Men seem eager to be remarried!

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Anonymous wrote:I got lucky, when I got divorced. My ex-wife got taken care of. She kept the house so my name was off the mortgage, and the house has very high rate of equity. We had investments together and she kept over half, I kept my motel in retirement and everything else thereafter. It ended up working out for me because I can end up buying another house and I sold off some of the assets and stocks that we had when we were married. I also helped start a business with someone and that flourished and I sold my half off. So financially I'm doing pretty well for myself and have a good 401k plus military retirement as a retired officer. I'm glad I got to keep the retirement because that is something that will last until I'm no longer here and my kids get to benefit from my disabled veteran status at the end of the day. I won't ever get remarried again because don't want to put any of that stuff up to be taken away.

Women in the DC area are not really the highest quality of women. There are some great ones but most of the time you're going to end up with a bad catch. The one thing I have learned is that you have to marry the right woman. Otherwise you will be destroyed financially and emotionally. I've seen others leave the divorce with a box of clothes and that's it after their wife cheated on them when they were deployed. At least that didn't happen to me and my ex-wife and I do get along for the most part. Now that the kids are almost out of the house or in college anyway, we don't really interact very much except on rare occasions or some holidays. She's doing her thing and I do mine and I would prefer to keep it that way. The last one that's in the house is 17 years old and has one more year of high school left and the other one is already a junior college.

I look forward to when they're both out of college and can start their own journey and I will certainly be spending my remaining years in Central America or in southern Europe.

Dude, look up marital laws. Your pension earned prior to marriage can’t be taken away from you. Only your first wife could as it was earned during long marriage.
Just so unbelievably uneducated !

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They have baggage. No thanks.
Try finding a guy with no baggage

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Anonymous wrote:They have baggage. No thanks.
Try finding a guy with no baggage

I’m a 48yo woman NW over $5m most of it liquid. My BF is 42 no kids married once he pays for dates we split travel he’s an engineer making $250k. I’m happy like a clam

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Anonymous wrote:That's weird. I was a single Mom in my 20s. I didn't meet a single divorced Dad under 40. That seems very unusual.

Most men in their 20s and 30s don't want to date single mothers. I stayed far far away from single mothers at that age because I didn't have kids, didn't want to continue someone else's abandoned project, had options (line single women with no kids) and was too busy with work and activities that I was t about to be a father to a kid that isn't mine.

I'm in my forties and still won't date single mothers in their 20s. My kids are either in college or about to be so my life is easy. My kids take care of themselves and drive themselves around or they're away nine months out if the year starting their own life journey. I will and have dated women in their late 20s to mid 30s who don't have kids so I will do that, just not long term as they have no concept of what it's like to be a parent and often can't stand when they're not the primary focus of your attention. I usually tend to stick with women in their late 30s and very early 40s who have older kids.

I'm at a place where I'm financially stable, can retire early and travel a lot and have no debt and a good pot of money we're I can move overseas to Europe or central America and life life in a tropical paradise. Brutal reality for most men in my position is there is very few viable partners who are not full of drama, issues with kids and their ex, not insane and most aren't super attractive. I'm lucky in some respect as I have a steady partner but she lives a considerable distance away who I met through business trips to the area. Hopefully it works out because most of the women in this area are not really people is consider quality partners. As soon as my last kid is out if the house I'm out of here and I'll sell my place, collect a nice profit and can almost outright pay for another place with cash.

So you don’t want to live closer to your kids ? Weird you feel so little connection with them

Interesting passive aggressive takeaway. It seems he loves his kids, but is jaded byunreasonable and unaccountable shrill single moms he’s met that doesn’t want to bankroll anymore or have control his life. Does that makes sense? He’s seen what’s out there locally and it would not be an improvement over his current situation. Understand?

His whole story is fishy. Few men have grown kids in their late 40s, is he in the Midwest ? Even fewer HS or young adult kids are totally independent just driving around. Anyone who has a child in college knows that they still need a home base as an important emotional foundation . He’s eager just to sell his kids family home and take off abroad. All combined sounds like he had little involvement in raising them and little emotional connection with kids.
We live at times with toughest job market for college grads. I’m a late 40s mother of a very advanced college student at a prestigious school who is getting in-demand tech degree, drives, has summer internships etc. I know zero parents who are so rushed to liquidate their family homes ones kids are off to college.

Almost everyone now has a tech degree, they're not really in demand because they're all over the place. I am a male in my forties and I have older kids, I'm also retired military and had them when I was younger.

I also have a great job and lots of retirement to look forward to, and have tons of freedom so there is no way that I would ever get married again. I live in the DC area and have to say that most of the women here are not marriage material. I will date them but I won't settle down with anyone because I have too much at stake to risk. Plus I do plan on moving out of this area when I retire from my regular job, probably overseas somewhere where the weather is nice or maybe somewhere in the Pacific. The bottom line is that as a 40 something year old male who works out 5 days a week already and we'll have two retirements and a nice nest egg. I don't want to put that at risk of being lost by marrying the wrong woman. And in this area most of the women are the wrong woman

lol not almost everyone has a tech degree most people have liberal arts degrees. Most college grads with those degrees struggle.
You are clueless and clearly think your military pension is some sort of achievement. Only those who couldn’t get straight into a good college chose military careers. You are cheap and likely low 7 figures NW.
Men who are truly wealthy have their assets well protected in trusts and are not afraid to marry over a military pension

lol. Are you trolling? You need to calm down. This guy sounds like he’s good with money, not “cheap”. You sound like a professional gold digger, however.

His military pension paranoia is laughable. I’m a high NW professional late 40s woman. $3k daily return is not unusual for my brokerage portfolio so yea he’s a joke.

Oh wow. I had no idea! Well, I guess what you say goes!

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Anonymous wrote:Late thirties woman looking for a husband. I’m dating a lot of divorced days; mid thirties; make good money; have a kid or two. They all want to settle down and be married and are even open for another kid.

It’s definitely raining men! ☺️

Because men are extremely stupid. I am 48 and haven't been divorced for 3 years. I would rather have my d**k chopped off than marry any woman ever again. No thanks I am good. I am sure there extraordinary women out there. But there are plenty of other suitors who will try the marriage thing again.

OP do you really want to marry a divorced man? Think hard for real lol. I am just imagining the drama any woman will walk into by marrying a guy like me with twin daughters. Money isn't an issue. I have my own money and old family money as well. I just don't want anyone to be anywhere near anything resembling remarriage.

Lol. As you already know, men aren't stupid. They're lazy, exploitative, and sociopathic. They remarry to find a maid to raise their children because they don't want to do their job as fathers. I bet your ex-wife is doing most of the work of raising the kids and when if kids spend any significant time with you, you have babysitters, nannies, and/or female relatives doing the work. That's why you don't want to get married. You already have women to shift your responsibilities to and don't need another. Don't bother denying it.

You made my point. Why would I remarry if there are plenty of women who will do as you suggested. Y'all don't have to do it. You can go on a strike and "buy" sperm so you can have your own child and not deal with "man-child". It's a choice and you don't have to sign up for it. Instead you sign up for it and endlessly complain. We are not going to change okay. If you go on a strike then we may change. But so far it seems to me women are still signing up. When you stop signing up we can have a conversation.

Now you're talking sense. I said openly, even while I was married, that a vial of sperm for $50 was a better deal than letting the idiot who produced the sperm latch onto you. My ex-husband used to get so angry, but I'm under no obligation to tell lies. Most men simply have no value beyond those microscopic swimmers and, like you, are determined to spend their lives as parasites.

Sorry it took you a long time to realize you could have bought sperm instead. That sucks.

It sucks more for him. I make sure of it. Can I let him come get some expensive items he forgot when I got a court order booting him out? Can I switch weekends so he can see the kids on his birthday? Can I agree to extend his deadline so it doesn't fall the day after Christmas? Can I agree to installments instead of a lump sum? Nope, nope, nope, and nope! No favors ever. I listed his stuff on eBay and kept the cash. His Dad had to pay me the amounts due to save him from selling separate assets at a massive loss.

Believe me, he wishes he had gotten a surrogate. More and more, we women aren't playing nice with you parasites anymore and it feels good.

You sound crazy. I’m not surprised that you can’t find an emotionally secure and functional man.

And what would a newly-minted baby daddy of twin girls like you know about emotionally secure and functional men? But I was wondering when you'd start the name calling. Men like you always get mad at the idea of getting what they deserve and not enjoying unearned favors. That sucks!

I’m not a man. I’m a mother of four teenagers, and I mean this in the kindest way. You need to stop devoting time to making sure that your ex wishes he never met you, and you need to stop talking about men this way. It makes you sound crazy. If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for your children.

I hope none of them are daughters. Women like you raising your girls to think standing up for themselves is crazy are the biggest part of the problem. Yuck.

DP. No, we’re teaching to get out any relationship before they turn nuts and lose their soul.

I'm not surprised you're teaching them that if a man lies them into a marriage, then it's their fault for not getting out sooner. Plus, if they decide to develop a backbone and start saying no, then they've turned nuts and are crazy. To quote you, "I mean this in "the kindest way" --> You have a wicked case of internalized misogyny and your children have my sympathy.

I’m the poster who means this in the kindest way. You don’t sound crazy because you have a backbone. You sound crazy because you are obsessed with your ex.

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Anonymous wrote:That's weird. I was a single Mom in my 20s. I didn't meet a single divorced Dad under 40. That seems very unusual.

Most men in their 20s and 30s don't want to date single mothers. I stayed far far away from single mothers at that age because I didn't have kids, didn't want to continue someone else's abandoned project, had options (line single women with no kids) and was too busy with work and activities that I was t about to be a father to a kid that isn't mine.

I'm in my forties and still won't date single mothers in their 20s. My kids are either in college or about to be so my life is easy. My kids take care of themselves and drive themselves around or they're away nine months out if the year starting their own life journey. I will and have dated women in their late 20s to mid 30s who don't have kids so I will do that, just not long term as they have no concept of what it's like to be a parent and often can't stand when they're not the primary focus of your attention. I usually tend to stick with women in their late 30s and very early 40s who have older kids.

I'm at a place where I'm financially stable, can retire early and travel a lot and have no debt and a good pot of money we're I can move overseas to Europe or central America and life life in a tropical paradise. Brutal reality for most men in my position is there is very few viable partners who are not full of drama, issues with kids and their ex, not insane and most aren't super attractive. I'm lucky in some respect as I have a steady partner but she lives a considerable distance away who I met through business trips to the area. Hopefully it works out because most of the women in this area are not really people is consider quality partners. As soon as my last kid is out if the house I'm out of here and I'll sell my place, collect a nice profit and can almost outright pay for another place with cash.

So you don’t want to live closer to your kids ? Weird you feel so little connection with them

Interesting passive aggressive takeaway. It seems he loves his kids, but is jaded byunreasonable and unaccountable shrill single moms he’s met that doesn’t want to bankroll anymore or have control his life. Does that makes sense? He’s seen what’s out there locally and it would not be an improvement over his current situation. Understand?

His whole story is fishy. Few men have grown kids in their late 40s, is he in the Midwest ? Even fewer HS or young adult kids are totally independent just driving around. Anyone who has a child in college knows that they still need a home base as an important emotional foundation . He’s eager just to sell his kids family home and take off abroad. All combined sounds like he had little involvement in raising them and little emotional connection with kids.
We live at times with toughest job market for college grads. I’m a late 40s mother of a very advanced college student at a prestigious school who is getting in-demand tech degree, drives, has summer internships etc. I know zero parents who are so rushed to liquidate their family homes ones kids are off to college.

Almost everyone now has a tech degree, they're not really in demand because they're all over the place. I am a male in my forties and I have older kids, I'm also retired military and had them when I was younger.

I also have a great job and lots of retirement to look forward to, and have tons of freedom so there is no way that I would ever get married again. I live in the DC area and have to say that most of the women here are not marriage material. I will date them but I won't settle down with anyone because I have too much at stake to risk. Plus I do plan on moving out of this area when I retire from my regular job, probably overseas somewhere where the weather is nice or maybe somewhere in the Pacific. The bottom line is that as a 40 something year old male who works out 5 days a week already and we'll have two retirements and a nice nest egg. I don't want to put that at risk of being lost by marrying the wrong woman. And in this area most of the women are the wrong woman

lol not almost everyone has a tech degree most people have liberal arts degrees. Most college grads with those degrees struggle.
You are clueless and clearly think your military pension is some sort of achievement. Only those who couldn’t get straight into a good college chose military careers. You are cheap and likely low 7 figures NW.
Men who are truly wealthy have their assets well protected in trusts and are not afraid to marry over a military pension

lol. Are you trolling? You need to calm down. This guy sounds like he’s good with money, not “cheap”. You sound like a professional gold digger, however.

His military pension paranoia is laughable. I’m a high NW professional late 40s woman. $3k daily return is not unusual for my brokerage portfolio so yea he’s a joke.

Oh wow. I had no idea! Well, I guess what you say goes!

The previous poster here is clueless. It's not like the pension is the only thing that comes in retirement, especially if you've done your tsp, which is essentially a 401k. That military retirement on top of the other investments that have a good rate of return. It's just more icing on the cake. Especially when you take the military retirement or your federal pension and just apply it towards a high-yield account or take that money and dump it into stocks. That's what I was doing and I got a good rate of return. And my other theories still stand, women in DC are not marriage material

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Anonymous wrote:That's weird. I was a single Mom in my 20s. I didn't meet a single divorced Dad under 40. That seems very unusual.

Most men in their 20s and 30s don't want to date single mothers. I stayed far far away from single mothers at that age because I didn't have kids, didn't want to continue someone else's abandoned project, had options (line single women with no kids) and was too busy with work and activities that I was t about to be a father to a kid that isn't mine.

I'm in my forties and still won't date single mothers in their 20s. My kids are either in college or about to be so my life is easy. My kids take care of themselves and drive themselves around or they're away nine months out if the year starting their own life journey. I will and have dated women in their late 20s to mid 30s who don't have kids so I will do that, just not long term as they have no concept of what it's like to be a parent and often can't stand when they're not the primary focus of your attention. I usually tend to stick with women in their late 30s and very early 40s who have older kids.

I'm at a place where I'm financially stable, can retire early and travel a lot and have no debt and a good pot of money we're I can move overseas to Europe or central America and life life in a tropical paradise. Brutal reality for most men in my position is there is very few viable partners who are not full of drama, issues with kids and their ex, not insane and most aren't super attractive. I'm lucky in some respect as I have a steady partner but she lives a considerable distance away who I met through business trips to the area. Hopefully it works out because most of the women in this area are not really people is consider quality partners. As soon as my last kid is out if the house I'm out of here and I'll sell my place, collect a nice profit and can almost outright pay for another place with cash.

So you don’t want to live closer to your kids ? Weird you feel so little connection with them

Interesting passive aggressive takeaway. It seems he loves his kids, but is jaded byunreasonable and unaccountable shrill single moms he’s met that doesn’t want to bankroll anymore or have control his life. Does that makes sense? He’s seen what’s out there locally and it would not be an improvement over his current situation. Understand?

His whole story is fishy. Few men have grown kids in their late 40s, is he in the Midwest ? Even fewer HS or young adult kids are totally independent just driving around. Anyone who has a child in college knows that they still need a home base as an important emotional foundation . He’s eager just to sell his kids family home and take off abroad. All combined sounds like he had little involvement in raising them and little emotional connection with kids.
We live at times with toughest job market for college grads. I’m a late 40s mother of a very advanced college student at a prestigious school who is getting in-demand tech degree, drives, has summer internships etc. I know zero parents who are so rushed to liquidate their family homes ones kids are off to college.

Almost everyone now has a tech degree, they're not really in demand because they're all over the place. I am a male in my forties and I have older kids, I'm also retired military and had them when I was younger.

I also have a great job and lots of retirement to look forward to, and have tons of freedom so there is no way that I would ever get married again. I live in the DC area and have to say that most of the women here are not marriage material. I will date them but I won't settle down with anyone because I have too much at stake to risk. Plus I do plan on moving out of this area when I retire from my regular job, probably overseas somewhere where the weather is nice or maybe somewhere in the Pacific. The bottom line is that as a 40 something year old male who works out 5 days a week already and we'll have two retirements and a nice nest egg. I don't want to put that at risk of being lost by marrying the wrong woman. And in this area most of the women are the wrong woman

lol not almost everyone has a tech degree most people have liberal arts degrees. Most college grads with those degrees struggle.
You are clueless and clearly think your military pension is some sort of achievement. Only those who couldn’t get straight into a good college chose military careers. You are cheap and likely low 7 figures NW.
Men who are truly wealthy have their assets well protected in trusts and are not afraid to marry over a military pension

lol. Are you trolling? You need to calm down. This guy sounds like he’s good with money, not “cheap”. You sound like a professional gold digger, however.

His military pension paranoia is laughable. I’m a high NW professional late 40s woman. $3k daily return is not unusual for my brokerage portfolio so yea he’s a joke.

Oh wow. I had no idea! Well, I guess what you say goes!

The previous poster here is clueless. It's not like the pension is the only thing that comes in retirement, especially if you've done your tsp, which is essentially a 401k. That military retirement on top of the other investments that have a good rate of return. It's just more icing on the cake. Especially when you take the military retirement or your federal pension and just apply it towards a high-yield account or take that money and dump it into stocks. That's what I was doing and I got a good rate of return. And my other theories still stand, women in DC are not marriage material

Can you be more specific? What specifically about women in DC make them “not marriage material”? Why women in DC specifically?

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He’s clueless - military pensions are a joke in most cases and not worth of investing 20 years of professional career in it. Only a complete and total financial ret..rdation would force anyone with a decent degree put on boots to earn early pension. Nobody steeply wealthy (1%) will flex their pensions, unless it’s someone who retires from an international organization with an old pension plan matching last salary.

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Anonymous wrote:That's weird. I was a single Mom in my 20s. I didn't meet a single divorced Dad under 40. That seems very unusual.

Most men in their 20s and 30s don't want to date single mothers. I stayed far far away from single mothers at that age because I didn't have kids, didn't want to continue someone else's abandoned project, had options (line single women with no kids) and was too busy with work and activities that I was t about to be a father to a kid that isn't mine.

I'm in my forties and still won't date single mothers in their 20s. My kids are either in college or about to be so my life is easy. My kids take care of themselves and drive themselves around or they're away nine months out if the year starting their own life journey. I will and have dated women in their late 20s to mid 30s who don't have kids so I will do that, just not long term as they have no concept of what it's like to be a parent and often can't stand when they're not the primary focus of your attention. I usually tend to stick with women in their late 30s and very early 40s who have older kids.

I'm at a place where I'm financially stable, can retire early and travel a lot and have no debt and a good pot of money we're I can move overseas to Europe or central America and life life in a tropical paradise. Brutal reality for most men in my position is there is very few viable partners who are not full of drama, issues with kids and their ex, not insane and most aren't super attractive. I'm lucky in some respect as I have a steady partner but she lives a considerable distance away who I met through business trips to the area. Hopefully it works out because most of the women in this area are not really people is consider quality partners. As soon as my last kid is out if the house I'm out of here and I'll sell my place, collect a nice profit and can almost outright pay for another place with cash.

So you don’t want to live closer to your kids ? Weird you feel so little connection with them

Interesting passive aggressive takeaway. It seems he loves his kids, but is jaded byunreasonable and unaccountable shrill single moms he’s met that doesn’t want to bankroll anymore or have control his life. Does that makes sense? He’s seen what’s out there locally and it would not be an improvement over his current situation. Understand?

His whole story is fishy. Few men have grown kids in their late 40s, is he in the Midwest ? Even fewer HS or young adult kids are totally independent just driving around. Anyone who has a child in college knows that they still need a home base as an important emotional foundation . He’s eager just to sell his kids family home and take off abroad. All combined sounds like he had little involvement in raising them and little emotional connection with kids.
We live at times with toughest job market for college grads. I’m a late 40s mother of a very advanced college student at a prestigious school who is getting in-demand tech degree, drives, has summer internships etc. I know zero parents who are so rushed to liquidate their family homes ones kids are off to college.

Almost everyone now has a tech degree, they're not really in demand because they're all over the place. I am a male in my forties and I have older kids, I'm also retired military and had them when I was younger.

I also have a great job and lots of retirement to look forward to, and have tons of freedom so there is no way that I would ever get married again. I live in the DC area and have to say that most of the women here are not marriage material. I will date them but I won't settle down with anyone because I have too much at stake to risk. Plus I do plan on moving out of this area when I retire from my regular job, probably overseas somewhere where the weather is nice or maybe somewhere in the Pacific. The bottom line is that as a 40 something year old male who works out 5 days a week already and we'll have two retirements and a nice nest egg. I don't want to put that at risk of being lost by marrying the wrong woman. And in this area most of the women are the wrong woman

lol not almost everyone has a tech degree most people have liberal arts degrees. Most college grads with those degrees struggle.
You are clueless and clearly think your military pension is some sort of achievement. Only those who couldn’t get straight into a good college chose military careers. You are cheap and likely low 7 figures NW.
Men who are truly wealthy have their assets well protected in trusts and are not afraid to marry over a military pension

lol. Are you trolling? You need to calm down. This guy sounds like he’s good with money, not “cheap”. You sound like a professional gold digger, however.

His military pension paranoia is laughable. I’m a high NW professional late 40s woman. $3k daily return is not unusual for my brokerage portfolio so yea he’s a joke.

Oh wow. I had no idea! Well, I guess what you say goes!

The previous poster here is clueless. It's not like the pension is the only thing that comes in retirement, especially if you've done your tsp, which is essentially a 401k. That military retirement on top of the other investments that have a good rate of return. It's just more icing on the cake. Especially when you take the military retirement or your federal pension and just apply it towards a high-yield account or take that money and dump it into stocks. That's what I was doing and I got a good rate of return. And my other theories still stand, women in DC are not marriage material

Can you be more specific? What specifically about women in DC make them “not marriage material”? Why women in DC specifically?

Nothing. He’s paranoid just thinks they are all after his pension. I went on some dates with such former military ret…rds

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Anonymous wrote:That's weird. I was a single Mom in my 20s. I didn't meet a single divorced Dad under 40. That seems very unusual.

Most men in their 20s and 30s don't want to date single mothers. I stayed far far away from single mothers at that age because I didn't have kids, didn't want to continue someone else's abandoned project, had options (line single women with no kids) and was too busy with work and activities that I was t about to be a father to a kid that isn't mine.

I'm in my forties and still won't date single mothers in their 20s. My kids are either in college or about to be so my life is easy. My kids take care of themselves and drive themselves around or they're away nine months out if the year starting their own life journey. I will and have dated women in their late 20s to mid 30s who don't have kids so I will do that, just not long term as they have no concept of what it's like to be a parent and often can't stand when they're not the primary focus of your attention. I usually tend to stick with women in their late 30s and very early 40s who have older kids.

I'm at a place where I'm financially stable, can retire early and travel a lot and have no debt and a good pot of money we're I can move overseas to Europe or central America and life life in a tropical paradise. Brutal reality for most men in my position is there is very few viable partners who are not full of drama, issues with kids and their ex, not insane and most aren't super attractive. I'm lucky in some respect as I have a steady partner but she lives a considerable distance away who I met through business trips to the area. Hopefully it works out because most of the women in this area are not really people is consider quality partners. As soon as my last kid is out if the house I'm out of here and I'll sell my place, collect a nice profit and can almost outright pay for another place with cash.

So you don’t want to live closer to your kids ? Weird you feel so little connection with them

Interesting passive aggressive takeaway. It seems he loves his kids, but is jaded byunreasonable and unaccountable shrill single moms he’s met that doesn’t want to bankroll anymore or have control his life. Does that makes sense? He’s seen what’s out there locally and it would not be an improvement over his current situation. Understand?

His whole story is fishy. Few men have grown kids in their late 40s, is he in the Midwest ? Even fewer HS or young adult kids are totally independent just driving around. Anyone who has a child in college knows that they still need a home base as an important emotional foundation . He’s eager just to sell his kids family home and take off abroad. All combined sounds like he had little involvement in raising them and little emotional connection with kids.
We live at times with toughest job market for college grads. I’m a late 40s mother of a very advanced college student at a prestigious school who is getting in-demand tech degree, drives, has summer internships etc. I know zero parents who are so rushed to liquidate their family homes ones kids are off to college.

Almost everyone now has a tech degree, they're not really in demand because they're all over the place. I am a male in my forties and I have older kids, I'm also retired military and had them when I was younger.

I also have a great job and lots of retirement to look forward to, and have tons of freedom so there is no way that I would ever get married again. I live in the DC area and have to say that most of the women here are not marriage material. I will date them but I won't settle down with anyone because I have too much at stake to risk. Plus I do plan on moving out of this area when I retire from my regular job, probably overseas somewhere where the weather is nice or maybe somewhere in the Pacific. The bottom line is that as a 40 something year old male who works out 5 days a week already and we'll have two retirements and a nice nest egg. I don't want to put that at risk of being lost by marrying the wrong woman. And in this area most of the women are the wrong woman

lol not almost everyone has a tech degree most people have liberal arts degrees. Most college grads with those degrees struggle.
You are clueless and clearly think your military pension is some sort of achievement. Only those who couldn’t get straight into a good college chose military careers. You are cheap and likely low 7 figures NW.
Men who are truly wealthy have their assets well protected in trusts and are not afraid to marry over a military pension

lol. Are you trolling? You need to calm down. This guy sounds like he’s good with money, not “cheap”. You sound like a professional gold digger, however.

His military pension paranoia is laughable. I’m a high NW professional late 40s woman. $3k daily return is not unusual for my brokerage portfolio so yea he’s a joke.

Oh wow. I had no idea! Well, I guess what you say goes!

The previous poster here is clueless. It's not like the pension is the only thing that comes in retirement, especially if you've done your tsp, which is essentially a 401k. That military retirement on top of the other investments that have a good rate of return. It's just more icing on the cake. Especially when you take the military retirement or your federal pension and just apply it towards a high-yield account or take that money and dump it into stocks. That's what I was doing and I got a good rate of return. And my other theories still stand, women in DC are not marriage material

No, you are clueless. Those people who went to college and earned their masters while you were in military earned assets that exceed NPV of your pension in multiples. All while you wasted your years having kids early and getting slowly promoted in the military. You’ll never make up the loss of active years no matter how hard you invest. These other people are light years ahead of you in early 40s. AND they also have other assets and side businesses.

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Anonymous wrote:Late thirties woman looking for a husband. I’m dating a lot of divorced days; mid thirties; make good money; have a kid or two. They all want to settle down and be married and are even open for another kid.

It’s definitely raining men! ☺️

Because men are extremely stupid. I am 48 and haven't been divorced for 3 years. I would rather have my d**k chopped off than marry any woman ever again. No thanks I am good. I am sure there extraordinary women out there. But there are plenty of other suitors who will try the marriage thing again.

OP do you really want to marry a divorced man? Think hard for real lol. I am just imagining the drama any woman will walk into by marrying a guy like me with twin daughters. Money isn't an issue. I have my own money and old family money as well. I just don't want anyone to be anywhere near anything resembling remarriage.

Lol. As you already know, men aren't stupid. They're lazy, exploitative, and sociopathic. They remarry to find a maid to raise their children because they don't want to do their job as fathers. I bet your ex-wife is doing most of the work of raising the kids and when if kids spend any significant time with you, you have babysitters, nannies, and/or female relatives doing the work. That's why you don't want to get married. You already have women to shift your responsibilities to and don't need another. Don't bother denying it.

You made my point. Why would I remarry if there are plenty of women who will do as you suggested. Y'all don't have to do it. You can go on a strike and "buy" sperm so you can have your own child and not deal with "man-child". It's a choice and you don't have to sign up for it. Instead you sign up for it and endlessly complain. We are not going to change okay. If you go on a strike then we may change. But so far it seems to me women are still signing up. When you stop signing up we can have a conversation.

Now you're talking sense. I said openly, even while I was married, that a vial of sperm for $50 was a better deal than letting the idiot who produced the sperm latch onto you. My ex-husband used to get so angry, but I'm under no obligation to tell lies. Most men simply have no value beyond those microscopic swimmers and, like you, are determined to spend their lives as parasites.

Sorry it took you a long time to realize you could have bought sperm instead. That sucks.

It sucks more for him. I make sure of it. Can I let him come get some expensive items he forgot when I got a court order booting him out? Can I switch weekends so he can see the kids on his birthday? Can I agree to extend his deadline so it doesn't fall the day after Christmas? Can I agree to installments instead of a lump sum? Nope, nope, nope, and nope! No favors ever. I listed his stuff on eBay and kept the cash. His Dad had to pay me the amounts due to save him from selling separate assets at a massive loss.

Believe me, he wishes he had gotten a surrogate. More and more, we women aren't playing nice with you parasites anymore and it feels good.

You sound crazy. I’m not surprised that you can’t find an emotionally secure and functional man.

And what would a newly-minted baby daddy of twin girls like you know about emotionally secure and functional men? But I was wondering when you'd start the name calling. Men like you always get mad at the idea of getting what they deserve and not enjoying unearned favors. That sucks!

I’m not a man. I’m a mother of four teenagers, and I mean this in the kindest way. You need to stop devoting time to making sure that your ex wishes he never met you, and you need to stop talking about men this way. It makes you sound crazy. If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for your children.

I hope none of them are daughters. Women like you raising your girls to think standing up for themselves is crazy are the biggest part of the problem. Yuck.

DP. No, we’re teaching to get out any relationship before they turn nuts and lose their soul.

I'm not surprised you're teaching them that if a man lies them into a marriage, then it's their fault for not getting out sooner. Plus, if they decide to develop a backbone and start saying no, then they've turned nuts and are crazy. To quote you, "I mean this in "the kindest way" --> You have a wicked case of internalized misogyny and your children have my sympathy.

Wow, this is one bitter old bitty.
And I say this as an ex-wife.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a single guy with my own place, no debt, clean my own house and cook, go to the gym and stay fit and take care of all my kids needs. Why the f*ck would I want to put my assets and wealth at risk again?

Look how smugly you're writing these bottom-tier "accomplishments." Do you also know how to wipe your ass and tie your own shoelaces?

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Anonymous wrote:I got lucky, when I got divorced. My ex-wife got taken care of. She kept the house so my name was off the mortgage, and the house has very high rate of equity. We had investments together and she kept over half, I kept my motel in retirement and everything else thereafter. It ended up working out for me because I can end up buying another house and I sold off some of the assets and stocks that we had when we were married. I also helped start a business with someone and that flourished and I sold my half off. So financially I'm doing pretty well for myself and have a good 401k plus military retirement as a retired officer. I'm glad I got to keep the retirement because that is something that will last until I'm no longer here and my kids get to benefit from my disabled veteran status at the end of the day. I won't ever get remarried again because don't want to put any of that stuff up to be taken away.

Women in the DC area are not really the highest quality of women. There are some great ones but most of the time you're going to end up with a bad catch. The one thing I have learned is that you have to marry the right woman. Otherwise you will be destroyed financially and emotionally. I've seen others leave the divorce with a box of clothes and that's it after their wife cheated on them when they were deployed. At least that didn't happen to me and my ex-wife and I do get along for the most part. Now that the kids are almost out of the house or in college anyway, we don't really interact very much except on rare occasions or some holidays. She's doing her thing and I do mine and I would prefer to keep it that way. The last one that's in the house is 17 years old and has one more year of high school left and the other one is already a junior college.

I look forward to when they're both out of college and can start their own journey and I will certainly be spending my remaining years in Central America or in southern Europe.

Good. You seem awful.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a single guy with my own place, no debt, clean my own house and cook, go to the gym and stay fit and take care of all my kids needs. Why the f*ck would I want to put my assets and wealth at risk again?

Just like all the married and single mothers, way to go!

You’re a single father with 100% custody?

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After my wife died, I read and processed those emails I deemed important, and ignored the rest.

So your wife has to literally die in order for you to step up and do some family mental load stuff?!?

Yikes.

Patriarch is lethal.

This is what happens when you set your chatbot to “maximum troll”.

After my wife died…