Location sharing with spouse

[Anonymous]

Everyone in my family shares and I do with my mom and my sister as well. Not spying on my husband at all. Wish my kids would check my location instead of calling me to ask where I am on the way to pick them up

[Anonymous]

The apps should keep track of who checked your location and when. I would be more willing to use a location tracker if I could see who was tracking me and anytime they checked my location.

I think the suspiciousness can be as much on the one who wants to track locations. If they are cheating, they want to see where the other person is to know how far they are and to see their movements. Helps them avoid being caught.

It should just be transparent, any time your location is accessed, there could be a notification.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting. I think people now feel entitled to instant gratification/instant information in the world we live in. Why not text? Why not deal with the uncertainty of timing? Why not spend the time and find your phone if you need a phone near you and just use your husbands? Why does everyone need instant information all the freaking time? No, I’m not cheating but also no, I don’t share location or look up people location either.

We're fighting off the need for instant gratification in these Fallen Times by texting rather than using location sharing on an app? Your decision-making on where to draw the line is fascinating.

It’s hilarious to me where people draw the line to be independent people flourishing away from their spouse.

In other news, Microsoft just announced that it will send your location in the next Teams update to your employer.

Employer =/= husband

You don't seem to be able to have a discussion without strawman arguments.

You are correct, they are not the same. But my employer is less entitled to my location than my husband.

Who are you weirdos?

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting. I think people now feel entitled to instant gratification/instant information in the world we live in. Why not text? Why not deal with the uncertainty of timing? Why not spend the time and find your phone if you need a phone near you and just use your husbands? Why does everyone need instant information all the freaking time? No, I’m not cheating but also no, I don’t share location or look up people location either.

Why not use candles? Why not have an outhouse? Why not use a horse and cart to get around?

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting. I think people now feel entitled to instant gratification/instant information in the world we live in. Why not text? Why not deal with the uncertainty of timing? Why not spend the time and find your phone if you need a phone near you and just use your husbands? Why does everyone need instant information all the freaking time? No, I’m not cheating but also no, I don’t share location or look up people location either.

We're fighting off the need for instant gratification in these Fallen Times by texting rather than using location sharing on an app? Your decision-making on where to draw the line is fascinating.

It’s hilarious to me where people draw the line to be independent people flourishing away from their spouse.

In other news, Microsoft just announced that it will send your location in the next Teams update to your employer.

Employer =/= husband

You don't seem to be able to have a discussion without strawman arguments.

Not the PP but you don't know seem to know what a strawman is, and the Teams item was irrelevant to the point they made, just a piece of information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We do this with each other and both kids (18 and 22). It's for safety reasons, and we have an understanding that no one is going to use it in bad faith.

Yep. When you aren’t doing anything dishonest or shady - zero concerns with it.

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Anonymous wrote:We share locations. On the occasion I can't get ahold of DH, I can see where he is. If that location was a hospital, I'd know something bad happened. However, I do not track him. I think I have used it a handful of times, when I was expecting him back already and he didn't respond.

Same with my kids.

to the poster who said she would not be okay with her teenage daughters boyfriend tracking her--neither would I. But teenage boyfriend is not the same as spouse and father of your kids, or your own child.

And if it was the Marriott that would be helpful too.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting. I think people now feel entitled to instant gratification/instant information in the world we live in. Why not text? Why not deal with the uncertainty of timing? Why not spend the time and find your phone if you need a phone near you and just use your husbands? Why does everyone need instant information all the freaking time? No, I’m not cheating but also no, I don’t share location or look up people location either.

We're fighting off the need for instant gratification in these Fallen Times by texting rather than using location sharing on an app? Your decision-making on where to draw the line is fascinating.

It’s hilarious to me where people draw the line to be independent people flourishing away from their spouse.

In other news, Microsoft just announced that it will send your location in the next Teams update to your employer.

Employer =/= husband

You don't seem to be able to have a discussion without strawman arguments.

Not the PP but you don't know seem to know what a strawman is, and the Teams item was irrelevant to the point they made, just a piece of information.

No, strawman is correct. This pp has made multiple strawman arguments throughout the thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder what the Venn diagram is for "couples who maintain separate bank accounts" and "couples who are opposed to sharing location information with each other."

I'll bet there is a lot of overlap.

My DH and I have always maintained separate checking accounts, though our investment accounts are joint. We’ve never been interested in monitoring each other’s discretionary expenditures.

I think it’s beyond bizarre that people have a problem enabling Find My Friends for their spouse and kids, unless they are doing something shady or have a spouse that misuses the technology.

And we do the opposite. Join account, but unless one of us was off thru hiking the Appalachian Trail (the real way, not the Mark Sanford way) I can't imagine needing location sharing.

For all the people who say, "But what if I need spouse to pick up groceries/kid/whatever?" don't you still have to actually make said request after determining location? In which case, what's the point?

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting. I think people now feel entitled to instant gratification/instant information in the world we live in. Why not text? Why not deal with the uncertainty of timing? Why not spend the time and find your phone if you need a phone near you and just use your husbands? Why does everyone need instant information all the freaking time? No, I’m not cheating but also no, I don’t share location or look up people location either.

Why not use candles? Why not have an outhouse? Why not use a horse and cart to get around?

A cart? Look at the big shot using wheels! When did the world get itself into such a big damn hurry?!

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder what the Venn diagram is for "couples who maintain separate bank accounts" and "couples who are opposed to sharing location information with each other."

I'll bet there is a lot of overlap.

My DH and I have always maintained separate checking accounts, though our investment accounts are joint. We’ve never been interested in monitoring each other’s discretionary expenditures.

I think it’s beyond bizarre that people have a problem enabling Find My Friends for their spouse and kids, unless they are doing something shady or have a spouse that misuses the technology.

And we do the opposite. Join account, but unless one of us was off thru hiking the Appalachian Trail (the real way, not the Mark Sanford way) I can't imagine needing location sharing.

For all the people who say, "But what if I need spouse to pick up groceries/kid/whatever?" don't you still have to actually make said request after determining location? In which case, what's the point?

If they aren't anywhere near the grocery, you don't make the request.

[Anonymous]

This thread would have gone in a completely different direction is the OP was a man wanting his wife to turn on her location sharing and being suspicious when she didn't immediately get on board. His insistence that she needed to do this or else she was hiding something would have been looked at very differently.

Peoples views on this are determined by their own biases and would be very easy to shift, just by changing the sex of the people involved.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't currently, nor does my husband with me. But if that was his reaction? I'd be going through is phone TODAY. That response is suspicious AF.

Op here. I did, didn’t find anything.

How do you go through someone's phone? I don't have my husband's password nor he mine.

Of course I have my H's password and he has mine, why wouldn't he. How would he unlock it when he is using it.

For privacy?

Having someone's password doesn't mean you're violating their privacy. It's not hard.

But it does mean they could. I prefer to take that option off the table.

So you would rather be married to someone that you don't trust enough to share your password with than the reverse? Interesting. I'd rather be married to someone I trust enough to share my password with because I know they'd never use it to violate my privacy. But you do what you need to in order to protect yourself I guess.

I trust him and he trusts me. It's why there's no need to share passwords.

At Least put a list of your passwords in a file
Somewhere in case one of you dies. I can speak from experience, it's a NIGHTMARE trying to deal with an estate if you can't log into any of the electronics or websites.

Write them down somewhere or your loved ones will end up in an administrative hell if you die unexpectedly.

We have a list of shared financial information and access. No need for the phone password.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting. I think people now feel entitled to instant gratification/instant information in the world we live in. Why not text? Why not deal with the uncertainty of timing? Why not spend the time and find your phone if you need a phone near you and just use your husbands? Why does everyone need instant information all the freaking time? No, I’m not cheating but also no, I don’t share location or look up people location either.

We're fighting off the need for instant gratification in these Fallen Times by texting rather than using location sharing on an app? Your decision-making on where to draw the line is fascinating.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't currently, nor does my husband with me. But if that was his reaction? I'd be going through is phone TODAY. That response is suspicious AF.

Op here. I did, didn’t find anything.

How do you go through someone's phone? I don't have my husband's password nor he mine.

Of course I have my H's password and he has mine, why wouldn't he. How would he unlock it when he is using it.

For privacy?

Having someone's password doesn't mean you're violating their privacy. It's not hard.

But it does mean they could. I prefer to take that option off the table.

So you would rather be married to someone that you don't trust enough to share your password with than the reverse? Interesting. I'd rather be married to someone I trust enough to share my password with because I know they'd never use it to violate my privacy. But you do what you need to in order to protect yourself I guess.

I trust him and he trusts me. It's why there's no need to share passwords.

Sigh. I don't have my husband's password to his phone so that I can read his texts and emails. I have it so that when I don't have my phone but his is nearby, I can use that to take a video of our dogs being silly. My husband doesn't have the password to my phone so he can snoop in my private affairs but so he can change the music while I'm driving and the car is hooked up to my phone.

It's really hard to tell if you actually don't get it or if you're just being argumentative. I'm going with the latter because the former makes me concerned about the intelligence level on DCUM, which no doubt has been waning for years but may make it so bad that Reddit becomes the better option.

That's great if it works for you, but neither of those reasons are reason for me to share my password. They both seem pretty trifling.