Women: Cohabitation with your boyfriend is stupid

[Anonymous]

Maybe this is a generational thing, but I feel sorry for my female coworkers who live with a boyfriend and are pining to get married to him. Guess what, he's not going to propose anytime soon, because why should he? You cook, clean and grocery shop for him, and he gets sex whenever he wants.

When is your "tryout period" going to end?

[Anonymous]

Why does she do his cooking and cleaning? The problem is not cohabitation it's that she allows herself to be used. If you actually know what happens behind closed doors of other people.

People use to tell me this all the time about my boyfriend but I was the one holding out. It's generational that you assume it is the man holding out.

[Anonymous]

Especially when kids are involved - for either partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Especially when kids are involved - for either partner.

This for sure. The story that ends well is the exception and not the rule.

Yet another reason I'm for marriage equality.

[Anonymous]

When does the try-out period end?

For my partner and me, it ended when we decided we wanted to buy a house.

For my boss' daughter and her partner, it ended when they decided they wanted to have a baby.

For my friends, it was pretty much the same.

OP, you're an old fart with no experience and no knowledge about what you're talking about.

You're also a bit of a whore, if you think marriage is an exchange for services, rather than a life-long committment between people who love each other and want to build a family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is a generational thing, but I feel sorry for my female coworkers who live with a boyfriend and are pining to get married to him. Guess what, he's not going to propose anytime soon, because why should he? You cook, clean and grocery shop for him, and he gets sex whenever he wants.

When is your "tryout period" going to end?

So they should get a certificate and then do all those things for their men?

[Anonymous]

It IS stupid if you really want to get married, and you've discussed it, and he definitely doesn't.

It is also stupid to assume that in any case of a cohabitating couple, the woman really wants to get married, and the man doesn't, and the reason is that he has the cow already.

[Anonymous]

My husband proposed 2 months after he moved in.

[Anonymous]

Buying a house with your boyfriend when he says he never wants to get married but knowing that you do. That situation usually never ends in marriage.

[Anonymous]

I married my cohabitating boyfriend seven years ago. We're expecting our fourth child. Bummer how that didn't work out for me, huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It IS stupid if you really want to get married, and you've discussed it, and he definitely doesn't.

It is also stupid to assume that in any case of a cohabitating couple, the woman really wants to get married, and the man doesn't, and the reason is that he has the cow already.

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When does the try-out period end?

For my partner and me, it ended when we decided we wanted to buy a house.

For my boss' daughter and her partner, it ended when they decided they wanted to have a baby.

For my friends, it was pretty much the same.

OP, you're an old fart with no experience and no knowledge about what you're talking about.

You're also a bit of a whore, if you think marriage is an exchange for services, rather than a life-long committment between people who love each other and want to build a family.

Agreed!
All of my married friends are divorced or on their second husbands. My partner and I have been to both their first and second weddings- happily still together with one kid, one on the way and a house. Thankyouverymuch.

[Anonymous]

OP, I would write that you are completely ignorant, but I don't know how old you are (you mentioned this being a "generational" issue). My mom is almost 70 and she is definitely not of this mindset, so perhaps you are older? Let me guess, born before WW2?

[Anonymous]

I agree with OP. The chances of breaking up when you are living together are higher than divorce, and the break-up can be incredibly painful. I liked having a place of my own -- in fact, I think marriage might be a little easier if each of us had a place of our own on occasion. That doesn't mean my husband of 20 years and I didn't pretty much live together on the weekends...

[Anonymous]

I've never responded with this before but this is just dying for it. Mind your own damn business OP. Nobody cares what you think of their living arrangements.