Style choices that age women in their 40s

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

And here’s where you’re wrong. I never once did the bar scene, never dressed to accentuate my chest. And I certainly never body shamed anyone for having small boobs. In case you’re too dull to grasp it from my post, I envy the small breasted.

Also for the poster who is deeply jealous of women with larger breasts because men “paid more attention” I am sorry to tell you your problem is not your small breasts. I am the b cup poster from earlier and men paid me plentyyyyy of attention in my 20s. No reason for me to feel jealous and bitter towards my fuller breasted sisters. I think your problem is maybe you’re just not attractive or have a bad personality so got overlooked a lot. The problem isn’t the larger breasted women. It is YOU, full stop.

Omg, lady. Do you not see what you just did?

Right? Unreal.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

And here’s where you’re wrong. I never once did the bar scene, never dressed to accentuate my chest. And I certainly never body shamed anyone for having small boobs. In case you’re too dull to grasp it from my post, I envy the small breasted.

Also for the poster who is deeply jealous of women with larger breasts because men “paid more attention” I am sorry to tell you your problem is not your small breasts. I am the b cup poster from earlier and men paid me plentyyyyy of attention in my 20s. No reason for me to feel jealous and bitter towards my fuller breasted sisters. I think your problem is maybe you’re just not attractive or have a bad personality so got overlooked a lot. The problem isn’t the larger breasted women. It is YOU, full stop.

If you think the comments about big boobs looking matronly on older women are mean and uncalled for, then this is also mean and uncalled for.

“You’re just ugly” is just more of the same BS.

I said what I said. I think for women who didn’t get a lot of male attention when young, there is a certain turning point when they realize that experience is never going to happy for them and they become mean and bitter. Because we live in a patriarchy where we are taught to prize male attention. Instead of being mad about that, these unfortunates lash at younger women for what they’re wearing, women with certain body type or who behave a certain way.

Since you gloated about getting male attention and put these women down, that just makes you mean. Really really mean.

Ok, why do you think the first poster is so mad about larger breasted women “using them to get attention.” Also is it me, but the only place I’ve ever heard the phrase tits up is the show marvelous mrs maisel, which was set in a very different time?

She’s mad for the same reason you used “I get plennnnnntty of male attention” as a trump card to put her down. Duh. You’re being intentionally obtuse here.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree that really big boobs on women are more aging over 40. It’s just gravity. I’m at a family function right now and my cousins with big boobs look older than same age people with small or even just average-sized chests. It changes your body shape and dictates how you dress to some degree. And yes, it all means more matronly.

Someone posted pics of Helen Mirren upthread to prove an older woman with big breasts can look youthful and hot. That’s how you know it’s true— Helen Mirren is the exception that proves the rule. She makes wrinkles and gray hair and a womanly older body look good.

There’s only one Helen Mirren.

Oh, I wanted to add that I think men have the same issue, but with being broad and barrel chested. It can be very attractive on a young guy, but unless he’s super fit, he just looks big and it contributes to looking more middle aged.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

And here’s where you’re wrong. I never once did the bar scene, never dressed to accentuate my chest. And I certainly never body shamed anyone for having small boobs. In case you’re too dull to grasp it from my post, I envy the small breasted.

Also for the poster who is deeply jealous of women with larger breasts because men “paid more attention” I am sorry to tell you your problem is not your small breasts. I am the b cup poster from earlier and men paid me plentyyyyy of attention in my 20s. No reason for me to feel jealous and bitter towards my fuller breasted sisters. I think your problem is maybe you’re just not attractive or have a bad personality so got overlooked a lot. The problem isn’t the larger breasted women. It is YOU, full stop.

If you think the comments about big boobs looking matronly on older women are mean and uncalled for, then this is also mean and uncalled for.

“You’re just ugly” is just more of the same BS.

I said what I said. I think for women who didn’t get a lot of male attention when young, there is a certain turning point when they realize that experience is never going to happy for them and they become mean and bitter. Because we live in a patriarchy where we are taught to prize male attention. Instead of being mad about that, these unfortunates lash at younger women for what they’re wearing, women with certain body type or who behave a certain way.

Since you gloated about getting male attention and put these women down, that just makes you mean. Really really mean.

Ok, why do you think the first poster is so mad about larger breasted women “using them to get attention.” Also is it me, but the only place I’ve ever heard the phrase tits up is the show marvelous mrs maisel, which was set in a very different time?

I don't understand the response. Do you not understand why I said you were mean?

[Anonymous]

This thread is about style *choices* and has devolved into a discussion about how matronly large breasts are. I can't choose how large my breasts are. I can wear proper undergarments and clothing that make them look good, but that takes a bit of work, hence this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is about style *choices* and has devolved into a discussion about how matronly large breasts are. I can't choose how large my breasts are. I can wear proper undergarments and clothing that make them look good, but that takes a bit of work, hence this thread.

Agree, but it was almost inevitable that this would revolve into body shaming because the premise of the thread is about women having to fight the natural progression of age. Sure, it starts out as don’t wear capris and tunics, or this makeup application is aging.

But then it’s you better cover up your grays (which are natural) and take better care of your skin and don’t gain weight but don’t get too thin either. None of which are “style choices,” they are about bodies and the natural aging process, but we’ve come to think of them as “choices.” Are they?

[Anonymous]

As a proud life-long member of the itty-bitty titty committee I was relishing this turn of circumstances. My now slightly less itty bitty but somehow exempt from gravity titties have become my favorite attribute.

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Anonymous wrote:As a proud life-long member of the itty-bitty titty committee I was relishing this turn of circumstances. My now slightly less itty bitty but somehow exempt from gravity titties have become my favorite attribute.

Yes I’m the same. Comments were often made by other women in the 1990s when i was in my late teens, early 20s. It is also the only one positive with peri-menopause that they have become bigger.

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Anonymous wrote:As a proud life-long member of the itty-bitty titty committee I was relishing this turn of circumstances. My now slightly less itty bitty but somehow exempt from gravity titties have become my favorite attribute.

Same! After years of the trends in my peer groups never looking right on me (strapless tops and dresses that look like bandages, gaping blouses and darts that are accommodating air, even being unable to find cute bras because until the recent adoption of bralettes for all, many bras didn't even come in an A cup, much less the AA I had to wear), I finally feel like my boobs are an asset. I actually started feeling attractive in a bathing suit for the first time in my 40s, because at this age bathing suits are less about cleavage than just looking fairly trim, and I think that's easier with a small chest.

[Anonymous]

I am certainly glad people feel better in their 40s! but you might be skipping over the Kate Moss, Fiona Apple, etc eras.

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Anonymous wrote:As a proud life-long member of the itty-bitty titty committee I was relishing this turn of circumstances. My now slightly less itty bitty but somehow exempt from gravity titties have become my favorite attribute.

Yes I’m the same. Comments were often made by other women in the 1990s when i was in my late teens, early 20s. It is also the only one positive with peri-menopause that they have become bigger.

Yes, no question. For some reason women absolutely feel it is fair game to make fun of a teenager or young woman for not having boobs or having small ones. Or at least they did when I was in my teens/20s. Maybe that's changed. If so, good! I've definitely also gotten some rude comments from men, but far less than the teasing/jokes from other women.

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Anonymous wrote:I am certainly glad people feel better in their 40s! but you might be skipping over the Kate Moss, Fiona Apple, etc eras.

Yes, we looked like Fiona Apple and Kate Moss the same way you now look like Helen Mirren.

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Anonymous wrote:As a proud life-long member of the itty-bitty titty committee I was relishing this turn of circumstances. My now slightly less itty bitty but somehow exempt from gravity titties have become my favorite attribute.

Yes I’m the same. Comments were often made by other women in the 1990s when i was in my late teens, early 20s. It is also the only one positive with peri-menopause that they have become bigger.

Yes, no question. For some reason women absolutely feel it is fair game to make fun of a teenager or young woman for not having boobs or having small ones. Or at least they did when I was in my teens/20s. Maybe that's changed. If so, good! I've definitely also gotten some rude comments from men, but far less than the teasing/jokes from other women.

I mean… as someone who developed pretty large breasts before she was 13, I also got my share of cruel commentary. Also the large proportion of men who forget there is anything above my neck when they look at me. It seems no one’s body is exempt.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is about style *choices* and has devolved into a discussion about how matronly large breasts are. I can't choose how large my breasts are. I can wear proper undergarments and clothing that make them look good, but that takes a bit of work, hence this thread.

Agree, but it was almost inevitable that this would revolve into body shaming because the premise of the thread is about women having to fight the natural progression of age. Sure, it starts out as don’t wear capris and tunics, or this makeup application is aging.

But then it’s you better cover up your grays (which are natural) and take better care of your skin and don’t gain weight but don’t get too thin either. None of which are “style choices,” they are about bodies and the natural aging process, but we’ve come to think of them as “choices.” Are they?

Nah, just some bitter biddies who are still traumatized from a mean comment from the 90s. Let it go.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree that really big boobs on women are more aging over 40. It’s just gravity. I’m at a family function right now and my cousins with big boobs look older than same age people with small or even just average-sized chests. It changes your body shape and dictates how you dress to some degree. And yes, it all means more matronly.

Someone posted pics of Helen Mirren upthread to prove an older woman with big breasts can look youthful and hot. That’s how you know it’s true— Helen Mirren is the exception that proves the rule. She makes wrinkles and gray hair and a womanly older body look good.

There’s only one Helen Mirren.

So, how many attractive older women with large breasts do I have to post to make the point? Because I can think of several without trying.

And yes, these are women paid to be beautiful. They are professionally in the public eye. But c'mon, the critical stance that big breast on their own as an attribute will necessarily make you look matronly is, well, bunk. You know that. It's a lot of things added up, including how you style your body (as well as 600 other things).

If you look matronly, it's not because your breasts are big. It's because those breasts aren't supported, or are dwarfed by a protruding belly, or are draped in eight thousand dishwater-colored scarves, or whatever. But it's not just because of the breasts. Sorry if that pricks the happy bubble of revenge for some people, but that was a gross one to begin with anyway.