you teach him that girls (even girls in skimpy bikinis) are people with feelings and emotions and opinions too. In fact your posts sound like you’re currently sending him the message that he his respect for women can and should be conditioned on what they’re wearing.

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pp wants everyone to cater to her and her children, including avoiding "their" pool time! Instead of just teaching her children respect for others, no matter their outfit.

So the dude with his visible dick showing through his trunks, doing acrobatics on the steps to the shallow-end so he can get the best angle for an instagram photo is... just someone we have to understand has feelings? No. There's a difference between body positivity and ASKING people to keep their exhibitionism to a minimum.

It's a basic concept that enables us to all get along—people should be allowed to do what they want, until it starts interfering with other people's ability to do what they want. Ideally, we all are thoughtful and aware and we try to be good neighbors and community members because we expect the same, not because we believe that just because we CAN we will.

Wearing a swimsuit isn't exhibitionism LOL. Its required outfit for a swimming pool.

Okay, let's maybe start from the other end.

Is there ANYTHING you consider inappropriate for children to see happening at a public pool?

I dont even think topless is inappropriate. Again, you, the creepy pervert parent, is the one making things weird.

Okay, good, you're fine with topless. But what WOULD be inappropriate? Is full nudity okay? Do you mind men with erections?

Yes, I would like an answer to this, too. Is there a line for you that’s too far? Because I love being naked around other people. Would you mind if I were fully naked and possibly with an erection while relaxing on a pool deck recliner next to you and your daughter. You’re cool with that, right?

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Bring on the hot bods!!!

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A lot of people, in this thread even, wear revealing clothes because they love their bodies and love showing them off. That’s so great and we’re lucky to live in a much more body positive society than ever before.

Rock that thong! Or Speedo.

But… Like everything, there are limits to what’s appropriate and they have nothing to do with objectification or female empowerment. Don’t be creepy - if you’re sexualizing your visit to a public pool, by what you wear or how you define other people for what they wear, you’re doing it wrong.

Jeez.

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Did we determine which pool this was and where it was located? I would love to see the hot college babes in their thongs showing themselves off.

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Anonymous wrote:How do we feel about men who come to leer at young women in bikinis?

Leer is a bullshit term

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Anonymous wrote:Did we determine which pool this was and where it was located? I would love to see the hot college babes in their thongs showing themselves off.

All of them.

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Anonymous wrote:How do we feel about men who come to leer at young women in bikinis?

Leer is a bullshit term

Is it?

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Anonymous wrote:How do we feel about men who come to leer at young women in bikinis?

How do we feel about a rule at pools that men can’t “leer” at anybody?

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Is it?

Yes. Define leering.

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Anonymous wrote:OP better not let your kids watch the Olympics!

The swimmers wear neck to knee suits. The handball and volleyball women protested about being forced into bikinis while the men wore t shirts and long shorts. Some gymnasts are wearing leggings particularly after the scandals of recent years. Some track athletes were protesting the skimpy running gear.

The worst pool for dress code is the Volta pool in Georgetown. College girls in things and weird leathery European men in tiny Speedo’s.

I’ll buy that women (and leathery European men) have the right to wear what they want and not be judged or ogled… in theory. But a lot of it, especially at Volta feels VERY performative. A portion of these people are there to be seen and display themselves, and not specifically in a flasher kind of way, but they are full aware of how edgy their choice in apparel is.

And before I got moralized and shamed, I don’t even mind particularly if you do that - at a resort, at a beach, at a pool party… but sorry my 6yo doesn’t need to see your French speedo and we’re trying very hard to raise oir 11yo son with the understanding that women aren’t Barbie’s…

People should celebrate their bodies and feel comfortable and all that but in shared spaces you should be cognizant of other people. Babies shouldn’t be allowed to poop in pools and kids shouldn’t invade the lanes where people are doing laps and horny adults shouldn’t be using public pools for wowing the crowd.

TLDR, there are swimsuits that are skimpier than I would wear and that’s okay and there are swimsuits that are designed to be eye catching. Respect the audience.

The point is that some non-barbie girls want to wear bikinis too. Does that not show children that women arent barbies? That anyone should feel comfortable with their body and able to swim in peace?

Which is why I said people should be comfortable and I can accept that my definition of what is appropriate isn't necessarily what everyone should do, but not everything in the mind of vaping 20yo in a thong who has aspirations of being an Instagram sensation is appropriate for children. In fact, a lot of it is extremely demeaning to women... want to demean yourself on instagram or swing your Speedo in your backyard jacuzzi with your friends from the tanning salon? Go for it... but skip the public pool at school dismissal time.

Again and again, Americans prove my point of being prudes! Kids don't care unless you MAKE IT WEIRD.

Instagram and TikTok have made things weird.

The 20yo vaping and trying to vamp for the fraternity boys across the pool where my kids are learning to swim are making things weird. 20yos try to seduce each other all the time, and that's not normal, but you'd find it weird if they did it at a playground. A public pool after school is a playground. Save it for the bar or your frat's pool party.

No it’s not a playground. It’s a public park. There are old folk having chess tournaments and 20yos flirting and kids being hyper and toddlers screaming. You have no more right to tell the 20yos to dress differently than they have the right to telling my excited 4yo to shut up. It’s a shared space and everyone is using is for their own purposes.

And your 11yo can learn that girls aren’t Barbies if you teach him that girls (even girls in skimpy bikinis) are people with feelings and emotions and opinions too. In fact your posts sound like you’re currently sending him the message that he his respect for women can and should be conditioned on what they’re wearing.

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pp wants everyone to cater to her and her children, including avoiding "their" pool time! Instead of just teaching her children respect for others, no matter their outfit.

So the dude with his visible dick showing through his trunks, doing acrobatics on the steps to the shallow-end so he can get the best angle for an instagram photo is... just someone we have to understand has feelings? No. There's a difference between body positivity and ASKING people to keep their exhibitionism to a minimum.

It's a basic concept that enables us to all get along—people should be allowed to do what they want, until it starts interfering with other people's ability to do what they want. Ideally, we all are thoughtful and aware and we try to be good neighbors and community members because we expect the same, not because we believe that just because we CAN we will.

Wearing a swimsuit isn't exhibitionism LOL. Its required outfit for a swimming pool.

Okay, let's maybe start from the other end.

Is there ANYTHING you consider inappropriate for children to see happening at a public pool?

I dont even think topless is inappropriate. Again, you, the creepy pervert parent, is the one making things weird.

Okay, good, you're fine with topless. But what WOULD be inappropriate? Is full nudity okay? Do you mind men with erections?

No I don’t mind them bc they are a bodily function

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Anonymous wrote:Did we determine which pool this was and where it was located? I would love to see the hot college babes in their thongs showing themselves off.

All of them.

Volta in Georgetown was mentioned a few pages ago. Sounds like that's the place to be.

Also tons of babes showing off at Banneker. Another great DC pool.

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Is it?

Yes. Define leering.

Is it not defined? Do you not know the definition?

Here I googled it for you:

“look or gaze in an unpleasant, malicious, or lascivious way.“

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Anonymous wrote:OP better not let your kids watch the Olympics!

The swimmers wear neck to knee suits. The handball and volleyball women protested about being forced into bikinis while the men wore t shirts and long shorts. Some gymnasts are wearing leggings particularly after the scandals of recent years. Some track athletes were protesting the skimpy running gear.

The worst pool for dress code is the Volta pool in Georgetown. College girls in things and weird leathery European men in tiny Speedo’s.

I’ll buy that women (and leathery European men) have the right to wear what they want and not be judged or ogled… in theory. But a lot of it, especially at Volta feels VERY performative. A portion of these people are there to be seen and display themselves, and not specifically in a flasher kind of way, but they are full aware of how edgy their choice in apparel is.

And before I got moralized and shamed, I don’t even mind particularly if you do that - at a resort, at a beach, at a pool party… but sorry my 6yo doesn’t need to see your French speedo and we’re trying very hard to raise oir 11yo son with the understanding that women aren’t Barbie’s…

People should celebrate their bodies and feel comfortable and all that but in shared spaces you should be cognizant of other people. Babies shouldn’t be allowed to poop in pools and kids shouldn’t invade the lanes where people are doing laps and horny adults shouldn’t be using public pools for wowing the crowd.

TLDR, there are swimsuits that are skimpier than I would wear and that’s okay and there are swimsuits that are designed to be eye catching. Respect the audience.

The point is that some non-barbie girls want to wear bikinis too. Does that not show children that women arent barbies? That anyone should feel comfortable with their body and able to swim in peace?

Which is why I said people should be comfortable and I can accept that my definition of what is appropriate isn't necessarily what everyone should do, but not everything in the mind of vaping 20yo in a thong who has aspirations of being an Instagram sensation is appropriate for children. In fact, a lot of it is extremely demeaning to women... want to demean yourself on instagram or swing your Speedo in your backyard jacuzzi with your friends from the tanning salon? Go for it... but skip the public pool at school dismissal time.

Again and again, Americans prove my point of being prudes! Kids don't care unless you MAKE IT WEIRD.

Instagram and TikTok have made things weird.

The 20yo vaping and trying to vamp for the fraternity boys across the pool where my kids are learning to swim are making things weird. 20yos try to seduce each other all the time, and that's not normal, but you'd find it weird if they did it at a playground. A public pool after school is a playground. Save it for the bar or your frat's pool party.

No it’s not a playground. It’s a public park. There are old folk having chess tournaments and 20yos flirting and kids being hyper and toddlers screaming. You have no more right to tell the 20yos to dress differently than they have the right to telling my excited 4yo to shut up. It’s a shared space and everyone is using is for their own purposes.

And your 11yo can learn that girls aren’t Barbies if you teach him that girls (even girls in skimpy bikinis) are people with feelings and emotions and opinions too. In fact your posts sound like you’re currently sending him the message that he his respect for women can and should be conditioned on what they’re wearing.

+1
pp wants everyone to cater to her and her children, including avoiding "their" pool time! Instead of just teaching her children respect for others, no matter their outfit.

So the dude with his visible dick showing through his trunks, doing acrobatics on the steps to the shallow-end so he can get the best angle for an instagram photo is... just someone we have to understand has feelings? No. There's a difference between body positivity and ASKING people to keep their exhibitionism to a minimum.

It's a basic concept that enables us to all get along—people should be allowed to do what they want, until it starts interfering with other people's ability to do what they want. Ideally, we all are thoughtful and aware and we try to be good neighbors and community members because we expect the same, not because we believe that just because we CAN we will.

Wearing a swimsuit isn't exhibitionism LOL. Its required outfit for a swimming pool.

Okay, let's maybe start from the other end.

Is there ANYTHING you consider inappropriate for children to see happening at a public pool?

I dont even think topless is inappropriate. Again, you, the creepy pervert parent, is the one making things weird.

Okay, good, you're fine with topless. But what WOULD be inappropriate? Is full nudity okay? Do you mind men with erections?

No I don’t mind them bc they are a bodily function

It’s funnier when you are not too obvious with your troll.

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“look or gaze in an unpleasant, malicious, or lascivious way.“

Define that. What is a "unpleasant, malicious or lascivious" gaze or look?