My sister is marrying a non-Jew. Help?

Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Don’t go. It is one day. She will get over it if she is an adult and loves you. She is also entitled not to come to one of your life cycle events without it being the end of the world. Family doesn’t need to fake it for each other. Trying to make you go is weird and controlling.


Why does the "she will get over it if she's an adult and loves you" not apply to OP but apparently applies to the sister? Why can't OP get over the intermarriage if she is an adult and loves her sister?


OP doesn’t have to go to the wedding - she’s entitled to live her truth. OP’s sister doesn’t have to wear a wig and come over for Pesach. Neither sibling is right or wrong - and trying to shame OP into going is pretty gross.


If OP’s truth involves discriminating against family on the basis of religion, race, sexual orientation, or anything else, then she should absolutely be shamed.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t go. It is one day. She will get over it if she is an adult and loves you. She is also entitled not to come to one of your life cycle events without it being the end of the world. Family doesn’t need to fake it for each other. Trying to make you go is weird and controlling.


Why does the "she will get over it if she's an adult and loves you" not apply to OP but apparently applies to the sister? Why can't OP get over the intermarriage if she is an adult and loves her sister?


OP doesn’t have to go to the wedding - she’s entitled to live her truth. OP’s sister doesn’t have to wear a wig and come over for Pesach. Neither sibling is right or wrong - and trying to shame OP into going is pretty gross.


If OP’s truth involves discriminating against family on the basis of religion, race, sexual orientation, or anything else, then she should absolutely be shamed.


And she’s not discriminating....check your privilege.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Sarah Silverman is an atheist and her sister is a rabbi and they have a great relationship. I think Jesus would go to the wedding and he was a pretty good Jew.


Modern Jews don't exactly measure "good Judaism" against a standard set by Jesus. Just saying.

(I have a friend who says stuff like this too. I am not easily offended and I am not confrontational so the last time she said it I bit my tongue, but damn, that is offensive.)


Shaye I.D. Cohen:

Samuel Ungerleider Professor of Judaic Studies and Professor of Religious Studies Brown University
Was Jesus Jewish and, if he was, how would that have influenced his experiences as a young man growing up in Galilee?

Was Jesus a Jew? Of course, Jesus was a Jew. He was born of a Jewish mother, in Galilee, a Jewish part of the world. All of his friends, associates, colleagues, disciples, all of them were Jews. He regularly worshipped in Jewish communal worship, what we call synagogues. He preached from Jewish text, from the Bible. He celebrated the Jewish festivals. He went on pilgrimage to the Jewish Temple in Jerusalem where he was under the authority of priests.... He lived, was born, lived, died, taught as a Jew. This is obvious to any casual reader of the gospel text. What's striking is not so much that he was a Jew but that the gospels make no pretense that he wasn't. The gospels have no sense yet that Jesus was anything other than a Jew. The gospels don't even have a sense that he came to found a new religion, an idea completely foreign to all the gospel text, and completely foreign to Paul. That is an idea which comes about only later. So, to say that he was a Jew is saying a truism, is simply stating an idea that is so obvious on the face of it, one wonders it even needs to be said. But, of course, it does need to be said because we all know what happens later in the story, where it turns out that Christianity becomes something other than Judaism and as a result, Jesus in retrospect is seen not as a Jew, but as something else, as a founder of Christianity. But, of course, he was a Jew.


No one is saying he wasn't a Jew. Just that for Jews, he wasn't a prophet or anything amazing by which we now measure our standard of conduct. So when, for example, a friend of mine says "Jesus is the best Jew ever," it's at best irrelevant and at worst offensive.
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