How are kids supposed to address professors? Dr., Professor, first name? Daughter got rude reaction

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a former professor, I can tell you why it annoys me when students called me by my first name. The same students invariably call my husband “Professor.” It was just another way women are given less respect than their male peers.

Another female Professor here and this is one reason I insist on formality

Sounds like you're projecting an internal insecurity onto innocuous actions. That's on you, not the young adults who pay you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Professor [Last Name]"

How is this hard? lol

Nothing hard about it. It's just unnecessarily formal and nobody can explain why an adult calling another by their first name is "rude" (because it's not, unless you're a nutjob egomaniac).

Many people have explained this - because they are not peers. While technically an 18 year old is a legal adult, as the title of this thread itself suggests, many, including the OP, actually consider them kids. But go ahead and have this view. Go ahead and encourage your child to use first names and informality. Just don't be surprised when it offends some.

OP's daughter thought it was o.k., she said, based on what some of the faculty had told her. O.K. A couple of them set her straight. I doubt she'll make that mistake again. Funny the OP hasn't come back to defend why she thought the faculty member and advisor were "rude."

I'm disappointed OP hasn't come back to tell us where she went to college. I'm fascinated to know more about this college that produced an adult graduate who is this clueless about this issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a former professor, I can tell you why it annoys me when students called me by my first name. The same students invariably call my husband “Professor.” It was just another way women are given less respect than their male peers.

Another female Professor here and this is one reason I insist on formality

Sounds like you're projecting an internal insecurity onto innocuous actions. That's on you, not the young adults who pay you.

God, you are stupid.

Tell me, what degree do you have?

[Anonymous]

OP is worse than her DD who at least has youth as her excuse. The post should read: ""DD was rude to her professor and she got told off."

[Anonymous]

Confident happy professors: First name or doctor or professor, as long as you're polite, it's okay.

Insecure nobodies with lurking mental disorders: CALL ME PROFESSOR OR DOCTOR, PERIOD!

[Anonymous]

I wonder if OP has ever had a job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Confident happy professors: First name or doctor or professor, as long as you're polite, it's okay.

Insecure nobodies with lurking mental disorders: CALL ME PROFESSOR OR DOCTOR, PERIOD!

I have literally never called a doctor, teacher, or professor by their first name in my entire life. I can't be alone here? Even nurses, for that matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if OP has ever had a job.

That's an ironic question. The professors and university support staff are the employees in this situation, are they not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Confident happy professors: First name or doctor or professor, as long as you're polite, it's okay.

Insecure nobodies with lurking mental disorders: CALL ME PROFESSOR OR DOCTOR, PERIOD!

I'm sorry you didn't go to college. I respect that your DD is getting her degree. But you really need to listen to what people are saying to you so that you can help your daughter make good impressions on her peers and her instructors. This is about her future, not your own insecurity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if OP has ever had a job.

That's an ironic question. The professors and university support staff are the employees in this situation, are they not?

Well, she's the paying customer, but I'm not convinced she's spent much time in a professional setting herself. Perhaps the husband is the breadwinner of the family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Confident happy professors: First name or doctor or professor, as long as you're polite, it's okay.

Insecure nobodies with lurking mental disorders: CALL ME PROFESSOR OR DOCTOR, PERIOD!

I have literally never called a doctor, teacher, or professor by their first name in my entire life. I can't be alone here? Even nurses, for that matter.

Yeah, folks from lower castes tend to throne sniff and feed into the 'God complex' of credentialed professionals. But there's no need to be intimidated. Be courteous, not subservient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Professor [Last Name]"

How is this hard? lol

Nothing hard about it. It's just unnecessarily formal and nobody can explain why an adult calling another by their first name is "rude" (because it's not, unless you're a nutjob egomaniac).

first name usage is predicated on familiarity....if the person doesn't consider you a familiar, stick to an appropriate term until they do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if OP has ever had a job.

That's an ironic question. The professors and university support staff are the employees in this situation, are they not?

Ok, so have the student dock their pay...let's see how that works

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Confident happy professors: First name or doctor or professor, as long as you're polite, it's okay.

Insecure nobodies with lurking mental disorders: CALL ME PROFESSOR OR DOCTOR, PERIOD!

False dichotomy.

Confident, secure professors who are in a setting with standard professional norms:

Recognize that it is not "polite" in this setting for undergrads to start interactions with professors in an excessively casual way. Either calmly set them straight in private, or raise an eyebrow and make note of the lack of professionalism.


PP, you (and/or some person(s?) who are posting in agreement? still not convinced) seem wedded to declaring that either there is bootlicking or everything goes, either people are casual about address or sniveling cowards, either you pay a lot of money and get to act however you want or you pay little and are forced into docile servitude, etc.

Why does your world have no range whatsoever? Is it that you don't see it, or are you incapable of anything but hyperbole?

[Anonymous]

And watch, in 25 years, this will be the same mom who is upset that her nursing home care worker calls her Doris instead of Mrs Larla....