How to tell DH I want him to be more dominant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PSA for the men on here: most of you need to be more dominant, especially if youve been married for a long time.

Ok but if you think you want him to be dominant in the bedroom then you have to accept him being dominant the rest of the time, too. Trying to compartmentalize it (he is dominant in the bedroom but I tell him what to do at all other times) isn’t going to work. Neither of you will believe his make-believe bedroom dominance.

I’d love this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PSA for the men on here: most of you need to be more dominant, especially if youve been married for a long time.

Ok but if you think you want him to be dominant in the bedroom then you have to accept him being dominant the rest of the time, too. Trying to compartmentalize it (he is dominant in the bedroom but I tell him what to do at all other times) isn’t going to work. Neither of you will believe his make-believe bedroom dominance.

This is incorrect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the bedroom. Has this ever successfully worked in your relationship? I find men can be too passive, which isn’t attractive.

Women have tried their best to undermine men, and now you expect them to take charge?
Sorry, but you can't have it both ways.

Let men be themselves in their daily lives, and they will naturally be dominant in the bedroom.
Masculinity has been so criticized that many men are afraid to show any signs of being dominant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the bedroom. Has this ever successfully worked in your relationship? I find men can be too passive, which isn’t attractive.

Women have tried their best to undermine men, and now you expect them to take charge?
Sorry, but you can't have it both ways.

Let men be themselves in their daily lives, and they will naturally be dominant in the bedroom.
Masculinity has been so criticized that many men are afraid to show any signs of being dominant.

Because most men don’t actually display masculinity.

Mine is extremely masculine. He anticipates my every need and fulfills it beforehand, like if my car needs an oil change I don’t even have to ask, it’s handled. He grew up on a ranch and can do everything from shoeing a horse to handling firearms to fixing literally anything. He’s literally the only man I’ve ever met who I would 100% trust in an emergency. He still opens every door for me, pulls out my chair, takes me on dates, compliments how I look. He can run a 5 minute mile and knock out 20 pull-ups. He consults with me before making decisions and always makes the decision that benefits us, not just him. I’ve never seen him even glance at another woman and he treats all women with respect. And yes, he’s dominant in bed but also gentle and caring and checks to make sure I’m okay.

Too many boys are larping masculinity by just being loud, pushy, and obnoxious. I’ll be damned if some pudgy potato who can’t even change a flat tire and thinks “masculinity” is ranting in YouTube comments sections is going to try to boss me around in or out of the bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PSA for the men on here: most of you need to be more dominant, especially if youve been married for a long time.

Ok but if you think you want him to be dominant in the bedroom then you have to accept him being dominant the rest of the time, too. Trying to compartmentalize it (he is dominant in the bedroom but I tell him what to do at all other times) isn’t going to work. Neither of you will believe his make-believe bedroom dominance.

This is incorrect.

It’s totally correct. There’s no way he’s not going to know that you’re only pretending to let him dominate and that at all other times you’d never in a million years let him tell you what to do. And you know it too. Neither of you is a good enough actor to temporarily suppress the true nature of your relationship.

[Anonymous]

I bought him a book about rope.

[Anonymous]

Too many guys fail to understand:

gentle + tender does not add up to: passion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would I be considered dominant? In the bedroom I take my girlfriend's clothes off, I suggest positions with taking account her preference of course but often she is happy the direction I'm taking us, I eat her out without her asking me, I talk dirty etc..

If not, whats a dominant man?

I'm not into choking l, spanking, handcuffs and all that..

OMG you’re not dominant, lol. You’re mild mannered

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So sick of these troll threads

Agreed. It’s like MAGA is trying to lifestyle promote here. Nobody is falling for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the bedroom. Has this ever successfully worked in your relationship? I find men can be too passive, which isn’t attractive.

Things you can say:

“take me, big boy.”

“Harder! Eff me harder!”

“Choke me!”

“Put it in my ass!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would I be considered dominant? In the bedroom I take my girlfriend's clothes off, I suggest positions with taking account her preference of course but often she is happy the direction I'm taking us, I eat her out without her asking me, I talk dirty etc..

If not, whats a dominant man?

I'm not into choking l, spanking, handcuffs and all that..

Dominant does not equal choking. Porn had normalized this; it’s dangerous and not a common kink for women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would I be considered dominant? In the bedroom I take my girlfriend's clothes off, I suggest positions with taking account her preference of course but often she is happy the direction I'm taking us, I eat her out without her asking me, I talk dirty etc..

If not, whats a dominant man?

I'm not into choking l, spanking, handcuffs and all that..

Dominant does not equal choking. Porn had normalized this; it’s dangerous and not a common kink for women.

Women love being spanked. I can’t speak for choking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would I be considered dominant? In the bedroom I take my girlfriend's clothes off, I suggest positions with taking account her preference of course but often she is happy the direction I'm taking us, I eat her out without her asking me, I talk dirty etc..

If not, whats a dominant man?

I'm not into choking l, spanking, handcuffs and all that..

Dominant does not equal choking. Porn had normalized this; it’s dangerous and not a common kink for women.

Choking (technically strangulation) is dangerous and shouldn’t be done, but most women love having a hand on their throat.

[Anonymous]

Too many boys are larping masculinity by just being loud, pushy, and obnoxious. I’ll be damned if some pudgy potato who can’t even change a flat tire and thinks “masculinity” is ranting in YouTube comments sections is going to try to boss me around in or out of the bedroom.

Both men and women should be able to change a tire. I taught both my sons and daughters to do so that they are not waiting around for a "white knight" to do it for them.

However, the idea that masculinity is defined by being able to perform manual labor is stupid. If I have a free weekend afternoon, I am not going to work on changing my oil. First, I do not enjoy doing so.

Next, I am better off doing something that makes me better at my job (I am a partner in BigLaw firm) than doing "tasks" around the house.

And, no, I do not think doing both works. If I am going to be the best at what I do, I need to put in the effort. Every minute I spend doing something I do not know how to do (like fixing a car) is a minute away from what I am best at.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would I be considered dominant? In the bedroom I take my girlfriend's clothes off, I suggest positions with taking account her preference of course but often she is happy the direction I'm taking us, I eat her out without her asking me, I talk dirty etc..

If not, whats a dominant man?

I'm not into choking l, spanking, handcuffs and all that..

Dominant does not equal choking. Porn had normalized this; it’s dangerous and not a common kink for women.

Women love being spanked. I can’t speak for choking.

Former GF loved to be spanked. Current one, not so much.