Party requesting guests to take shoes off

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Anonymous wrote:I think we’re all missing the much more important point that a school is asking all of the families to host a large gathering at home??? That’s insane to me! I assume it’s fake, right?

NOPE - I know of one private elementary school in the area that has the class parent host a parents' party in their home in the fall to get to know each other, since their children will be in class together. it's a nice tradition - and doesn't need to be a full-on dinner - they always do a heavy apps and drinks party, at 6:30pm. But that's not all parents taking turns, just one of the things the class parent does.

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Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to be that anal, just don’t host a formal event.

If you host, things can be broken and items can be stained. Do your best to clean to and move on. Or will you only serve beige food and drink?

I don’t get why you can’t just clean the floors after. It’s such an annoying control freak thing.

Would you be upset if it was a conservative religious family asking people to come with shoulders covered? Or a Muslim or Mormon family that didn't serve alcohol? People are allowed to have different traditions and customs even if you find it weird.

Announce it in the invitation. People who can't bear to be parted from their high heels can decline. Everyone else can bring socks (or, if they have orthotics issue, an appropriate pair of house shoes).

Asking for religious reasons, and giving a heads-up is extremely different than these anxiety-ridden "hostesses" who can't bear to have shoes in their house. I have respect for the former and absolutely none for the latter.

IT IS RELIGIOUS. It comes from Buddhism

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wear house shoes at home. If you gave me a heads-up I would bring my house shoes to your home. That would be ok right?

Of course!!!

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Anonymous wrote:If more than two couples, i would not task anyone to take shoes off. Close doors to bedrooms and schedule cleaners for the next day. Remember that unless you are in a city, most people drive and just go to stores. My heels that i bring out for a party arent used for hiking.
I habe a shoes free household for us. But i would never ask my inlaws to take their orthopedic shoes off for example. When hosting, its about guest comfort.

I am 59 years old and don't wear orthopedic shoes - that you can tell. BUT I have horrible feet and knees and wear orthotics in my shoes. I am nearly NEVER without shoes - even in my own home I can't walk around barefoot as it's incredibly painful on my knees. So I would comply, but I'd need to sit most of the night, so please make sure you have enough seating for everyone - I CANNOT be left leaning against a counter standing for an hour or so.

Also, I think you need to tell people, or (like many women) I'd wear cute shoes with no socks - unless it's winter - and then I'd be barefoot - isn't that grosser? Just, ugh. Also, my socks don't always pass muster for public view - I might have a small hole in one heel that won't show but I don't have time to find another pair that matches, etc.

But on the other hand - your home, your rules. I just don't see why all adults hanging around in the livingroom, diningroom and kitchen is so gross - none of them were out hiking in their shoes they'd wear to a party, NONE of them are going to jump on the beds or even go into the bedroom. You can vacuum and wash the floors the next day - you will have to clean up anyway from the party.

Another 48 year old person who wears orthotics in my shoes for foot and knee problems. I need to wear tennis shoes with grip with my orthotics at all times.

I don't think OP realizes how many people that are 40+ who wear doctor mandated orthotics in lace bound shoes.
My orthotics won't work in socks or in slippers.

In the US and in America it is the norm that we wear shoes in our homes. The exception would be if you operate a farm or large ranch. Then you take off your boots when you enter the home (due to the mud.)

In most parts of the US we don't have people defecating on the streets like you have in your home countries.

[Anonymous]

So all you shoes-on people: when you go to an open house, do you comply with the shoe cover request? Is it only when accepting someone’s hospitality as a guest in their home that you get all hung up about how rude it is to not be able track stuff into people’s houses by keeping your shoes on, and not when it’s a commercial venture like an open house? If so, where does a networking event fall on this spectrum?

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Anonymous wrote:If more than two couples, i would not task anyone to take shoes off. Close doors to bedrooms and schedule cleaners for the next day. Remember that unless you are in a city, most people drive and just go to stores. My heels that i bring out for a party arent used for hiking.
I habe a shoes free household for us. But i would never ask my inlaws to take their orthopedic shoes off for example. When hosting, its about guest comfort.

I am 59 years old and don't wear orthopedic shoes - that you can tell. BUT I have horrible feet and knees and wear orthotics in my shoes. I am nearly NEVER without shoes - even in my own home I can't walk around barefoot as it's incredibly painful on my knees. So I would comply, but I'd need to sit most of the night, so please make sure you have enough seating for everyone - I CANNOT be left leaning against a counter standing for an hour or so.

Also, I think you need to tell people, or (like many women) I'd wear cute shoes with no socks - unless it's winter - and then I'd be barefoot - isn't that grosser? Just, ugh. Also, my socks don't always pass muster for public view - I might have a small hole in one heel that won't show but I don't have time to find another pair that matches, etc.

But on the other hand - your home, your rules. I just don't see why all adults hanging around in the livingroom, diningroom and kitchen is so gross - none of them were out hiking in their shoes they'd wear to a party, NONE of them are going to jump on the beds or even go into the bedroom. You can vacuum and wash the floors the next day - you will have to clean up anyway from the party.

Another 48 year old person who wears orthotics in my shoes for foot and knee problems. I need to wear tennis shoes with grip with my orthotics at all times.

I don't think OP realizes how many people that are 40+ who wear doctor mandated orthotics in lace bound shoes.
My orthotics won't work in socks or in slippers.

In the US and in America it is the norm that we wear shoes in our homes. The exception would be if you operate a farm or large ranch. Then you take off your boots when you enter the home (due to the mud.)

In most parts of the US we don't have people defecating on the streets like you have in your home countries.

Lol. The standards of cleanliness in my home country is leaps and bounds beyond the US. So come back and call my culture OCD or something like that, it’ll be a more apt insult

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Anonymous wrote:If more than two couples, i would not task anyone to take shoes off. Close doors to bedrooms and schedule cleaners for the next day. Remember that unless you are in a city, most people drive and just go to stores. My heels that i bring out for a party arent used for hiking.
I habe a shoes free household for us. But i would never ask my inlaws to take their orthopedic shoes off for example. When hosting, its about guest comfort.

I am 59 years old and don't wear orthopedic shoes - that you can tell. BUT I have horrible feet and knees and wear orthotics in my shoes. I am nearly NEVER without shoes - even in my own home I can't walk around barefoot as it's incredibly painful on my knees. So I would comply, but I'd need to sit most of the night, so please make sure you have enough seating for everyone - I CANNOT be left leaning against a counter standing for an hour or so.

Also, I think you need to tell people, or (like many women) I'd wear cute shoes with no socks - unless it's winter - and then I'd be barefoot - isn't that grosser? Just, ugh. Also, my socks don't always pass muster for public view - I might have a small hole in one heel that won't show but I don't have time to find another pair that matches, etc.

But on the other hand - your home, your rules. I just don't see why all adults hanging around in the livingroom, diningroom and kitchen is so gross - none of them were out hiking in their shoes they'd wear to a party, NONE of them are going to jump on the beds or even go into the bedroom. You can vacuum and wash the floors the next day - you will have to clean up anyway from the party.

Another 48 year old person who wears orthotics in my shoes for foot and knee problems. I need to wear tennis shoes with grip with my orthotics at all times.

I don't think OP realizes how many people that are 40+ who wear doctor mandated orthotics in lace bound shoes.
My orthotics won't work in socks or in slippers.

In the US and in America it is the norm that we wear shoes in our homes. The exception would be if you operate a farm or large ranch. Then you take off your boots when you enter the home (due to the mud.)

In most parts of the US we don't have people defecating on the streets like you have in your home countries.

No but we have dogs and other animals relieving themselves all over the place. This American is a shoes off house. I keep a basket of shoe covers by the door and people can wear those or take off their shoes. Never been an issue.

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Anonymous wrote:If more than two couples, i would not task anyone to take shoes off. Close doors to bedrooms and schedule cleaners for the next day. Remember that unless you are in a city, most people drive and just go to stores. My heels that i bring out for a party arent used for hiking.
I habe a shoes free household for us. But i would never ask my inlaws to take their orthopedic shoes off for example. When hosting, its about guest comfort.

I am 59 years old and don't wear orthopedic shoes - that you can tell. BUT I have horrible feet and knees and wear orthotics in my shoes. I am nearly NEVER without shoes - even in my own home I can't walk around barefoot as it's incredibly painful on my knees. So I would comply, but I'd need to sit most of the night, so please make sure you have enough seating for everyone - I CANNOT be left leaning against a counter standing for an hour or so.

Also, I think you need to tell people, or (like many women) I'd wear cute shoes with no socks - unless it's winter - and then I'd be barefoot - isn't that grosser? Just, ugh. Also, my socks don't always pass muster for public view - I might have a small hole in one heel that won't show but I don't have time to find another pair that matches, etc.

But on the other hand - your home, your rules. I just don't see why all adults hanging around in the livingroom, diningroom and kitchen is so gross - none of them were out hiking in their shoes they'd wear to a party, NONE of them are going to jump on the beds or even go into the bedroom. You can vacuum and wash the floors the next day - you will have to clean up anyway from the party.

Another 48 year old person who wears orthotics in my shoes for foot and knee problems. I need to wear tennis shoes with grip with my orthotics at all times.

I don't think OP realizes how many people that are 40+ who wear doctor mandated orthotics in lace bound shoes.
My orthotics won't work in socks or in slippers.

In the US and in America it is the norm that we wear shoes in our homes. The exception would be if you operate a farm or large ranch. Then you take off your boots when you enter the home (due to the mud.)

In most parts of the US we don't have people defecating on the streets like you have in your home countries.

Saw a man relieving himself on Tilden by the run the other day, have seen a man defecating in Eastern Market. This is false.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So all you shoes-on people: when you go to an open house, do you comply with the shoe cover request? Is it only when accepting someone’s hospitality as a guest in their home that you get all hung up about how rude it is to not be able track stuff into people’s houses by keeping your shoes on, and not when it’s a commercial venture like an open house? If so, where does a networking event fall on this spectrum?

I am one of the people who has to have shoes even in my own house because of foot/leg issues. Before I had the issues, I would take off my shoes if asked. Today, I would wear shoe covers if asked. It's the host's house. I'm happy to oblige. Like a previous poster said, if for some reason it's a surprise and there are no covers, I would have to have a place to sit; I can't stand for long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So all you shoes-on people: when you go to an open house, do you comply with the shoe cover request? Is it only when accepting someone’s hospitality as a guest in their home that you get all hung up about how rude it is to not be able track stuff into people’s houses by keeping your shoes on, and not when it’s a commercial venture like an open house? If so, where does a networking event fall on this spectrum?

How many open houses are people going to? We have a house and aren't looking to buy another one. And 20-30 years ago, when we were looking, no one said anything about shoes.

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You fools need to adopt Buddhism

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Anonymous wrote:I have a shoe-free house and don’t host large adult parties because this stresses me out. My friends are very vocal about how offended they are when they have to mess up their “look” by removing shoes.

Op here. I once invited a coworker to a kid party at my house and she was the only one who kept her heels on. I didn’t ask her to take them off.

DH has suggested we invite his work colleagues over for dinner and we have not yet because the shoe thing bothers me. At least for DH’s colleagues, I don’t have to think about them running around in our bedrooms in their shoes.

But you are OK with their sweaty fungusy feet? So gross. Actually disgusting to have shoeless strangers in your house.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So all you shoes-on people: when you go to an open house, do you comply with the shoe cover request? Is it only when accepting someone’s hospitality as a guest in their home that you get all hung up about how rude it is to not be able track stuff into people’s houses by keeping your shoes on, and not when it’s a commercial venture like an open house? If so, where does a networking event fall on this spectrum?

I am one of the people who has to have shoes even in my own house because of foot/leg issues. Before I had the issues, I would take off my shoes if asked. Today, I would wear shoe covers if asked. It's the host's house. I'm happy to oblige. Like a previous poster said, if for some reason it's a surprise and there are no covers, I would have to have a place to sit; I can't stand for long.

+1 DH puts his shoes on before his feet hit the floor on the side of the bed, even to walk to the bathroom. I'm not joking.

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Anonymous wrote:So all you shoes-on people: when you go to an open house, do you comply with the shoe cover request? Is it only when accepting someone’s hospitality as a guest in their home that you get all hung up about how rude it is to not be able track stuff into people’s houses by keeping your shoes on, and not when it’s a commercial venture like an open house? If so, where does a networking event fall on this spectrum?

Happy to wear shoe covers. I'm really grossed out by people's feet. I hold my breath going through TSA. So cringe for me.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a shoe-free house and don’t host large adult parties because this stresses me out. My friends are very vocal about how offended they are when they have to mess up their “look” by removing shoes.

Op here. I once invited a coworker to a kid party at my house and she was the only one who kept her heels on. I didn’t ask her to take them off.

DH has suggested we invite his work colleagues over for dinner and we have not yet because the shoe thing bothers me. At least for DH’s colleagues, I don’t have to think about them running around in our bedrooms in their shoes.

But you are OK with their sweaty fungusy feet? So gross. Actually disgusting to have shoeless strangers in your house.

They wear socks iou monkey