Style choices that age women in their 40s

[Anonymous]

It's about the waist, not the boobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's about the waist, not the boobs.

Bingo. And the loss of estrogen doesn't help. However, some women with big boobs maintain a curved waist, whether by genetics or work or surgery or what have you, and those boobs themselves do not make them matronly without the challenge of the waist.

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Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.

Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.

Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.

I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.

I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.

Oh, whatever. We Gen X moms don’t want to look 20, we just want to listen to the Smiths and swap colonoscopy tips. We have literally been wearing the same thing since New Order were Joy Division.

I wish we could hang out!

Right back atcha, dear friend-I-haven’t-met-yet. See you at either the Peter Murphy Celebrating David Bowie tour or the screening mammogram waiting room.

[Anonymous]

Clinging to trends from our younger years. I know jean jackets are very comfortable and I like the look, but I think they are dated looking on older women. But, why should anyone care what i think? If you love it, wear it, plenty of people don’t think like me.

And I’d bet I wear stuff other people think looks dated. But I wear what I love and don’t care what people think.

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Anonymous wrote:Clinging to trends from our younger years. I know jean jackets are very comfortable and I like the look, but I think they are dated looking on older women. But, why should anyone care what i think? If you love it, wear it, plenty of people don’t think like me.

And I’d bet I wear stuff other people think looks dated. But I wear what I love and don’t care what people think.

Whoops, yeah, this is about women in their 40s. I’m in my 50s and the wonderful thing is we really DO NOT CARE anymore.

BTW, enjoy your 40s, I think they are the BEST! 50s are fine, but the 40s were awesome.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's about the waist, not the boobs.

Bingo. And the loss of estrogen doesn't help. However, some women with big boobs maintain a curved waist, whether by genetics or work or surgery or what have you, and those boobs themselves do not make them matronly without the challenge of the waist.

I think that’s true. It’s more about holding onto the hourglass figure. If you still have a smaller waist with a larger chest as you get older - great! But the “Apple shape” is what starts looking dowdy and matronly a lot of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clinging to trends from our younger years. I know jean jackets are very comfortable and I like the look, but I think they are dated looking on older women. But, why should anyone care what i think? If you love it, wear it, plenty of people don’t think like me.

And I’d bet I wear stuff other people think looks dated. But I wear what I love and don’t care what people think.

I never wore denim jackets in my youth but in my 40s, I love them. I think I benefit from adding some structure to my casual outfits, and a denim jacket is much sharper looking than most cardigans, and more versatile than a leather jacket.

I feel like denim jackets are FOR middle aged women.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree that really big boobs on women are more aging over 40. It’s just gravity. I’m at a family function right now and my cousins with big boobs look older than same age people with small or even just average-sized chests. It changes your body shape and dictates how you dress to some degree. And yes, it all means more matronly.

Someone posted pics of Helen Mirren upthread to prove an older woman with big breasts can look youthful and hot. That’s how you know it’s true— Helen Mirren is the exception that proves the rule. She makes wrinkles and gray hair and a womanly older body look good.

There’s only one Helen Mirren.

So, how many attractive older women with large breasts do I have to post to make the point? Because I can think of several without trying.

And yes, these are women paid to be beautiful. They are professionally in the public eye. But c'mon, the critical stance that big breast on their own as an attribute will necessarily make you look matronly is, well, bunk. You know that. It's a lot of things added up, including how you style your body (as well as 600 other things).

If you look matronly, it's not because your breasts are big. It's because those breasts aren't supported, or are dwarfed by a protruding belly, or are draped in eight thousand dishwater-colored scarves, or whatever. But it's not just because of the breasts. Sorry if that pricks the happy bubble of revenge for some people, but that was a gross one to begin with anyway.

There is a middle aged body we are all familiar with that starts to look more rectangular. I think that's what PP was talking about. And you do often see women who've come into that shape in tunics that emphasize it. I just don't know what the heck you're supposed to do about it or how you can call it a "style choice." Our bodies make some choices for us!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clinging to trends from our younger years. I know jean jackets are very comfortable and I like the look, but I think they are dated looking on older women. But, why should anyone care what i think? If you love it, wear it, plenty of people don’t think like me.

And I’d bet I wear stuff other people think looks dated. But I wear what I love and don’t care what people think.

So women of age 40 are not supposed to wear tunics. We are not supposed to wear denim jackets. What are we allowed to wear when it is a bit chilly to not age us.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree that really big boobs on women are more aging over 40. It’s just gravity. I’m at a family function right now and my cousins with big boobs look older than same age people with small or even just average-sized chests. It changes your body shape and dictates how you dress to some degree. And yes, it all means more matronly.

Someone posted pics of Helen Mirren upthread to prove an older woman with big breasts can look youthful and hot. That’s how you know it’s true— Helen Mirren is the exception that proves the rule. She makes wrinkles and gray hair and a womanly older body look good.

There’s only one Helen Mirren.

So, how many attractive older women with large breasts do I have to post to make the point? Because I can think of several without trying.

And yes, these are women paid to be beautiful. They are professionally in the public eye. But c'mon, the critical stance that big breast on their own as an attribute will necessarily make you look matronly is, well, bunk. You know that. It's a lot of things added up, including how you style your body (as well as 600 other things).

If you look matronly, it's not because your breasts are big. It's because those breasts aren't supported, or are dwarfed by a protruding belly, or are draped in eight thousand dishwater-colored scarves, or whatever. But it's not just because of the breasts. Sorry if that pricks the happy bubble of revenge for some people, but that was a gross one to begin with anyway.

There is a middle aged body we are all familiar with that starts to look more rectangular. I think that's what PP was talking about. And you do often see women who've come into that shape in tunics that emphasize it. I just don't know what the heck you're supposed to do about it or how you can call it a "style choice." Our bodies make some choices for us!

That highlights the issue with tunics- no waist.

[Anonymous]

Age 62 here, I don't wear my denim jackets often but like to when I go to the movie theatre and it is arctic cold. I particularly like my white denim in spring/summer.

At age 62 what am I supposed to wear in a chilly theatre. I'm 5'6" and 135 pounds so not overweight.

I don't wear capris. I tend to wear linen or cotton sundresses in the summer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree that really big boobs on women are more aging over 40. It’s just gravity. I’m at a family function right now and my cousins with big boobs look older than same age people with small or even just average-sized chests. It changes your body shape and dictates how you dress to some degree. And yes, it all means more matronly.

Someone posted pics of Helen Mirren upthread to prove an older woman with big breasts can look youthful and hot. That’s how you know it’s true— Helen Mirren is the exception that proves the rule. She makes wrinkles and gray hair and a womanly older body look good.

There’s only one Helen Mirren.

So, how many attractive older women with large breasts do I have to post to make the point? Because I can think of several without trying.

And yes, these are women paid to be beautiful. They are professionally in the public eye. But c'mon, the critical stance that big breast on their own as an attribute will necessarily make you look matronly is, well, bunk. You know that. It's a lot of things added up, including how you style your body (as well as 600 other things).

If you look matronly, it's not because your breasts are big. It's because those breasts aren't supported, or are dwarfed by a protruding belly, or are draped in eight thousand dishwater-colored scarves, or whatever. But it's not just because of the breasts. Sorry if that pricks the happy bubble of revenge for some people, but that was a gross one to begin with anyway.

Okay but at night, I perform the dance of the eight thousand dishwater-colored scarves for my husband. And then we are both overcome by desire for each other to sit nearby and watch tv and our phones for an hour before we fall asleep.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that really big boobs on women are more aging over 40. It’s just gravity. I’m at a family function right now and my cousins with big boobs look older than same age people with small or even just average-sized chests. It changes your body shape and dictates how you dress to some degree. And yes, it all means more matronly.

Someone posted pics of Helen Mirren upthread to prove an older woman with big breasts can look youthful and hot. That’s how you know it’s true— Helen Mirren is the exception that proves the rule. She makes wrinkles and gray hair and a womanly older body look good.

There’s only one Helen Mirren.

So, how many attractive older women with large breasts do I have to post to make the point? Because I can think of several without trying.

And yes, these are women paid to be beautiful. They are professionally in the public eye. But c'mon, the critical stance that big breast on their own as an attribute will necessarily make you look matronly is, well, bunk. You know that. It's a lot of things added up, including how you style your body (as well as 600 other things).

If you look matronly, it's not because your breasts are big. It's because those breasts aren't supported, or are dwarfed by a protruding belly, or are draped in eight thousand dishwater-colored scarves, or whatever. But it's not just because of the breasts. Sorry if that pricks the happy bubble of revenge for some people, but that was a gross one to begin with anyway.

There is a middle aged body we are all familiar with that starts to look more rectangular. I think that's what PP was talking about. And you do often see women who've come into that shape in tunics that emphasize it. I just don't know what the heck you're supposed to do about it or how you can call it a "style choice." Our bodies make some choices for us!

That highlights the issue with tunics- no waist.

But that’s why I’m WEARING the mother f$&ing tunic in the first place!!

This is exhausting and the reason the smart women hit 40 and move to the edge of the woods to be witches.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that really big boobs on women are more aging over 40. It’s just gravity. I’m at a family function right now and my cousins with big boobs look older than same age people with small or even just average-sized chests. It changes your body shape and dictates how you dress to some degree. And yes, it all means more matronly.

Someone posted pics of Helen Mirren upthread to prove an older woman with big breasts can look youthful and hot. That’s how you know it’s true— Helen Mirren is the exception that proves the rule. She makes wrinkles and gray hair and a womanly older body look good.

There’s only one Helen Mirren.

So, how many attractive older women with large breasts do I have to post to make the point? Because I can think of several without trying.

And yes, these are women paid to be beautiful. They are professionally in the public eye. But c'mon, the critical stance that big breast on their own as an attribute will necessarily make you look matronly is, well, bunk. You know that. It's a lot of things added up, including how you style your body (as well as 600 other things).

If you look matronly, it's not because your breasts are big. It's because those breasts aren't supported, or are dwarfed by a protruding belly, or are draped in eight thousand dishwater-colored scarves, or whatever. But it's not just because of the breasts. Sorry if that pricks the happy bubble of revenge for some people, but that was a gross one to begin with anyway.

Okay but at night, I perform the dance of the eight thousand dishwater-colored scarves for my husband. And then we are both overcome by desire for each other to sit nearby and watch tv and our phones for an hour before we fall asleep.

The dance of the eight thousand scarves. Amazing. I love you PP!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that really big boobs on women are more aging over 40. It’s just gravity. I’m at a family function right now and my cousins with big boobs look older than same age people with small or even just average-sized chests. It changes your body shape and dictates how you dress to some degree. And yes, it all means more matronly.

Someone posted pics of Helen Mirren upthread to prove an older woman with big breasts can look youthful and hot. That’s how you know it’s true— Helen Mirren is the exception that proves the rule. She makes wrinkles and gray hair and a womanly older body look good.

There’s only one Helen Mirren.

So, how many attractive older women with large breasts do I have to post to make the point? Because I can think of several without trying.

And yes, these are women paid to be beautiful. They are professionally in the public eye. But c'mon, the critical stance that big breast on their own as an attribute will necessarily make you look matronly is, well, bunk. You know that. It's a lot of things added up, including how you style your body (as well as 600 other things).

If you look matronly, it's not because your breasts are big. It's because those breasts aren't supported, or are dwarfed by a protruding belly, or are draped in eight thousand dishwater-colored scarves, or whatever. But it's not just because of the breasts. Sorry if that pricks the happy bubble of revenge for some people, but that was a gross one to begin with anyway.

There is a middle aged body we are all familiar with that starts to look more rectangular. I think that's what PP was talking about. And you do often see women who've come into that shape in tunics that emphasize it. I just don't know what the heck you're supposed to do about it or how you can call it a "style choice." Our bodies make some choices for us!

That highlights the issue with tunics- no waist.

But that’s why I’m WEARING the mother f$&ing tunic in the first place!!

This is exhausting and the reason the smart women hit 40 and move to the edge of the woods to be witches.

+1. When you have a potbelly, tops with a defined waist make you look pregnant. Hence, shrouds with undefined waists.