Do any of your boyfriends/ husbands like you a normal weight vs skinny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know. I’m naturally quite thin and always have been, and DH has always seemed attracted to me, has never mentioned weight at all. I guess I am what some of you are calling “skinny” at 5’6 and 118-120, but I’ve gotten tons of male attention my whole life. I do not look bony or “like a teenage boy” or whatever else has been said. I am very small boned and have delicate feminine features, shapely legs, a round bubble butt, small but perky breasts, hourglass waist-to-hips proportions. Thin does not mean shapeless, beautiful bodies come in all shapes and sizes. Stop being so critical.

NP. My DH has never said anything about my weight and finds me attractive even though I’m thinner than average. Kind of like Kate Middleton. I’m not bony or boy looking by any means. He thinks I’m most attractive when I feel good about myself. Some of these critical posters are jealous and have to make excuses as to why they can’t lose weight to what is considered normal on health charts. And no having babies is not a good excuse, particularly when those kids are now 10 or 12.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know. I’m naturally quite thin and always have been, and DH has always seemed attracted to me, has never mentioned weight at all. I guess I am what some of you are calling “skinny” at 5’6 and 118-120, but I’ve gotten tons of male attention my whole life. I do not look bony or “like a teenage boy” or whatever else has been said. I am very small boned and have delicate feminine features, shapely legs, a round bubble butt, small but perky breasts, hourglass waist-to-hips proportions. Thin does not mean shapeless, beautiful bodies come in all shapes and sizes. Stop being so critical.

+1. I’m actually an above poster who said I get more attention at a bit of a higher weight (BMI of 22 vs my typical BMI of 20) but how we look at different weights is so dependent on body type, height, proportions etc. Many gorgeous skinny women look best very thin and it sounds like you are a stunner at your weight. Each woman is going to have a unique experience depending on her own features and assets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know. I’m naturally quite thin and always have been, and DH has always seemed attracted to me, has never mentioned weight at all. I guess I am what some of you are calling “skinny” at 5’6 and 118-120, but I’ve gotten tons of male attention my whole life. I do not look bony or “like a teenage boy” or whatever else has been said. I am very small boned and have delicate feminine features, shapely legs, a round bubble butt, small but perky breasts, hourglass waist-to-hips proportions. Thin does not mean shapeless, beautiful bodies come in all shapes and sizes. Stop being so critical.

+1. I’m actually an above poster who said I get more attention at a bit of a higher weight (BMI of 22 vs my typical BMI of 20) but how we look at different weights is so dependent on body type, height, proportions etc. Many gorgeous skinny women look best very thin and it sounds like you are a stunner at your weight. Each woman is going to have a unique experience depending on her own features and assets.

DP
+1 and I think confidence in ones own body goes a long way in making that body attractive. You could be in a healthy range and look unattractive if you don’t carry yourself with poise and grace. You can be at the heavier or lighter end of normal and be incredibly sexy if you carry yourself that way. I find a lot of overweight or obese people, however, look unattractive inside and out because of low self-esteem. They dress in tent-like clothing and have given up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know. I’m naturally quite thin and always have been, and DH has always seemed attracted to me, has never mentioned weight at all. I guess I am what some of you are calling “skinny” at 5’6 and 118-120, but I’ve gotten tons of male attention my whole life. I do not look bony or “like a teenage boy” or whatever else has been said. I am very small boned and have delicate feminine features, shapely legs, a round bubble butt, small but perky breasts, hourglass waist-to-hips proportions. Thin does not mean shapeless, beautiful bodies come in all shapes and sizes. Stop being so critical.

+1. I’m actually an above poster who said I get more attention at a bit of a higher weight (BMI of 22 vs my typical BMI of 20) but how we look at different weights is so dependent on body type, height, proportions etc. Many gorgeous skinny women look best very thin and it sounds like you are a stunner at your weight. Each woman is going to have a unique experience depending on her own features and assets.

DP
+1 and I think confidence in ones own body goes a long way in making that body attractive. You could be in a healthy range and look unattractive if you don’t carry yourself with poise and grace. You can be at the heavier or lighter end of normal and be incredibly sexy if you carry yourself that way. I find a lot of overweight or obese people, however, look unattractive inside and out because of low self-esteem. They dress in tent-like clothing and have given up.

I'm also 5'6" and 120, and have been for 20 years, and have gotten loads of male attention/been scouted by a modeling agent. it's definitely a good looking weight/height. But I'm also coming around to the belief that I might also look just fine at 130, and my husband may even enjoy it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband can not keep his hands off of me when I’m 10-15lbs over the weight I prefer (still normal healthy BMI just bigger than what I like aesthetically). I also get checked out and hit on by other men more.

There are exceptions to this but, in general, most red blooded men are noticing your bigger boobs/butt over anything else when you are a normal weight vs skinny.

Bingo. And a little belly fat that goes with that is OK as long as you still have a waist line that curves inward. Beyond that, you need to lose it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband can not keep his hands off of me when I’m 10-15lbs over the weight I prefer (still normal healthy BMI just bigger than what I like aesthetically). I also get checked out and hit on by other men more.

There are exceptions to this but, in general, most red blooded men are noticing your bigger boobs/butt over anything else when you are a normal weight vs skinny.

Bingo. And a little belly fat that goes with that is OK as long as you still have a waist line that curves inward. Beyond that, you need to lose it.

Even the songs praising curvy women, like Baby Got Back or Brick House talk about big boobs and butts but also talk about thin waist. 36-24-36 are in the lyrics. A thin waist is healthy and attractive. Big waist unhealthy and not attractive. So fat women should not mistake “curvy” for big boobs, butt, and no waist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've always been on the very thin side even after two kids. I'm active, eat healthy foods and stay the same size. I always get comments from family and strangers about how thin I am. It's wrong that people so openly discuss someone's thinness but would never do the same to a person who is overweight

Hahaha! You think people, random people, never walk up to heavier people and tell them to exercise, lose weight etc??!! Wow!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've always been on the very thin side even after two kids. I'm active, eat healthy foods and stay the same size. I always get comments from family and strangers about how thin I am. It's wrong that people so openly discuss someone's thinness but would never do the same to a person who is overweight

Hahaha! You think people, random people, never walk up to heavier people and tell them to exercise, lose weight etc??!! Wow!

That would be really rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband can not keep his hands off of me when I’m 10-15lbs over the weight I prefer (still normal healthy BMI just bigger than what I like aesthetically). I also get checked out and hit on by other men more.

There are exceptions to this but, in general, most red blooded men are noticing your bigger boobs/butt over anything else when you are a normal weight vs skinny.

Bingo. And a little belly fat that goes with that is OK as long as you still have a waist line that curves inward. Beyond that, you need to lose it.

[Anonymous]

Mine always thinks I am looking to leave him if I get too skinny. So if I workout a lot he gets really weird and insecure. It's not attractive behavior at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband can not keep his hands off of me when I’m 10-15lbs over the weight I prefer (still normal healthy BMI just bigger than what I like aesthetically). I also get checked out and hit on by other men more.

There are exceptions to this but, in general, most red blooded men are noticing your bigger boobs/butt over anything else when you are a normal weight vs skinny.

Bingo. And a little belly fat that goes with that is OK as long as you still have a waist line that curves inward. Beyond that, you need to lose it.

That fat one has a belly it jiggles as she walks but she has huge hips and bo o bs which many fat women don't

[Anonymous]

Mine!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know. I’m naturally quite thin and always have been, and DH has always seemed attracted to me, has never mentioned weight at all. I guess I am what some of you are calling “skinny” at 5’6 and 118-120, but I’ve gotten tons of male attention my whole life. I do not look bony or “like a teenage boy” or whatever else has been said. I am very small boned and have delicate feminine features, shapely legs, a round bubble butt, small but perky breasts, hourglass waist-to-hips proportions. Thin does not mean shapeless, beautiful bodies come in all shapes and sizes. Stop being so critical.

+1. I’m actually an above poster who said I get more attention at a bit of a higher weight (BMI of 22 vs my typical BMI of 20) but how we look at different weights is so dependent on body type, height, proportions etc. Many gorgeous skinny women look best very thin and it sounds like you are a stunner at your weight. Each woman is going to have a unique experience depending on her own features and assets.

DP
+1 and I think confidence in ones own body goes a long way in making that body attractive. You could be in a healthy range and look unattractive if you don’t carry yourself with poise and grace. You can be at the heavier or lighter end of normal and be incredibly sexy if you carry yourself that way. I find a lot of overweight or obese people, however, look unattractive inside and out because of low self-esteem. They dress in tent-like clothing and have given up.

But OP said her boyfriend preferred her at a higher weight, despite her feeling LESS comfortable at that size than being thin, which would suggests she's more confident when she's thinner. And yet her boyfriend likes her at a higher weight regardless. To me, that suggests it's not about confidence, but rather a defined physical preference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know. I’m naturally quite thin and always have been, and DH has always seemed attracted to me, has never mentioned weight at all. I guess I am what some of you are calling “skinny” at 5’6 and 118-120, but I’ve gotten tons of male attention my whole life. I do not look bony or “like a teenage boy” or whatever else has been said. I am very small boned and have delicate feminine features, shapely legs, a round bubble butt, small but perky breasts, hourglass waist-to-hips proportions. Thin does not mean shapeless, beautiful bodies come in all shapes and sizes. Stop being so critical.

+1. I’m actually an above poster who said I get more attention at a bit of a higher weight (BMI of 22 vs my typical BMI of 20) but how we look at different weights is so dependent on body type, height, proportions etc. Many gorgeous skinny women look best very thin and it sounds like you are a stunner at your weight. Each woman is going to have a unique experience depending on her own features and assets.

DP
+1 and I think confidence in ones own body goes a long way in making that body attractive. You could be in a healthy range and look unattractive if you don’t carry yourself with poise and grace. You can be at the heavier or lighter end of normal and be incredibly sexy if you carry yourself that way. I find a lot of overweight or obese people, however, look unattractive inside and out because of low self-esteem. They dress in tent-like clothing and have given up.

But OP said her boyfriend preferred her at a higher weight, despite her feeling LESS comfortable at that size than being thin, which would suggests she's more confident when she's thinner. And yet her boyfriend likes her at a higher weight regardless. To me, that suggests it's not about confidence, but rather a defined physical preference.

I wouldn’t want to be with a man that would prefer me to look in a way that is out of my comfort zone.

[Anonymous]

Women that have the same or similar shape as Christina Hendricks are perfect in my book. Different strokes for different folks. To each their own.