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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][twitter][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That's weird. I was a single Mom in my 20s. I didn't meet a single divorced Dad under 40. That seems very unusual. [/quote]

Most men in their 20s and 30s don't want to date single mothers.   I stayed far far away from single mothers at that age because I didn't have kids, didn't want to continue someone else's abandoned project, had options (line single women with no kids) and was too busy with work and activities that I was t about to be a father to a kid that isn't mine.

I'm in my forties and still won't date single mothers in their 20s.  My kids are either in college or about to be so my life is easy.  My kids take care of themselves and drive themselves around or they're away nine months out if the year starting their own life journey.  I will and have dated women in their late 20s to mid 30s who don't have kids so I will do that, just not long term as they have no concept of what it's like to be a parent and often can't stand when they're not the primary focus of your attention.  I usually tend to stick with women in their late 30s and very early 40s who have older kids.

I'm at a place where I'm financially stable, can retire early and travel a lot and have no debt and a good pot of money we're I can move overseas to Europe or central America and life life in a tropical paradise.  Brutal reality for most men in my position is there is very few viable partners who are not full of drama, issues with kids and their ex, not insane and most aren't super attractive.  I'm lucky in some respect as I have a steady partner but she lives a considerable distance away who I met through business trips to the area.  Hopefully it works out because most of the women in this area are not really people is consider quality partners.  As soon as my last kid is out if the house I'm out of here and I'll sell my place, collect a nice profit and can almost outright pay for another place with cash.  [/quote]

So you don’t want to live closer to your kids ? Weird you feel so little connection with them[/quote]

Interesting passive aggressive takeaway. It seems he loves his kids, but is jaded byunreasonable and unaccountable shrill single moms he’s met that doesn’t want to bankroll anymore or have control his life. Does that makes sense? He’s seen what’s out there locally and it would not be an improvement over his current situation. Understand?[/quote]

His whole story is fishy.  Few men have grown kids in their late 40s, is he in the Midwest ? Even fewer HS or young adult kids are totally independent just driving around. Anyone who has a child in college knows that they still need a home base as an important emotional foundation . He’s eager just to sell his kids family home and take off abroad. All combined sounds like he had little involvement in raising them and little emotional connection with kids. 
We live at times with toughest job market for college grads. I’m a late 40s mother of a very advanced college student at a prestigious school who is getting in-demand tech degree, drives, has summer internships etc.  I know zero parents who are so rushed to liquidate their family homes ones kids are off to college. [/quote]

Almost everyone now has a tech degree, they're not really in demand because they're all over the place. I am a male in my forties and I have older kids, I'm also retired military and had them when I was younger.

I also have a great job and lots of retirement to look forward to, and have tons of freedom so there is no way that I would ever get married again. I live in the DC area and have to say that most of the women here are not marriage material. I will date them but I won't settle down with anyone because I have too much at stake to risk. Plus I do plan on moving out of this area when I retire from my regular job, probably overseas somewhere where the weather is nice or maybe somewhere in the Pacific. The bottom line is that as a 40 something year old male who works out 5 days a week already and we'll have two retirements and a nice nest egg. I don't want to put that at risk of being lost by marrying the wrong woman. And in this area most of the women are the wrong woman[/quote]

lol not almost everyone has a tech degree most people have liberal arts degrees. Most college grads with those degrees struggle. 
You are clueless and clearly think your military pension is some sort of achievement. Only those who couldn’t get straight into a good college chose military careers. You are cheap and likely low 7 figures NW. 
Men who are truly wealthy have their assets well protected in trusts and are not afraid to marry over a military pension [/quote]

lol. Are you trolling? You need to calm down. This guy sounds like he’s good with money, not “cheap”. You sound like a professional gold digger, however.[/quote]

His military pension paranoia is laughable. I’m a high NW professional late 40s woman. $3k daily return is not unusual for my brokerage portfolio so yea he’s a joke. [/quote]

Oh wow. I had no idea! Well, I guess what you say goes![/quote]
The previous poster here is clueless. It's not like the pension is the only thing that comes in retirement, especially if you've done your tsp, which is essentially a 401k. That military retirement on top of the other investments that have a good rate of return. It's just more icing on the cake. Especially when you take the military retirement or your federal pension and just apply it towards a high-yield account or take that money and dump it into stocks. That's what I was doing and I got a good rate of return. And my other theories still stand, women in DC are not marriage material[/quote]

Can you be more specific? What specifically about women in DC make them “not marriage material”? Why women in DC specifically?[/quote]

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