Men seem eager to be remarried!

[Anonymous]

Here you go:

https://www.whitleylawfirmpc.com/3-reasons-why-women-initiate-divorce-more-often-than-men/amp/

https://www.asanet.org/women-more-likely-men-initiate-divorces-not-non-marital-breakups/

https://affinitypsych.com/why-do-women-initiate-divorce-more-frequently-than-men/


(I am divorced; I have not dated a divorced man and I am late 40s—there is a reason a wife got rid of him in most cases).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please tell us where these men are and what they do professionally. I do not know anyone who got married and divorced and, in their mid-30s, also makes enough to support two families. I have trouble believing (despite what they are telling you on dates) that they are financially savvy.

Yeah, I don’t see it either. I date this age and I am divorced (I am older). All 30s men I have met have never been married.

[Anonymous]

Ehhhh.
No to setting for a divorced anyone who has an already broken home and ex

[Anonymous]

My XH remarried almost immediately. For him he wanted someone to take care of him because adulting is hard! It’s so much easier when you have a life manager and someone who takes care of everything for you and when you lose that due to divorce you’re eager to replace it. It’s a business relationship.

[Anonymous]

Yeah this isn’t anything unheard of. Men like (a) regular sex, and (b) someone to take care of them, and if they can find someone to deal with their kids, it’s an even bigger bonus.

It’s why widowers so often quickly remarry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They want someone to take care of their home and kids?

Men these days don't need that. Enough with that stereotype.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My XH remarried almost immediately. For him he wanted someone to take care of him because adulting is hard! It’s so much easier when you have a life manager and someone who takes care of everything for you and when you lose that due to divorce you’re eager to replace it. It’s a business relationship.

What's saddest about this is how these men are probably divorced because they took their first wife's labor for granted. Only after they didn't have it were they truly aware of how much she did for them. Now they want to replace that labor, but probably haven't leveled up at all in the gratitude or partnership areas. That's why most women are cautious about relationships with divorced me. Some of them learn, most of them haven't yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Late thirties woman looking for a husband. I’m dating a lot of divorced days; mid thirties; make good money; have a kid or two. They all want to settle down and be married and are even open for another kid.

It’s definitely raining men! ☺️

Why are you dating men w kids?

Eww

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m literally being told by the divorced dads: I want a family structure; I want another kid; I have money and can support a family.

Yeah, they do. They also want someone to do the household stuff (best case, split the load). They do not want to be solely responsible for household and kid stuff. Which is fine, I don't either, but the big question is why did they divorce then?

I divorced when my kids were 15 and 13. I dated but didn't marry until one was graduated from university and the other was a junior in college. I ran my household perfectly fine on my own, and I effectively had 90% physical custody as the kids didn't want to live with their mother for a variety of reasons. Men run their households just fine, thank you very much. And the fact that you automatically slandered an entire gender with this trope indicates lazy, archaic thinking and likely more than a touch of bitterness and projection. You're just not in touch with the real world and your misandry is revolting. Be better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here you go:

https://www.whitleylawfirmpc.com/3-reasons-why-women-initiate-divorce-more-often-than-men/amp/

https://www.asanet.org/women-more-likely-men-initiate-divorces-not-non-marital-breakups/

https://affinitypsych.com/why-do-women-initiate-divorce-more-frequently-than-men/


(I am divorced; I have not dated a divorced man and I am late 40s—there is a reason a wife got rid of him in most cases).

No, in most cases, there's a reason why a man got rid of his wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here you go:

https://www.whitleylawfirmpc.com/3-reasons-why-women-initiate-divorce-more-often-than-men/amp/

https://www.asanet.org/women-more-likely-men-initiate-divorces-not-non-marital-breakups/

https://affinitypsych.com/why-do-women-initiate-divorce-more-frequently-than-men/


(I am divorced; I have not dated a divorced man and I am late 40s—there is a reason a wife got rid of him in most cases).

Men don't initiate sometimes because it's cheaper to keep her. Also, a man will sacrifice his happiness for his family. A woman is quick to sacrifice her family for her happiness -- only to later discover the man wasn't actually the source of her unhappiness. That usually comes as a shock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m literally being told by the divorced dads: I want a family structure; I want another kid; I have money and can support a family.

lol ok. Do you think that’s a good thing? What you want to hear from divorced dads is “my priority is my kids - I want to provide them with stability and have a great relationship with them.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m literally being told by the divorced dads: I want a family structure; I want another kid; I have money and can support a family.

Yeah, they do. They also want someone to do the household stuff (best case, split the load). They do not want to be solely responsible for household and kid stuff. Which is fine, I don't either, but the big question is why did they divorce then?

I divorced when my kids were 15 and 13. I dated but didn't marry until one was graduated from university and the other was a junior in college. I ran my household perfectly fine on my own, and I effectively had 90% physical custody as the kids didn't want to live with their mother for a variety of reasons. Men run their households just fine, thank you very much. And the fact that you automatically slandered an entire gender with this trope indicates lazy, archaic thinking and likely more than a touch of bitterness and projection. You're just not in touch with the real world and your misandry is revolting. Be better.

You are an exception. 90 % of divorces between college educated couples are initiated by women. Male infidelity (#1 cause) ; unequal distribution of labor; controlling tendencies of male spouse; emotional pressure etc.

So yes, something to thing about if a woman dates a divorced man with college degree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m literally being told by the divorced dads: I want a family structure; I want another kid; I have money and can support a family.

Yeah, they do. They also want someone to do the household stuff (best case, split the load). They do not want to be solely responsible for household and kid stuff. Which is fine, I don't either, but the big question is why did they divorce then?

I divorced when my kids were 15 and 13. I dated but didn't marry until one was graduated from university and the other was a junior in college. I ran my household perfectly fine on my own, and I effectively had 90% physical custody as the kids didn't want to live with their mother for a variety of reasons. Men run their households just fine, thank you very much. And the fact that you automatically slandered an entire gender with this trope indicates lazy, archaic thinking and likely more than a touch of bitterness and projection. You're just not in touch with the real world and your misandry is revolting. Be better.

Maybe take heart in the fact that you defy the stereotype, rather than attacking a woman for pointing that out to you. Most men don’t run households, period. It’s great that you do. But acknowledging the infrequency of that is not misandry.

[Anonymous]

A lot of these divorces happened because women got sick of taking care of them. It's exhausting and men weren't picking up their slack. So many of my divorced friends say that now when their kids go to dad's house, it's the first free time they've had since kids were born. Clearly men liked having a built in housekeeper and they want to replicate that.