How are kids supposed to address professors? Dr., Professor, first name? Daughter got rude reaction

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, next time you get pulled over make sure you call the cop by his first name. And the judge when you go to court.

Cops are "officer" and judges are "your honor." We all know that. Pretty weak analogies.

Aren't they employees of the various levels of government? Don't you "pay their salaries" via share of tax payments, just as much as you do professors via share of tuition payments?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Confident happy professors: First name or doctor or professor, as long as you're polite, it's okay.

Insecure nobodies with lurking mental disorders: CALL ME PROFESSOR OR DOCTOR, PERIOD!

But if the insecure nobody controls your grade, and maybe is a good lecturer, who cares about the insecurity? the nobody is in charge and the kid is not.

when in Rome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Confident happy professors: First name or doctor or professor, as long as you're polite, it's okay.

Insecure nobodies with lurking mental disorders: CALL ME PROFESSOR OR DOCTOR, PERIOD!

I have literally never called a doctor, teacher, or professor by their first name in my entire life. I can't be alone here? Even nurses, for that matter.

Or dentists, or police officers, or any elected official, or anyone in the military.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, next time you get pulled over make sure you call the cop by his first name. And the judge when you go to court.

Cops are "officer" and judges are "your honor." We all know that. Pretty weak analogies.

Aren't they employees of the various levels of government? Don't you "pay their salaries" via share of tax payments, just as much as you do professors via share of tuition payments?

Not all faculty are "professors" or even a "Dr." so it's an inapt analogy. And OP's DD did say most members of the faculty preferred to be on a first name basis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Confident happy professors: First name or doctor or professor, as long as you're polite, it's okay.

Insecure nobodies with lurking mental disorders: CALL ME PROFESSOR OR DOCTOR, PERIOD!

I have literally never called a doctor, teacher, or professor by their first name in my entire life. I can't be alone here? Even nurses, for that matter.

No, you are not alone. The previous poster is an uneducated and uncouth person with no manners and I am suspecting it is the OP.

If a person is ignorant, you can help them by telling them once. If they are unwilling to listen, you do not engage and you let the chips fall where they will.

[Anonymous]

OP, what were you hoping to achieve in starting this thread? You invited feedback and opinions, but keep insisting that you and your DD are right. Were you expecting that we'd all agree with you?

Also, the fact that you are so involved in this aspect of your DD's life indicates that you probably did this in high school. Did you tend to listen to your child, then sweep in to put her stupid high school teachers (salaried losers!) in their place? Because this strategy has crippled your child, to some extent, and in any case, it won't work in college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And watch, in 25 years, this will be the same mom who is upset that her nursing home care worker calls her Doris instead of Mrs Larla....

Yeah, but remember that OP is not a loser college professor. She's better than that! She DESERVES the title of respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, next time you get pulled over make sure you call the cop by his first name. And the judge when you go to court.

Cops are "officer" and judges are "your honor." We all know that. Pretty weak analogies.

Aren't they employees of the various levels of government? Don't you "pay their salaries" via share of tax payments, just as much as you do professors via share of tuition payments?

Not all faculty are "professors" or even a "Dr." so it's an inapt analogy. And OP's DD did say most members of the faculty preferred to be on a first name basis.

Where did I say they were? I was drawing an analogy with professors, not all faculty.

I think you comprehend communication about as well as OP's DD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Confident happy professors: First name or doctor or professor, as long as you're polite, it's okay.

Insecure nobodies with lurking mental disorders: CALL ME PROFESSOR OR DOCTOR, PERIOD!

OP your attitude is that your family is paying the faculty members and so your child gets to decide what to call them.
You sound very entitled.
I am sad that you see education purely as a market transaction. Your child is likely missing out on insights she would be more receptive to if she had a more deferential attitude toward people who are eager to share their knowledge, wisdom and experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, next time you get pulled over make sure you call the cop by his first name. And the judge when you go to court.

Cops are "officer" and judges are "your honor." We all know that. Pretty weak analogies.

Aren't they employees of the various levels of government? Don't you "pay their salaries" via share of tax payments, just as much as you do professors via share of tuition payments?

Not all faculty are "professors" or even a "Dr." so it's an inapt analogy. And OP's DD did say most members of the faculty preferred to be on a first name basis.

1. DD's daughter does not know or interact with "most members of the faculty." We have explained to you how interaction with a large number of TAs who are grad students may have led to her confusion on this issue.

2. It IS an apt analogy. "Your honor" = formal title of respect in place of first name. Dr., Professor, or (in the case of non-professors who might not have a doctorate), Mr. or Ms = formal title of respect in place of first name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, next time you get pulled over make sure you call the cop by his first name. And the judge when you go to court.

Cops are "officer" and judges are "your honor." We all know that. Pretty weak analogies.

Aren't they employees of the various levels of government? Don't you "pay their salaries" via share of tax payments, just as much as you do professors via share of tuition payments?

Not all faculty are "professors" or even a "Dr." so it's an inapt analogy. And OP's DD did say most members of the faculty preferred to be on a first name basis.

Where did I say they were? I was drawing an analogy with professors, not all faculty.

I think you comprehend communication about as well as OP's DD.

I think she IS the OP

[Anonymous]

The sad part is that OP and her DD have to live in the world they actually live in, and deal with any consequences thereof, not the world they want to live in.

Sucks not to always be on top. Sucks to try so hard to insult someone, when they don't really care that much -- and yet still are going to pass judgement on you, because that is their job.

Oh, well. Maybe OP feels better for ranting here. One can only hope. It's a small enough gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, next time you get pulled over make sure you call the cop by his first name. And the judge when you go to court.

Cops are "officer" and judges are "your honor." We all know that. Pretty weak analogies.

Aren't they employees of the various levels of government? Don't you "pay their salaries" via share of tax payments, just as much as you do professors via share of tuition payments?

Not all faculty are "professors" or even a "Dr." so it's an inapt analogy. And OP's DD did say most members of the faculty preferred to be on a first name basis.

Where did I say they were? I was drawing an analogy with professors, not all faculty.

I think you comprehend communication about as well as OP's DD.

I think she IS the OP

Doubtless. Bless her heart.

[Anonymous]

Not OP and haven't read the thread.

Personally I think honorifics should be done away with entirely. I don't think doctors should insist on Dr. I don't think professors should be Prof. I think the use of honorifics perpetuates power imbalances that on the whole aren't good. Let everyone go by first name. And yes, I have honorifics I could use but I don't.

An adult insisting another adult use a title is just cringeworthy behavior to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not OP and haven't read the thread.

Personally I think honorifics should be done away with entirely. I don't think doctors should insist on Dr. I don't think professors should be Prof. I think the use of honorifics perpetuates power imbalances that on the whole aren't good. Let everyone go by first name. And yes, I have honorifics I could use but I don't.

An adult insisting another adult use a title is just cringeworthy behavior to me.

I respect your opinion. Would you consider reading the NYT article linked in this thread to see if any of the issues outlined there might, in your opinion, warrant an exception?