What do you say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:32 weeks?!

I said previously she was being disingenuous at best. She is either seriously disturbed or wanted a baby. Or both.

Someone who doesn't want a baby would have taken OTC pregnancy tests months ago.

She left him with no choice.

He is legally obligated to pay child support but not to marry her. Unless she has mental issues, she lied by omission. Not someone to marry if they have been dating 52 weeks and she is 32 weeks pregnant.

Honestly I would ask for a paternity test before agreeing to 18 years of child support.

Signed, A woman

+1
Mom to five babies here.. I’d be so livid if this happened to my 18 or 23yo son.

If your adult sons impregnated a woman, they would have no say in what she does, whether they found out at 6 weeks or 32 weeks.

I know and I’m stiffly against the coddling of male adult children, read my posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:32 weeks?!

I said previously she was being disingenuous at best. She is either seriously disturbed or wanted a baby. Or both.

Someone who doesn't want a baby would have taken OTC pregnancy tests months ago.

She left him with no choice.

He is legally obligated to pay child support but not to marry her. Unless she has mental issues, she lied by omission. Not someone to marry if they have been dating 52 weeks and she is 32 weeks pregnant.

Honestly I would ask for a paternity test before agreeing to 18 years of child support.

Signed, A woman

+1
Mom to five babies here.. I’d be so livid if this happened to my 18 or 23yo son.

If your adult sons impregnated a woman, they would have no say in what she does, whether they found out at 6 weeks or 32 weeks.

I know and I’m stiffly against the coddling of male adult children, read my posts.

This is an anonymous board, I merely respond to the post in front of me. You said you’d be “livid” if this “happened” to your sons. They would be active participants, not hapless victims.

[Anonymous]

How do you not know for 32 weeks? Unless she is really obese, they had to know her body changed. Irregular periods could explain not knowing for 16 weeks but 32?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:32 weeks?!

I said previously she was being disingenuous at best. She is either seriously disturbed or wanted a baby. Or both.

Someone who doesn't want a baby would have taken OTC pregnancy tests months ago.

She left him with no choice.

He is legally obligated to pay child support but not to marry her. Unless she has mental issues, she lied by omission. Not someone to marry if they have been dating 52 weeks and she is 32 weeks pregnant.

Honestly I would ask for a paternity test before agreeing to 18 years of child support.

Signed, A woman

+1
Mom to five babies here.. I’d be so livid if this happened to my 18 or 23yo son.

If your adult sons impregnated a woman, they would have no say in what she does, whether they found out at 6 weeks or 32 weeks.

I know and I’m stiffly against the coddling of male adult children, read my posts.

This is an anonymous board, I merely respond to the post in front of me. You said you’d be “livid” if this “happened” to your sons. They would be active participants, not hapless victims.

I know, I’d be lived if they were 27 (weren’t financially stable or married) & had gotten a girl pregnant and didn’t find out until the 8th month…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you not know for 32 weeks? Unless she is really obese, they had to know her body changed. Irregular periods could explain not knowing for 16 weeks but 32?

I think she was probably in deep, deep denial. Or extremely out of touch her with body. Either way, not the best mother material. Too bad that that’s who OP’s son has hitched his wagon to, unwittingly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:32 weeks?!

I said previously she was being disingenuous at best. She is either seriously disturbed or wanted a baby. Or both.

Someone who doesn't want a baby would have taken OTC pregnancy tests months ago.

She left him with no choice.

He is legally obligated to pay child support but not to marry her. Unless she has mental issues, she lied by omission. Not someone to marry if they have been dating 52 weeks and she is 32 weeks pregnant.

Honestly I would ask for a paternity test before agreeing to 18 years of child support.

Signed, A woman

+1
Mom to five babies here.. I’d be so livid if this happened to my 18 or 23yo son.

But do you have five babies, or actual adult sons?

And what would you do with your livid anger?

Against whom would you focus your anger?

Whom would you blame and for what?

Do you have daughters?

So many questions

I have five babies… yes, I also have daughters 16, 21, & 25yo. I wouldn’t do anything with my anger, just be there for my son.

Congratulations, your life sounds perfect

Why are you trying to defend it here

You can go on being cool, I don’t really care about your life and you should probably not care about mine

Defend what??

[Anonymous]

OP here

I am not quite out of Saturday

And it got worse

[Anonymous]

She should see a therapist and also share her dilemma with her parents. Decision should be hers but she shouldn't be solely relying on him and his mother, due to conflict of interest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here

I am not quite out of Saturday

And it got worse

I am sorry.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been through this multiple times with friends, family, myself.

My most amazing niece was an oops to my 23-year-old brother and she is amazing. Speaks for languages. Owns our own home. Has a great job as a baby..

They’re 27. They have good jobs. It’s gonna be fine. They’re just not gonna have tons of extra money to eat out and have lots of fun travel.

She’s a single mom she should be able to get subsidized childcare.

Make sure he learns how to care for the baby himself and has the baby alone with him at times so he can learn how to do it on his own by himself.

[Anonymous]

Where does it say she has a good job and insurance?

[Anonymous]

Them not being emotionally ready or wanting a family is purely a matter of choice but their age, education, employment, relationship length, family support etc put them in a capable group. Painting them as naive and fragile teens is an exaggeration.

[Anonymous]

If he doesn't want a family he doesn't have to make a family with her and he can be clear on that with her. He has to pay support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:32 weeks?!

I said previously she was being disingenuous at best. She is either seriously disturbed or wanted a baby. Or both.

Someone who doesn't want a baby would have taken OTC pregnancy tests months ago.

She left him with no choice.

He is legally obligated to pay child support but not to marry her. Unless she has mental issues, she lied by omission. Not someone to marry if they have been dating 52 weeks and she is 32 weeks pregnant.

Honestly I would ask for a paternity test before agreeing to 18 years of child support.

Signed, A woman

Agree. This is unfathomable to me. 14 weeks...ok, I can kinda see it. 32? That's basically crowning for some people. I am team OP but now methinks troll.

[Anonymous]

If OP is not a troll, it is still possible for her DS's GF to have an abortion. She can go to New Jersey where there are no restrictions. I live there. Our governor passed a law in 2021 enshrining the right to terminate a pregnancy at any stage for any reason. He also said that he would welcome people from other states to come to NJ for care.