If you were a light sleeper, would you ask your two DC's (home for the summer) to please not get home at 2 am?

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I am sure they know that you are a light sleeper - so long as they are trying, I would put up with this for a summer. You may get more used to it. Find a solution for YOU because things like thunderstorms also happen in the summer. Heaven help you if your spouse coughs in bed!

The most fun things happen after midnight imho. I’m in my 50s, doing the whole meno and hot flash and bad sleeping thing and I have no expectations that my college grad live like an 8th grader.

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Anonymous wrote:Ear plugs might help you or some white noise like a ceiling fan. Are the kids working this summer? Do they have to get up early?

+1 I wear earplugs to bed. Life long light sleeper. My college aged kid is home right now. They've been staying out late with their s/o.

Give them Friday and Saturday nights with no limits but midnight deadline for nights before work days.

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Boomers , ugh

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My kid is at George Washington U, and in their last parent newsletter, they had an article about kids coming home, and what ground rules to lay out. Being sensitive to the schedule of others in the house was the first topic!

This is a classic problem, OP, when college kids have gotten used to being up at all hours of the night in their dorms.

THEY have to adapt to YOU. It is rude of them to come in at inappropriate times, and regardless of what some posters on here are writing, after midnight (barring a few parties) is always inappropriate.

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Anonymous wrote:Boomers , ugh

Not everyone older than you is a boomer, idiot. Boomers don’t have kids in college.

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It is ABSOLUTELY NOT OK to come back at these hours. How rude of them. Just because they're adults doesn't mean they're allowed to disturb the usual run of the household. Last time you checked, it was YOUR name on the title of the property, not theirs.

My son is home from college too and he would never even think of doing such a thing. His younger sibling is still at school. He drives to pick her up in the afternoon, mows the lawn, runs errands, volunteers, takes a class online, is looking for a job, and generally behaves like a responsible member of the household. It's nice.

Sad your kid doesn’t have any friends, and pathetic he doesn’t have a job lined up.

I'd much rather have that kid than one who parties regularly and comes home in the middle of the night. Nothing good happens after midnight, at any age.

Sounds like you never got LAID after a night out.

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Anonymous wrote:Boomers , ugh

Not everyone older than you is a boomer, idiot. Boomers don’t have kids in college.

Genx boomers all the same entitled old people

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You can make whatever rules you want, OP. I can tell you how we do it. I have 3 college age kids at home right now. They do not have a curfew (they are adults) and come home at all different times. Yes, sometimes after 2 am. I keep my door shut, but sometimes the dog barks and wakes me up when they come home. They are all very quiet and considerate when they enter a sleeping house. Really that is all I expect.

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Does the Karen mom complain about leaf blowers or airplanes flying over the home

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Anonymous wrote:You need to deal. It’s not appropriate.

I disagree.

They are grown up now and should be respectful of all members of the household.

They need to not slam doors etc. OP is responsible for figuring out her sleep issues to regular noise of someone coming home, brushing teeth/getting a glass of water and going to their bed.

I was this kid, though not disrespectful like this and my Mom was a light sleeper. I also waited tables and often closed.

I committed to limiting noise (no door slams, loud talking/laughing, etc) and she worked with white noise, for reasonable noise (house creaking when walking).

Your DCs asking them to keep the noise down as “controlling” in your home is gaslighting. They can do their part at 2 effing AM. Wow, lack of consideration to live rent free for the summer.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sure they know that you are a light sleeper - so long as they are trying, I would put up with this for a summer. You may get more used to it. Find a solution for YOU because things like thunderstorms also happen in the summer. Heaven help you if your spouse coughs in bed!

The most fun things happen after midnight imho. I’m in my 50s, doing the whole meno and hot flash and bad sleeping thing and I have no expectations that my college grad live like an 8th grader.

As a fellow 50ish woman with older teenagers who is having a hard time sleeping, this is where I am. My kids are considerate and do try to be quiet when they come home late; for example, we have a basement bathroom, and we ask them to shower and get ready for bed down there when they are late so there’s less noise on the sleeping level. But sometimes I do hear them and wake up, and it sucks! But also, sometimes my spouse wakes me going to the bathroom in the middle of the night, and sometimes outside noise wakes me—both of these things much more often than my kids.

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I would try to adjust using earplugs or something AND insist go straight to their room when they get home. No messing around in the kitchen or anything.

My college kids come and go at the wee hours and it’s just something I’ve accepted. That is when they socialize

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Do you wake up because they're being loud or because they are moving around the house? If they're being loud then I think you should tell them they need to be quiet. If your woken up by just the sounds of someone coming into the house and moving around then I would explore sound machines/ear plugs. I get it - we have an alarm and even when its disarmed the sound it makes when someone opens the door always wakes me up.

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How often are they doing this? Ours did this occasionally on weekends when they came home. They tried to be as quiet as as they could but sometimes we heard them. Since it wasn’t multiple nights per week, we didn’t make a big deal about it. As a PP said sometimes one of us woke the other to use the restroom so it isn’t as if we always slept uninterrupted.

We opted to let it slide. In the grand scheme, it’s such a short period of time and we were happy they still came home during the summer.

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Are they banging around the kitchen or simply unlocking a front door? Basically, how much noise are they making at 2AM?